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Renee - Chennai Dost (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay readers to the INDIA country page on 06/03/2013 +5
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“Roses are red,
Violets are blue.
We knew not, of each other,
Yet, I fell in love with you!”

A look at this year’s Valentine season, one would have thought to give it a rest. Why? “Because it was in the middle of the week! And with a tight schedule like mine… got no time for love.” Yeah! Well that’s the excuse we all would like to come up with. But hey, c’mon! Who ever said we couldn’t celebrate it any other day?! Besides, every day could be as good as Valentine’s Day. And that’s exactly what happened!

On 9th February, Chennai Dost in collaboration with Pink Friends, painted the town pink! With all due respect to the colour red as a symbol of love on Valentine’s, it was the “pink crowd” that actually brought life to the party and spilled love in the air. Well, you might have thought it to be like a typical prom scene in a movie – guy goes to picks up his partner at 6pm; waits in the hall; sees his beloved partner floating down the stairs like an angel; presenting with a bouquet and heart-shaped chocolates; attending a party and dancing through the night; having an exotic dinner; exchanging sweet kisses at the top of the stairs under the mistletoe; and waving goodbyes with a deep sigh of contentment. Well, for those who didn’t attend the party, that might have just been the usual scheduled Valentine itinerary.

Shimmers, bronzers, colour contact lenses, styling gels, exotic perfumes, flamboyant outfits, groomed body, expensive accessories, condoms (yep! That too!), music, disco lights, roses (minus the thorns), drinks… and to go with it all, the charming romantic attitude. Yep… it was all there! But it just didn’t happen overnight! Members of Chennai Dost (CD) had started preparing for it almost a month back. Introducing the concept to the likes of a “pageant contest” (minus the entertainment and Q&A; rounds), CD members had setup an online voting system through their website for the hunt of the hottest hunk in Pink Town.

More than 200 nominations and a whopping 5000 votes poured in online for guys who either had their IDs in Facebook or in PlanetRomeo. This was a challenge to the team as it was their “amateur” experience! They had to keep up with the votes and clear them out as the online voting caused huge traffic in their website. The votes were frozen and 8 finalists were shortlisted, namely Reyan, Vivek, Shoban, Prince, Rubesh, Satish, Manish, and Ashwath. Meanwhile, other members we busy sending out invitations through every source possible as well as to every soul possible; right from Chennai to the LGBT communities in Madurai, Coimbatore, Puducherry and Trichy; to as far as loyal visitors residing in Kerala, Bengaluru and Hyderabad. Attending enquiries one after the other, the members pepped their spirits higher and worked tirelessly 24×7.

Nope… the clock didn’t strike midnight yet! The party had just begun. Gay pals, couples, bed partners, drag queens, trans … name them and they all turned up. The crowd turnout was close 250 individuals! Keeping such a crowd engaged was no easy tasks. Bala (Pink Friends) and Venkat (Director, Chennai Dost) welcomed all guests. Well… they had their bodyguards standing next to them most of the time to maintain decorum! Enter the secret chamber and lo! The air was filled with the scent of roses, clanking of glasses, rhythmic beats from the DJ and chitter chatters from the page 3 jabber mouths (no offense!). At the entrance, the pictures of the 8 finalists were on display. While few guests were curious, others pounced forward to drool over their secret crushes printed big! Each guest was entitled to vote for one stud out of the 8 finalist who would be later titled Mr. Chennai Dost 2013. Guys who didn’t make it were ogling at the trophy displayed in all its glory.

More than 150 anonymous votes were collected at the venue. Quite a few from the crowd were restless to know who the winner was! Well, we were just hoping the winner doesn’t get clobbered down with kisses and gropes and… you know the rest! Anyhow, while the votes kept coming in, the crowd swayed to the music of 2 DJs – a first time collaboration! DJ Don and Deepak took the crowd on a rollercoaster ride with people literally “getting on the floor” with JLo’s track; head banging with the Party Rock Anthem; dancing Bollywood Ishtyle to the tunes of Om Shanthi Om; dancing like Sheila in Sheila ki Jawani; and pelvic thrusting to the beats of tempo of Kala Sala and Google Google. Even the Gangnam Song kept the exhausted crowd on their feet till the end, and somewhere in the dark corners were the shy ones dancing slowly while their drinks coupled with music intoxicated them.

There were smacks on the back, pinches on the hips, pats on the chests, and a French kiss… oh heck! It was dark after all! The cupid had to keep up without running out of arrows! Well, that’s when the members decided to help the poor cupid. CD members organized a stall called “Secret Roses” whereby guests could anonymously offer a secret rose to another guy in the crowd they found hot or adorable, by informing or showing the members. A member would proceed to the guy and present the rose stating he has an admirer. But it just didn’t end with that! The rose pumped up the adrenalin in the guys which made them hunt of the secret admirer. Whether they found out or not… couldn’t be too bothered! Bet many would have said “yes”. There were few guests who were too kind and offered the roses to the members of the stall itself. Awe… Ain’t that chooo chweeet!! It has to be highlighted that we did have some daring Romeos who wanted to present the rose to the ones they admired directly!!! Kudos to them! Don’t be surprised if they actually took the rose to the bed together.

In every love stories, there’s always a “best Jodi” – the right couple. Be it Romeo & Juliet, Laila & Majnu, Brangelina, Shah Rukh & Kajol, Amitabh & Rekha, Surya & Jyothika, or . We all have our favourites. But for CD members, it turned out to be a tough task to identify the “Best Couple”, lovingly titled “Oh La La!” And oh la la, they certainly were – Uday and Anand. Amongst the many couples who came, some in same clothing, some in opposites, some dressed as per their personality et al; this couple made it to the top with their charms, persona, love, and their hot steps on the dance floor. For those who didn’t win the title… don’t fret and lose hope. We’re sure you may be the best couples in other domains (you know what we mean!).

Well… tic-toc, tic-toc… and everyone was waiting for the verdict for the winner of Mr. Chennai Dost title as time counted its way close to midnight. Well, unlike Cinderella, none of the finalists left any glass slipper. The finalists, dressed in their best tight-fitting attires, were biting their nails, while the guys crooning over them were waiting to catch hold of them. Many guests kept enquiring the organizers whether the finalists were present at the party. Before one could say yes, one finalist or the other would pop out of the crowd for a break, but be swamped back in by their fan following! And the winner of the Mr. Chennai Dost 2013 contest went to none other Reyan, who won by a huge count. Indeed, his looks were considered to be hot and charming – fair, reasonably tall, fit, groomed, and with red rosy lips. His picture conveyed a strong sense of self-confidence with his I-am-the-hunk look. Crowned with a wreath of pink ribbons and flowers, and adorned with a titled sash, Reyan was presented with the Mr. Chennai Dost trophy by Rupesh Reddy (Head, CD Events & Public Relations). Running closely behind was our Runner-up, Vivek. With his cute looks and sharp features, he is famously known as the Persian King, His eyes spoke volumes and his picture frame caught the attention of many passers-by. Reyan seemed flattered and lit up with his million watt smile, while Vivek was head over heels having raced ahead of the other finalists to grab the second spot. No, there was no oh-my-god-I-won crying scene. It wasn’t a beauty pageant… but it was a pageant of being yourself and being recognized.

This Valentine’s party wasn’t just a regular party to meet guys and hook up. It was a platform to create awareness about Chennai Dost; to provide a comfortable, healthy, non-sexual social space where the LGBT community could be themselves and mingle with their own kind, and probably meet their valentines. Pamphlets about CD’s vision, mission and the services offered to support the community were distributed by the members throughout the party. Presiding over the event, Vikranth (Founder of CD) stated that the party was a success and the group has been organizing and celebrating Valentine’s day with a party for the fourth year consecutively. “Through this event we continue to tell the world that love has no boundaries.” He added that “this particular event also stresses upon ‘life beyond sex’ to our community.” Vikranth mentioned that the group continues to receive overwhelming responses and hug turnouts at such parties as well as other event organized by Chennai Dost.

The whole team thanks the management of the venue and its guests for making it possible. Special thanks to the bartenders who were swift and managed to keep up with the crowd’s requests. Guys were certainly overflowing the counter for their drinks! We also thank our Bouncers who were there to prevent any untoward incidences that might have occurred. Well… for a fact we’re pretty sure that most of the guests were staring through the corners of the eyes at these Bouncers – tall, built, handsome (and for some… beefy!). But our bad luck, they didn’t turn out to be gay or bi. We certainly could see many guys smirking after being frisked before entering the venue. Ahem! You never know if one amongst them managed to even get the attention of the Bouncers too.

Nevertheless, for some they lived happily ever after; for others, the fairy-tale just began; and for few others… you never know. It could be worth the wait! Well… there’s always a next year for you guys! Buckle up, hit the gym, and visit the spas! Revamp yourself and present the new you at next year’s valentine to sweep your guy-next-door (or be swept by Prince Charming)!
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Renee - Chennai Dost (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay readers to the INDIA country page on 06/03/2013 +5
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“Roses are red,
Violets are blue.
We knew not, of each other,
Yet, I fell in love with you!”

A look at this year’s Valentine season, one would have thought to give it a rest. Why? “Because it was in the middle of the week! And with a tight schedule like mine… got no time for love.” Yeah! Well that’s the excuse we all would like to come up with. But hey, c’mon! Who ever said we couldn’t celebrate it any other day?! Besides, every day could be as good as Valentine’s Day. And that’s exactly what happened!

On 9th February, Chennai Dost in collaboration with Pink Friends, painted the town pink! With all due respect to the colour red as a symbol of love on Valentine’s, it was the “pink crowd” that actually brought life to the party and spilled love in the air. Well, you might have thought it to be like a typical prom scene in a movie – guy goes to picks up his partner at 6pm; waits in the hall; sees his beloved partner floating down the stairs like an angel; presenting with a bouquet and heart-shaped chocolates; attending a party and dancing through the night; having an exotic dinner; exchanging sweet kisses at the top of the stairs under the mistletoe; and waving goodbyes with a deep sigh of contentment. Well, for those who didn’t attend the party, that might have just been the usual scheduled Valentine itinerary.

Shimmers, bronzers, colour contact lenses, styling gels, exotic perfumes, flamboyant outfits, groomed body, expensive accessories, condoms (yep! That too!), music, disco lights, roses (minus the thorns), drinks… and to go with it all, the charming romantic attitude. Yep… it was all there! But it just didn’t happen overnight! Members of Chennai Dost (CD) had started preparing for it almost a month back. Introducing the concept to the likes of a “pageant contest” (minus the entertainment and Q&A; rounds), CD members had setup an online voting system through their website for the hunt of the hottest hunk in Pink Town.

More than 200 nominations and a whopping 5000 votes poured in online for guys who either had their IDs in Facebook or in PlanetRomeo. This was a challenge to the team as it was their “amateur” experience! They had to keep up with the votes and clear them out as the online voting caused huge traffic in their website. The votes were frozen and 8 finalists were shortlisted, namely Reyan, Vivek, Shoban, Prince, Rubesh, Satish, Manish, and Ashwath. Meanwhile, other members we busy sending out invitations through every source possible as well as to every soul possible; right from Chennai to the LGBT communities in Madurai, Coimbatore, Puducherry and Trichy; to as far as loyal visitors residing in Kerala, Bengaluru and Hyderabad. Attending enquiries one after the other, the members pepped their spirits higher and worked tirelessly 24×7.

Nope… the clock didn’t strike midnight yet! The party had just begun. Gay pals, couples, bed partners, drag queens, trans … name them and they all turned up. The crowd turnout was close 250 individuals! Keeping such a crowd engaged was no easy tasks. Bala (Pink Friends) and Venkat (Director, Chennai Dost) welcomed all guests. Well… they had their bodyguards standing next to them most of the time to maintain decorum! Enter the secret chamber and lo! The air was filled with the scent of roses, clanking of glasses, rhythmic beats from the DJ and chitter chatters from the page 3 jabber mouths (no offense!). At the entrance, the pictures of the 8 finalists were on display. While few guests were curious, others pounced forward to drool over their secret crushes printed big! Each guest was entitled to vote for one stud out of the 8 finalist who would be later titled Mr. Chennai Dost 2013. Guys who didn’t make it were ogling at the trophy displayed in all its glory.

More than 150 anonymous votes were collected at the venue. Quite a few from the crowd were restless to know who the winner was! Well, we were just hoping the winner doesn’t get clobbered down with kisses and gropes and… you know the rest! Anyhow, while the votes kept coming in, the crowd swayed to the music of 2 DJs – a first time collaboration! DJ Don and Deepak took the crowd on a rollercoaster ride with people literally “getting on the floor” with JLo’s track; head banging with the Party Rock Anthem; dancing Bollywood Ishtyle to the tunes of Om Shanthi Om; dancing like Sheila in Sheila ki Jawani; and pelvic thrusting to the beats of tempo of Kala Sala and Google Google. Even the Gangnam Song kept the exhausted crowd on their feet till the end, and somewhere in the dark corners were the shy ones dancing slowly while their drinks coupled with music intoxicated them.

There were smacks on the back, pinches on the hips, pats on the chests, and a French kiss… oh heck! It was dark after all! The cupid had to keep up without running out of arrows! Well, that’s when the members decided to help the poor cupid. CD members organized a stall called “Secret Roses” whereby guests could anonymously offer a secret rose to another guy in the crowd they found hot or adorable, by informing or showing the members. A member would proceed to the guy and present the rose stating he has an admirer. But it just didn’t end with that! The rose pumped up the adrenalin in the guys which made them hunt of the secret admirer. Whether they found out or not… couldn’t be too bothered! Bet many would have said “yes”. There were few guests who were too kind and offered the roses to the members of the stall itself. Awe… Ain’t that chooo chweeet!! It has to be highlighted that we did have some daring Romeos who wanted to present the rose to the ones they admired directly!!! Kudos to them! Don’t be surprised if they actually took the rose to the bed together.

In every love stories, there’s always a “best Jodi” – the right couple. Be it Romeo & Juliet, Laila & Majnu, Brangelina, Shah Rukh & Kajol, Amitabh & Rekha, Surya & Jyothika, or . We all have our favourites. But for CD members, it turned out to be a tough task to identify the “Best Couple”, lovingly titled “Oh La La!” And oh la la, they certainly were – Uday and Anand. Amongst the many couples who came, some in same clothing, some in opposites, some dressed as per their personality et al; this couple made it to the top with their charms, persona, love, and their hot steps on the dance floor. For those who didn’t win the title… don’t fret and lose hope. We’re sure you may be the best couples in other domains (you know what we mean!).

Well… tic-toc, tic-toc… and everyone was waiting for the verdict for the winner of Mr. Chennai Dost title as time counted its way close to midnight. Well, unlike Cinderella, none of the finalists left any glass slipper. The finalists, dressed in their best tight-fitting attires, were biting their nails, while the guys crooning over them were waiting to catch hold of them. Many guests kept enquiring the organizers whether the finalists were present at the party. Before one could say yes, one finalist or the other would pop out of the crowd for a break, but be swamped back in by their fan following! And the winner of the Mr. Chennai Dost 2013 contest went to none other Reyan, who won by a huge count. Indeed, his looks were considered to be hot and charming – fair, reasonably tall, fit, groomed, and with red rosy lips. His picture conveyed a strong sense of self-confidence with his I-am-the-hunk look. Crowned with a wreath of pink ribbons and flowers, and adorned with a titled sash, Reyan was presented with the Mr. Chennai Dost trophy by Rupesh Reddy (Head, CD Events & Public Relations). Running closely behind was our Runner-up, Vivek. With his cute looks and sharp features, he is famously known as the Persian King, His eyes spoke volumes and his picture frame caught the attention of many passers-by. Reyan seemed flattered and lit up with his million watt smile, while Vivek was head over heels having raced ahead of the other finalists to grab the second spot. No, there was no oh-my-god-I-won crying scene. It wasn’t a beauty pageant… but it was a pageant of being yourself and being recognized.

This Valentine’s party wasn’t just a regular party to meet guys and hook up. It was a platform to create awareness about Chennai Dost; to provide a comfortable, healthy, non-sexual social space where the LGBT community could be themselves and mingle with their own kind, and probably meet their valentines. Pamphlets about CD’s vision, mission and the services offered to support the community were distributed by the members throughout the party. Presiding over the event, Vikranth (Founder of CD) stated that the party was a success and the group has been organizing and celebrating Valentine’s day with a party for the fourth year consecutively. “Through this event we continue to tell the world that love has no boundaries.” He added that “this particular event also stresses upon ‘life beyond sex’ to our community.” Vikranth mentioned that the group continues to receive overwhelming responses and hug turnouts at such parties as well as other event organized by Chennai Dost.

The whole team thanks the management of the venue and its guests for making it possible. Special thanks to the bartenders who were swift and managed to keep up with the crowd’s requests. Guys were certainly overflowing the counter for their drinks! We also thank our Bouncers who were there to prevent any untoward incidences that might have occurred. Well… for a fact we’re pretty sure that most of the guests were staring through the corners of the eyes at these Bouncers – tall, built, handsome (and for some… beefy!). But our bad luck, they didn’t turn out to be gay or bi. We certainly could see many guys smirking after being frisked before entering the venue. Ahem! You never know if one amongst them managed to even get the attention of the Bouncers too.

Nevertheless, for some they lived happily ever after; for others, the fairy-tale just began; and for few others… you never know. It could be worth the wait! Well… there’s always a next year for you guys! Buckle up, hit the gym, and visit the spas! Revamp yourself and present the new you at next year’s valentine to sweep your guy-next-door (or be swept by Prince Charming)!
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ram (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay readers to the INDIA country page on 13/03/2013 tagged with sexual orientation
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Dear..Renee can ihave ur mail id...So that i can contact u..
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