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To my Nigerian Brothers snd Sisters:

This is a forum to tell our stories to the world. Instead of poignant posts, you add the typical, and well known, "Nigerian Scams" to this special forum.

Shame on you! Shame on all who posted messages on this forum in an attempt to elicit money through illegitimate means.

SHAME ON YOU!!!

And know that we now have the technological means of tracing you back to the computer terminal you used when posting. Yes, we have found Government officials in Nigeria, those willing to cooperate with our group.

Who are we? We are an International Group dedicated to stopping Internet Traffic that violates the Sun/Trent/Obama/Putin Internet Accords of 2012. This was a joint accord signed by Leaders of China, Europe, the Americas, and Russia. Its goal is to stop Internet Scams, Email Flooding, and intentional disruption of websites.

In situations such as Scamming, we are working with local Internet Providers, setting up cameras in their cafes so the Scammers can be identified, and then when known, they are followed so other members of their gang can be identified.

The team has been successful - it recently identified, and then apprehended, an eight member gang working in Idogwari, a town just outside the Nigerian capital of Abuja.
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(user currently living in YEMEN) posted for straight readers to the YEMEN country page on 04/04/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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I have been moved by all of the stories here. I understand living in Yemen as a homosexual isn't so great and I hope all of the ones who have been abused whether verbally or physically to find a find a way out of this ignorant racist sexist and most of all homophobic country.I might not be homosexual and I'am not going to fake knowing the pain gays and lesbians go through in such countries, I can try to give an advice though. Although this doesn't seem so encouraging and most of you want to live freely but sometimes you just have to disguise your feelings and be extra cautious for your own safety. Living in a country like Yemen isn't so easy, some of us tend to hide our thoughts, feelings, religious views and open mindedness just so we don't get attacked or judged, and I ask you to do the same. If you think being openly gay here is gonna get you anywhere you are wrong,its either gonna get you killed, abused or sent to some other country as a refugee (and the chances of that is VERY low).Some people lost a lot of opportunities and jobs because of their sexuality. Why put up all of that? Why put up with all of the hatred and discrimination when you can keep it to yourself until you find a true solution that wont get you harmed? My advice is to keep it to yourself and the ones you love and trust if you care for you own safety and try your best to leave to a country where you'll be supported and accepted for who you are.
last but not least stay strong. <3
Love, G.A
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Eric Barnes (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 03/04/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, gender identity, human rights
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Facebook deleted my group SUPPORT IRAQI GAYS - STOP THE KILLING, a vital outlet for Iraqi gay expression in a country that routinely kills gays. Please read my letter to facebook, as yet unanswered. Will you contact Facebook for me and tell them you are disturbed by this report? Please? Thank you!

April 3, 2014

Dear Facebook administrator,

I was shocked to wake up this morning and learn that my longstanding social group, SUPPORT IRAQI GAYS - STOP THE KILLING was removed for unspecified "content violations." For nearly six years this group has been a vital forum for more than 2,000 iraqi gays who needed a place to communicate online openly as they try to avoid being openly murdered for whom they love.

From my end as founder and administrator, we have become increasingly adept at monitoring the site for porography, hate speech, commercial postings and the like. We now monitor the site 24/7 from both Baghdad and San Francisco looking for content violations. Postings are removed with lightning efficiency if they violate the content standards, and members are banned permenantly for repeat offenses. By any possible standard we have given due diligence to monitoring this site in both Arabic and English - continuously.

In addition, I recall on more than one occasion when Facebook would not allow me to remove a posting, saying "You are not authorized to edit this site" when I am in fact the founder! But other than that we are a page that does not tolerate nudity below the waist, or hate speech of any kind. I have an Iraqi administrator who is on the job when I'm not.

With any group of more than 2,000 young gays you are going to have the occasional violation, but we deal with them increasingly swiftly to ensure that the site is open and friendly to everyone. How could we possibly do more? About a year ago the site was suspended for allegedly violating standards, but I searched the site for evidnce that images had been removed, or that any standards were violated, and could find none. Nothing - and no explanation from Facebook on what the offending content was - or who had posted it!!!

But let's look at the real problem here: Thousands of Iraqi gays face the death penalty in their country for daring to be gay. This page has been one of the few forums available to them to express themselves and meet each other -- and by any POSSIBLE measure my administration of the page has been caring and competent and continuous.

I ask that you restore our page and its members to their former status. I promise we will continue monitoring the site as carefully as we do today. When you show images of two men kissing, there will always be someone who complains, but if they are merely bad actors and there is no pornography or hate speech -- then Facebook needs a way to recognize that that their complaints are not valid and ignore them. We do everything we can here to ensure a good experience for our members. But you didn't even leave a grievance procedure in place for us to challenge this dreadful decision. Without our page, one thing is sure. Iraqi gays will die, Iraqi gays will be hurt, and Iraqi gays will have no forum to share their feelings.

I beg you to reestablish this site in consideration of the enormous social benefit it brings. Paying attention to these things is part of your responsibility as a company. We as administrators can only provide diligence, we cannot prevent members from posting things, we can only remove members who do. And we do so with lightning speed.

I look forward to your reconsideration of this issue.

Very truly yours.


Eric E Barnes
San Francisco

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Goodbye Iraqi Gays - you are loved

Today brings a sad farewell to my beloved Facebook group "SUPPORT IRAQI GAYS - STOP THE KILLING." To our 2,473 loyal members who for six years asked for nothing more than a chance to be themselves, seize the opportunity to speak out against homophobia and meet and cruise each other in a relentlessly antigay society, I am sorry.

But it wasn't the CIA, it wasn't the Iraqi government, and it wasn't antigay militants who killed the group -- it was Facebook. I got an e-mail at midnight saying the group had been removed for unspecified "content violations" and that was that. There is no response address, no grievance procedure, no image or content specified as violating their community standards.

I consider Facebook's actions to be brutally violent considering the great lengths we went to to keep members' contributions civil and decent. We monitored the site continuously from both San Francisco and Baghdad, in both English and Arabic, constantly on the lookout for porn, hate speech or commercial interests. Violators had their inappropriate postings removed with ever-increasing speed and efficiency, and wayward members were banned permanently for repeat violations.

But the vast majority of members were kind souls who were grateful to have a forum where they could express themselves openly. In recent months more and more members were daring to show their real faces, expressing what can only be their own brand of Queer Pride.

Iraqi gays, I congratulate you on your indomitable spirit and will never forget your bravery, which has touched me deeply. I treasure the few of you who have become real friends too, and hope to keep you around forever.

But Facebook doesn't care about human rights, about the brutality of the antigay violence that continues to this day in Iraq, or about the plight of the oppressed. Facebook doesn't give a whit about its scorched-earth policies -- or that its claimed violations are invisible to the human eye. Facebook DOES want me to know that not only the group, but my personal profile will be removed if "I" continue to violate its nebulous and undefined standards. So go to hell Facebook. The blood of my beloved Iraqi gays is on your hands now.
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(user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 01/04/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership
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I am conducting an international study of unacknowledged and underreported experiences of domestic violence amongst LGBT populations. Please let me know if you were in a violent relationship if the police ever became involved in your situation, how did they handle the situation? What recommendations would you make to police, attorneys and legal advocates, judges to better help someone in your situation? If you would like to become part of this study, please respond here. Thank you. DLB
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The following theory proves everybody is gay weather you know it or not ."Some species, such as some snails, practice sex change: adults start out male, then become female (See also sex reversal). In tropical clown fish, the dominant individual in a group becomes female while the other ones are male, and bluehead wrasses (Thalassoma bifasciatum) are the reverse. In the marine worm (Bonellia viridis), larvae become males if they make physical contact with a female, and females if they end up on the bare sea floor. This is triggered by the presence of a chemical produced by the females, bonellin. Some species, however, have no sex-determination system. Hermaphrodites include the common earthworm and certain species of snails. A few species of fish, reptiles, and insects reproduce by parthenogenesis and are female altogether. There are some reptiles, such as the boa constrictor and komodo dragon that can reproduce sexually and asexually, depending if a mate is available"(ref â&euro;&ldquo;man is the extension of woman)The main hypothesis discussed in this book is that, if a woman lives long enough she will be converted into a man physically. A similar thing can also be stated about man. It is wrong to categorize humankind into two genders as it implicates that they are extremely dissimilar and physically opposite to each other. Man and woman are just two different stages of one developmental process. And physically they are very similar. The ideas presented may sound unconventional but Dr. Fulzele implores readers to consider his point of view with an open mind. â&euro;&oelig;Your world will not change if you do not agree with me. But if you agree with me, how does it change your world? If more people agree with you and me, how does it change our world? The possibilities are limitless.â&euro;?
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The following theory proves everybody is gay weather you know it or not ."Some species, such as some snails, practice sex change: adults start out male, then become female (See also sex reversal). In tropical clown fish, the dominant individual in a group becomes female while the other ones are male, and bluehead wrasses (Thalassoma bifasciatum) are the reverse. In the marine worm (Bonellia viridis), larvae become males if they make physical contact with a female, and females if they end up on the bare sea floor. This is triggered by the presence of a chemical produced by the females, bonellin. Some species, however, have no sex-determination system. Hermaphrodites include the common earthworm and certain species of snails. A few species of fish, reptiles, and insects reproduce by parthenogenesis and are female altogether. There are some reptiles, such as the boa constrictor and komodo dragon that can reproduce sexually and asexually, depending if a mate is available"(ref â&euro;&ldquo;man is the extension of woman)The main hypothesis discussed in this book is that, if a woman lives long enough she will be converted into a man physically. A similar thing can also be stated about man. It is wrong to categorize humankind into two genders as it implicates that they are extremely dissimilar and physically opposite to each other. Man and woman are just two different stages of one developmental process. And physically they are very similar. The ideas presented may sound unconventional but Dr. Fulzele implores readers to consider his point of view with an open mind. â&euro;&oelig;Your world will not change if you do not agree with me. But if you agree with me, how does it change your world? If more people agree with you and me, how does it change our world? The possibilities are limitless.â&euro;?
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Hi, we are Paco and Pasquale. We are researchers from Goldsmiths University of London. We are currently preparing a project about Palestinian LGBT stories in Palestine, Israel and all over the world.

If you have sought refuge or you have a story to suggest, please write us at co301pa@gold.ac.uk

Thank you
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Udeh Ifeanyi (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay readers to the DENMARK country page on 12/03/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, hiv/aids , human rights, sexual orientation
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Hello
I'm Anthony 21yrs, I'm Gay from Nigeria.I lost both parent and I'm an orphan.
The recent Anti-Gay law in Nigeria has made everythin diffucult for me,it dangerous and my life is being threathen .even my sister I'm staying with want me to live her house all bcos I'm gay. I'm lost......my life is becoming miseable each day I woke up. I'm afraid of the next minute......I'm scare and I don't want to go to jail or being killed for who I'm ..........so many thingz have been happening here and I'm too young, I'm HIV positive and I can't recive proper treatment cos I'm gay.
Pls I need your help to flee to a country like US where my sexuallity is allowed,where I'm free and xpress my thought as a human being not an Animal.
I will very help to leave u and be happy for once. I knw I'm not the one who created myself...I was born this way.
Thanks
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Paul (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers to the SOUTH AFRICA country page on 11/03/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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While All Out have managed to get Orange to pull there ad revenue from the Red Pepper paper, the South Africa pan African satellite DSTV company are still running ads on the website.

If we can get all multinationals to pull their advertising perhaps the paper will tank.

I'm not exactly sure how to set up online petitions, etc but perhaps you guys would be able to sort it out.
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hey guys... I just wanna meet some other girl who is just the same like me.... lesbian.... I need friends:) u can follow my twitter first and mention me for follow back to (@Yeah_Me1), then I'll give you my contact:) by the way I'm sixteen y.o and goin on my sweet seventeen this october:) am about 5'5 tall and about 143 lbs^^
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george (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for straight readers on 03/03/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, gender identity
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If been molested trough my own da since the age of 4 now I'm invoved with a 66 y old guy that's doing the same after all thus years and being married with 3 kids and almost 4 grandkids the emotional battering never stop I wanna end my life sometimes and believe in a upper GOD and level !!! No energy left pls Yelp !!! 082 298 2345 or 00082 308 3277 PLZZZZZ help me
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we are facing alot of challeges here in Uganda now that the anti homosextuality was passed the people in the communities we leave are using it to harrass us more recently the day Museveni enacted the bill into law one of our own was killed through mob justice in a kampala surburb we appeal to the international community of the LGBT to give a helping and support the gay community in Uganda
many people would think leaving the country is a good option but i beleive in freedom in my our land
reach me by telephone +256754892440 or by email ssentongoherbert@gmail.com
together we will win
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(user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay readers to the INDIA country page on 13/02/2014 tagged with tourism, hate crime and violence prevention
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i was travelling in bus from Dehradun to Delhi. a guy seated next to me wss looking at me, i thought he is gay, i kept hand on his thighs for almost 5 hours and he did not say anything, when Delhi was just to arrive, he started thrashing me in the bus and broke my specs, when i got down from teh bus he took me to the police station and complained that i was trying to touch his provate parts. The hawaldar told me to sit in a cock posostion for 30 minutes and then left me after taking my contact dteailos in his register and charging me rs 500 fine without giving any receipt
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Hi - I wanted to leave you with a mostly positive story, which is nevertheless laced with frustration. I socialised within the gay community from 1886 to 1995, in the UK. The reason was so that I could cope at the time with my 'gender dysphoria' (as it was called) - this led to my full gender change. Later, I effectively moved, though not deliberately, more into the 'straight world' but as a post-op transsexual (M to F). I have managed to work professionally since 1996 in a well-respected role, without anyone knowing. I have not 'come out' - even though I have been in two 'lesbian' relationships during that time. I wanted to state this now because it proves that transgendered people can work well in society. However, the frustration has been that coming out would have ended my career - of that I have no doubt. The number of people who openly castigate gay people and transgendered in particular, to my face, without the slightest idea about me is remarkable. If there is a joke in any of this it is on them - but of course, it's not funny. In my role, I do the best I can to educate people - but it has to be subtle, with small moves... My gay and transgender experiences have been wonderful and I would never go back on them - but it has been a long and hard road. I found I needed to be very resilient. Thanks for reading this.
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Love on the run (user currently living in UGANDA) posted for lesbian readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 21/01/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +5
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Today many Ugandans can not have a voice because they have chosen to be gay or lesbian. They face too much hate from the public and some have been lynched to death.

Recently the head of the Muslim community vowed to his congregation to kill them. He called upon his congregation not to spare them. This has inspired me to make a short film of what inhumane brutality the LGBT Community faces today in Uganda.

Through crowd funding we call for your support financially and morally to help us make this film.

Visit this link if you are interested in supporting, http://igg.me/at/loveontherun618/x/5940209

We are grateful for your kind support in giving us a voice.

Nelson...
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Ron (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 16/01/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, sexual orientation
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Maybe people are starting to think LGBTXYZ people are all a bunch of hypocrites and fascists who deserve to die. Why else would ILGA discriminates against people based on sexual orientation by kicking out organizations like NAMBLA because you disagree with their goal of everyone being liberated, and that's why ILGA distributes propaganda conflating love with sexual abuse. ILGA is sick.
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HELLO??? People are being imprisoned in the USA and elsewhere for merely downloading pictures or talking about having consensual sex, but ILGA doesn't care about that. In fact, ILGA continues to distribute HATE propaganda right here on its website, because ILGA is bullshit. Discuss that at the conference, bigots.
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HELLO??? People are being imprisoned in the USA and elsewhere for merely downloading pictures or talking about having consensual sex, but ILGA doesn't care about that. In fact, ILGA continues to distribute HATE propaganda right here on its website, because ILGA is bullshit.
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Adeola (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay readers to the NIGERIA country page on 15/01/2014 tagged with at the work place, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, marriage / civil unions +10
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I think Nigeria as a country needs some education, Needs to understand .Freedom to expression
.Freedom to life
.Freedom to choose
and above all Nigeria needs to understand that there is more than Muslim and Christian as a religion, so if I decide to worship Hindu as a religion there will be a bill passed that will jail me for practicing what I wish...Wake up Nigeria
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I'm.Morocco lesbian women I live Saudi Arabia..I need help
If anyone gay would help by married me and I'll pay for him just so I can be free and travel away to usa I'm seeking for asylum please contact me if you can help in any way reemtures@gmail.com
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Proof that the Bible does NOT condemn homosexuality! Most of the anti-homosexual ignorance and resultant hatred comes from misinterpreting the Bible. This bigotry has been around for many centuries, but just because it has survived this long does not make it correct. Time for people to learn the truth and change accordingly. The Bible does not support anti-gay actions, and there is now a scholarly book on the subject titled "Homosexuality, The Bible, The Truth - The Bible Does NOT Condemn Homosexuality." This book represents forty years of intense scholarly research into the correct meanings of every biblical passage ever used to condemn gays, and it shows with irrefutable and verifiable fact that the Bible is not on the side of the haters. "Homosexuality, The Bible, The Truth - The Bible Does NOT Condemn Homosexuality" is available through all major booksellers. Bigots who want to continue in their hatred will face the judgment of God one day, but while we are all living here, we need to promote the freeing power of truth. God made all sexual orientations, not just one, and God made no mistakes. He made no "valueless" persons, He made no one who is worthless or a "zero," and anyone who takes it upon himself to condemn God's children based on the ignorance of their self-taught prejudices cannot say they do this in His name. God is not the author of hate, He is not the author of ignorance, and He made all of us. Let there be peace, and let it begin with education in the subject of truth.
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(user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for gay readers to the NIGERIA country page on 04/01/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, hiv/aids , human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, illegality of male to male relationships +10
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Nigeria is a country with over 170 million people and shares boarders with the Republic of Benin,Cameroon and Niger. Nigeria is largely shared between 2 major religions which are the muslims that largely dominate the northern part and the christians in the western part though there were other religions but these are the 2 major conservative. I grew up in a country where homosexuality is totally frowned upon by the society, the government and the religion. Growing up as a child actually was fun not until when I openly came out with my sexuality to my family and that made the beginning of my journey into neglection, punishment and denial of some basic rights just because of my sexuality. This led to me being taken to a deliverance house with the hope of me being a better person but after four years this changed nothing about me till date. Few years later I ran into the hands of the corrupt Nigerian government cohorts [police} where I suffered several attacks and threats of been killed or jail term. My gay life has not been an interesting one from the age of thirteen till now that I am 24 coupled with the fact that I am gay man living with HIV.
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Hi everyone.

My name is Christian Martinez from Canada and I live in the Dominican Republic. I am known as Canada Inc, a movie and video producer. I have been helping youths here for the last 8 years record their music for free and promoting them through web tools we have developped over the years. 3 years ago, a young transvestite (I am not gay and not a professional in the terms so excuse my ignorance but he is a young boy who likes to dress as a girl. Looks very good. Anyway point is this boy comes and starts recording a style we had never heard of. Litterally GAY Reggaeton. We are in a country where police still beat gays just for being gay in the streets where Haitians are being denationalized and where the possibility for a human being to be treated properly when he or she is admitedly gay is almost 0. Somehow, in the middle of this homofobic and racist environment, his/her songs actually became popular. His face is starting to be recognized (20 million views in youtube last 2 years) and he has been a tremendous embassador for the gay movement. I am asking you all to please visit youtube and view his/her videos. Their great and colorfull but most of all their historical. We are in a country where the president took hours deciding if he would go to the inoguration of the new american embassador because he is gay. Please help us make this kid a international star so Dominicans can start seeing their gay comunity as people and worth being proud of. I have grow up with a gay mother in Canada and I have seen what hatred can do. In the 70s it was truely not easy. I remember how it changed and acceptance came through famous people everyone loved. Or so I remember.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LeiO_d74ubA
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I have lived in South Korea for 3 years, I have loved every moment of my time.. so far!

I think this is a very Gay friendly country behind the scenes .

Legally the system is dated and the role of the Church dominates.

Change is needed and it is needed quickly because the world we live in HAS CHANGED and the Koreans need to get with the times..

Please sign my petition http://chn.ge/15MLc7k

As a Gay guy, I am concerned about the shame that society places on homosexuality. In Korea you have the proud Gay and the closet... who often gets married to a woman, under a joke of a situtation bogged down with contracts or a guy who will leave the country or take their own life.. the latter is my biggest concern... as it the situtation of parents throwing their kids out..

Please help SEOUL to wake up!

I find it ironic that Adjushis (old men) are allowed to rape freely in Saunas without problem or to feel men or women up and down in public without issue. I was on a Metro when an Old man touched my backside and then penis, I shouted at him, not one person did anything and the Korean Police simply took notes and said it happened an awful lot but because it is a Gay issue, it doesn't matter.

This country is awesome but THERE are problems.

Gays in the Army are asked hundreds of question to prove Gayness.

AKA WAKE UP and issue EQUAL RIGHTS
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Under the Representations of Gender Believe System

Wisnu Adihartono Reksodirdjo is a PhD Candidate in sociology in Ecole des Hautes Etudes en Sciences Sociales (EHESS) – Marseille, France.

I have much of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) friends in Indonesia, particularly in Jakarta, the capital city of Indonesia, the city where I live. One day, one of my best friends in Senior High School came to Jakarta from Toronto (Canada). He asked me to have a coffee. I wondered since long time ago that he is gay, but since he did not tell me about his sexual orientation, I do not want to ask him first because I think that is not my business. When we were in school, I did not catch that he is gay because he acts like a macho man. He is handsome, gorgeous, chique and à la mode. He was such an idol. Since I heard from his classmate that he had a girlfriend, I assume that he is not gay.

The day that we met, we talked and shared about our lives, including our love lives. And finally he confessed that he is gay. He asked me why I did not shock. I told him that I already guessed his sexual orientation since we were in high school. He told me that he stays now in Toronto with his Canadian business men. They met in Bandung when my friend took his study in one of the best universities in Bandung. I asked him accidentally why he chosen Canada as his country of destination instead of Indonesia. He laughed and he said that is a moron question. I know that this type of question makes him laughed. He explained that it is very impossible to be gay in Indonesia. He added that when he comes out, State, society, and religion will totally reject his sexual orientation. Those three “things” automatically blocked the existence of LGBT peoples. They cannot express themselves and they do not have any access to fight their freedom. They will be stigmatized by society as a sick person. That is why he decided to move to other country to seek a freedom.

How the State and society create the system of differentiation between heterosexual peoples and homosexual peoples when in fact, in my opinion, we have avoided this. In a society, the creation of that system is made by the concept of social imagination, social representation, and gender belief system.

In a simple phrase, social representation by French social psychologist, Serge Moscovici is basically conceptualized as a concept to merge ideas and values in one package within society in sharing the experiences with the tool of social imagination.
Social imagination has a strong relation with how we set our mind. When we imagine something or someone, we use, indeed, our mind to produce and reproduce the beliefs, the “good”, the “bad”, and the “sinner”? In general, social imagination made us imagine what is “good” and what is “bad”. He can intervene in our everyday lives with their power of perception to make any opposition, for example to legitimate/to illegitimate, to justify/to accuse, to convince/to discriminate, to include/to exclude, etc.

Marked by a perception, social representations grow out of the discussions people pursue in making sense of their social lives.

This is what happened in Indonesia to address the issue of homosexuality. Social representations build a border between heterosexuals and homosexuals with a rigid system called gender belief system.

Basically, the gender system consists of an institutionalized set of social practices, used to distinguish between men and women, but also in the end, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT). This system used to organize the social relations on the basis of apparent difference and inequality. In other words, the gender system made a stereotype between human being. Derived from the idea of difference, it is clear that the gender system used the hegemony system as the ruling ideology.

The emergence of gender system through interaction between peoples creates a belief in defining gender. So, we can make an interpretation that in gender belief system, peoples must accept stereotypes as descriptive of most others and use those stereotypes to form performance expectations.

The homosexuality in Southeast Asia, in particular, develops within the framework of the concept described above, because for most of Southeast Asian peoples, sex categorization is automatic, fast, and unconscious where they cannot relate to another without first sex categorizing. As a PhD student in sociology from one of the countries in Southeast Asia, a change within our current gender system is difficult and very slow, but I believe it is not impossible.
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In the U.S context, prominent domestic organizations sought to establish LGBT normalcy and inclusion as a means of assimilating into the heterosexual mainstream in order to change the minds and hearts of heterosexuals, pressuring local LBGT communities and individuals to give up their own sense of self and experience. I think its important to remember that stressing that " LGBTI people" are as normal as heterosexuals and deserve acceptance precisely because we are like every one else (aka straight people) was a political strategy. We need to remember what is normal and natural in society is constructed, our understandings of these categories are made up by mainstream society and politics. We should take pride in our difference and our queerness, we should not feel that we must make ourselves normal for others in order to feel good or enough or deserving of rights. there is no normal
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ali (user currently living in YEMEN) posted for gay readers to the YEMEN country page on 18/12/2013 tagged with intersex, at the work place, hate crime and violence prevention, health, human rights, sexual orientation, illegality of male to male relationships
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I am a gay I am 25 years
from yemen

i cant walk or talk with any one ,
In my community and my family want me sanish
I can not get any chance to work .. I can not walk in the street
my community treats me racist
My family want to get rid of me
Dealing with the community and my family is very difficult
I was working Internet Marketing But my brother made them package me He does not want me get the money
Two years ago, I went to another city , I worked in a hotel receptionist , the work was good .
Two months later, a man from my city ,He told them about me.
I can not continue because of harassment from employees and management.
I Quit
if i want go to the market , everyone look up and down at me ,, i can not stay 5 minutes in the market or Any public place.
,Always thinking Run away to anywhere no one knows me
They want me to commit suicide .. But I do not want .. Also I can not live
in the home They do not let me sleep and They tortured me psychological torture
In fact, I do not feel I am a human ,They look to me as a metamorphosis or a freak
my family treat me As a person stinking and some time as a slave
I'm scared to death , from my family , every day i thinking what they will do in the next day.
they torment me
I suffer from psychological problems.
i want runaway
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Hi,

I'm really sorry to ear that things from a human.
Not because you're gay, but because your family is really egoist and stupid, ignorant in front of the fact that you love someone of your same-sex. I know (if I don't know wrong) in YEMEN it's illegal and it's punish with the death to have an "act against nature".

Really, I don't know what you're feeling in this moment, but don't realize the dream of your family. Don't kill yourself. You're beatiful and law, family or parents can't make you worst. You are a person, a beatiful persone like anyone else. Move to another country and fight for yours, because in YEMEN I think it's impossibile to... fight, or something else. I don't know, but don' kill yourself, continue to hope, and think positive. You can make the difference. You can move foward in all of these negative thing. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THEM. Don't do they're crazy suggesting crap.

Bye, It gets Better,
Giorgio
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Giorgio (user currently living in ITALY) posted for gay readers to the ITALY country page on 16/12/2013 tagged with tourism, hate crime and violence prevention, health, human rights, laws and leadership , illegality of female to female relationships, illegality of male to male relationships +5
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Hi everyone!

Today I'm not here for review the situation of LGBTQI law in Italy, or prejudice, or discrimination. I'm here only for give you some information about the crap of the actual law process.

At the Governament, we approved a racist and homophic law, when we discuss about an anti-homopobhic law! That's crazy! Only for tutelate an ipotetic "opinion", for our 21 code of the Costitution.
Anyway, nobody want this law, because it's eterophobic too, so that will never pass to the next step of the organization of the law in Italy. I'm sure of that.

I'm 15 and I fight every day for our rights. Human rights. I think that's important a law, but it's important to change the human minds. The human rights it's not an opinion and it isn't an expression or something. It's a crime. A human crime. A crime about the entire world. Because I'm impressed to see about the country with the "mortal law". WHAT?! You kill someone because it's different to you and because he love someone? You are juest crazy!

So, I hope India won't come back to up 148 years. And I hope Russia will improve the intelligence of it's Premier (Putin) and will be a better place for every human in this planet.

I hope. I hope everything. I wish one day, in the world, there will not be enough ignorant and racist people to construct a culture around hate and dicrimination. I wish, one day, the entire world will be just more human, and less criminal.

Bye,
Giorgio, Turin; Italy
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esam (user currently living in YEMEN) posted for gay readers to the YEMEN country page in response to this story on 16/12/2013 tagged with tourism, at the work place, adoption, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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I am a gay I am 25 years



i cant walk or talk with any one ,
In my community and my family want me sanish
I can not get any chance to work .. I can not walk in the street
my community treats me racist
My family want to get rid of me
Dealing with the community and my family is very difficult
I was working Internet Marketing But my brother made them package me He does not want me get the money
Two years ago, I went to another city , I worked in a hotel receptionist , the work was good .
Two months later, a man from my city ,He told them about me.
I can not continue because of harassment from employees and management.
I Quit
if i want go to the market , everyone look up and down at me ,, i can not stay 5 minutes in the market or Any public place.
,Always thinking Run away to anywhere no one knows me
They want me to commit suicide .. But I do not want .. Also I can not live
in the home They do not let me sleep and They tortured me psychological torture
In fact, I do not feel I am a human ,They look to me as a metamorphosis or a freak
my family treat me As a person stinking and some time as a slave
I'm scared to death , from my family , every day i thinking what they will do in the next day.
they torment me
I suffer from psychological problems.
? I do not no what i can do
my email anyo848@gmail.com
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esam (user currently living in YEMEN) posted for gay readers to the YEMEN country page on 16/12/2013 tagged with at the work place, adoption, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, religion
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I am a gay I am 25 years



i cant walk or talk with any one ,
In my community and my family want me sanish
I can not get any chance to work .. I can not walk in the street
my community treats me racist
My family want to get rid of me
Dealing with the community and my family is very difficult
I was working Internet Marketing But my brother made them package me He does not want me get the money
Two years ago, I went to another city , I worked in a hotel receptionist , the work was good .
Two months later, a man from my city ,He told them about me.
I can not continue because of harassment from employees and management.
I Quit
if i want go to the market , everyone look up and down at me ,, i can not stay 5 minutes in the market or Any public place.
,Always thinking Run away to anywhere no one knows me
They want me to commit suicide .. But I do not want .. Also I can not live
in the home They do not let me sleep and They tortured me psychological torture
In fact, I do not feel I am a human ,They look to me as a metamorphosis or a freak
my family treat me As a person stinking and some time as a slave
I'm scared to death , from my family , every day i thinking what they will do in the next day.
they torment me
I suffer from psychological problems.
? I do not no what i can do
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G (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay readers to the CANADA country page on 08/12/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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http://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2013/12/08/shock_jock_producer_jokes_about_trial_he_was_the_jury_foreman.html
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It's a taboo to be a lesbian in India. I cannot go anywhere without being stared at if I'm with my girlfriend and even though I try not to let other people bother me, how can I ignore almost over 100's of people staring at the same time, every second when Im outside the house.

I want to feel safe to hold my girls hand and kiss her in public without always having my alert button on, hoping noone kicks up a fuss.

My girlfriend is British and she came to visit me in February 2013. It was the best time of my life even though I was scared to be open in public, regardless of the fact that I'm out to my family. We want to get married as soon as we can but the law doesn't allow us to. It would be ideal if we could get married in India but India doesnt recognise homosexuality yet , and I can't go to UK to get married that easily.

We've been together close to 2 years now and all we do is love each other dearly, I want to be able to walk freely and proudly in my own country with my -to-be- wife wihtout being scared and looked at like I'm some sort of freak.
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Born Between (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for readers to the UNITED ARAB EMIRATES country page on 30/11/2013 tagged with tourism, intersex, teaching lgbt rights in schools, hate crime and violence prevention, gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership
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I have been living in the Middle East for the past two years. We have been working on a film around the world on intersex. The web site is bornbetween.com. I have been reading some of the stories here and for those in countries that suppress human dignity, please DON'T GIVE UP!

Right now we are trying to raise funds for a documentary film. But if you are intersex and living in the Middle East or a country that suppresses your natural biological body you were born with, please email us your story at info@bornbetween.com We want to hear from voices in countries where we do not hear from because of religious or cultural suppression.

The link to the film funding campaign is:

<a href="http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/born-between-the-gender-spectrum/x/2374173">Born Between Web Campaign</a>
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Mara (user currently living in SAUDI ARABIA) posted for gay straight readers to the SAUDI ARABIA country page on 28/11/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, religion +24
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Hello everybody!
I am a 25 year old Saudi straight girl and my family is trying to force me to get married to a Saudi man. I do not believe in religions and I do not want to marry a religious man that I do not know. I feel bad for gays in Saudi and I would like to help a gay guy and also have him help me. My plan is getting married to a secretly gay guy that my family accepts so we both can live our lives and be good friends and make our families happy. reply to this if you like my proposal.
Thanks x
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(user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian transgender readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 26/11/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +5
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I lived in a moderate size city in the US , I was attacked by a man while walking down the street in the middle of the day. He mistook me for a cis woman and attempted to rape me (this is bad enough) when he found out I was trans he proceeded to try to beat me to death. After getting out of the hospital and attempting to report it, the police laughed about it and even misgendered me on the report.
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Please read this article:

http://eliteja.com/report-jamaican-gay-teen-chopped-to-death-by-angry-crowd/

Do something about it because they have been killing a lot of children out there out of accusations. Ask some international authority to put pressure on the country to change it's laws. Look at how the people there responded to the event; they were justifying what was done with biblical scriptures that's no longer accepted. I'm sure more children are going to die out there so please do something.
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Samantha (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for lesbian readers to the SINGAPORE country page on 17/11/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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Hi there, I just want to share what i'm going through now and maybe someone could help me ease the pain. I am 33 now.
when I was 23, I know I am straight since this woman came to the picture.
We've been together for ten years. less the three years when she broke our vow. 2003 we started everything. She was my first in everything. Until she met butch in 2006 until middle of 2009. According to Gay (her name) butch leave her because gay is just like a high school partner. immature. last quarter of 2009, our road crossed again. We talked and God! I still love her so much and decided to be with each other again. for years we continue building the family that we've wanted before butch. She promise me everything. She's been a good provider as what she promised and take good care of me. I became the best wife I can be in return even If I have a very busy schedule at work. I became her partner, perfect partner can anyone imagined. Until she decided to go to Singapore for our future. The reason why I am in pain now. She's with another butch now. I am dying inside. I was a wreck. It was so painful that I cant take it anymore, that I just want to end my life. I am asking this Ekin Kasban to let go of her. This will not happened if she did not come to the picture. I am just a wife who wants to save my family. Gay is my life, my family. To LGBT, can you help me for this? I want the whole world to know that, I love Gay so much, that my family is waiting for her specially me. Gay told me that I have to hold on to our love but things are not falling into place right now since I am here in the Philippines and shes with Ekin. Ekin knew that Gay is committed then why pursue? A real Lesbian knows how to respect. Then why she's doing this? why not respect the a happy and beautiful couple as what gay and I have. I know she has a beautiful heart though I haven't met her, I know she understand the pain I have now. But she cant let her go. Ekin, I want you to know that because you want to be happy, you are hurting somebody...
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Please check out this new book I have co-edited which is FREE ONLINE:
Corinne Lennox and Matthew Waites (eds.)(2013) Human Rights, Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity in The Commonwealth: Struggles for Decriminalisation and Change (London: School of Advanced Study, University of London) http://commonwealth.sas.ac.uk/publications/house-publications/lgbt-rights-commonwealth
This is the most internationally extensive academic volume on the global struggle for decriminalisation to date, with data on 54 states and chapters giving detail on 16 states. It is also the first book to address LGBTI issues in the Commonwealth of Nations context. Please could ILGA disseminate via all possible global and regional websites, newsletters and other routes.
There is also a Facebook site for the book 'Human Rights, Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity in The Commonwealth', which can be used for dissemination, please like and share: https://www.facebook.com/HumanRightsSOGICommonwealth?ref=br_tf
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elizabeth posted for bisexual readers to the BARBADOS country page on 28/10/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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hi i'm getting discriminate in barbados and i would like too leeve this country
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Andrey (user currently living in UKRAINE) posted for gay readers to the RUSSIAN FEDERATION country page on 27/10/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +4
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Hello!
The group of people to whom the problems, facing LGBT community of Russia, aren't indifferent - addresses to you. Among the members of our group is Russian, the citizens of the United States, Europe and other countries. Unfortunately, for the reasons which will be stated further, we are compelled temporarily, as we hope, to conceal our names and faces. However, we believe, that it will not prevent our work for the benefit of the LGBT communities of Russia and the World.
By this performance we want to draw your attention to the problems of the LGBT community in Russia. Today, Russian law, applicable to the members of this community, in its cruelty, matched only by the laws of Nazi Germany, acting against the Jews. Today, as well as at the time of Hitler, when people could be punished or even are killed only that were Jews, in Putin's Russia, a person may be subjected to criminal punishment for the fact that it belongs to the LGBT community, especially if he does not hide.
There have already been cases of physical violence, including murder, carried out with extreme brutality. Moreover, these crimes are carried out by not only "ordinary citizens" - but law enforcement officials. Murder and torture have taken place in Volgograd, Novosibirsk, Kazan, Kamchatka. In the Russian city of Rostov, in many parts of the city, have already appeared leaflets, pasted on the walls of buildings, containing calls to "identify gay men and punish them." Authorities declared the event a "provocation," but, in fact, made no effort to investigate the incident. According to the "official" statistics, every seventh member of LGBT-community in Russia - was exposed to physical and sexual abuse from outside "citizens with normal sexual orientation". And how many such cases aren't considered by "official" statistics? Imprisonment of "Pussy Riot" - is a prelude and an evident illustration to the future, which expects progressive part of inhabitants of Russia.
In nazi Germany in the same way all also began - with "separate" acts of violence from outside "the indignant citizens". Proceeded - concentration camps, gas chambers and six million dead Jews ... and not just the Jews: more than 50 million people became, as a result, victims of the war, which has begun with "separate acts of violence" and "laws against defective".
50 million victims!
Yes, you say, but then there was no Internet, mobile communication, social networking, and the victims of the Nazis could not tell what was going on around the world, to warn each other of danger. Now, you say, the rights of the LGBT community in Russia to protect Barack Obama, Angela Merkel, Stephen Fry, Lady Gaga, and thousands of other personalities. Yes, it is - but the Russian government, like Hitler, does not pay any attention to the protests, arguing that no LGBT issues in Russia does not exist!
Today the question is not: "Will we see a Russian concentration camps for LGBT citizens?" - Question is: "How soon we will see these Russian concentration camp?" And not just for LGBT people, but also for all dissenters at all.
You hope for the international human rights organizations? But at the first hint on communication with the foreign organizations, with human rights activists, at the first cent of donations from abroad - any human rights organization working in Russia, will be declared by "the foreign agent", bank accounts will be blocked, and her employees will be interrogated by security service! Yes, in Russia such laws today work!
You're looking at the Internet, e-mail, Skype, etc.? You hope on "Tor" project? And you know, what this project for 60% is financed by NSA of the USA? And other 40% - FSB of Russia? Edward Joseph Snowden proved, that the all governments controls all open channels of communication. In the U.S. it is called PRISM, in Russia - "SORM-2." But the point of the name is independent: if necessary, all communication channels are closed, and there will be no way to draw the world's attention to the trouble, no way to call for help...
In Russia already have laws, that allow close access to arbitrary segments of the Internet at the request of the police, the Federal Security Service or the courts.
And what do you do? After all, the situation is "how soon?" - Requires immediate action!
Our group of activists works in several directions:
1. Creation of the protected network intended for exchange of information between dissidents in Russia (in that specific case - the people identifying as members of LGBT-community), a network allowing them not to depend on actions of the government of Russia, allowing, in case of any repressive actions, at least, to report about danger to adherents, both in Russia, and behind its borders, allowing to transfer truthful information on a situation, passing official channels of the state. The description of this project being now for us priority, is given below.
2. Support (financing of receiving the higher education) the young people identifying as members of LGBT-community and people of old age, not having worthy pension and earnings. Unfortunately, in this area we have no special successes as training of one person costs, at least, $10.000,00, and our financing is based only donations of individuals and small firms.
3. We offer the help in planning and financing of joint trips on the states of Europe and Asia for the people identifying with LGBT-community. As of a present situation we already achieved that LGBT-rounds ceased to be exotic not only in Russia, but already and in Ukraine.
4. We offer the help in search of partners for cohabitation and/or creations of matrimonies, in all directions, in Russia, Europe, Asia.
So, now we will tell you about our project of the protected network of exchange of information by means of which we want to protect LGBT-community of Russia:
The network will operate on the basis of the Internet, but to go beyond the Russian segment will be used by the mobile station disguised space communications. Oddly enough, but it and other necessary equipment can be purchased from corrupt Russian military! And that's good - we will beat the enemy with his own weapon!
Thus, even if the Russian government and the Russian segment of the Internet isolates from the rest of the world, such as China did, the proposed network will continue to have open channels of communication with the outside world.
Traffic network, comprising voice, text and any other information will be encrypted and disguised as ordinary traffic exchange HTTP-content service under network traffic, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Server that will be used to route traffic - will also be mobile and disguised as transport and other vehicles delivery services, service, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Thus, due to masking and mobility, as well as the use of satellite communications to maintain channels of communication, the government cannot control the network (used for this and other measures, which we do not speak openly).
You only need to install on your computer, smartphone or tablet is a small program - and the authorities will not be able to control you, even if they themselves and connect to the network.
In the end, we get a secure, self-organizing network for exchanging information, not controlled by the government. To disrupt the authorities will have to shut down the Internet and telephone (mobile and wired) across Russia, which in any case is unbelievable.
Today, the network is in the process of testing and trial operation in micro-scale. But for the completion of the project - we need the money. Now for us - it hurts the most. Yes, we know where we can buy the necessary equipment, and we know the people who are willing to sell it to us. We have an existing piece of software, but does not have all the necessary set of equipment, required almost no cars on the basis of which we plan to expand the network of communication stations and routing traffic.
Part of the necessary funds already collected by activists of our group, but, unfortunately, it is not enough to start the project in operation. Still needed relatively little money: about $150.000,00-$200.000,00. We therefore ask you to take part in it, sacrificing its completion any amount of money that you think it is possible to allocate to such a thing. Let it be a few dollars or euros - it does not matter.
And so we turn to you for help. We ask you to give us any help: moral, financial, or ... well, just tell us who it may help to provide us with this. We ask you to help spread our message to all people, who are not indifferent to the concepts of freedom, tolerance and equality for all people, regardless of what the signs are distinguished from each other.
We ask that you use your world-recognized authority in order to attract the attention of all free people to the threat to all members of the LGBT community in Russia.
We ask for your advice: please indicate who else can we turn to the world's attention to the fact that, today, the threat hangs over not only the LGBT community in Russia, but over all its residents who do not agree with the government Russia, the government, leading to the country on the path of Hitler's Germany.
Yes, it is - a non-profit project, and you will not get from any benefits of its implementation.
No catch, but gratitude from the Russian people, from the Russian LGBT community. And knowing, that you have helped prevent a second Holocaust.
Few can say to yourself: "Yes, I saved thousands of lives!"
But You - can!
Our E-mail: lgbt.fight @ gmail.com
If you have an opportunity to make a financial donation for our project, please, visit our site http://lgbt-fight.org/
If you consider necessary, please, specify to us for what from listed before the directions of our activity you would like to spend your donation. In case you, for any reasons, don't want to use the payment systems transferred on our site, write to us (an E-mail: lgbt.fight@gmail.com), and we will send at once you the documents necessary for a bank transfer of money.
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lgbt.fight
YouTube: LGBT.Fight
Thank you!
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Andrey (user currently living in UKRAINE) posted for gay readers to the RUSSIAN FEDERATION country page on 27/10/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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Hello!
The group of people to whom the problems, facing LGBT community of Russia, aren't indifferent - addresses to you. Among the members of our group is Russian, the citizens of the United States, Europe and other countries. Unfortunately, for the reasons which will be stated further, we are compelled temporarily, as we hope, to conceal our names and faces. However, we believe, that it will not prevent our work for the benefit of the LGBT communities of Russia and the World.
By this performance we want to draw your attention to the problems of the LGBT community in Russia. Today, Russian law, applicable to the members of this community, in its cruelty, matched only by the laws of Nazi Germany, acting against the Jews. Today, as well as at the time of Hitler, when people could be punished or even are killed only that were Jews, in Putin's Russia, a person may be subjected to criminal punishment for the fact that it belongs to the LGBT community, especially if he does not hide.
There have already been cases of physical violence, including murder, carried out with extreme brutality. Moreover, these crimes are carried out by not only "ordinary citizens" - but law enforcement officials. Murder and torture have taken place in Volgograd, Novosibirsk, Kazan, Kamchatka. In the Russian city of Rostov, in many parts of the city, have already appeared leaflets, pasted on the walls of buildings, containing calls to "identify gay men and punish them." Authorities declared the event a "provocation," but, in fact, made no effort to investigate the incident. According to the "official" statistics, every seventh member of LGBT-community in Russia - was exposed to physical and sexual abuse from outside "citizens with normal sexual orientation". And how many such cases aren't considered by "official" statistics? Imprisonment of "Pussy Riot" - is a prelude and an evident illustration to the future, which expects progressive part of inhabitants of Russia.
In nazi Germany in the same way all also began - with "separate" acts of violence from outside "the indignant citizens". Proceeded - concentration camps, gas chambers and six million dead Jews ... and not just the Jews: more than 50 million people became, as a result, victims of the war, which has begun with "separate acts of violence" and "laws against defective".
50 million victims!
Yes, you say, but then there was no Internet, mobile communication, social networking, and the victims of the Nazis could not tell what was going on around the world, to warn each other of danger. Now, you say, the rights of the LGBT community in Russia to protect Barack Obama, Angela Merkel, Stephen Fry, Lady Gaga, and thousands of other personalities. Yes, it is - but the Russian government, like Hitler, does not pay any attention to the protests, arguing that no LGBT issues in Russia does not exist!
Today the question is not: "Will we see a Russian concentration camps for LGBT citizens?" - Question is: "How soon we will see these Russian concentration camp?" And not just for LGBT people, but also for all dissenters at all.
You hope for the international human rights organizations? But at the first hint on communication with the foreign organizations, with human rights activists, at the first cent of donations from abroad - any human rights organization working in Russia, will be declared by "the foreign agent", bank accounts will be blocked, and her employees will be interrogated by security service! Yes, in Russia such laws today work!
You're looking at the Internet, e-mail, Skype, etc.? You hope on "Tor" project? And you know, what this project for 60% is financed by NSA of the USA? And other 40% - FSB of Russia? Edward Joseph Snowden proved, that the all governments controls all open channels of communication. In the U.S. it is called PRISM, in Russia - "SORM-2." But the point of the name is independent: if necessary, all communication channels are closed, and there will be no way to draw the world's attention to the trouble, no way to call for help...
In Russia already have laws, that allow close access to arbitrary segments of the Internet at the request of the police, the Federal Security Service or the courts.
And what do you do? After all, the situation is "how soon?" - Requires immediate action!
Our group of activists works in several directions:
1. Creation of the protected network intended for exchange of information between dissidents in Russia (in that specific case - the people identifying as members of LGBT-community), a network allowing them not to depend on actions of the government of Russia, allowing, in case of any repressive actions, at least, to report about danger to adherents, both in Russia, and behind its borders, allowing to transfer truthful information on a situation, passing official channels of the state. The description of this project being now for us priority, is given below.
2. Support (financing of receiving the higher education) the young people identifying as members of LGBT-community and people of old age, not having worthy pension and earnings. Unfortunately, in this area we have no special successes as training of one person costs, at least, $10.000,00, and our financing is based only donations of individuals and small firms.
3. We offer the help in planning and financing of joint trips on the states of Europe and Asia for the people identifying with LGBT-community. As of a present situation we already achieved that LGBT-rounds ceased to be exotic not only in Russia, but already and in Ukraine.
4. We offer the help in search of partners for cohabitation and/or creations of matrimonies, in all directions, in Russia, Europe, Asia.
So, now we will tell you about our project of the protected network of exchange of information by means of which we want to protect LGBT-community of Russia:
The network will operate on the basis of the Internet, but to go beyond the Russian segment will be used by the mobile station disguised space communications. Oddly enough, but it and other necessary equipment can be purchased from corrupt Russian military! And that's good - we will beat the enemy with his own weapon!
Thus, even if the Russian government and the Russian segment of the Internet isolates from the rest of the world, such as China did, the proposed network will continue to have open channels of communication with the outside world.
Traffic network, comprising voice, text and any other information will be encrypted and disguised as ordinary traffic exchange HTTP-content service under network traffic, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Server that will be used to route traffic - will also be mobile and disguised as transport and other vehicles delivery services, service, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Thus, due to masking and mobility, as well as the use of satellite communications to maintain channels of communication, the government cannot control the network (used for this and other measures, which we do not speak openly).
You only need to install on your computer, smartphone or tablet is a small program - and the authorities will not be able to control you, even if they themselves and connect to the network.
In the end, we get a secure, self-organizing network for exchanging information, not controlled by the government. To disrupt the authorities will have to shut down the Internet and telephone (mobile and wired) across Russia, which in any case is unbelievable.
Today, the network is in the process of testing and trial operation in micro-scale. But for the completion of the project - we need the money. Now for us - it hurts the most. Yes, we know where we can buy the necessary equipment, and we know the people who are willing to sell it to us. We have an existing piece of software, but does not have all the necessary set of equipment, required almost no cars on the basis of which we plan to expand the network of communication stations and routing traffic.
Part of the necessary funds already collected by activists of our group, but, unfortunately, it is not enough to start the project in operation. Still needed relatively little money: about $150.000,00-$200.000,00. We therefore ask you to take part in it, sacrificing its completion any amount of money that you think it is possible to allocate to such a thing. Let it be a few dollars or euros - it does not matter.
And so we turn to you for help. We ask you to give us any help: moral, financial, or ... well, just tell us who it may help to provide us with this. We ask you to help spread our message to all people, who are not indifferent to the concepts of freedom, tolerance and equality for all people, regardless of what the signs are distinguished from each other.
We ask that you use your world-recognized authority in order to attract the attention of all free people to the threat to all members of the LGBT community in Russia.
We ask for your advice: please indicate who else can we turn to the world's attention to the fact that, today, the threat hangs over not only the LGBT community in Russia, but over all its residents who do not agree with the government Russia, the government, leading to the country on the path of Hitler's Germany.
Yes, it is - a non-profit project, and you will not get from any benefits of its implementation.
No catch, but gratitude from the Russian people, from the Russian LGBT community. And knowing, that you have helped prevent a second Holocaust.
Few can say to yourself: "Yes, I saved thousands of lives!"
But You - can!
Our E-mail: lgbt.fight @ gmail.com
If you have an opportunity to make a financial donation for our project, please, visit our site http://lgbt-fight.org/
If you consider necessary, please, specify to us for what from listed before the directions of our activity you would like to spend your donation. In case you, for any reasons, don't want to use the payment systems transferred on our site, write to us (an E-mail: lgbt.fight@gmail.com), and we will send at once you the documents necessary for a bank transfer of money.
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lgbt.fight
YouTube: LGBT.Fight
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Andrey (user currently living in UKRAINE) posted for gay readers to the CHILE country page on 27/10/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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Hello!
The group of people to whom the problems, facing LGBT community of Russia, aren't indifferent - addresses to you. Among the members of our group is Russian, the citizens of the United States, Europe and other countries. Unfortunately, for the reasons which will be stated further, we are compelled temporarily, as we hope, to conceal our names and faces. However, we believe, that it will not prevent our work for the benefit of the LGBT communities of Russia and the World.
By this performance we want to draw your attention to the problems of the LGBT community in Russia. Today, Russian law, applicable to the members of this community, in its cruelty, matched only by the laws of Nazi Germany, acting against the Jews. Today, as well as at the time of Hitler, when people could be punished or even are killed only that were Jews, in Putin's Russia, a person may be subjected to criminal punishment for the fact that it belongs to the LGBT community, especially if he does not hide.
There have already been cases of physical violence, including murder, carried out with extreme brutality. Moreover, these crimes are carried out by not only "ordinary citizens" - but law enforcement officials. Murder and torture have taken place in Volgograd, Novosibirsk, Kazan, Kamchatka. In the Russian city of Rostov, in many parts of the city, have already appeared leaflets, pasted on the walls of buildings, containing calls to "identify gay men and punish them." Authorities declared the event a "provocation," but, in fact, made no effort to investigate the incident. According to the "official" statistics, every seventh member of LGBT-community in Russia - was exposed to physical and sexual abuse from outside "citizens with normal sexual orientation". And how many such cases aren't considered by "official" statistics? Imprisonment of "Pussy Riot" - is a prelude and an evident illustration to the future, which expects progressive part of inhabitants of Russia.
In nazi Germany in the same way all also began - with "separate" acts of violence from outside "the indignant citizens". Proceeded - concentration camps, gas chambers and six million dead Jews ... and not just the Jews: more than 50 million people became, as a result, victims of the war, which has begun with "separate acts of violence" and "laws against defective".
50 million victims!
Yes, you say, but then there was no Internet, mobile communication, social networking, and the victims of the Nazis could not tell what was going on around the world, to warn each other of danger. Now, you say, the rights of the LGBT community in Russia to protect Barack Obama, Angela Merkel, Stephen Fry, Lady Gaga, and thousands of other personalities. Yes, it is - but the Russian government, like Hitler, does not pay any attention to the protests, arguing that no LGBT issues in Russia does not exist!
Today the question is not: "Will we see a Russian concentration camps for LGBT citizens?" - Question is: "How soon we will see these Russian concentration camp?" And not just for LGBT people, but also for all dissenters at all.
You hope for the international human rights organizations? But at the first hint on communication with the foreign organizations, with human rights activists, at the first cent of donations from abroad - any human rights organization working in Russia, will be declared by "the foreign agent", bank accounts will be blocked, and her employees will be interrogated by security service! Yes, in Russia such laws today work!
You're looking at the Internet, e-mail, Skype, etc.? You hope on "Tor" project? And you know, what this project for 60% is financed by NSA of the USA? And other 40% - FSB of Russia? Edward Joseph Snowden proved, that the all governments controls all open channels of communication. In the U.S. it is called PRISM, in Russia - "SORM-2." But the point of the name is independent: if necessary, all communication channels are closed, and there will be no way to draw the world's attention to the trouble, no way to call for help...
In Russia already have laws, that allow close access to arbitrary segments of the Internet at the request of the police, the Federal Security Service or the courts.
And what do you do? After all, the situation is "how soon?" - Requires immediate action!
Our group of activists works in several directions:
1. Creation of the protected network intended for exchange of information between dissidents in Russia (in that specific case - the people identifying as members of LGBT-community), a network allowing them not to depend on actions of the government of Russia, allowing, in case of any repressive actions, at least, to report about danger to adherents, both in Russia, and behind its borders, allowing to transfer truthful information on a situation, passing official channels of the state. The description of this project being now for us priority, is given below.
2. Support (financing of receiving the higher education) the young people identifying as members of LGBT-community and people of old age, not having worthy pension and earnings. Unfortunately, in this area we have no special successes as training of one person costs, at least, $10.000,00, and our financing is based only donations of individuals and small firms.
3. We offer the help in planning and financing of joint trips on the states of Europe and Asia for the people identifying with LGBT-community. As of a present situation we already achieved that LGBT-rounds ceased to be exotic not only in Russia, but already and in Ukraine.
4. We offer the help in search of partners for cohabitation and/or creations of matrimonies, in all directions, in Russia, Europe, Asia.
So, now we will tell you about our project of the protected network of exchange of information by means of which we want to protect LGBT-community of Russia:
The network will operate on the basis of the Internet, but to go beyond the Russian segment will be used by the mobile station disguised space communications. Oddly enough, but it and other necessary equipment can be purchased from corrupt Russian military! And that's good - we will beat the enemy with his own weapon!
Thus, even if the Russian government and the Russian segment of the Internet isolates from the rest of the world, such as China did, the proposed network will continue to have open channels of communication with the outside world.
Traffic network, comprising voice, text and any other information will be encrypted and disguised as ordinary traffic exchange HTTP-content service under network traffic, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Server that will be used to route traffic - will also be mobile and disguised as transport and other vehicles delivery services, service, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Thus, due to masking and mobility, as well as the use of satellite communications to maintain channels of communication, the government cannot control the network (used for this and other measures, which we do not speak openly).
You only need to install on your computer, smartphone or tablet is a small program - and the authorities will not be able to control you, even if they themselves and connect to the network.
In the end, we get a secure, self-organizing network for exchanging information, not controlled by the government. To disrupt the authorities will have to shut down the Internet and telephone (mobile and wired) across Russia, which in any case is unbelievable.
Today, the network is in the process of testing and trial operation in micro-scale. But for the completion of the project - we need the money. Now for us - it hurts the most. Yes, we know where we can buy the necessary equipment, and we know the people who are willing to sell it to us. We have an existing piece of software, but does not have all the necessary set of equipment, required almost no cars on the basis of which we plan to expand the network of communication stations and routing traffic.
Part of the necessary funds already collected by activists of our group, but, unfortunately, it is not enough to start the project in operation. Still needed relatively little money: about $150.000,00-$200.000,00. We therefore ask you to take part in it, sacrificing its completion any amount of money that you think it is possible to allocate to such a thing. Let it be a few dollars or euros - it does not matter.
And so we turn to you for help. We ask you to give us any help: moral, financial, or ... well, just tell us who it may help to provide us with this. We ask you to help spread our message to all people, who are not indifferent to the concepts of freedom, tolerance and equality for all people, regardless of what the signs are distinguished from each other.
We ask that you use your world-recognized authority in order to attract the attention of all free people to the threat to all members of the LGBT community in Russia.
We ask for your advice: please indicate who else can we turn to the world's attention to the fact that, today, the threat hangs over not only the LGBT community in Russia, but over all its residents who do not agree with the government Russia, the government, leading to the country on the path of Hitler's Germany.
Yes, it is - a non-profit project, and you will not get from any benefits of its implementation.
No catch, but gratitude from the Russian people, from the Russian LGBT community. And knowing, that you have helped prevent a second Holocaust.
Few can say to yourself: "Yes, I saved thousands of lives!"
But You - can!
Our E-mail: lgbt.fight @ gmail.com
If you have an opportunity to make a financial donation for our project, please, visit our site http://lgbt-fight.org/
If you consider necessary, please, specify to us for what from listed before the directions of our activity you would like to spend your donation. In case you, for any reasons, don't want to use the payment systems transferred on our site, write to us (an E-mail: lgbt.fight@gmail.com), and we will send at once you the documents necessary for a bank transfer of money.
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lgbt.fight
YouTube: LGBT.Fight
Thank you!
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Linden Shillingford (user currently living in DOMINICA) posted for gay readers to the DOMINICA country page on 27/09/2013 tagged with at the work place, teaching lgbt rights in schools, hate crime and violence prevention
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EDITOR’S NOTE: Living with discrimination is not easy but for Linden Shillingford it is a part of his life.

He told his story at a youth symposium on Tuesday afternoon. The event was a collaborative effort between the United Nations Youth Development Program through the Caribbean Youth Think Tank (CYTT) and the National Youth Council.

Below is Shillingford’s full presentation.

My life consists of discrimination.

Born on 13th March 1993, I am an individual who has been through a lot and still continue to go through as a young person in society.

My name is Linden Shillingford, better known as Mafysel Beltro to the Dominican public.

Discrimination is wrong and as I continue speaking about my situation you will see its disadvantages and advantages. In 1999 at the age of six I was touched by my neighbor. In 2001, at age eight, I questioned my sexuality. In 2003 I was touched by a bus driver. I continued my journey for we all consider life to be. In 2006 I started high school and was bullied a lot in my class, from being called names to papers and other objects being thrown at me.

I then developed an anger that could be considered a hurricane, which I used to stand up for myself after which class mates began to respect me.

In 2009 January 31st I was sexually assaulted by a security guard. I felt like I was cursed or had a spell on me because I was already touched at a tender age.

However I never told no one about this particular incident until it was reported in February by someone who had overseen the act of the guard. At the time I felt that it was too much to handle and I confirmed it was true to the school principle in the presence of my mom and step dad.

The principal discussed this among her staff and then I realized that the staff told students and then the situation got worst. The matter was then taken to the police headquarters and up till this day I never heard anything about the court case although I went to the court on two occasions. My life became sour after the students found out. I was not only the talk of the class or the school, I was the talk of the town

A lot of people threatened me and promised my death. Up until this day I still get the statement thrown at me. That February (2009) I dropped out of school for I couldn’t handle the pressure. I stayed home until April where I started another secondary school for five days.

I was the most popular student until the 5th day when I waited at the school gate. Upon reaching the gate I heard a lot of students saying “look him, all you look him.”

I then understood that they heard the story about the security and then began to act like the students of my old school.

I ran out of the school yard with tears in my eyes. As I took the first bus out, I cried all the way to my house. I never returned to school after the first week. I was truly feeling like giving up I later on in November of that year, I started classes at the Adolescents Skills Training Center.

The story of the guard reoccurred and this time I made up my mind to stand my ground. I was teased a lot but it only lasted for a while.

In 2011 I was homeless for about one month after being put out by my sister’s father who said that he does not want any “chicchy man” in his house.

I stayed everywhere from (Botanic) Gardens to Peebles Bark and the Bayfront.

I went to the welfare office, however I was discriminated against by one of the mcouncilors and one of the big shots who said, “You’re a shillingford you can’t be homeless.” Does it take a person’s surname to determine their homelessness? If so, what a society do we live in?

With nowhere to go and no one to turn to because I’m gay made me feel less than a human though at the time I felt no different from a woman. My family totally turned their back. As for society they could care less about how I felt. To them I was the biggest “buller” in Dominica.

In 2012 I was involved in explicit pictures of me being circulated around Dominica and the world by extension. At that time I was employed an got a lot of pressure by my coworkers. I was called names and was promised my death.

In December of that same year I was terminated on grounds that didn’t make much sense. In my opinion everything leads up to discrimination by employees and certain managers who still up to today call me names. And seeing that I was the issue as they say it was my word against their’s.

I felt like committing suicide after these two situations because it hurt me that now that I was able to make money and live my life by renting my own spot was not gonna continue.

In fact I tried taking my life away several times. I took over 500 pills including antibiotics among other painkilling tablets but nothing happened. There was no need to report to hospital. The tears I cried could maybe full the tank of a vehicle. I felt so rejected by many family members and fake friends. I even tried stabbing myself. I failed for I realized that I didn’t live life yet.

In 2013 I continued my journey as an unemployed individual. I was then homeless in March and April. This time I slept on the grounds of a church I located in a village away from the town for I did not want people to see me nor to see them.

After spending my days and nights on the cold floors of the church I had a lot running through my mind. I felt like I had been through way too much already you would think that I did not go through more well I am still going through.

In July I got a ‘burst head’ on the street that leads to my home as I was walking on the dark road with my light flashing on my phone I saw a scrooter pass me. Then I saw no trace of the bike as I continued. I found this strange. Not even two minutes later I got a lash at the back of my head then I collapsed to the ground with blood dripping from my heads all the way down to the ground.

I ran to a nearby shop where I requested a top up to call my landlord. There was no top up and as I continued walking bottles and stones were being pelted at me from the direction. I made it home where my landlord’s daughter was rejoicing about my burst head. She later on celebrated with the fellers in the area whilst I was rushed to the hospital.

As if that was not enough I got another burst head in August, this time it was in town when someone ran up to me and burst a Carib (beer) bottle on my head. I stayed in shock as I felt it was a dream but it was true.

Later on that night I was promised to be chopped to death. In fact it almost happened but luckily someone nearby noticed and encouraged the person to leave me alone.

Today we are in September and I am still standing. These days I take pleasure in listening to songs of Cindy Lockhart especially “true colors”

As I close I say to everyone show your true colors, be yourself, for you can only be you.

I hope that my story told you more about discrimination and what can be caused by it.

Be free like a bird in the sky. Life is so sweet and I don’t want to die but honestly I can only be me.
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Gabor Kale (user currently living in HUNGARY) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers to the RUSSIAN FEDERATION country page on 13/09/2013 tagged with tourism, hate crime and violence prevention, laws and leadership , sexual orientation
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Open letter to Thomas Bach, the new president of IOC
... In the event of non compliance with the Olympic Charter the IOC is entitled to withdraw, at any time and with immediate effect, the organisation of the Olympic Games from the host city" (Olympic Charter 36 ยง 2.)
The IOC is entitled to withdraw the right to host Winter Olympic Games from Russia.
Please find the whole letter on Kaleidoscope website: http://kaleidoscope.blog.hu/2013/09/13/open_letter_to_thomas_bach_the_new_president_of_ioc
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Grace (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for straight readers to the NIGERIA country page on 26/08/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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I meet this guy at mingle2 online dating site about six months ago. According to him his name is Eddie Philip from Lagos Nigeria. He said he is working at (B W GAS) Norway Japan as a seaman. He told me he works for three months on sea and go for one month time off in Nigeria. So when he came back to Nigeria he asked for phone number I gave him and he called and we talked. After two days he told me on phone that his mum and sister are hospitalized .After about one week he said his best died and he joined the his friend to take the corpse home . After about four days he said his nieces is going back to school. The next time he said he brought some people to Nigeria to buy crude oil from Nigeria government. I was now convinced that he is a scammer just looking for away to steal from me. He asked me to come and see him in lagos and to borrow him money to take care of busniess partners until they finished negotiating with Nigeria government. When he found out that he can't dupe me he became angry and told me that he is a dangerous scammer and they two him and a lady . That they are experts in scamming busniess. This is his mingle name eddyphils 33 years old man from Sakai, Japan(BW GAS/NLNG) Norway. This is his phone number (2348060420255 ). I will also attach his pictures . I was lucky because I was sensible enough to he was lying . What of the innocent out there please be warned and play save. Also security agency should investigate people like this and bring them to book. He also asked my nude pictures but I refused. Be warned specially ladies don't send anybody your nude pictures .signs to know scammer they will tell you how much they love you and need you in their life,they never come and see you instead they will find reasons why they can't come . They have numerious fincial needs . They pretend to fear God and always be in church, they ask you to send nude pictures all in the name love.
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Of course sexuality issues are very controversial in Colombia as in any other country. Of course religious groups and some conservative parties speak against same-sex relationships. Nevertheless, the law protects lgbt people from discrimination in Colombia, they are allowed in the military, couples can get married since June 2013, and there are even transgender people in relevant positions in the academy, politics and media. Gay life is vibrant in big cities and Bogota has the biggest Gay Nightclub in Latin America. I lived in the UK and although people are more open to the subject culturally, I didn't feel much more protection from the institutions, except from the obvious European-welfare practicalities that apply to all population. In fact, when I was in London, it was not legal in either country for same-sex couples to marry, there are common issues at the level of prostitution and informal surgery, and I was surprised to see there is no sexual education in British schools (Parliament is to blame) and some teenagers don't even know condoms prevent HIV (I volunteered at a very relevant NGO and researched about protection for LGBT minors in the UK). That being said, of course gay life is more prolific, stylish and fun in London than in Bogotรก, but we are far from what is happening in Russia at least.
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Kellie Cheer (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian bisexual straight readers to the UNITED STATES country page on 10/07/2013 tagged with tourism, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, armed forces +5
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I was visiting Cedar Point, which is in Ohio, USA. It is a rather large roller coaster park.
I went on an all day trip with my girlfriend Liz, and her foreign exchange student from Germany that Summer. We were all 16.
We were standing in line for about 2 full hours when we were just getting to the front of the line for the newest ride. All of a sudden, a cop taps on my shoulder and tells me that "all three of us ladies need to step out of line."
Liz, the German girl and I looked around us in utter disbelief as to why we were being escorted out of line by the police.. I mean we were just a few 16 year old girls from a small town in Michigan.
While we looked around, one of the women in front of me in line started to scream at me and laugh about how "it was ridiculous" that I was "basically having sex" with my girlfriend while in line for the ride. She had called the park police on us for Public Display of Affection. And I swear on my life, that is NOT what I do in public. She completely made up the story.

The police took us to the front of the park and took our names and addresses down as well as a statement. Our German friend was basically in hysterics. She was screaming at the cop saying things like, "this country is ridiculous, they didn't do anything!" and "why are you doing this to them?"

We were escorted out of the front gate 4 hours before we were expected to leave for home.
I've not been back to the park since.

Cedar Point in Sandusky, Ohio is discriminatory and there are no laws against it. Because they are a privately owned business, Cedar Point can remove anyone they want from the park with no questions asked.



Disgusting.
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