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there is a lot of people in Colombia that thinks that it's disgusting this kind of marriage, of course most of the men are like "between women there is not big deal, but between men! that is unthinkable" and it is frustating to search the equal treatment when in this country most of the people thinks like that. Here in Colombia there is a lot of discrimination, also they start saying things about God and religious excuses, without knowing what God really said (if there is one). So the information about Colombia is a little bit wrong.
Very interesting film depicting the passing of same-sex marriage legislation within London and the UK in 2013. Worth a look!! http://youtu.be/NZaBse2hrQU
Ethiopia has one of the world’s most restrictive laws governing attempts to protect the rights and health of women, children, LGBT people, the sick and the disabled.
As a result, those people’s rights and health are endangered, and too little is being done to change that.
A law called the Charities and Societies Proclamation (CSP) 621/2009 bans any advocacy and human rights work seeking to end violence against women and children or to promote the rights of people with disabilities, people living with HIV, or other marginalized populations.
Further, grassroots organizations and front-line activists working for the rights and sexual health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people in Ethiopia are in danger both because of CSP 621/2009 and because of anti-homosexuality Proclamation No. 414/2004.2012, which provides for prison sentences of up to 15 years for consensual same-sex sexual activity.
As a result, little progress has been made in suppressing violence against LGBT individuals, which is inflicted both by police and by mobs. LGBT people tend to keep their sexual orientation a secret to avoid arrest and social stigma. LGBT activists fear for their safety, because a number of them have been detained, interrogated and tortured.
The U.S. and other countries don’t do enough to push for an end to such violations. Although they know that change is needed, they don’t make it a priority. Every year the U.S. State Department copies and pastes the same two paragraphs in its Ethiopian Human Rights Report under the heading “Societal Abuses, Discrimination, and Acts of Violence Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.” This is the wording from the newly released 2012 report:
Consensual same-sex sexual activity is illegal and punishable by imprisonment under the law. There were some reports of violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals; reporting was limited due to fear of retribution, discrimination, or stigmatization. Persons did not identify themselves as LGBT persons due to severe societal stigma and the illegality of consensual same-sex sexual activity. Activists in the LGBT community stated they were followed and at times feared for their safety. There were periodic detainments of some in the LGBT community, combined with interrogation and alleged physical abuse.
The AIDS Resource Center in Addis Ababa reported the majority of self-identified gay and lesbian callers, the majority of whom were male, requested assistance in changing their behavior to avoid discrimination. Many gay men reported anxiety, confusion, identity crises, depression, self-ostracism, religious conflict, and suicide attempts.
Ethiopia’s location in East Africa
A first step toward would be for the U.S. embassy and U.S. human rights missions in the country to work closely with local LGBT activists and community leaders to flesh out the 2013 report. It’s important to record the specifics about the degrading and so-far-unreported human rights violations that Ethiopian people experience on the basis of their sexual identity and gender orientation.
A similar shortcoming applies to the U.K.’s 2012 Human Rights and Democracy Report, which mentions nothing about the human rights abuses targeted at LGBT people in Ethiopia.
Along the same lines, a conference of African Union health ministers is being held this week in Addis Ababa to discuss ways to combat the continent’s diseases. The pressing issue of LGBT people and HIV in Africa is not in their agenda.
It’s not because the foreign governments don’t know what’s going on. HIV activists and LGBT human right workers continually report incidents of social justice and human rights abuses to the U.S. State Department’s Bureau of Democracy, Human Rights and Labor and to the British Foreign and Commonwealth Office. The hope is that international organizations such as those will investigate and work with the Ethiopian government to address the issue.
Ethiopia has one of the world’s most restrictive laws governing attempts to protect the rights and health of women, children, LGBT people, the sick and the disabled.
As a result, those people’s rights and health are endangered, and too little is being done to change that.
A law called the Charities and Societies Proclamation (CSP) 621/2009 bans any advocacy and human rights work seeking to end violence against women and children or to promote the rights of people with disabilities, people living with HIV, or other marginalized populations.
Further, grassroots organizations and front-line activists working for the rights and sexual health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people in Ethiopia are in danger both because of CSP 621/2009 and because of anti-homosexuality Proclamation No. 414/2004.2012, which provides for prison sentences of up to 15 years for consensual same-sex sexual activity.
As a result, little progress has been made in suppressing violence against LGBT individuals, which is inflicted both by police and by mobs. LGBT people tend to keep their sexual orientation a secret to avoid arrest and social stigma. LGBT activists fear for their safety, because a number of them have been detained, interrogated and tortured.
The U.S. and other countries don’t do enough to push for an end to such violations. Although they know that change is needed, they don’t make it a priority. Every year the U.S. State Department copies and pastes the same two paragraphs in its Ethiopian Human Rights Report under the heading “Societal Abuses, Discrimination, and Acts of Violence Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.” This is the wording from the newly released 2012 report:
Consensual same-sex sexual activity is illegal and punishable by imprisonment under the law. There were some reports of violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals; reporting was limited due to fear of retribution, discrimination, or stigmatization. Persons did not identify themselves as LGBT persons due to severe societal stigma and the illegality of consensual same-sex sexual activity. Activists in the LGBT community stated they were followed and at times feared for their safety. There were periodic detainments of some in the LGBT community, combined with interrogation and alleged physical abuse.
The AIDS Resource Center in Addis Ababa reported the majority of self-identified gay and lesbian callers, the majority of whom were male, requested assistance in changing their behavior to avoid discrimination. Many gay men reported anxiety, confusion, identity crises, depression, self-ostracism, religious conflict, and suicide attempts.
Ethiopia’s location in East Africa
A first step toward would be for the U.S. embassy and U.S. human rights missions in the country to work closely with local LGBT activists and community leaders to flesh out the 2013 report. It’s important to record the specifics about the degrading and so-far-unreported human rights violations that Ethiopian people experience on the basis of their sexual identity and gender orientation.
A similar shortcoming applies to the U.K.’s 2012 Human Rights and Democracy Report, which mentions nothing about the human rights abuses targeted at LGBT people in Ethiopia.
Along the same lines, a conference of African Union health ministers is being held this week in Addis Ababa to discuss ways to combat the continent’s diseases. The pressing issue of LGBT people and HIV in Africa is not in their agenda.
It’s not because the foreign governments don’t know what’s going on. HIV activists and LGBT human right workers continually report incidents of social justice and human rights abuses to the U.S. State Department’s Bureau of Democracy, Human Rights and Labor and to the British Foreign and Commonwealth Office. The hope is that international organizations such as those will investigate and work with the Ethiopian government to address the issue.
Rainbow Ethiopia LGBTI Human Rights and Outreach HIV/AIDS and Psycho-social Support Services
(user currently living in ETHIOPIA)
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Ethiopian LGBTs need help to halt abuses
Posted on April 25, 2013 by Rainbow Ethiopia
Ethiopia has one of the world’s most restrictive laws governing attempts to protect the rights and health of women, children, LGBT people, the sick and the disabled.
As a result, those people’s rights and health are endangered, and too little is being done to change that.
A law called the Charities and Societies Proclamation (CSP) 621/2009 bans any advocacy and human rights work seeking to end violence against women and children or to promote the rights of people with disabilities, people living with HIV, or other marginalized populations.
Further, grassroots organizations and front-line activists working for the rights and sexual health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people in Ethiopia are in danger both because of CSP 621/2009 and because of anti-homosexuality Proclamation No. 414/2004.2012, which provides for prison sentences of up to 15 years for consensual same-sex sexual activity.
As a result, little progress has been made in suppressing violence against LGBT individuals, which is inflicted both by police and by mobs. LGBT people tend to keep their sexual orientation a secret to avoid arrest and social stigma. LGBT activists fear for their safety, because a number of them have been detained, interrogated and tortured.
The U.S. and other countries don’t do enough to push for an end to such violations. Although they know that change is needed, they don’t make it a priority. Every year the U.S. State Department copies and pastes the same two paragraphs in its Ethiopian Human Rights Report under the heading “Societal Abuses, Discrimination, and Acts of Violence Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.” This is the wording from the newly released 2012 report:
Consensual same-sex sexual activity is illegal and punishable by imprisonment under the law. There were some reports of violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals; reporting was limited due to fear of retribution, discrimination, or stigmatization. Persons did not identify themselves as LGBT persons due to severe societal stigma and the illegality of consensual same-sex sexual activity. Activists in the LGBT community stated they were followed and at times feared for their safety. There were periodic detainments of some in the LGBT community, combined with interrogation and alleged physical abuse.
The AIDS Resource Center in Addis Ababa reported the majority of self-identified gay and lesbian callers, the majority of whom were male, requested assistance in changing their behavior to avoid discrimination. Many gay men reported anxiety, confusion, identity crises, depression, self-ostracism, religious conflict, and suicide attempts.
Ethiopia’s location in East Africa
A first step toward would be for the U.S. embassy and U.S. human rights missions in the country to work closely with local LGBT activists and community leaders to flesh out the 2013 report. It’s important to record the specifics about the degrading and so-far-unreported human rights violations that Ethiopian people experience on the basis of their sexual identity and gender orientation.
A similar shortcoming applies to the U.K.’s 2012 Human Rights and Democracy Report, which mentions nothing about the human rights abuses targeted at LGBT people in Ethiopia.
Along the same lines, a conference of African Union health ministers is being held this week in Addis Ababa to discuss ways to combat the continent’s diseases. The pressing issue of LGBT people and HIV in Africa is not in their agenda.
It’s not because the foreign governments don’t know what’s going on. HIV activists and LGBT human right workers continually report incidents of social justice and human rights abuses to the U.S. State Department’s Bureau of Democracy, Human Rights and Labor and to the British Foreign and Commonwealth Office. The hope is that international organizations such as those will investigate and work with the Ethiopian government to address the issue.
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on 27/04/2013
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`A SAD STORY OF A COUPLE`
by: Ken chan tanoue
http://www.facebook.com/bonbon.jovi.17?ref=tn_tnmn
One day, the boy asked his girl to marry him.
The girl smiled at him and said: Ok honey, I`ll do but,! only if you could pass the challenge that I will be given to you.
Then the boy asked her about it with a loud and strong voice: So!! what`s the challenge honey>?!
GIRL: ok honey. I want you to live without me within 24 hours. No communication between us even using cellphones to check me up until you`ll pass this challenge!!
And when 24 hours is done, I want you to go at my house, look for my mom and she`ll give you a letter from me.
That letter will guide you to find me..... And please!!! Don`t forget to bring the ring honey! :)
~~ THE BOY WAS SO VERY EXCITED TO FINISH HIS TASK, NOT KNOWING THAT THE GIRL IS SURFING FROM ILLNESS AND SHE HAD ONLY 24 HOURS TO LIVE!!!!!~~
(AFTER 24 HOURS)
The boy wents to the girls house together with the ring.
He was wondering, because while he`s walking towards the house of his girl, he saw a lot of people like they`re all in black, then he heard that there was a peoples crying and shouting the name of the girl...
Just a few steps away from the house, he saw the mother of his girl.
BOY: what`s happening here??!!! please tell me! what`s the matter in here??!!
MOTHER: My daughter wants you to have this letter... please take it and that letter will tell you what to do....
AFTER GIVING THE LETTER, THE OLD LADY WALKED AWAY FROM THE GUY,
THEN THE BOY OPENED THE LETTER AND HE RED WHAT`S ON IT....
......((~READING THE LETTER~)).........
HONEY!!!!
You did it!!! ^_^
so, now???!!!!!
COULD YOU DO THIS AGAIN FOR ME EVERYDAY???
I love you so much honey! And it will be forever..... PROMISE.! ^_^
majeed
(user currently living in SAUDI ARABIA)
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on 27/04/2013
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you know im like you guys but i never gave up i never said i cant live my life the way i want it so i said to myself: if you really want to live the life you want heres my epic secret plan i will stay in the school until i finsh it and go to britian to study computer science/game devlopment (its what i want) and then when i go there i cut contact with everyone i know in saudi arabia it will be extermely hard but for me i think its worth it i am not going to get married by damn force i'd rather die than get married to a women that i didnt even see or have any idea about her and you know if this fails i will just live alone in saudi arabi till the day i die or kill myself but the main reason i said game devlopment its not like i am obessed about it its because we dont have any game studios in saudi arabia saw the point so i can get a reasonable nationalty as britian and work there, if you cant do this come up with something mine is sacrificing everything and i am willing to do it
Allied NATO Government is hiding millions of infectious NON HIV AIDS cases (like mine) under the "Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)" ICD-code.
My case goes up through the White House, NIH, CDC, WHO, to the United Nations. I recently testified on a federal-level in Washington, DC, and have been published 12 times on 4 continents.
UK PROGRESSIVE published one of my letters about NON HIV AIDS. This topic has been censored from mainstream media since 1992 (i.e., circa Gulf War I).
I hope that you will support this humanitarian issue, and spread-the-news too (e.g., write a story, add to your e*Newsletter and/or post on Facebook/Twitter).
In the fight for humanity,
k
My life with NON HIV AIDS (including my federal testimony):
www.cfsstraighttalk.blogspot.com
Or simply google "NON HIV AIDS"
My federal testimony about NON HIV AIDS from a recent CFS/ME advisory committee meeting (Washington, DC via conference call) posted (5 minutes):
imran anver
(user currently living in SRI LANKA)
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i am living in wattala. i don't have a job. i worked several places. but i got discriminate. i wnt to look after my family. can you please give me a job please i beg you.
Being gay in my country is same as being a sheep in a pack of wolves. If you are not an open gay, and you are a classic lesbian (NO ONE RECOGNIZES YOUR SEX ORIENTATION BY LOOKING AT YOU)Then you are fine. But if someone knows what kind of sexual relationships you have, well the picture in this case is different. The government tries to be fine towards them,well they are tying to integrate to Europe and adopt its culture and belongings, it is quite an open fact, but People, hmm , society is wild about this. Now a very strong Islamization is spread, those Mollas are washing up people's brain with different religious stuff, not letting people think independently and democratically. I remember me being a schoolkid, wearing like a boy, my classmates used to call me in different ways, like homo idiot, hermaphrodite or the stuff like that. There are some gay people killed and abused over there too. It is not a safe and good place to be gay, not at all
Today, gay people in France can get married in law. On the other hand, gay people in South Korea can't even make boyfriends in the army due to having just passed the gay-ban law Today! What an ironic country I'm living in. What a worse thing is that the prohibition law on gay discrimination has been cancelled by left party yielded under pressure of Korean christians and homophobic people. Please, help my homophobic country. ps. sorry for my English grammar in advance.
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on 23/04/2013
Hi I'm a lesbian from Yemen Aden,I'm a lawyer and i know what punishment waits for lesbians and gay people if they had sex .. i know whats my punishment.
its men world even when it come to this gay people get less punishment than lesbians i can get to 2 years in jail when gay can get to one year..of curse that if you weren't married and that if you could escape from your family's punishment ,they have a right by the law to kill me for having sex.
i loved a girl who's lesbian too but married if any one of her family knew she will be dead,i try to be careful but shes not,I'm afraid to cause her pain or something worse .. i cant ask for asylum unless i traveled to another country that support lgbt rights .. and i can't continue living like this without right to have the woman i love n protect her.
I visited christmas island around december time, hoping to be good for some extra presents. Upon arrival i met a man dressed as Santa Claus, i asked him, Santa have i been good this year? He said yes son, i will surpise you in your tent tonight.
Later on that evening, he stuck to his word and came into my tent.
I was hoping for a chocolate bar or possibly a packet of doritos but instead he whipped out his vile member and thrust it into my face, as a gay man i was unsure what to do and quickly thinking on my stebbings feet i sucked the penis.
I flew home the next day not only with mouth ulcers but with a small black birrow pen half jammed out my arse.
What a wonderful experience, may i warn you... as a gay man never visit christmas island.
I'm bi and I actually give up because everyone in here want to get married its like their only dream and having a relationship with anyone normal in here is something impossible so I choose to be single cuz marring someone I don't know is not a choice to me actually is not a choice to anyone who have brain.
(user currently living in NETHERLANDS)
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First off, this story is not about me. It involves me, but you should focus on the other persons involved. This person is a friend. Let's call her Danielle.
Danielle is bisexual, and openly so. People gossip about her, but nobody hates her openly, because thankfully, many people from my school are neutral about LGBTs. But, she had a crush on someone in the school. Who was well. Me.
She confessed, and I had to tell her that I didn't feel the same way. A normal rejection, and a promise to remain good friends. But people heard, and people judged. That is what I'm angry about today.
Is it wrong to have a crush? Is it wrong to feel? Would you look down on a girl who had confessed to a boy instead and gotten rejected? Is it wrong?
And this was in a mono-gender school. My co-ed school is much worse now.
My girlfriend and I was in Beijing club today on 19 April 2012 and we had a very bad experience. They didn't charge my girlfriend but only me to the club and we were stuck on the 3rd floor and did not let us down to the 2nd floor. It is ridiculous when they tell us it is crowd control when it is just homophobic shit!!! If their practice is not have girls to pay should this not be for all girls?? I do not understand the logic behind this... And we have videos to prove it as we asked for a receipt and they asked us to go home!!!!! We need to spread the word for this!!
Making Our Struggles Visible: Advances in LGBTI rights demand courage and solidarity
These weeks of early spring 2013 gay rights have made the headlines in newspapers across the globe. Equal marriage bill is being debated in United States, Brazil, Colombia and Finland.
12 countries have granted the equal right to marry to same-sex couples after Uruguay's decision to legalise same-sex marriage. Earlier this week the French national assembly approved "Marriage to all" bill increasing expectations of equal marriage.
At the dawn of a brighter future, I was reminded of the importance of providing media coverage to these advances; for worldwide the battle for equality is nowhere near to be finished. LGBTI rights are a question of survival and a pending human rights issue. I will share you a story which happened to me this late March in 2013. The event took place on diplomatic grounds in Finland, hence, beyond the reach of local anti-discrimination measures.
I had written a solid application for a job, and was soon called for a round of interviews. I made it to the last stage. At first it seemed very promising. I was being congratulated for an excellent application, my broad experience and language skills. Soon the awkward question popped up: "Are you married?" I answered simply "No, I am not." This led my high-ranking interviewer onto the follow-up: 螯覚 you have a boyfriend?The seemingly obvious response "Yes, I am in a relationship" did not occur at that instant. Instead, I opted for the gender-neutral choice "Yes, I have a life partner." My interviewer got slightly confused. After confusing the pronouns him/her in his speech, he looked at me and said: "So, you do have a boyfriend or what?" Feeling puzzled about what my relationship actually had to do with the position in question, I decided to be frank and not lie about who I am. He had, in fact, asked me a straight-forward question and deserved an honest response: "I have a girlfriend", I said.
From there on, my interview turned into an odd quiz about [my] sexual orientation. Despite my ongoing efforts to steer the conversation back into the topic, my experience and professional strengths, I found myself with no resorts. Over the next 45 minutes, I was directed with questions that ranged from the age in which I had discovered my orientation (if I knew what was meant with it) to the citizenship and life interests of my girlfriend, and further along to whether I had preferred female or male teachers, if I got along with people regardless their gender, if I held grudge against some women, and which one of us two was the dominating one in the relationship.
My interviewer kept on assuring me that my sexual orientation was not a decisive factor. Yet, in the midst of it, I was never given the chance to defend myself for the job. Somehow, my private life had become the factor that defined me as a professional. I could have interrupted him. But I knew that this was a well-educated bigot who was not going to offer me the job. Instead, this was my chance to set some miss-guided presumptions straight.
This experience forced me to ask myself a question, pondered by many others before me: where should we draw the limit between acting professional and being political? How far can we go in respecting our privacy? Can we actually afford to stay quiet?
I am someone who considers private life private. I firmly believe that our personal lives should have no bearing over how we are perceived as professionals. That it is no concern of our employer's with whom we share our lives. I also think that office hours are office hours, and that personal issues are best left outside. However, we are social beings and sooner or later one of your colleagues will want to know a bit more about you. Then if an acquaintance assumes you straight, is it alright for us to stay quiet?
Recent evidence in United States shows that people seem more willing to support equal right to marriage if they know personally someone who is gay. I know this. Still, I am ashamed to confess that I have confided in separating the private from the public and hidden behind my deceiving appearance as a straight woman. Twice have I found myself cornered up and closeted at work. This has made me feel like a liar and a cheat. It has really made me question my values and beliefs, for I know that the advances in LGBTI rights have come about because ordinary people have had the courage to stand up and fight. I know that if we want to improve our status as equal, worthy and capable citizens and professionals, we must make our lives and battles visible. We must turn the private into public.
In contrast to the 12 countries with equal right to marriage, a third of the countries world-wide consider homosexuality a crime. In nine countries it is punishable by death. Many others have approved anti-discrimination measures to varying degree. No matter which end of the spectrum, there are no guarantees that we are not discriminated against.
My story is not unique. Around the world people are killed, attacked, harassed, bullied and many are at risk of losing their work because of their sexual orientation or gender. The denial of equal rights and the lack of effective anti-discrimination measures threaten the lives and livelihoods of many people like me. Being outspoken probably cost me the job. Paradoxically, it made me more determined to make my life count. I was reminded that LGBTI rights are human rights. They are a global issue. And that advances towards equality can be achieved only through tremendous acts of courage and solidarity.
slavecutie
(user currently living in UNITED STATES)
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on 16/04/2013
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on 15/04/2013
Dear Sir/Madame
I wish to inform you that i'm a cameroonian by nationality and i now live in exile in Thailand reason being that my country doesn't support gay rights.I am a bachelors degree holder back in 2010 and i am 27years old. When i fist found that i was gay i did everything to try to hide it but i couldn't hide it for long and when i came out public i was forced out of the community and banned from participating in public activities,i was also disowned by my family Due to the shame and embarassment i had to flee from my country to sort refuge in Thailand where i now live. I'm having hard times living in Thailand due to the lack of jobs and moreso communication problems since they neither speak English nor French All i ask of your organisation is a little helping hand to keep me going and to help solve some of my problems Thanks for you understanding
the following is my friend Tom's story, in his own words
I committed statutory rape with a 15-year old male when I was 51. He was my student. I loved and love him whole-heartedly and completely, and promised him unconditional love, long before any sex took place. Human behavior is complicated and has many varieties. This is an unusual story. The government told a cartoon story with broad strokes of black and white.
I was imprisoned without bond, and had my freedom of speech taken away before I had been convicted of any crime. Newspapers printed government press releases without any checking of any facts. If necessary, I will submit to a polygraph on any statement I make, from any independent administrator. Ask those who contradict my statements if they will do the same. If a statement was proved by evidence or the victim's statements, I will put (P). I have discovered that the police falsify information, and distort and manipulate facts and testimony. My belief in the United States has been shaken.
The young man, a South American adopted into an Orthodox Jewish family, was cutting himself in September of 2009 when we met. He told me it was from the frustration with his home life, and not being allowed to be Latino or social, and being forced to observe a religion he found oppressive. He said one sister attacked him physically several times. He is a remarkable, bright, witty, and kind human being, with a fierce urge for freedom. I found him to be extraordinary. He came to see me most days, even more often after he was warned by his parents that I was homosexual, I found out later.(P) He brought a chess board in for lunches when he found out I played chess. We talked about history, religion, politics, psychology. He eventually he told me about the cutting.
I called his father, talked to the rabbis, called a psychologist, put him in touch with a former student with whom I thought he might click (heterosexual), gave him a copy of The Road Less Travelled, the best book I thought on how one gets happy. He kept cutting. I was frantic to help. I promised to love him unconditionally, forever. We loved talking, and I hoped I could make up whatever he lacked. I promised to do anything in my power to help him be happy. I sent him affirmation texts. (Know you are loved, you are great as you are, say "I am a wonderful person," etc.)
Some months later, on the phone, he said we should have sex. I told him that was a "really bad idea."
Some time later, he said he was playing tennis next to my building, and he would come by to work on a project. He came up, and said he was not there to work on the project, but to have sex. I tried to talk him out of it. (P) I said I could love him without sex. (P) He said I didn't have to. I said he did not owe me sex for love. He said he knew he did not owe, he wanted it, and he said I did too. I said sex was not that important, that he should not ask such a thing just for sex. He said it was for true love, that we were soul mates, we would be together forever. I said if we were soul mates then, we would be so in a few years. He said, true, but since we were we did not have to wait. Many times, he said he needed it to live. He confirmed at trial that he believed that. (P) He believed he loved me and that I loved him. (P) I said he should be with someone his age. He said he was attracted to older men. (P) I said everyone would assume it was my fault when it came out (even years later if we were together). He said he would tell them he picked me, and besides, we would be together. He said he had known what he wanted for a long time. He said such things happened all the time. Nothing happened that day (Feb,. 13 2010) We agreed to work it out. The conversation continued the next day with many more reasons for no on my part. He finally said if it was not me, it would be some other older white guy. (P) I agreed on February 14.
I have tried to be a good person my whole life. I try not to manipulate people. I love people without sex; sex and love are not the same thing. I do not even like to have sex with someone drunk, even a boyfriend because of the consent issue. I have always tried to tell the truth. Even in teaching, I would tell students the reason I was doing something (quizzes are designed to force you to read, etc.) I have tried to help the outcasts, with chess and theater. Many students said I saved lives, saved souls.
No combination of things could have made me give in like those. I had to save the life of someone I loved, a soul mate with love so true that 35 years made no difference, and if I didn't do it he would go do it somewhere else. I justified it by saving his life, not denying true love, and protecting him from those who did not love him. It was clearly wrong, but has anyone been subject to such arguments in such a situation? He said, trust me, believe me.
I thought that rejection just might kill him. I thought he wanted to be trusted and believed. I rationalized that the release of sex with someone he loved might stop the cutting. I let myself believe. He said in a statement later he did it for power and control. (P) The cutting stopped for four months until another fight with his sister.
Once I agreed I did whatever I could to make him happy. He was very advanced sexually. He claimed that I was the first, but close examination of his statement excluded from trial makes that claim dubious. He wanted to try light bondage and spanking. I always did what he asked. The prosecutor loved to say "penetrated with objects." I was the far more often penetrated. Everything done was done mutually. He was very happy, almost giddy. Only he could arrange meeting times. I came when he called, and did what he asked. He estimated 50 to 60 times in 5 months. The frequency with which he chose should have been proof of a loving if wrong relationship; I had no ability to arrange to see him. The schedule was his. He repeatedly texted and told me "You saved my life."
I had to move to Virginia to make more money. He said he wanted us to be together, so I remained faithful. I saw him that Christmas break, once, and it was clear he was no longer interested. He had been sleeping with a number of other older men. (P This is factual from his statements, not speculation.) I did not know that until my arrest. He called me to officially end the relationship in January. I was heart-broken, but I never raised his vow of eternal love. I tried to continue loving him as a friend. We soon emailed, and I never asked to renew the sexual relationship. I offered to be a best friend (my choice) or never talk to him if that was what he needed. (P) His emails say things like "Thank you...for everything," and "Not worry about you? Not possible." The emails are available.
He broke contact in early June of 2011. I heard by email from someone claiming to be him in October of that year, but it was not him. I denied the sex, thinking it was his family. I promised to do anything to help him if HE asked, and ended contact with the impostor. It was a Florida law enforcement agent. That was my first offer to turn myself in.
He got in trouble for his sexual contact with men. He refused to cooperate with police. (P) He was locked in psychological facilities for a year. He was brainwashed into changing the facts of what happened, (P) and his attitude was reversed. As far as I can tell, he was locked up for being actively gay. He was 17 for most of that time. In May 2012 he cooperated with police, and contacted me. When he called, I said I was ready to come tell the truth if that was what he needed. My second offer. He said he wanted me to come see him (reversed by police) and that he could not wait until he was 18. (P) I was confused by his previous rejection and now reversal. The policeman, as the young man, sent me sexually suggestive texts and emails, begging for me to renew the relationship, and made me promise to say something on the phone. It was the young man on the phone. I promised, and the young man initiated phone sex at the behest of the police. (P) I tried to decline; he said he had "needs." (P) I came to Florida and was arrested, after telling him twice more on the phone I would come and tell the truth. He was three months away from his 18th birthday at this point. The federal age of consent is 16, but they charged me under the Florida age of 18, but using a federal charge that carried a sentence of 10 to life.
The young man's police statement on which the indictment was based was largely disproved at trial. (P) The federal government charged me under an internet predator law, convinced that there were other victims. The police directed or suggested the false testimony. (P) They said I showed him child porn, which makes no sense. This was dismissed on sentencing, but they used it twice in trial to disgust the jury. They kept hinting at trial and sentencing about other victims, who do not exist, in spite of running a hotline number that was carried in the US and England. I find men from the age of maturity to 30ish more attractive sexually than older men, though not exclusively. Do heterosexuals do this as well? Does a 50 year old heterosexual fantasize about 50 year-ld women? I tried NOT to see students outside of school. I would never seduce anyone; the greatest attraction for me is someone's desire for me.
When the other victims did not appear, they brought in the FBI grooming expert to say I groomed him, since the evidence of persuading, enticing, inducing or coercing was slim. No grooming scenario exists in which the "groomer" waits for the "victim" to ask for sex, and then tries to dissuade the "victim." As unlikely as my story sounds, at trial he admitted that he, not I, proposed sex, that I tried to talk him out of it (and thus he talked me into it), that he BELIEVED he needed it to live, that I said I could love him without sex, and that he said he would find another older white guy if I said no. He AFFIRMED these at trial.
The interpretation of the law for induce as "cause" is to "allow to happen," when it should mean force. Under this absurd reading, this law has a LOWER threshold of guilt than statutory rape; a text message saying "OK, I will pick you up," would convict, without any contact. If every gay teen who texted an older lover were to be found in South Florida, there would be an army in prison. Statutory rape under federal guidelines carries a 41-51 month sentence. I was given 200 months under the persuasion statute. I had offered to plead guilty to statutory rape and it was rejected; they blamed me at sentencing for putting him through the trial.
Most heterosexual women in the same situation are sentenced to probation to two years. The application of this statute was arbitrary and unequal. The prosecutor announced to the jury that he granted that the "sex was consensual." The age of consent in Israel is 15, so in that civilized a country I would not even have committed a crime at all. The rich are sued for this. Where is the moral fairness?
Why was I prosecuted this way? Conservative politics and homosexuality. The family is Orthodox Jewish, the investigator who fashioned the testimony is Catholic, the prosecutor is Republican, and the judge voted for Rick Santorum.
I believed saving his life, or both of us believing it, would mitigate the statutory rape charge. I believed telling the truth and offering to turn myself in would mitigate. Telling the truth was the worst thing I could have done. Had I denied him when he called, and lied, nothing would have happened. I tried to be honest; rejecting him seemed to violate my vow of love.
I do not "blame" him for sleeping with other men. I do not love him less. I would have done anything for his happiness. I would have gladly NOT slept with him. I rationalized that I was being courageous to save his life and risk my own. I felt he was testing to see if my vow of eternal, unconditional love was real. He convinced me we were breaking convention for our mutual happiness. I thought I could serve some years to save him. If it truly saved his life, I wish I could say that knowing what I do now, I would still have been loyal enough to say yes. I would not have had the courage. I am sorry it happened either way.
Does love matter? Does fairness matter? Does the truth matter? When does a person have sexual and religious freedom? Can a conservative family change those by locking someone in psychological units, to change attitudes and alter facts? Does gay sex justify any level of charges, and any lying by the government?
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Hi to everyone,
My girlfriend and I has been together since 2010; however she went to her country to get a turist visa, in order to be legal in USA where I am leving at this moment, the cituation is getting very bad, because she did something that were not suppos to do, and she follow other people to get fake papers, in order to obtain turist visa to enter USA, however in the embassy they figure out that all the papers presented in the embassy were fake, so since them she could not return to USA and the sad part she wanted to comit sucide.
I was able to see her for two weeks I went to her country, but the moment I left she was very sad and she does not want to see me till everything is ok, I decide to star looking for a job in Canada for two reasom since and her country and where I leave in USA are not allow to get marry.
Since I am USA citizens,I could have better opportunity, I am try very hard in order to go over there and take my girlfriend with me, since we want to get marry in the near future, I am getting a little desperate, if some one please could help me or to oriented me where to go I will apreciated. my email is ebo6966@yahoo.com
i have been gay for five years. i'm fifteen so thats about a third of my life. i'm a male, some would call ginger, but the main reason why i am here is because i haven't told my parents yet. the reason why is because my father said he would disown me! i know i shouldn't keep something like this a secret, but i still do. plus i can't have a relationship! this really bothers me because i live in a small town in indiana and there aren't many dateable teens out there for me. i still haven't found anybody, and i'm starting to lose hope. i keep leaving major hints lying around, but know one seems to care! i feel like if i shouted at everyone the truth they wouldn't even hear me! i'm sick and tired of being alone. i need someone, but i just can't find the poor sod!
where ours orthodox norms crushing us, ours cruel stereotypes suffocating us since centuries the LGBT compaign is a hope for the people like me to breath at will but on it positive senses......like me i am an mphil qualified person . From a prestigious university of islamabad city with thirty years of age i do not have any job because i looks gay.... Evn i am not....and evn if i am so should i not have right to earn my livelyhood?
We need change we need help....we need this revolution.
ernest
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Am by the names , Ernest am asking for favor to see i accomplish , my studies, i dropped out of the university, when my parents denounced me, and i couldn't , keep up with , my tuition the whole family , dropped me, i don't know if being gay, i s a crime , i was doing , medicine , and i had finish ,my second year, my life , changed , when , my family , knew about , this, i have been discriminated, by my family, my people , time after time , keep , on frightening , a friend , who helps give me a place to stay , to burn , his house , because , he helps , me , the whole family , just hope , i die , any time, i know , there people out there , like me , who face the , same problems, and when am given a chance to study hard . I what to prove the whole society , being , gay , or lesbian , is not some thing, bad, and , help more people in my situation, i live in Uganda in Kampala, contact me o ernestmae@hush.ai, i will be grateful ,if my application, is put into consideration.
Hi, allow me to introduce myself as "Lei" (definitely not my real name), a young gay guy software engineer working in the Philippines.
I'd like to share to you my first ever true gay love story. I say "true", because it was my first time to experience being loved back as who I am. :-D
This happened during my second year of working as a professional. I remember during my elementary and high school days I've always had male crushes in all the schools I've been into.
Again, I say "all the schools I've been into", because starting from 1st grade, my family have always been moving from place to place, all around the Philippines,
from Luzon, to Visayas, and then Mindanao. And in all those places, I've always had at least one crush from among my classmates. :-D
But anyway, to get to that love story, let's just cut this short.
It was the Christmas season of the year 2012, I was all alone in our home - my family had to go somewhere else for the Christmas break,
but I decided to just stay at home and enjoy the holiday season just by myself. It was 23rd of December, I was online in FB, sending greetings to my friends,
since I've nothing to do. And then all of a sudden, there was this guy who chatted me, just making kumusta (asking how I am doing).
And then, of course, as friendly as I am, I did not ignore his message and I told him that I'm just at home, etc.
Let's just call him "Ken" (not real name). This guy added me as his FB friend two years ago, and for that span of two years,
I never really had a talk with him except for some few instances. One instance I remember was year 2011, when he asked me what type of work I am doing,
and from that conversation he told me that he is an electronics engineer, and then he asked me if I know C++ (a programming language),
because he, as an engineer, has been studying it too as a course. And then that conversation just ended there which I think was not really something memorable at all. :-D
By the way, Ken and I graduated from the same high school, and, the reason I added his as a friend was that his name is familiar,
even if I didn't really remember his face. However, during that Dec23 2012 chat of ours, he reminded me that we were actually high school batchmates,
and, all of a sudden, he told me that I was his high school crush. I could not believe what I was reading on my chat box that time.
Never in my life it crossed my mind that some guy would have a crush on me. I was really impressed with his guts to tell me that on our first interesting chat hahaha. :-D
He went on to tell me that after graduation, there was a Sunday afternoon when he accidentally met me inside a bookstore,
and we exchanged numbers simply because I recognized him as my high school batchmate, a guy from the other section, just a few doors away from my classroom.
And yes, I forgot to mention that we were not classmates - he belonged to another section, and he used to peek from their classroom's window just to see me.
Ahm, please do take note that Ken is not a feminine gay - in fact, no one believes him whenever he tells his friends that he is gay hahaha!
And, according to him, I am a good-looking and intelligent person. Graduated Magna Cum Laude from the university.
But anyway, he recalled that when a committee was looking for someone who would collect contact info of every class officer for the yearbook, he volunteered to do the task,
because I was the class president of our class, and by him doing so, he'd have a reason to go to our classroom to finally meet me in person.
When he told me this, I did not want to believe, but even if those events happened six years ago in Cagayan de Oro city, it was still very kilig for me! :-D
By the way, year 2012, I was in Cebu, and Ken was in Manila for work. To proceed with the story, we kept on talking via fb chat for the entire night.
We exchanged numbers, and immediately we were textmates. He asked me then if we could have a date.
In my mind I was saying, oh this guy's so fast huh? Asking for a date on the first night, but anyway, it was his birthday just a few weeks ago at that time,
and when he teased me for some birthday present, I don't know why I did it, maybe because I got overwhelmed by the feeling that some guy out there has ever liked me,
I offered to get him a round trip to Cebu, thanks to Cebu Pacific's Piso Fare. I told him that if you'd like a date with me and come here in Cebu,
then let's make it a good one - I take you to Cebu beaches. He thought that I was just joking but I really meant that one.
I mean, if for all the guys I liked before, it has been customary for me to be extra kind to them, how much more for someone who likes me for who I am?
I'd be willing to buy tickets for him. I told him that I just want to make him happy, because his my friend, and i just wanted his company,
that's why I wanted to buy him tickets. So January 2013 I did buy him plane tickets.
So, that was the first night of our reunion. The succeeding events came by so fast. We were so grabe in texting one another,
I remember consuming my P500 worth of text messages in less than four days. We just talk about anything - from high school memories,
to our common interests like music and me playing piano and him playing violin, etc. We used to talk about traveling -
me having gone to many places for residency and vacation, also his plans to go to different places in the Philippines.
I talked to him about my barkada, how we spend our nights together partying,looking for fun things to do as a group, or even chatting the night away.
I remember us sharing our dreams - him becoming an excellent IC engineer, me becoming a software engineer in a research-based facility and going to the academe to teach.
It was also fun to know that he is studying French, and me studying Japanese.
I don't know if by coincidence or fate, we shared a lot of things in common. He was also a geek - I remember one time we were talking on the phone,
he was talking about physics but we were both having fun because we both can relate. There were also those days when he would "interrogate" me -
ask me about my family, my attitude in life, my insecurities, my preferences, everything. It was my first time to have somebody interested in me that much.
Although yes, I've had a girlfriend when I was in college, but this was different, because this time, I felt like I was the girl :))
This friendship thing we had, went on for many weeks. One particular thread of conversation we had which I can never forget was when i was telling Ken that,
if ever I'd buy my own house in the future, I'd choose to be in Cebu. Then he asked me, how about Europe? Then I asked him, why Europe?
He replied, because that's where I want to be. I was struck with those words. My understanding was that, he wants me to be in Europe with him.
Ken is good-looking and intelligent and a good-hearted person, but I fell in love with him for those lines.
In a romantic sense, no one has ever made me feel important the way he did. We were already like lovers during that time.
The only thing lacking was the official status that we are boyfriends. I loved him, and I knew that he loved me.
In such happiness of mine, I finally told my friends that I have a "suitor".
But that was what I believed.
Our relationship, whatever it was, went on until early February. Now he is making me aware that he's got some friends from out of the country.
And when he said "friends", I started to have a doubt. I was beginning to sense something weird - whenever he needs assurance from me,
I lavished it upon him, but if it's me finding assurance from him, ahem, no crystal-clear answer came to me.
All he said was, don't be jealous, but if asked why, he won't tell me why.
And then I told myself that this is it, I knew it, either he has a boyfriend already or he has somebody whom he loves better than he loves me.
From then on, our friendship turned sour. I started to get jealous whenever he talks about any "friend" that he has,
and then there were weeks when I would not hear any word from him may it be text of fb chat or gmail chat or email.
Sometimes he'd send me messages but in my anger I won't reply immediately and just make him wait and ignore him.
It was very sudden, and it was painful for me. Really painful. At first I convinced myself that it would be ok, maybe he was just busy,
or maybe, well, the kilig moments are not meant to stay all the way, and at least the commitment from Ken is still there.
But later on I just moved on with my life, and chose to prepare myself to hear that Ken is with some other guy already, and not me.
I was really affected by those turn of events - during times like these I tend to be easily irritated and grumpy, and I dive into overworking.
So, one week more to go, and it's gonna be our schedule for our first date. In my mind I wanted to cancel our date,
but decided not to, because I wanted to know for sure if my doubts are real. So during that week, miraculously, our friendship was somehow restored,
we get to laugh whenever we call each other.
And finally, our long weekend began. He arrived to Cebu early morning, so I went to the airport to fetch him and take him home,
good thing family's not in town again ahaha. Made him sleep because the day before he was in NAIA for the entire day too excited waiting for the plane
that he waited for 10 hours ahead of schedule. At first it was awkward at the airport and at the taxi. But at home, after we had our breakfast,
we lied at the bed, and he hugged me, and I just hugged him in return. It was like all the pain I've had was suddenly gone.
We talked and talked for the entire day. Embraced one another, kisses here and there ahahha.
But take note, he did not want us to have sex because he doesn't want me to think that he came to Cebu just for sex.
So I was just ok with it. I prepared lunch and dinner for the two of us and it was a nice feeling to take care of somebody who also cares for you.
On the following day, I took him to a beach far from the city. We had fun, swimming in the beach, eating exotic food, taking pictures.
And finally, we talked about our status. I was right. There is another guy whom he loves and loves him in return.
He did not hide from me the details. He even showed me pictures of the guy from his cellphone.
He met that guy just a few months before we had our first chat in fb.
That was the other reason he did not want to have sex with me. That was the reason why he could not give me any assurance before.
Although I was emotionally prepared for this, I was not able to take it so I cried, while he was embracing me, and I was leaning on him.
He told me that he's guilty of giving me false hopes, and I admitted that I gave in too quickly. Although it really did hurt me a lot,
for me our date was still worth it all, because I felt free from having to believe in an illusion that we can be together.
So, for the last night, we slept together, now only as special friends. But the hugging and kissing were still there ahha!
On the following day, we went back to the city and I sent him to his long-time-no-see uncle,
which was out of our original plan and sort of took away our precious time together and became a reason of our quarrel and I felt really bad about it but still
I decided to send him to the airport before him boarding the airplane back to Manila.
He apologized for his mistake of allowing our time together to be cut short by his sudden meeting with this uncle,
but anyway, I forgave him, and we were ok before we parted.
From then on, Ken and I became special friends and kept in touch with one another. Special, in the sense that, although the two of us could not be together
because he's got somebody to love who also loves him, the two of us have left a mark on each others' lives.
He thanked me for everything and told me that no one has ever done what I have done for him - love him the way I did,
bought him a round trip ticket, prepared every detail of our date without expecting anything in return,
and treated him as a gay friend unto whom he can just be himself, without pretensions.
I also thanked him for accepting me with all my imperfections and insecurities, for making me feel loved,
even if it all ended so soon, at least it's way much better than loving someone who will never love you in return,
just like all the other guys I've had a crush on.
so am in my early twenty's finding my way out in my day to day life without being leanched or draged naked in the streets was by hiding who i really was but therre times i slipped and the wrong people found out about me and all hell broke loose my lfe became a living nightmare i found myself explaining that i wasn't gay just so i could save me from any possible death iam still trying to live a guilt free life but having known who iam i don't think i can fully be out
well I am a young Moroccan gay, I die of loneliness, I try my solmate, here in my country gays are not acceptable, I hide my truth, I want to find my travel solmate, I give all my life to study and work, and now I'm organizing my life, and I do not know how? help me,? I want a real relationship with a love sex do not have essential by that when you talk to someone, automatically, the sex talk, but most love, I do not like relationships in the Vertuel, ,
(user currently living in ETHIOPIA)
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Hello,
I am not gay but I am a freethinker and a secular humanist. I completely support the LGBT in their effort to make their voices heard. I am founder of www.facebook.com/EthiopianSecularHumanistAlliance which promotes skepticism and humanism.
Genearally speaking, it is a taboo to speak about homosexuality. Declaring you're an atheist is by far safer than talking about homosexuality (let alone saying you're gay). The root of the problem is the following. The Ethiopian society is deeply religious and profoundly lacking in scientific literacy. So you can imagine how overwhelmingly these two factors add up and make situations horrible for the LGBT and anyone who stands by their side.
So, the solution has to target religious and dogmatic views of the public. Promoting rationality and working to increase science literacy are key to success and it needs a collaboration of various stakeholders to bring about a tangible change.
soso
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Hi , I'm Gay and I live in Saudi Arabia , it's to hard to begin gay and Muslim in that place , so no one know that I'm gay , If they found that I'm gay they will kill me , most of guys here are bisexual , so I fall in love with a man how betrayed me and he told some of my friends about me after that they didn't talk to me , all I want in this time is get out from Saudi Arabia and Recourse to any country that respects the rights of gays . sorry because my English langue is bad , if can help me contact with me on skype : sosoXman
please im asking you yet so nicely to take off my story underneath jennifer please.........im getting into lots of trouble my career is being detroyed why you doing this i asked you years ago too please i beg you remove it .......even for relationships due to my story i am getting lifelong now problems why are you torturing me. im sure you realize whats this doing to me please. thanks a lot......
john, if you want to see homophobias then let invite you to my country cameroon where i live.
you certainly will be served.
if you are interested then let me know through this same forum and we will exchange ids and get to venture together
witing to read from you as soon as received.
fleur
hi ilga,i will not like to be identified.
i am a caameroonian, female i have always had difficulties in sharing my identity for fear of repraisals. but since i grew older i have developed some courage which makes me express my views without fear or favour. but about my sexual orientation, i am receiving alot of discrimination of recent. it is affecting my job as a journalist. something very complecated to manage. i sometimes am compelled to think of going on exile but, how do i do it? i realy wish i would feel free in my nature and interact with others normally, why not find someone to love and live with. but i don't know how to go about it. can someone help me please...
in my country cameroon there is alot of discrimination towards people of complicated nature like gays, lesbians... i was last week witness to a humiliating confrontation visa vis a gay who openly dmitted his sexual orientation. i felt bad but sad to note that somoany cameroonians are in asimilar situation but do nothave the courage to declare. others areforced into marraige which ends up being a lifetime uneasiness.
but i will not like to do something forcfully but, i don't know how to go about it...
In the seventies I met judge G. in Nairobi who was the preceptor of king X of Uganda. He told me of the tradition of sending young males to the court to be at the service of the kings and receive protection for their communities instead. Much like the intore in neighboring kingdoms. King X gave a miniature R&R; as a token of his love to th judge. The tragedy was and is the influence of Pauliism in Africa , with the martyrs of Uganda in evidence. Even the separation between "gays" and "straights" is imported from backwarded European countries.
(user currently living in CHINA)
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in my society i can not tell anyone i am a lesbian, because i live in a society where the islam control people`s mind . i`m afraid not be accapted by the people,
I left the UK in 2011, to travel around the world with my civil partner, we are still on the road and there is no end to our journey. I must say we have not experienced any hate crimes or homophobia on our trip so far. You can see the countries we visited and follow our journey around the world at our travel blog http://flashpackatforty.com/
Helena Vitorino
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The world needs to know what is happening in Brazil ! ! !
It is a pleasure to write for you all. My name is Helena, I'm 19 years old and I live in S達o Paulo, Brazil.
Through the facebook, I follow your struggle for homossexual's people recognition. I know how hard it is, and I do appreciate your work. Congratulations for it.
Today, I am here for a really sad worrying thing, and I want ask for your help:
Some weeks ago, a man called Marco Feliciano, who is an evangelical priest and also deputy, was selected to be the President of Human Rights Comission at Chamber of Deputies.
That wouldn't be a problem, if the man havent said how homophobic and racist he is. He declared via twitter and videos on youtube that he is against gay people, and also said that "Africa is cursed by God. This is the reason we have so many troubles there, as AIDS", and etc.
This is a disgrace to the Brazilian people, and we are all very embarrassed about it.
I'm here to ask your help: we are moving a campaign to say WHY MARCO FELICIANO DO NOT REPRESENT ME. This consists on creating a simple plaque saying (I am black / white / gay / not gay / student / teacher / mother / feminist / catholic / atheist / whatever you want! / and Marco Feliciano do not represent me!)
We are getting so much plaques, from ALL OVER THE WORLD, but we need more! I talked with an international celebrity and famous drag queen called Jujubee, who is american, that will help us on this campaign. Please, give us some support!
I believe this is not a local fight, but an universal fight, because we are fighting for humanity.
Thank you for your support. It is very important for Brazilian people and all communities in the world.
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Hello,
My name is Ryan Fleming. I am a member of the Aspen Stage production of "Unmarried in America; Prop 8 on Trial". This production will be representing Region 7 in the American Association of Community Theatre National competition.
This play was written by my friend Kristin Carlson, of Glenwood Springs, Colorado. She spent six months combing through the transcripts from the Prop 8 trial in California. She then got in contact with one of the Plaintiffs of the case, Ryan Kendall. After sharing his life story, he then put her in contact with many of his friends in the gay community. After compiling all of these stories, she then created a masterpiece that weaves trial testimony with life experiences that relate to the testimony. The play leaps from moments of brilliant comedy, to trial banter, then heart rending experiences and back to comedy.
We have been working with Kristin on refining this play for the last two years. We performed a staged reading at the Gay Ski Week 2011. Kristin then created a cutting that complies with the rules for the AACT rules, and we performed it for the Colorado Community Theatre Coalition competition in Salida, CO 2012. We won 2nd place and moved on to the regional competition. There was a problem with the Region 7 competition this year so the adjudicators came to us while we did a fund raising performance in Carbondale, CO on March 23, 2013. It took the judges what seemed all of fifteen minutes to decide that we should represent region 7 at the National Competition. The National competition will be held in Carmel, Indiana on June 17 - 23, 2013.
After the March 22 and 23 performances we had an audience feedback session. Everyone was amazed at how Kristin was able to take an issue like marriage equality and not make the message "preachy". Many were amazed to find that she is also married to a Lutheran pastor and that he is a member of the cast. These are truly amazing people who want to see justice brought to everyone. The whole company of this production agrees that the most important thing to come from our efforts would be for the world to see this masterpiece and hear its message of love.
Please contact Wendy Moore, the production director, if you would like to cover this story. 001-970-948-5121
I am in process of sorting out some rather complicated info about my past, I came across some records (surgical) of mine that refer to some info that is typical to males, I am female (though these surgeries where when I was very young) and a mother of one (biological was pregnant and carried to term) Both myself and my daughter have some pretty big health issues in terms of my pelvic formation and my daughter has some issues that appear to have started in utero as a result of my shape, I delivered naturally (with epidural freezing) and the birth was quite traumatic for both of us, we have had very little success with doctors, and family disclosing information or solutions. I am feeling like we need to have the support of a community of people that not only understand more on this subject, but can offer suggestions of where to find good people who can and will help, with legal, medical advocacy.
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Mak
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When i read the story what came to mind mind was that this child was born probably an intersex person. This is why the doctor said the child was 70% boyish. This may be due to hormonal imbalance which is believed to be one of the causes of someone being born intersex.
It's sounds good when the rights of the child were observed. In my country there are so many intersex children and people but with little help in terms of medical services but also social and cultural fundamentalisms have been a hindrance in this.
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Am black single gay young man here in Nigeria and i want to use this opportunity to share my life story with you all and see if there is any assistance anyone can lender to me either than been this way i am since is not normal been single and lonely which i find too hard to believe in my life and also the community where i am living it.
I was born on Feb.14th 1983 from Family of (3boys,3girls) am the 3rd son and i grew up from eastern part of Nigeria as i am from Anambra state and throughout my life time i have been living a lonely life though inside me i knew exactly what i am and whom i am and i can say that i started meeting people when i enter secondary school though is not easy for me but still am the Shy type who does not speak much and what am trying to explain to you people out there is that am single and seriously searching for true a man for true love with anyone who need someone for life partner as am alone, single and based on the nature of Discrimination here in Nigeria and the Law filed by the Government i think is not wise for one to continue staying here and passing through this and i do not need to stay lonely all my life as am no getting younger anymore. I seriously need a man in my life , one who will be to me as friend and partner a man whom i can share my life with and live happily ever after with either than been lonely and single here all my life please if anyone have any suggestion please i am begging and i am serious please need a partner in my life . my email is larrycage1@yahoo.ca