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V.v. Raquel Jones (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 17/05/2013
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Hello! My Name is Victoria Jones, but people who love me call me V.v., and I am 20 years old. I am going into my third year at Azusa Pacific University, but in order for me to register for the Fall Semester (where I will be a Resident Advisor), I need to pay the school an outstanding balance of $19,280.00. The reason why this has just arisen is because for my first three semesters, my mother paid for school. But at the beginning of this year, I just came out to her as being a lesbian. She cut me off. I work over 35 hours weekly now, but sustaining myself AND paying off my balance is actually impossible. I am asking that you good people PLEASE help me. APU is my life, and if I can’t go back, I don’t know what I will do.

Thank you so much!!!
I have a page where you can donate funds. Anything counts!!
https://www.youcaring.com/lgbtquniversity
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Elvis Kiwanuka (user currently living in UGANDA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers to the UGANDA country page on 16/05/2013 +5
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Press Release to ILGA from LGBTI Uganda
The month of May started on a tough note concerning LGBT rights for gay Ugandans. Two groups of athletes registered to participate in Gay Sports in France and Germany were denied visas in spite of fulfilling all requirements established by both embassies.
LGBTI Uganda had registered a women’s volley ball team to compete in the Saaleperlen Games in Leipzig, Germany, between the 15th -20th May 2013. Out of the 8 applicants; including a Badminton Team for men, only 3 persons were granted visas! These included two men, for Badminton, and 1 woman, the captain, for the Volley Ball Women’s team.
This was a great shock to the 5 women who had spent weeks under intense training. The team immediately hired a lawyer to help with the appeal process, since the games were about 2 weeks away. To the team’s surprise, the embassy insisted the appeal process would last 4 weeks, a time frame which wouldn’t allow them participate in the games and a workshop organized for them on: How to Survive in an Extremely Homophobic Environment.
As expected, the organizers too where not impressed by the decision. But to their further surprise, most of their protest emails got no feedback except one that made it categorically clear that the embassy ‘deals with applicants, not third parties’. Protest letters to the German Foreign Affairs ministry were met with excuses too; all authority, with regards to visas is handled by local embassies.
In earlier correspondences between the organizers and the LGBTI Uganda team, one of the organizers noted that there could be some local staff at the German embassy that were opposed to Gay Rights and that the team should exercise the necessary precautions. Unfortunately, the team didn’t take the caution seriously until a senior native employee at the German embassy called some of the female players and preached to them for several minutes begging them “in God’s name to repent”. At the end of their submission, another called one of the two male players and told him that the team was not “presentable enough”.
The reasons given for the denial of visas were:
1. Lack of sufficient proof of means to sustain themselves while in Germany.
2. Lack of proof that the team would leave Germany upon completion of the games.
3. Lack of sufficient attachment to their country to enable them return home etc….
But team LGBTI Uganda has been to Sweden, Netherlands and in several parts of Uganda. This team had gotten a local sponsor for the German games who offered to buy return air tickets and 200 Euros per participant in pocket money. The organizers in Leipzig too, sent letters confirming the availability of meals and full accommodation for the team. Besides, every team member had health travel insurance worth the required 30,000 Euros.
Then, with the help of the team’s lawyer, affidavits were sworn by all athletes pledging to leave Germany upon the end of the games. And family photos were attached together with properties, birth certificates of dependants, personal bank statements etc…
Up to today, however, there is no word on the fate of the 5 female volley ball players from the German Embassy in Kampala. Why is this so? We are sure they are waiting for the mandatory 4 weeks to expire.
On the side of the French Embassy, all three LGBTI Uganda athletes were turned down. The same reasons were given like the Germans. Yet even after proving that 2 of the 3 were student finalists who couldn’t just abandon their studies, the embassy remained adamant. Even when the remaining athlete proved that he had a stable job with a very good remuneration package and assets, the answer was a resounding no!
The 3 had been registered by LBTI Uganda to participate in Mountain Biking and Squash in the Tournoi International de Paris 2013 happening between 14th -20th May 2013 in Paris. The organizers gave full proof of accommodation and meals, and the participants equally proved their capacity to attend, return home and continue with their life here in Uganda. The team’s sponsor too accepted to offer air tickets and ample pocket money on condition that LGBTI Uganda guaranteed participants would honor their obligations.
It’s a pity that the German and French Embassies have turned their backs on gay Ugandans despite of the fact that they are in full knowledge of the high levels of homophobia in this country. The teams strongly believe, that in sports, they would interact with their like; exchange ideas and draw support from one another. The teams believe that participating in these sports would be a huge blow to homophobia in Uganda. The teams strongly believe that sports would defeat hate with love, condemnation with compassion, discrimination with understanding.
And while the teams remain in the depths of the dark corners of homophobia itself; they remain strong in spirit and forever indebted to the organizers in France, like Antoine Le Blanc and Hubert Quarantel-Colombani together with Matthias Lendner of Germany. Thank you for all your efforts.

Elvis Kiwanuka
National Coordinator
LGBTI Uganda
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Christophe (user currently living in MADAGASCAR) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers to the MADAGASCAR country page on 09/05/2013 tagged with at the work place, hate crime and violence prevention, hiv/aids , gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation +0
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Madagascar has no law against homosexuality, however the age of consent for same-sex intercourse is different of that of heterosexual relations (21yrs vs 16yrs).
Despite this, homophobia is still very present in the general population which consist largely of low or non educated very poor people viewing homosexuality as a "fady", a "forbidden" state of things. At best it is ignored, shunned and not recognised, homosexuals are often married with children and have hidden intercourse. At worst it is despised and homosexuals are banned from society.
Police forces play a large role in this state of things as well, not paying attention to the fact that homosexuality is not against the law.
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Sissy (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for transgender readers to the KENYA country page on 08/05/2013 +5
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I will be traveling to Kenya the first of June. As a cross-dresser )I am male, but dress as a woman)will I be harassed or arrested?
Thanks for your comments.
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New Boxing Blog for LGBTQ and allies (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual straight readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 08/05/2013 +5
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Hi, I just began blogging about my experience as a USA Olympic Style Boxer at http://ProBoxingFitness.Net the blog is for LGBTQ and allies.

The blog will soon offer postings that target the physical, mental, and emotional well being of it’s readers.
The content will specialize in general fitness, the Sport of Olympic Style Boxing, and the topic of “Winning In Life.”
Blog visitors benefit from free fitness tips, advice, and an opportunity to get their fitness or boxing related questions answered by a Licensed Coach at no cost and NO DISCRIMINATION.

Stay Encouraged,
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lemonfoundation (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the SWEDEN country page on 08/05/2013 tagged with health, hiv/aids , human rights, laws and leadership , armed forces +5
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Allied NATO Government is hiding millions of infectious NON HIV AIDS cases (like mine) under the "Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)" ICD-code.

My case goes up through the White House, NIH, CDC, WHO, to the United Nations. I recently testified on a federal-level in Washington, DC, and have been published 12 times on 4 continents.

UK PROGRESSIVE published one of my letters about NON HIV AIDS. This topic has been censored from mainstream media since 1992 (i.e., circa Gulf War I).

www.ukprogressive.co.uk/the-aids-like-disease-seldom-mentioned/article20891.html

I hope that you will support this humanitarian issue, and spread-the-news too (e.g., write a story, add to your e*Newsletter and/or post on Facebook/Twitter).

In the fight for humanity,
k



My life with NON HIV AIDS (including my federal testimony):

www.cfsstraighttalk.blogspot.com


Or simply google "NON HIV AIDS"
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I am a documentary filmmaker, gay, and have just completed a film called STRAIGHT LINE CURVE. It showcases seven successful gay men of the USA Southwest who do not fit the stereotypes often associated with homosexuality. Each man has a high profile and is fulfilled, optimistic, inspirational and proud.

I believe this film offers the world a wonderful and motivational look at the gay journey, which few people in the general populace knows exists...but it does! This 32-minute film is available on DVD.

Ed Breeding, Las Cruces, New Mexico, USA
email: breeding4051@comcast.net
www.ed-breeding.artistwebsites.com
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Stellan Karlsson (user currently living in SWEDEN) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the SWEDEN country page on 29/04/2013 tagged with at the work place, teaching lgbt rights in schools +0
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I'm a openly homosexual male, currently studying to become a teacher (ages 16-19) in the city of Gothenburg, Sweden. I have been adviced by other students to not make my sexual orientation public in my profession.
I feel that teachers are seen as heterosexual until proven otherwise. Does that meen I need to go back into the closet as long as I'm a teacher? I want to be free to say things like: "I was discussing the topic of corrective eye surgery with my boyfriend last week and he told me that..." and not having it be a big deal (which it is as long as teachers are kept in the closet.
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Very interesting film depicting the passing of same-sex marriage legislation within London and the UK in 2013. Worth a look!! http://youtu.be/NZaBse2hrQU
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Rainbow Ethiopia LGBTI Human Rights, Outreach HIV/AIDS and Psycho-social Support Services (user currently living in ETHIOPIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the ETHIOPIA country page on 28/04/2013 tagged with intersex, hate crime and violence prevention, health, hiv/aids , gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, illegality of female to female relationships, illegality of male to male relationships +0
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Ethiopian LGBTs need help to halt abuses

Posted on April 27, 2013 by Rainbow Ethiopia

Ethiopia has one of the world’s most restrictive laws governing attempts to protect the rights and health of women, children, LGBT people, the sick and the disabled.

As a result, those people’s rights and health are endangered, and too little is being done to change that.

A law called the Charities and Societies Proclamation (CSP) 621/2009 bans any advocacy and human rights work seeking to end violence against women and children or to promote the rights of people with disabilities, people living with HIV, or other marginalized populations.

Further, grassroots organizations and front-line activists working for the rights and sexual health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people in Ethiopia are in danger both because of CSP 621/2009 and because of anti-homosexuality Proclamation No. 414/2004.2012, which provides for prison sentences of up to 15 years for consensual same-sex sexual activity.

As a result, little progress has been made in suppressing violence against LGBT individuals, which is inflicted both by police and by mobs. LGBT people tend to keep their sexual orientation a secret to avoid arrest and social stigma. LGBT activists fear for their safety, because a number of them have been detained, interrogated and tortured.

The U.S. and other countries don’t do enough to push for an end to such violations. Although they know that change is needed, they don’t make it a priority. Every year the U.S. State Department copies and pastes the same two paragraphs in its Ethiopian Human Rights Report under the heading “Societal Abuses, Discrimination, and Acts of Violence Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.” This is the wording from the newly released 2012 report:

Consensual same-sex sexual activity is illegal and punishable by imprisonment under the law. There were some reports of violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals; reporting was limited due to fear of retribution, discrimination, or stigmatization. Persons did not identify themselves as LGBT persons due to severe societal stigma and the illegality of consensual same-sex sexual activity. Activists in the LGBT community stated they were followed and at times feared for their safety. There were periodic detainments of some in the LGBT community, combined with interrogation and alleged physical abuse.

The AIDS Resource Center in Addis Ababa reported the majority of self-identified gay and lesbian callers, the majority of whom were male, requested assistance in changing their behavior to avoid discrimination. Many gay men reported anxiety, confusion, identity crises, depression, self-ostracism, religious conflict, and suicide attempts.


Ethiopia’s location in East Africa

A first step toward would be for the U.S. embassy and U.S. human rights missions in the country to work closely with local LGBT activists and community leaders to flesh out the 2013 report. It’s important to record the specifics about the degrading and so-far-unreported human rights violations that Ethiopian people experience on the basis of their sexual identity and gender orientation.

A similar shortcoming applies to the U.K.’s 2012 Human Rights and Democracy Report, which mentions nothing about the human rights abuses targeted at LGBT people in Ethiopia.

Along the same lines, a conference of African Union health ministers is being held this week in Addis Ababa to discuss ways to combat the continent’s diseases. The pressing issue of LGBT people and HIV in Africa is not in their agenda.

It’s not because the foreign governments don’t know what’s going on. HIV activists and LGBT human right workers continually report incidents of social justice and human rights abuses to the U.S. State Department’s Bureau of Democracy, Human Rights and Labor and to the British Foreign and Commonwealth Office. The hope is that international organizations such as those will investigate and work with the Ethiopian government to address the issue.

For more information visit our website:

http://www.rainbow-ethiopia.org/
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Rainbow Ethiopia LGBTI Human Rights, Outreach HIV/AIDS and Psycho-social Support Services (user currently living in ETHIOPIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the ETHIOPIA country page on 28/04/2013 tagged with intersex, hate crime and violence prevention, health, hiv/aids , gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, illegality of female to female relationships, illegality of male to male relationships +0
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Ethiopian LGBTs need help to halt abuses

Posted on April 27, 2013 by Rainbow Ethiopia

Ethiopia has one of the world’s most restrictive laws governing attempts to protect the rights and health of women, children, LGBT people, the sick and the disabled.

As a result, those people’s rights and health are endangered, and too little is being done to change that.

A law called the Charities and Societies Proclamation (CSP) 621/2009 bans any advocacy and human rights work seeking to end violence against women and children or to promote the rights of people with disabilities, people living with HIV, or other marginalized populations.

Further, grassroots organizations and front-line activists working for the rights and sexual health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people in Ethiopia are in danger both because of CSP 621/2009 and because of anti-homosexuality Proclamation No. 414/2004.2012, which provides for prison sentences of up to 15 years for consensual same-sex sexual activity.

As a result, little progress has been made in suppressing violence against LGBT individuals, which is inflicted both by police and by mobs. LGBT people tend to keep their sexual orientation a secret to avoid arrest and social stigma. LGBT activists fear for their safety, because a number of them have been detained, interrogated and tortured.

The U.S. and other countries don’t do enough to push for an end to such violations. Although they know that change is needed, they don’t make it a priority. Every year the U.S. State Department copies and pastes the same two paragraphs in its Ethiopian Human Rights Report under the heading “Societal Abuses, Discrimination, and Acts of Violence Based on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.” This is the wording from the newly released 2012 report:

Consensual same-sex sexual activity is illegal and punishable by imprisonment under the law. There were some reports of violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) individuals; reporting was limited due to fear of retribution, discrimination, or stigmatization. Persons did not identify themselves as LGBT persons due to severe societal stigma and the illegality of consensual same-sex sexual activity. Activists in the LGBT community stated they were followed and at times feared for their safety. There were periodic detainments of some in the LGBT community, combined with interrogation and alleged physical abuse.

The AIDS Resource Center in Addis Ababa reported the majority of self-identified gay and lesbian callers, the majority of whom were male, requested assistance in changing their behavior to avoid discrimination. Many gay men reported anxiety, confusion, identity crises, depression, self-ostracism, religious conflict, and suicide attempts.


Ethiopia’s location in East Africa

A first step toward would be for the U.S. embassy and U.S. human rights missions in the country to work closely with local LGBT activists and community leaders to flesh out the 2013 report. It’s important to record the specifics about the degrading and so-far-unreported human rights violations that Ethiopian people experience on the basis of their sexual identity and gender orientation.

A similar shortcoming applies to the U.K.’s 2012 Human Rights and Democracy Report, which mentions nothing about the human rights abuses targeted at LGBT people in Ethiopia.

Along the same lines, a conference of African Union health ministers is being held this week in Addis Ababa to discuss ways to combat the continent’s diseases. The pressing issue of LGBT people and HIV in Africa is not in their agenda.

It’s not because the foreign governments don’t know what’s going on. HIV activists and LGBT human right workers continually report incidents of social justice and human rights abuses to the U.S. State Department’s Bureau of Democracy, Human Rights and Labor and to the British Foreign and Commonwealth Office. The hope is that international organizations such as those will investigate and work with the Ethiopian government to address the issue.

For more information visit our website:

http://www.rainbow-ethiopia.org/
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lemonfoundation (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 26/04/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, health, human rights, armed forces
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Allied NATO Government is hiding millions of infectious NON HIV AIDS cases (like mine) under the "Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)" ICD-code.

My case goes up through the White House, NIH, CDC, WHO, to the United Nations. I recently testified on a federal-level in Washington, DC, and have been published 12 times on 4 continents.

UK PROGRESSIVE published one of my letters about NON HIV AIDS. This topic has been censored from mainstream media since 1992 (i.e., circa Gulf War I).

www.ukprogressive.co.uk/the-aids-like-disease-seldom-mentioned/article20891.html

I hope that you will support this humanitarian issue, and spread-the-news too (e.g., write a story, add to your e*Newsletter and/or post on Facebook/Twitter).

In the fight for humanity,
k


My life with NON HIV AIDS (including my federal testimony):

www.cfsstraighttalk.blogspot.com

Or simply google "NON HIV AIDS"


My federal testimony about NON HIV AIDS from a recent CFS/ME advisory committee meeting (Washington, DC via conference call) posted (5 minutes):

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubjGm5dILpY&list;=PL600CB038194B4593&index;=11&feature;=plpp_video
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Hanna K. Rantala (user currently living in FINLAND) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the FINLAND country page on 17/04/2013 tagged with at the work place, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation
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Making Our Struggles Visible: Advances in LGBTI rights demand courage and solidarity

These weeks of early spring 2013 gay rights have made the headlines in newspapers across the globe. Equal marriage bill is being debated in United States, Brazil, Colombia and Finland.
12 countries have granted the equal right to marry to same-sex couples after Uruguay's decision to legalise same-sex marriage. Earlier this week the French national assembly approved "Marriage to all" bill increasing expectations of equal marriage.

At the dawn of a brighter future, I was reminded of the importance of providing media coverage to these advances; for worldwide the battle for equality is nowhere near to be finished. LGBTI rights are a question of survival and a pending human rights issue. I will share you a story which happened to me this late March in 2013. The event took place on diplomatic grounds in Finland, hence, beyond the reach of local anti-discrimination measures.

I had written a solid application for a job, and was soon called for a round of interviews. I made it to the last stage. At first it seemed very promising. I was being congratulated for an excellent application, my broad experience and language skills. Soon the awkward question popped up: "Are you married?" I answered simply "No, I am not." This led my high-ranking interviewer onto the follow-up: 螯覚 you have a boyfriend?The seemingly obvious response "Yes, I am in a relationship" did not occur at that instant. Instead, I opted for the gender-neutral choice "Yes, I have a life partner." My interviewer got slightly confused. After confusing the pronouns him/her in his speech, he looked at me and said: "So, you do have a boyfriend or what?" Feeling puzzled about what my relationship actually had to do with the position in question, I decided to be frank and not lie about who I am. He had, in fact, asked me a straight-forward question and deserved an honest response: "I have a girlfriend", I said.

From there on, my interview turned into an odd quiz about [my] sexual orientation. Despite my ongoing efforts to steer the conversation back into the topic, my experience and professional strengths, I found myself with no resorts. Over the next 45 minutes, I was directed with questions that ranged from the age in which I had discovered my orientation (if I knew what was meant with it) to the citizenship and life interests of my girlfriend, and further along to whether I had preferred female or male teachers, if I got along with people regardless their gender, if I held grudge against some women, and which one of us two was the dominating one in the relationship.

My interviewer kept on assuring me that my sexual orientation was not a decisive factor. Yet, in the midst of it, I was never given the chance to defend myself for the job. Somehow, my private life had become the factor that defined me as a professional. I could have interrupted him. But I knew that this was a well-educated bigot who was not going to offer me the job. Instead, this was my chance to set some miss-guided presumptions straight.

This experience forced me to ask myself a question, pondered by many others before me: where should we draw the limit between acting professional and being political? How far can we go in respecting our privacy? Can we actually afford to stay quiet?

I am someone who considers private life private. I firmly believe that our personal lives should have no bearing over how we are perceived as professionals. That it is no concern of our employer's with whom we share our lives. I also think that office hours are office hours, and that personal issues are best left outside. However, we are social beings and sooner or later one of your colleagues will want to know a bit more about you. Then if an acquaintance assumes you straight, is it alright for us to stay quiet?

Recent evidence in United States shows that people seem more willing to support equal right to marriage if they know personally someone who is gay. I know this. Still, I am ashamed to confess that I have confided in separating the private from the public and hidden behind my deceiving appearance as a straight woman. Twice have I found myself cornered up and closeted at work. This has made me feel like a liar and a cheat. It has really made me question my values and beliefs, for I know that the advances in LGBTI rights have come about because ordinary people have had the courage to stand up and fight. I know that if we want to improve our status as equal, worthy and capable citizens and professionals, we must make our lives and battles visible. We must turn the private into public.

In contrast to the 12 countries with equal right to marriage, a third of the countries world-wide consider homosexuality a crime. In nine countries it is punishable by death. Many others have approved anti-discrimination measures to varying degree. No matter which end of the spectrum, there are no guarantees that we are not discriminated against.

My story is not unique. Around the world people are killed, attacked, harassed, bullied and many are at risk of losing their work because of their sexual orientation or gender. The denial of equal rights and the lack of effective anti-discrimination measures threaten the lives and livelihoods of many people like me. Being outspoken probably cost me the job. Paradoxically, it made me more determined to make my life count. I was reminded that LGBTI rights are human rights. They are a global issue. And that advances towards equality can be achieved only through tremendous acts of courage and solidarity.
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the following is my friend Tom's story, in his own words

I committed statutory rape with a 15-year old male when I was 51. He was my student. I loved and love him whole-heartedly and completely, and promised him unconditional love, long before any sex took place. Human behavior is complicated and has many varieties. This is an unusual story. The government told a cartoon story with broad strokes of black and white.

I was imprisoned without bond, and had my freedom of speech taken away before I had been convicted of any crime. Newspapers printed government press releases without any checking of any facts. If necessary, I will submit to a polygraph on any statement I make, from any independent administrator. Ask those who contradict my statements if they will do the same. If a statement was proved by evidence or the victim's statements, I will put (P). I have discovered that the police falsify information, and distort and manipulate facts and testimony. My belief in the United States has been shaken.

The young man, a South American adopted into an Orthodox Jewish family, was cutting himself in September of 2009 when we met. He told me it was from the frustration with his home life, and not being allowed to be Latino or social, and being forced to observe a religion he found oppressive. He said one sister attacked him physically several times. He is a remarkable, bright, witty, and kind human being, with a fierce urge for freedom. I found him to be extraordinary. He came to see me most days, even more often after he was warned by his parents that I was homosexual, I found out later.(P) He brought a chess board in for lunches when he found out I played chess. We talked about history, religion, politics, psychology. He eventually he told me about the cutting.

I called his father, talked to the rabbis, called a psychologist, put him in touch with a former student with whom I thought he might click (heterosexual), gave him a copy of The Road Less Travelled, the best book I thought on how one gets happy. He kept cutting. I was frantic to help. I promised to love him unconditionally, forever. We loved talking, and I hoped I could make up whatever he lacked. I promised to do anything in my power to help him be happy. I sent him affirmation texts. (Know you are loved, you are great as you are, say "I am a wonderful person," etc.)

Some months later, on the phone, he said we should have sex. I told him that was a "really bad idea."

Some time later, he said he was playing tennis next to my building, and he would come by to work on a project. He came up, and said he was not there to work on the project, but to have sex. I tried to talk him out of it. (P) I said I could love him without sex. (P) He said I didn't have to. I said he did not owe me sex for love. He said he knew he did not owe, he wanted it, and he said I did too. I said sex was not that important, that he should not ask such a thing just for sex. He said it was for true love, that we were soul mates, we would be together forever. I said if we were soul mates then, we would be so in a few years. He said, true, but since we were we did not have to wait. Many times, he said he needed it to live. He confirmed at trial that he believed that. (P) He believed he loved me and that I loved him. (P) I said he should be with someone his age. He said he was attracted to older men. (P) I said everyone would assume it was my fault when it came out (even years later if we were together). He said he would tell them he picked me, and besides, we would be together. He said he had known what he wanted for a long time. He said such things happened all the time. Nothing happened that day (Feb,. 13 2010) We agreed to work it out. The conversation continued the next day with many more reasons for no on my part. He finally said if it was not me, it would be some other older white guy. (P) I agreed on February 14.

I have tried to be a good person my whole life. I try not to manipulate people. I love people without sex; sex and love are not the same thing. I do not even like to have sex with someone drunk, even a boyfriend because of the consent issue. I have always tried to tell the truth. Even in teaching, I would tell students the reason I was doing something (quizzes are designed to force you to read, etc.) I have tried to help the outcasts, with chess and theater. Many students said I saved lives, saved souls.

No combination of things could have made me give in like those. I had to save the life of someone I loved, a soul mate with love so true that 35 years made no difference, and if I didn't do it he would go do it somewhere else. I justified it by saving his life, not denying true love, and protecting him from those who did not love him. It was clearly wrong, but has anyone been subject to such arguments in such a situation? He said, trust me, believe me.

I thought that rejection just might kill him. I thought he wanted to be trusted and believed. I rationalized that the release of sex with someone he loved might stop the cutting. I let myself believe. He said in a statement later he did it for power and control. (P) The cutting stopped for four months until another fight with his sister.

Once I agreed I did whatever I could to make him happy. He was very advanced sexually. He claimed that I was the first, but close examination of his statement excluded from trial makes that claim dubious. He wanted to try light bondage and spanking. I always did what he asked. The prosecutor loved to say "penetrated with objects." I was the far more often penetrated. Everything done was done mutually. He was very happy, almost giddy. Only he could arrange meeting times. I came when he called, and did what he asked. He estimated 50 to 60 times in 5 months. The frequency with which he chose should have been proof of a loving if wrong relationship; I had no ability to arrange to see him. The schedule was his. He repeatedly texted and told me "You saved my life."

I had to move to Virginia to make more money. He said he wanted us to be together, so I remained faithful. I saw him that Christmas break, once, and it was clear he was no longer interested. He had been sleeping with a number of other older men. (P This is factual from his statements, not speculation.) I did not know that until my arrest. He called me to officially end the relationship in January. I was heart-broken, but I never raised his vow of eternal love. I tried to continue loving him as a friend. We soon emailed, and I never asked to renew the sexual relationship. I offered to be a best friend (my choice) or never talk to him if that was what he needed. (P) His emails say things like "Thank you...for everything," and "Not worry about you? Not possible." The emails are available.

He broke contact in early June of 2011. I heard by email from someone claiming to be him in October of that year, but it was not him. I denied the sex, thinking it was his family. I promised to do anything to help him if HE asked, and ended contact with the impostor. It was a Florida law enforcement agent. That was my first offer to turn myself in.

He got in trouble for his sexual contact with men. He refused to cooperate with police. (P) He was locked in psychological facilities for a year. He was brainwashed into changing the facts of what happened, (P) and his attitude was reversed. As far as I can tell, he was locked up for being actively gay. He was 17 for most of that time. In May 2012 he cooperated with police, and contacted me. When he called, I said I was ready to come tell the truth if that was what he needed. My second offer. He said he wanted me to come see him (reversed by police) and that he could not wait until he was 18. (P) I was confused by his previous rejection and now reversal. The policeman, as the young man, sent me sexually suggestive texts and emails, begging for me to renew the relationship, and made me promise to say something on the phone. It was the young man on the phone. I promised, and the young man initiated phone sex at the behest of the police. (P) I tried to decline; he said he had "needs." (P) I came to Florida and was arrested, after telling him twice more on the phone I would come and tell the truth. He was three months away from his 18th birthday at this point. The federal age of consent is 16, but they charged me under the Florida age of 18, but using a federal charge that carried a sentence of 10 to life.

The young man's police statement on which the indictment was based was largely disproved at trial. (P) The federal government charged me under an internet predator law, convinced that there were other victims. The police directed or suggested the false testimony. (P) They said I showed him child porn, which makes no sense. This was dismissed on sentencing, but they used it twice in trial to disgust the jury. They kept hinting at trial and sentencing about other victims, who do not exist, in spite of running a hotline number that was carried in the US and England. I find men from the age of maturity to 30ish more attractive sexually than older men, though not exclusively. Do heterosexuals do this as well? Does a 50 year old heterosexual fantasize about 50 year-ld women? I tried NOT to see students outside of school. I would never seduce anyone; the greatest attraction for me is someone's desire for me.

When the other victims did not appear, they brought in the FBI grooming expert to say I groomed him, since the evidence of persuading, enticing, inducing or coercing was slim. No grooming scenario exists in which the "groomer" waits for the "victim" to ask for sex, and then tries to dissuade the "victim." As unlikely as my story sounds, at trial he admitted that he, not I, proposed sex, that I tried to talk him out of it (and thus he talked me into it), that he BELIEVED he needed it to live, that I said I could love him without sex, and that he said he would find another older white guy if I said no. He AFFIRMED these at trial.

The interpretation of the law for induce as "cause" is to "allow to happen," when it should mean force. Under this absurd reading, this law has a LOWER threshold of guilt than statutory rape; a text message saying "OK, I will pick you up," would convict, without any contact. If every gay teen who texted an older lover were to be found in South Florida, there would be an army in prison. Statutory rape under federal guidelines carries a 41-51 month sentence. I was given 200 months under the persuasion statute. I had offered to plead guilty to statutory rape and it was rejected; they blamed me at sentencing for putting him through the trial.

Most heterosexual women in the same situation are sentenced to probation to two years. The application of this statute was arbitrary and unequal. The prosecutor announced to the jury that he granted that the "sex was consensual." The age of consent in Israel is 15, so in that civilized a country I would not even have committed a crime at all. The rich are sued for this. Where is the moral fairness?

Why was I prosecuted this way? Conservative politics and homosexuality. The family is Orthodox Jewish, the investigator who fashioned the testimony is Catholic, the prosecutor is Republican, and the judge voted for Rick Santorum.

I believed saving his life, or both of us believing it, would mitigate the statutory rape charge. I believed telling the truth and offering to turn myself in would mitigate. Telling the truth was the worst thing I could have done. Had I denied him when he called, and lied, nothing would have happened. I tried to be honest; rejecting him seemed to violate my vow of love.

I do not "blame" him for sleeping with other men. I do not love him less. I would have done anything for his happiness. I would have gladly NOT slept with him. I rationalized that I was being courageous to save his life and risk my own. I felt he was testing to see if my vow of eternal, unconditional love was real. He convinced me we were breaking convention for our mutual happiness. I thought I could serve some years to save him. If it truly saved his life, I wish I could say that knowing what I do now, I would still have been loyal enough to say yes. I would not have had the courage. I am sorry it happened either way.

Does love matter? Does fairness matter? Does the truth matter? When does a person have sexual and religious freedom? Can a conservative family change those by locking someone in psychological units, to change attitudes and alter facts? Does gay sex justify any level of charges, and any lying by the government?

I hope the young will save my life some day.

Please tell my story.

Thomas Patrick Keelan 98219-004
FDC Miami
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Dear Sir and Madam

It is good that you are initiated some activities to know the realities of LGBTIQ issues in Nepal but I am sad to say that this is not relevant since 90% of LGBTIQ are computer illiterate and rest do not give a damn about LGBTIQ activism.

My recent research on LGBTIQ findings shows that Blue diamond society who is working towards HIV/AIDS has failed in number of ways;
1. it has hardly done anything to raise awareness about HIV/AIDS,
2. The staff members are too busy falsifying services given about HIV/AIDS awareness, treatment and prevention and research.
3. BDS has successful trafficked transgender people from around the Nepal into sex trade which has caused heavy budget to bile out illegal sex workers from the police,
4. BDS supports this because Sunil Babu Pant ( president of blue diamond society) as misued these community for his benefit including becoming a CA member 2008-2012.
5. BDS has mis-infromed international activists about HIV/AIDS status of LGBTIQ people to secure further funding.
6. 99% of LGBTIQ people neither trust BDS nor visits BDS to take any service because of its corrupt leadership.
7. Even 90% staff of BDS hates its key leader of BDS and leadership but unable to raise the voice simply because of fear of losing job and livelihood ( they are neither qualified to do anything apart from working here for tokenism)
8. BDS has focused its activities on unnecessary projects which raises more hype (internationally) than impact.
9. BDS recruits its key staff not based on merit but on his (sunil Babu Pant) link so that he can manipulated further international activist and donors,
10 Any news or research came from the orgnisation is 99% fulsified which is not related to the field stories and issues.
11. I can challenge and prove that HIV/AIDS data represented by BDS is untrue.

11. The government not willing to renew the organization not because the government of Nepal is homophobic because our government have enough evidence of corruption, misused, Human rights abuse and falsification occurring at the current leadership.
12. Sunil Babu Pant is powerful because he has formed sexual relationship with powerful people like Peter O' Neal and other UN staff who can not be challenged by average people.

This is all for this I will update further later when I have time.

Kind regards

K Maharjan
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Sam (user currently living in MOROCCO) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the MOROCCO country page on 03/04/2013
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well I am a young Moroccan gay, I die of loneliness, I try my solmate, here in my country gays are not acceptable, I hide my truth, I want to find my travel solmate, I give all my life to study and work, and now I'm organizing my life, and I do not know how? help me,? I want a real relationship with a love sex do not have essential by that when you talk to someone, automatically, the sex talk, but most love, I do not like relationships in the Vertuel, ,

my email: secteur.pro@gmail.com
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Ruth Tidemann (user currently living in NEW ZEALAND) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers to the NEW ZEALAND country page on 03/04/2013 tagged with marriage / civil unions
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The NZ government is about to have voted in LGBT marriage. There is 100% chance that this will be passed! Good on you NZ
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John (user currently living in TURKEY) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page on 28/03/2013 tagged with tourism, lgbt families, hate crime and violence prevention, sexual orientation, marriage / civil unions +5
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I left the UK in 2011, to travel around the world with my civil partner, we are still on the road and there is no end to our journey. I must say we have not experienced any hate crimes or homophobia on our trip so far. You can see the countries we visited and follow our journey around the world at our travel blog http://flashpackatforty.com/
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Jesucristo Redentor (user currently living in COLOMBIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the SPAIN country page on 21/03/2013
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Denuncia Fundacion Remar Colombia y Remar Internacional por Corrupcion, Percurio, Fraude, Evasion de Capital, Contrabando Internacional y HOMOFOBIA.
http://jusremar.blogspot.com/
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ORGULLO LGBT RECHAZA ELECCIÓN DE PAPA HOMOFÓBICO (user currently living in COLOMBIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers to the COLOMBIA country page on 15/03/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , marriage / civil unions +5
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Con Francisco I la Iglesia Católica ha perdido una oportunidad histórica para realmente renovarse y abrirse a la inclusión e igualdad.

Como colectivo latinoamericano en la defensa de los derechos humanos nos alegra el reconocimiento a una región mayoritariamente católica. Pero al tiempo, con tristeza, debemos registrar la elección del Cardenal Jorge Mario Bergoglio - ahora Papa Francisco I -como conductor de una de las principales aglutinadoras de fe en el Mundo.

Estamos en la obligación de recordar que en un pasado no muy lejano cuando se desempeñaba como Arzobispo de Buenos Aires, el nuevo Papa fue un injusto opositor que uso su investidura cardenalicia para emitir conceptos contrarios al matrimonio entre parejas del mismo sexo y al otorgamiento de derechos plenos a ciudadanos pertenecientes al sector poblacional de lesbianas, gays, bisexuales, transgéneros e intesexuales (LGBTI).

El ahora Sumo Pontífice, dijo que legalizar uniones homosexuales era "movida del Diablo”; mensaje a todas luces homofóbico e injusto sobretodo viniendo de una institución fundamentada en la tolerancia, la comprensión y el amor.

También preocupa su cómplice silencio sobre el robo de menores en los tiempos de la dictadura argentina y otras posiciones fundamentalistas contra la autonomía de la mujer, que en nada contribuyen a la sana convivencia en los tiempos actuales.

Con su elección, el cónclave Vaticano insiste en sembrar el prejuicio y odio contra unas personas que más que el repudio, merecemos la comprensión y la inclusión social en condiciones de igualdad.
Daremos un compás de espera a las acciones del recién elegido Papa, y esperamos que en vez de ver la paja en el ojo ajeno, vea la viga en el propio, y reconozca los errores de una institución eclesiástica sumida en escándalos de abuso sexual por cuenta de curas pederastas.

Ojalá esas virtudes de caridad, austeridad y servicio que dicen tiene el nuevo Pontífice primen frente a sus comprobadas acciones conservadoras en contra de la libertad, la igualdad y la diversidad sexual.

RICARDO MONTENEGRO VÁSQUEZ
Abogado, Director Orgullo LGBT Colombia


Bogotá DC, 13 de marzo de 2013
@r_Montenegro www.orgullolgbt.net
cel 3126707269 fijo (1) 4704371
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crazyandkirst (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for transgender bisexual intersex readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page on 14/03/2013 tagged with intersex, gender identity, sexual orientation
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Kirsty tries out different looks at the early stages of her transexual transition

<a>http://www.livingwithatransgender.com/transexualkirsty-experiments-2/>/a></a>
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crazyandkirst (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for transgender bisexual readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page on 14/03/2013 tagged with intersex, at the work place, gender identity, sexual orientation
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Read about the story of Steven transitioning to Kirsty

<a>http://www.livingwithatransgender.com/why-transexual-steven-preferred-barbie-to-ken/</a>
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Leigh Johnston (user currently living in AUSTRALIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the AUSTRALIA country page on 12/03/2013 tagged with human rights, laws and leadership , marriage / civil unions, illegality of female to female relationships
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Hello ILGA friends, I wonder if you could help my 2 girlfriends gain some support and attention by posting the following link to your webpages and any social networking page you oversee. They are about to marry each other and have invited someone special to their wedding!!

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10152635449140554&set;=o.26012002239&type;=1&theater;&notif;_t=photo

The more attention we get the more exposure and chance of the girl's dreams come true! Please read. Thank you for taking interest, as this is in all our interests!

Kind regards,
Leigh Johnston
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non hiv aids? (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 02/03/2013 tagged with health, hiv/aids , human rights, armed forces
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HIV-Negative AIDS: CFIDS or AIDS?

Allied NATO Government is hiding millions of infectious NON HIV AIDS cases (like mine) under the "Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)" ICD-code.

BEST GAY NEWS published one of my letters about NON HIV AIDS.

This marked itâ&euro;&trade;s 12th publication on 4 continents. This topic has been censored from mainstream media since 1992.

www.bestgaynewsmagazine.com/2013/02/17/hiv-negative-aids-disease-vs-chronic-fatigue-syndrome.aspx?ref=rss

I hope that you will support this humanitarian issue, and spread-the-news too (e.g., write a story, add to your e*Newsletter and/or post on Facebook/Twitter).

In the fight for humanity,
k


Or simply google "NON HIV AIDS"
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daria (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 28/02/2013 +5
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Hello my name is Daria and I am a producer in the NYC area, I am currently working on my latest project which I believe may interest you! I am currently in pre production of my latest film called "The Honor" this film is a heart wrenching, dramatic story about the love of a bi racial lesbian couple, whom despite the scrutiny from their peers and family they pursue their relationship anyway. After much tirany the protagonists mother ends up having her lover and soul mate killed, this story goes through the very struggles of bi racial and homosexual couples do today, and ends with a triumphant and revelating reveal. I am personally a huge advocate for gay/lesbian rights as well as bi racial and bi ethnical rights, this movie is my baby and the script was given to me along side of a dozen others and I immediately knew which story I would then make come to life. If you could be of any assistance with this project I would be more then happy to mention your organization in our film and of course give you credits. This is a story very close to my heart and getting this film the recognition it deserves is my number one priority. If you would like a copy of our script I would be more then happy to send it to you, or any more information! I truly truly hope to speak with you soon! Thank you for you time.

Sincerely, Daria
Producer of "The Honor"
Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?
-Ernest Gaines
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GHMCC (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the SOUTH AFRICA country page on 20/02/2013 tagged with human rights, religion, marriage / civil unions +0
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Good Hope Metropolitan Community Church (GHMCC), an inclusive and affirming Christian Church in Cape Town, has moved to its new home at Central Methodist Mission on Greenmarket Square in Cape Town. Good Hope MCC Worship services are held every Sunday evening at 18h00.

Although Good Hope MCC serves a predominantly gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender congregation, the membership is diverse and goes beyond the social constructs of gender, beyond race and sexual orientation. Good Hope MCC traces its roots back to 1983, when a few Christians founded the "Gay Christian Community". Subsequently Good Hope MCC became a member congregation of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), an affirming Christian denomination with churches and ministries in more than 37 countries.

MCC are at the vanguard of civil and human rights movements by addressing important issues such as racism, sexism, homoprejudice, ageism and other forms of oppression. MCC has been on the forefront of the struggle towards marriage equality worldwide and continues to be a powerful voice in the movement for LGBTI equality. Across the globe Metropolitan Community Churches are also known as the “Human Rights Church”.

Core values are Inclusion, Community, Spiritual Transformation and Social Action.

Good Hope MCC recognises that people are not one dimensional and orientation, whether LGBTI or straight is only aspect of who we are ~ but for so many LGBTI’s, this can be something that deeply conflicts with our spirituality because of what is so commonly preached. It is GHMCC’s mission to serve God among those who are seeking and celebrating the integration of their spiritually and sexuality. We know that many have been deeply hurt by organised religion and GHMCC is a place, where people are able to have their faith and their love for God restored, whilst still being true to all of who they are, with no fear, no shame and no guilt.
At Good Hope MCC, we know that we are created in the image of God. We also understand that God is not limited by our understanding of God. God is not bound by any of our cultural or personal biases. God is beyond gender, beyond race, beyond nationality, beyond any church or religion, beyond any culture or time. We are created in the image of God – we do not create God in our image.

For further information, please visit www.goodhopemcc.org or e-mail welcome@goodhopemcc.org.
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Raha (user currently living in IRAN, ISLAMIC REPUBLIC OF) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers to the IRAN, ISLAMIC REPUBLIC OF country page on 16/02/2013 tagged with gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation +5
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the story i am going to say is related to three years ago on the 3rd Friday of July (23rd July 2010) in Iran.
It was long before that, that my friends and I had conversation on how we can have a National LGBT day in Iran while it is quit dangerous and riskful. we planed to announce a day for this (which is 3rd friday of July and its celebrated 3 times now). we had an small party in a friends apartment full of rainbow stuff that we created ourselves and we published the news and anonymous pictures on the net after.
you can see some of the pictures of it here: http://chrr.biz/spip.php?article10324
although we faced lots of risks after and some of us was blackmailed but it was a hopeful story that i liked to say which can be a hope among all dark story from the country i live in.
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priti (user currently living in SRI LANKA) posted for transgender readers to the SRI LANKA country page on 15/02/2013 +5
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I born as a boy but I like to become a beautiful girl. so i hate my male body and male sex organs.I want to transform it into female body and sex.how can i do that in sri lanka.
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i'm from Morocco & i need a help (user currently living in MOROCCO) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the MOROCCO country page on 05/02/2013 tagged with at the work place, lgbt families, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, illegality of male to male relationships
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Hi everybody, i dont know how to explain da situation here ,day after day i feel losing hope in life and feeling really destroyed.
I present myself, my name is EMy "nickname", born in 1985 and I live in Morocco, a Muslim country where there is no gay rights at all, we are now in 2012 and there is any homosexual law reform expected !!
Since i was teenager i always felt that my choices and my way of thinking is like a girl, I dressed as a woman (in privacy) and so far I shaved all my body parts regularly .. in recent years I did my eyebrows and I tried to wear feminine clothes .. but i was firmly confronted by my family and entourage and I lost my job and all my friends just because i tryed to be me.
I avoided having homosexual relationship just because the law is not tolerant;
My life is wasted; prisoner in men clothes I find no taste to continue this life, get outside my room and see the world, nobody understands me, it's taboo to talk about homosexuality here coz of religion beliefs !! I lost hope to live and I swear i start to think about suicide.
I tryed several times to contact many gay rights comitee in several countries but in vain, they all told me that i have to be in that country in ordre to deal with me, i was seeking for a humain asylum.
My relationship with my surroundings have become worse especially with my family, and one day I'll leave home without knowing where to go.
i need some one to help me to live my life in a country where there is gay rights, I want to live and work in peace, get dressed with respect and freely.
my email: bi.cool@live.com -sincerly-
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(user currently living in TUNISIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the TUNISIA country page on 02/02/2013 +4
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I would like to share with you some of my concerns about the degree of threats that our LGBTQ group in Tunisia are facing. In fact, since the 14th of January (the spark date of the Jasmine Revolution) which swept the demi-god presidents in the Arab countries, we discovered that we have become the target of all those who wish to score goals at the expense of our oppressed group. Homophobic remarks, physical attacks and discrimination are adopted by the public against us and we donâ&euro;&trade;t feel safe in our own country anymore. Certain stances of the Tunisian society like the Salafists and some other religious fanatic groups amplified stigma against us and even started to invest the Quran to gather support for the elimination of gays. It is really sad to notice that our group went invisible and most of the notorious members of the LGBTQ community refrained from criticizing the government, leaving this task to the most daring ones. Not long ago (around half a year ago), we were invited to participate in a TV program to discuss the issue of minorities in Tunisia. As expected, the minister of Human Rights (who is remotely connected to them), clearly mentioned that as an entire group we are a psychologically disturbed segment of society and we have to seek treatment. This was very depressing news. Worst, the minister was accompanied by the minister of Family Affairs and she did well to confirm the views of her idol. The debate was very poor and homosexuality was encapsulated in sex and sexually transmitted diseases. We have been betrayed by our MPs who withdraw to drink coffee and gossip each time the issue of the LGBTQ community in Tunisia is brought into debate. Our situation is very critical and we will soon hear of some kind of witch hunting of gays to take them for forced correction in the army or jailing them until their views about their sexual identity changes to meet what the government really wants.


written by Seif Benjacob. An LGBTQ militant

NB: I would like to send you a video containing a direct analysis of the pathetic situation of the LGBTQ community in Tunisia. I know that the government is constantly intercepting all e-mails sent from my account and erasing and closing entire blogs on which I identify myself as an active member and as a reporter. I would like to send you a video and I hope that you explain to me what questions you wish me to answer. Besides if I send you a video with my uncovered face , I will expect the secret police or the moral police (up dated and activated by the homophobic Islamist element of Al Nahda Party). We may arrange a Sype interview or a short discussion about where we are now with the gay issue. I wish to make my voice heard to the world precisely after the open threats and accusations communicated to us by Mr Dilo (The Human Rights Minister) and ironically he was brought to hold his office after the fake Jasmine Revolution. I would call this revolution the Salafist Revolution or the Parade of Angry Salafists. A new chapter of terror was opened and, worse, the true believer and the misguided youth generation are blindly flirting with the Afghani talibani culture and praising throat-cutting as the best punishment for difference and unorthodoxy as far as their culture is concerned. Thanks.
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ILGA is an education in homofascism. ILGA discriminates against people based on sexual orientation - the ultimate hypocrisy. ILGA sucks.
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Akber Rizvi (user currently living in PAKISTAN) posted for gay transgender bisexual readers to the BRAZIL country page in response to this story on 27/01/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, health, hiv/aids
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please let me know more if i can apply for asylum anywhere as soon as possible. me and my boyfriend and my colleague are not safe. pls email me on akber_rizvi@yahoo.com
we are working here in MSM-CBO (those male who have sex with male-community based organization, for HIV/AIDS and STIs prevention with GFATM.
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Akber Rizvi (user currently living in PAKISTAN) posted for gay transgender readers to the CANADA country page on 27/01/2013 tagged with human rights, sexual orientation, illegality of male to male relationships +5
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Report of illegal detention of two staff members of Parwaz Society

This report is compiled in response to the un-lawful and un-ethical detention of the 2 staff members of Parwaz Society on November 2, 2012 at Aziz Bhatti police station, Gulshan-e-Iqbal. Karachi. This turn out to be a quite serious situation. Below are the facts:

· The complained lodged by Ali Omer Tahir ails Sarah Gill and Riffi Khan is totally baseless and uncalled for. In their claim they mentioned that at illegal activities are going in Parwaz Society office, and misinformed the police. The complaint include the names of Kamran Anwar Choudhry, Drop In Center coordinator and Syed AkberRizvi, Monitoring and Evaluation Officer of Parwaz Society.

· The police investigation officers visited the Parwaz Society on November 1, 2012. During their visit the police persons informed that they were told that there is free sex room in the office and when they will entered the office, they will find a sign board of free sex room. The Local Project Manager and Field Supervisor of Parwaz Society give detail information about the services deliver and prevention about HIV / AIDS, and working in close collaboration with Sindh AIDS Control Program (SACP), Government of Sindh.

· The police personal informed us that due to the Kamran Anwar and Abker Rizvi have to visit Police Station to clarify the matter, and we agreed to bring them to police station on November 2, 2012.

· Around at 3:30 pm, Local Project Manager and Field Supervisor went to the Aziz Bhatti Police Station to clarify the baseless allegation of Sarah Gill and Riffi Khan. We started the proceeding in front of the investigation officer Additional SHO Mr.Farooq. LPM and FS while discussion with Sarah informed that what we are doing is for the betterment of community and should keep our personal grudges out of the services deliver of CBO and NGO.

· Sarah Gill started black mailing and use unethical practices of disclosing the identities of CBO staff and demanded in frot of the police personals, disclose the sexuality of CBO staff are they MSM or TGs, in response to her demands, LPM & FS told her that you are also rights activist of sexual minorities and attended so many international and national conferences / seminars / workshops and know the norms of disclosing the identity of sexual minorities. But instead of listening to our suggestions, she continues insisting of disclosure the sexual identities of the CBO staff. Sarah also bought the printout of the facebook page of GIA where different members of NMHA family posted their comments. Sarah and Riff both pointing out different staff posting and claim that they admitted being MSM, so they will file case against Pakistani law.

· Local project manager (LPM) and field supervisor (FS) tried with to diffuse their unethical demand of disclosing the sexuality, but both Sarah and Riffi used their pressure tactics to disclose the same. Just to close the arguments it was decided to bring the Kamran Anwar Choudhry and AkberRizvi to police station for clarification.

· The Other complain they were highlighting that Kami was sent as TG to attend the international conference, LPM and FS showed police the email sent by the organizer of the Youth Voice Count (YVC) which clearly states that kami was invite to represent the sexual minorities and it was not invited as TG represented.

· When Kami and Akber reached Police station, Sarah and Riffi, along with other TGs presents (Anjo, Natasha, Zeeni, Rani, Naseebo and Sapna) in the police station tried to provoked kami to get angry and do something harsh which will go in their favour but both Kami and Akber showed their professional attitude and remain calm and respond to their queries calmly.

· During the discussion, Kami told Sarah that think of community we are giving, and all those delivering services are saving through advocacy and behavioural change communication (BCC) in prevention of the HIV / AIDS, and also think about those HIV positive clients who are getting medications and allied services to them, instead of listening to kami’s comments, she replied she don’t care how many more people get positive and don’t care If HIV positive peoples will die. This showed that Sarah has its own personal agenda and don’t care for the right so TGs and also other sexual minorities.

· Due to the pressure of police personals and emotional and mental torcher, Kami and Akber were force to write apology to Sarah Gill and Riffi otherwise they will put Parwaz staff in lockup.

· Kami was also abused and beaten by the police personals in the police station.

· This is also the violation of basic human rights to forcefully get the disclosure of sexuality and apology.

Conclusion
After more than 5 hours of mental and emotional ordeal at Aziz Bhatti Police Station, all the Parwaz staff members were back to the office. The Staff members after the assessment of the traumatised incidence came to the conclusion that how some TGs are in the name of community creating stigma and discrimination and labelling the sexual minorities and promoting their own personal agenda. They are also crossing all civilised limits and using unethical practices and violating the basic human rights. They are also creating hurdles to achieve MDG 6: combat HIV/AIDS, malaria and other diseases.

Prepared by
Kamran Anwar Choudhry, DIC Coordinator, Parwaz Society
Syed Muhammad Akber Rizvi, M&E; Officer, Parwaz Society
akber_rizvi@yahoo.com
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Dominic Davies (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page on 23/01/2013 tagged with lgbt families, health, gender identity, sexual orientation
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International Summer School
In July 2013, We are going to be running for the 4th year, our International Summer School 8-13th July 2013. In previous years we've had people from Brazil, Colombia, Croatia, Denmark, Eire, Hungary, Italy, Latvia, Poland, Portugal, Scotland, Serbia, Singapore, Spain, Thailand, Turkey, USA.

The five day non-residential course will be held in central London and is aimed at counsellors and psychologists and others engaged in mental health support work across the world who wish to update themselves in contemporary thinking around work with LGBT people.

Places are strictly limited and early application is advised as we expect this course to be filled up quickly. We welcome people of all genders and sexual orientations from across the World.

Full details are on our website http://www.pinktherapy.com/Training/tabid/82/ctl/ViewCourse/mid/422/CourseId/118/language/en-GB/Default.aspx

Pink Therapy is the UK's largest independent specialist therapy training organisation and has been running for 14 years. Our website hosts the Directory of Pink Therapists an online database of LGBT friendly counsellors/psychotherapists. We welcome therapists overseas who wish to list their practices advertising with us. We also have an extensive KNOWLEDGE base of recommended books and articles. and an International Library of some of our most recent papers have been translated by a team of volunteers into most of the world's major languages and you can download them for free here:
http://www.pinktherapy.com/en-gb/knowledge/translations.aspx
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Duygu (user currently living in TURKEY) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers to the TURKEY country page on 22/01/2013
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Hello Everyone,

I am a hotel owner in Turkish Mediterranean Coast Kas, a dreamlike seaside village which Lycians rules for centuries...I realized that 100% of voters here said -They felt unconfortable at their hotel while they were in Turkey. I dont know how much this would change but my hotel www.saylamsuites.com is a Gay Friendly hotel and this might be a start to heal Turkeys picture.

Hope to welcome you one day.
Kind Regards,
Duygu Saylam
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james hunter posted for transgender readers on 21/01/2013 +5
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In November of 2012 I had the privilage to figeht and win in Washington the human right of same sex marriage. I will not give up the fight for freedom and equality worldwide.
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(user currently living in AUSTRALIA) posted for gay transgender bisexual readers to the AUSTRALIA country page on 16/01/2013 +5
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my name joe i'm a muscle man i really want to find a friend so if u want call me 0414183053 9728 1333 (only gay or transgender )
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emmanuel (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for gay transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the NIGERIA country page on 13/01/2013
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My experience in my country have been one of total fear as people are very unpredictable. Been homosexual has been a tragedy for me because it has completely eroded my freedom. Its purely a jungle situation as you are constantly at the bottom of the food chain. You can only go public if you are suicidal or looking for someone to snuff off the life in you, particularly in my imminent environment. To stay alive and avoid harsh repercussion disguising is in your interest.

Whilst the society labels us criminals by passing a bill in the house of senate, nothing is been done to enable teenagers grow with a reliable source of sexual education. The society is very hypothetical when it come to matters of sex. while sex issues are treated as though they are forbidden it does happen behind closed door frequently.

As a result youngsters develop whatever sexual orientation that is appealing and available. Gays are Nigerians not aliens. They are human not beast. They deserve to live not die. They should live without fear of molestation or raising the slightest indication of abnormalities. There are many reasons people chose there sexual orientation or find themselves where they are today.

The human dignity should be respected. Why kill people because they chose what makes them happy and gives them satisfaction. To the government why remove the protection of already exposed minority? Stipulating laws that invades people's privacy in search of their sensual orientation.

You who hunt fellow humans on account of their sexual orientation do remember that this people are humans, vulnerable within your communities and maybe be that very person who could save you when its most needed.

Ask yourselves how does ones sexual orientation affects you. Think as Christian what will Christ do to homosexuals. If you know the answer do the same.
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(user currently living in PAKISTAN) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the PAKISTAN country page in response to this story on 08/01/2013 +15
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to all LGBT friends plz contact me as i will help you out.
regards,

seema khan
karachi
seemakhan1978@hotmail.com
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Tamhewt (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page in response to this story on 27/12/2012 tagged with intersex, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion
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Good, at least if I'm in hell, I'll be warm and far away from your homophobic ramblings. Many people on other country's pages have explained personal experiences or supported one another, you however choose to tarnish the UK's page with bigotry and hate.

As for caring about me, I don't want/ask you to and I certainly do not need it. I do not believe in any God(s) either and reject your beliefs which you attempt to force upon me.

The UK is on the whole a tolerant country for LGBTI people (although not perfect, like many countries).
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Nino Kharchilava (user currently living in GEORGIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers to the GEORGIA country page on 27/12/2012 tagged with human rights
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CM/REC(2010)5 – monitoring of implementation (Georgia)


On 31 March 2010 the Committee of Ministers of the Council of Europe adopted its Recommendation to member states “on measures to combat discrimination on grounds of sexual orientation or gender identity” – CM/REC(2010)5. The Recommendation is the world’s first international legal instrument dealing specifically with discrimination on these grounds.

In broad terms the Recommendation does three things:

a) It emphasizes the key principle, that human rights are universal and apply to all individuals, including therefore LGBT persons;

b) It acknowledges the fact of the centuries-old and continuing discrimination experienced by LGBT persons on ac­count of their sexual orientation or gender identity;

c) It recognizes that specific action is required to ensure the full enjoyment of human rights by LGBT persons, and sets out the measures required of member state governments.

The Recommendation was agreed unanimously by the 47 Council of Europe member states. Although, as a Recommendation rather than a Convention, it is not legally binding, it is based solidly on the existing legally binding international and European human rights obligations of the member states, which therefore have a clear duty to implement its main elements.

The purpose of this report was to assess what progress has been made by Georgian authorities in implementing the Recommendation, and to highlight the areas were further action is needed. By documenting which measures have, and which have not been completed, it provides a base line against which to measure further progress in implementing the Recommendation in the coming years.

The report has two main target audiences. First, at national level, the political leaders and civil servants who are responsible for implementing the recommendation. And secondly, the Committee of Ministers of the Council of Europe, which agreed, on adopting the Recommendation, that it would conduct a review of progress towards its implementation in March 2013. It is intended that this report will contribute to that review.

English version of the report can be found at the following link:http://women.ge/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/CM_REC20105GEORGIA_ENG_www.pdf
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(user currently living in ARGENTINA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the ARGENTINA country page on 25/12/2012 tagged with human rights +4
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COMO MEJORAR NUESTRAS VIDAS (1) Muchos de nosotros somos activos pensadores y o protagonistas de la solidaridad social.
Esto implica que parte de nuestros esfuerzos estan orientados al mejoramiento de la vida en comunidad.
Paralelamente, a veces somos nosotros mismos los que necesitamos algun tipo de soporte o apoyo.
Cuando se trabaja, y a la vez se trabaja tambien por otros, se reciben grandes satisfacciones y grandes desgastes.
A veces, para poder continuar mas alla de tal desgaste, podemos recurrir a algunos elementos que poseemos en nuestro interior.
Uno de estos elementos es recordar que existen eventos y situaciones, que en realidad no controlamos.
Otro elemento es evaluar la posibilidad de discernir con cuales cuestiones de vida continuar y con cuales no hacerlo.
Esto esta relacionado con darnos permiso para hacer sintesis, en funcion de una vida mas feliz.
Tambien debemos observar la importancia que tiene todo aquello que nos aporta felicidad en la vida cotidiana, para no posponerlo ni dejarlo de lado, ya que el ser humano necesita felicidad para poder vivir.
Un poco de felicidad en el dia a dia, mejora notablemente la calidad de nuestras vidas.
A su vez, esto se halla poderosamente entreligado al poder regenerador y revitalizante de la distraccion.
La verdadera distraccion positiva, esta asociada a la calidad de tal distraccion.
A la larga, distracciones mediocres, generan un efecto opuesto.
Elegir distracciones que nos resulten positivas, conlleva una decision del dia a dia, investigando sus posibilidades creativas y participativas.
Ello nos lleva a preguntarnos y repreguntarnos: 多que parte de mi he dejado de lado..? 多Que parte de mi, me gustaria desarrollar..?
De esta manera, determinadas preguntas, iran respondiendose por si mismas.
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Gustavo Homsi (user currently living in BRAZIL) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the BRAZIL country page on 22/12/2012 tagged with gender identity
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Well, this is novel
A small contribution.
A look neat and without prejudice.
A love story, I hpe You like.
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/267216#longdescr
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(user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the NETHERLANDS country page on 21/12/2012 tagged with teaching lgbt rights in schools, human rights
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Help us to map the right to education for LGBT

After publishing the Guide to Advocate for Sexual Diversity Education, GALE starts to map the right to education worldwide. On the GALE website, the GALE Checklist is now available. This short survey helps GALE to make an overview of how the right to education is respected and implemented for LGBT people in your country. The results will be used to create a map of denying, ambiguous and supportive states.

The survey consist of 21 questions. Our questions focus on the role of the State to secure these rights, but you can also add information about what happens in practice. If you do not add additional information, the survey will take just 5 minutes to finish.

At the end of the survey you will be asked if you would like to become a GALE reporter. We would like to find interested supporters in each country to keep on monitoring the right to education, and to stimulate both LGBT and mainstream organization to do the right thing. This could be to develop training and materials, but even better would be to first assess what the country needs and which types of strategy and interventions will be most feasible and effective. The GALE Foundation will support reporters to act on this, for example by helping to organize strategic workshops or some research.
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John (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the INDIA country page on 18/12/2012 +5
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â&euro;&oelig;Vikruti evam prakruthiâ&euro;?(what seems unnatural is also natural), the beautiful verse from Rig Veda, in queer sense describes srishti in a single line. Srishti is the first LGBTQ group designed to target specifically to the problems of queer people in non-metro cities of Tamilnadu like Coimbatore and Madurai. Srishti aims to eliminate the homogenization of the queer community arising from the dualism -straight/queer and works to educate people about the various diversities within the queer community itself, so that people gain more understanding of the queer community which would reduce the severity of social discrimination. the pattern of social discrimination in any form is of the hotspot of Srishti to work to reduce its severity so that it would vanish further and helps to counsel the peer queer friends, so that they can change themselves from the position of victim of the social discrimination to the position of fighting against those discrimination. Srishti is against the commercialization aspects of queer people in any aspects and helps in constructing the need of the self-respect for the queer people. Srishti is always multidisciplinary and via the Srishti science group Srishti aims to build the human resources of alternate sexualities and their representation through activities like expeditions, trekking etc. also such an initiative is of first of its kind in any LGBTQ group in India. Science club further aims to approach the alternate sexualities from a scientific perspective and impart people with the scientific knowledge of queer community so that the widespread idea of homosexuality is unnatural and a disease vanishes from the mentality of people. The peculiar aspect of srishti is that, it has separate group for genderqueer people as srishti genderqueer. The diversity of genderqueer like agender ,pangender ,bigender,trigender,androgynous etc is even unaware within the mainstream queer community itself, while srishti has a separate group for genderqueer to have a better representation of the problems of genderqueer.


Srishti is a student Group & not an NGO or CBO & do not accept corporate sponsors, all events of Srishti is organized by volunteer ship & individual donations, all accounts of Srishti is open to our volunteers.

http://srishtimadurai.blogspot.com/
http://www.envijay.blogspot.in/

Email: srishti.genderqueer@gmail.com
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SOS NEED URGENT HELP!!!
Everyone has the right to happiness and to be free to live their own lives. But for every moment of happiness there is a price to be paid. We are Anna and Anya, a gay couple, one of us was born in the UK + the other from Russia. In July of this year, we fell deeply in love, when we met in Athens, Greece. We decided from that moment we will always be together, but we were not prepared for what lies ahead. Since one of our nationalities is British, we decided we would apply for a UK visa and go back together to England to start a family. But the UK visa was denied. It was a terrible blow and shock to us. In ordet to make a new application for a UK visa, we have to wait after 6 months from date of refusal. In Greece, we could not stay because Anyas visa in Greece was due to expire. Since Anna ( who'd from UK) has dual citizenship by birth and family is Greek Cypriot from Cyprus, we decided to go there. In Cyprus, we are faced with new challenges related to the fact that only one of us is European. Cyprus is in a very homophobic Country where Gays face persecution beatings and being killed. Also the Global crisis has hit badly here and the Cypriots are losing their jobs every day, shops offices and factories closing every minute. We tried many different ways past few months, but in vain asthere is no work here for locals let alone foreigners. According to the law of Cyprus, to have a job you need to have a work permit. A work permit can only be obtained from the employer, another vicious circle. However, if we were a heterosexual couple, or had gay rights marraige and equality here then this problem, would not have arisen for us. We could get married, and Anna and I would have the opportunity to live and work in Cyprus. To date, we morally, psychologically and financially exhausted. Because of the inequality of rights, to be together, we are forced to move from country to country, as if we are outcasts. We now have only 6 days left in Cyprus. After 6 days, the visa expires (for Russians visa-free entry is for 3 months). We are now desperate and an urgently need to leave this country. We cannot go to England, because Anya didn't get a UK visa. We cannot go to Russia, because there is the terrible laws for gays and human rights there, which are viruslly non-existent. We recently learned that Argentina is the only country where marriages between foreigners and Gays are allowed. This is our only chance now! So we decided to go to Brazil as it's next door and we have friend there and then to marry in Argentina, to increase our chances for a UK visa in March as they cannot refuse us if we are married as they do have some equal rights there. If we don't leave Cyprus on 20th December, Anya will be blacklisted and this will affect all future European visa applications especially the one we need to eventually live in the UK! But sadly we now have no funds to leave this country, as we have 2 Euros left. Friends and family have helped as much as they could, but we are not out to everyone we know being Russian and Greek Orthodox being Gay is the worst sin against our religion! We have tried everything we can to raise funds to leave here and have now realized it is time to tell the world and the public about our situation. As we desperately need help! We have both helped so many people in our past and are owed monies we cannot collect, we wanted to borrow it but have been let down, so now we are on our knees and need all the help we can get! We really need money to buy tickets to Brazil and the means of life for the first time. This is not such a big amount, but it affects our future. As Christmas is the season of good we are praying for an act or acts of kindness and a miracle so we can spend this Christmas and the rest of our lives together! We hope that in this big wide world there is someone for whom the two people, (women) who love each other and want to be together mean something. It's time to find out if anyone really cares and if anyone is prepared to help us!!! Please... Please... please... Support us!
We are grateful for any help and support!!!
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Tel:00357 96491327
Email: annamkyr@gmail.com
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/sosgayrights
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SOSGayRights
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Piet (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for gay lesbian transgender readers to the BELGIUM country page on 10/12/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, sexual orientation
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I'm born and raised in Belgium and being a gay teenager hasn't been a problem for me yet. I think Belgium and most of Western-Europe is like a gay heaven.
I have to say though the phenomenon gay-bashing, that has been coming up the last few years, also in Brussels, Belgium, scares me. I don't want to be racist, but it's a fact that most of the gay-bashing in Brussels was done by imigrants, so I'd suggest not to defy them.

Transgenders are completely legal here, but it's not that accepted among Belgians. I actually think it's more of a taboo.
But the transgenders here don't really care.

This is how I, as a young Belgian, experience it!

Piet
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Luis (user currently living in CUBA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the CUBA country page on 28/11/2012
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Una compilación de boletines sobre el tema estará disponible para consulta en la sala general de la institución cultural.

La Habana, 30 oct.- La Biblioteca Nacional José Martí dispone desde este mes de una compilación del boletín NotiG. La Noticia LGBT al día, elaborado por el independiente Proyecto Arcoiris, que apuesta por la diversidad sexual y los derechos de las personas homosexuales.

http://www.ipscuba.net/index.php?option=com_k2&view;=item&id;=5667:proyecto-por-la-diversidad-sexual-en-biblioteca-nacional&Itemid;=5&tmpl;=component&print;=1
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holly (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page in response to this story on 23/11/2012 tagged with lgbt families, hate crime and violence prevention, gender identity
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they can say all they want about us tg to be honest they can point and stare at us all we have to do is ignore them and hold our heads high and walk tall . same for l,g,bs ignore the comments no matter what people say hold your haeds high and walk tall . eventually it will stop because they will get bored .

all my best holly tgirl
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holly (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for lesbian transgender readers to the UNITED KINGDOM country page in response to this story on 18/11/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, gender identity, sexual orientation
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you have done a good and brave thing coming out and showing in public especcially with the way people are about us transgenders. all i can say to them is we are human to and we are not going anywhere so they had best get used to it .
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