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Karine
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In Armenia currently there is no law protecting LGBT people.The main problem is the social mood and traditions.Armenia is Caucasian country,where people are not very polite,educated,they may not have sexual knowledge and may not be democraticly developped.Armenian society is not ready to accept LGBT's and not even ready to have discussions about it.UN and International human rights center is trying to help Armenia to resolve thouse problems.
Same sex marriage has became possible in Portugal since June 7.
Two administrative changes have been made recently to resolve snafus encountered by same-sex couples.
People who married in other countries before the Portuguese law took effect now will have their foreign marriages recognized. Previously, those marriages were not recognized but, at the same time, such couples couldn't marry in Portugal because they were already married.
The second change removed a requirement to include the gender of the person one intends to marry on a required certificate of matrimonial capacity that a foreigner must obtain from his or her native land before marrying in Portugal. There were problems with getting such certificates from some nations that oppose same-sex marriages.
One does not have to live in Portugal to get married there.
En nuestro pías,poca incidencia en el tema de nuestra población como mujeres TRANS,como organización estamos trabajando en las zonas rurales, que no seles informa, ni seles ase la prueba de VIH,a si poder acceder al los centros de salud con una mejor atención con calidad y calidez
THE PEOPLE IN UERTO RICO SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEIR BEHAVIOR TOWARS THE GAY COMMUNITY IN THIS SMALL ISLAND!!! I HAVE CHOSEN TO LIVE HERE IN THE US FOR THAT SAME REASON... Y CANT PEOPLE LIVE AND LET OTHER LIVE???
This is a paper I wrote a while ago entitled "A Proof Against Marriage Conservancy"... I figured I might as well share it somehow before I forgot it. Enjoy.
A Proof Against Marriage Conservancy
Explanation
The marriage conservative is a hypocrite. A person is a hypocrite when they hold two contradictory views simultaneously as if they were not contradictory.
The marriage conservative says that “same-sex” couples should be prohibited from marriage. This would mean: same-sex persons should not be married, same gendered people should not be married, and, presumably, people who are closet homosexuals should not be married (an issue we will not cover in this article). But, clearly, this position is unjustifiable, for it is contradictory. Let me demonstrate why.
The “Same-Sex” Couple
The marriage conservative says that “same-sex” marriages should be prohibited. However, this is clearly unjustifiable for these reasons:
A: to prohibit something, it must be clear what it is you are prohibiting.
1: A same-sex marriage is an ambiguous definition.
2: If a same-sex marriage is an ambiguous definition, then it follows that it is not clear what to prohibit if same-sex marriage should be prohibited.
B: It is not clear what to prohibit if “same-sex” marriages should be prohibited
The “same-sex” marriage conservative’s position could either be held as the homosexual position, the homogender position, or both position.
By one position, male-male marriages and female-female marriages should be prohibited. By another position, man-man marriages and woman-woman marriages should be prohibited. However, logically neither of these positions makes sense. The conservative cannot justifiably hold both of these positions without contradicting himself (or herself). Thus, the conservative cannot hold any of these views justifiably. But, do not take my word for it. See for yourself.
The Three Positions Of “Same-Sex” Marriage Conservancy
When we say that someone is a male or a female or when we say that someone is a man or a woman what do we mean exactly?
Sex:
By definition, a person is male if they possess XY chromosomes and a person is female if they possess XX chromosomes (regardless of their gender).
Gender:
By definition, a person is a man if they possess the physical attributes of a man and a person is a woman if they possess the physical attributes of a woman (regardless of their chromosomes).
1.
The homosexual conservative position would hold the following:
A: If a person is male, then he should be prohibited from marrying another male
B: If a person is female, then she should be prohibited from marrying another female.
Naturally, however, this does not make any sense.
If the marriage conservative says that a homosexual relationship is determined by the chromosomes of each person in the relationship then the following could be true:
@: A male could marry a female.
@2: A female could marry a woman
@3: A male could marry a man.
In all 3 cases a male would marry a female, however there is obviously a contradiction here. Neither @, @2, or @3 imply that a man marries a woman. The marriage conservative could try to defend this position. Although it is fairly clear that the marriage conservative would object to this conclusion.
The marriage conservative cannot, then, justifiably hold that a “same-sex” couple is determined by the chromosomes of each person in the relationship.
Now, the marriage conservative can hold that a “same-sex” couple is determined by the gender of each member in the relationship. Let us see how defensible this position is.
2:
The homogender conservative position would hold the following:
C: If a person is a man, then he should be prohibited from marrying another man.
D: If a person is a woman, then she should be prohibited from marrying another woman.
It would appear this argument solves the contradiction present in the homosexual argument. But that is simply not the case. Rather, C & D are equally as confusing as A & B and, thus, equally as unjustifiable.
For C and D to be true the following must also be true:
#1: A male could marry a female.
#2: A female could marry a female.
#3: a male could marry a male
#4: a woman could marry a female.
#5: A man could marry a male
The homogender argument allows for even more of a contradiction! If the marriage conservative holds that homogender couples should be prohibited from being married then it makes it no harder for homosexual couples to still be married—which is contradictory to the conservative’s position to begin with.
All that must be allowed for the homogender position to hold is that a person who is physically not a woman marries someone who is physically not a man. However, this position has nothing to say about the sex of those individuals or the “real” gender of those individuals. Based on the homogender argument the following could be true.
%: A man who is male can have a sex-change operation and marry a man.
%: A woman who is female can have a sex-change operation and marry a woman.
%: A male who is a woman can have a sex-change operation and marry a woman
%: A female who is a man can have a sex-change operation and marry a man.
If we allow C & D then we have completely contradicted A & B! Similarly if we allow A & B we have completely contradicted C & D!
It must be that there is something inherently flawed or wrong about the marriage conservative’s position because the marriage conservative cannot justifiably hold positions A & B or positions C & D (or both) without contradicting themselves.
In other words, the homogender conservative argument is contradictory and the homosexual conservative argument is contradictory. For the marriage conservative’s position to be justifiable, it must be, then, that when the marriage conservative tries to prohibit “same-sex” marriages they are neither prohibiting homogender marriages or homosexual marriages. It would appear, then, that the marriage conservative cannot believe in prohibiting “same-sex” marriages. Perhaps, then, the marriage conservative does not believe in prohibiting “same-sex” marriages…
Clearly this is not the case, though. The marriage conservative most definitely takes a stance on marriage and proclaims: “same sex marriages should be prohibited.” However, it is doubtful, then, that the conservative knows what he (or she) is even speaking about when he (or she) is even saying this.
Let me explain this further. For, perhaps, it is not clear yet that the marriage conservative cannot justifiably hold that “same-sex” marriages should be prohibited. Perhaps, you may think, the marriage conservative can justifiably hold the position that combines both the homosexual and homogender positions
3.
The conservative position of both the homosexual and homogender positions would hold the following:
E: Only a male who is a man can marry a female who is a woman (vice versa)
This position, however, proves to be simply the most flawed of them all! Let us examine why.
How does one know, in the first place, that they are, in fact, a male (XY) woman? Or, in other words, how would a woman know that she is not a male with androgen-insensitivity-syndrome (AIS)?
It is conceivable that she may live her whole life as a woman and never truly know that she is a male. She may very well indeed marry a man. She may very well indeed marry a marriage conservative. If neither the male (XY) woman nor the marriage conservative knew about her condition, would it matter? I beg the question, does the fact that she is an XY woman matter? That is, does the fact that she is a male matter? Or does the fact that she is a woman matter? Or, furthermore, does the fact that she is a person who wishes to marry the marriage conservative matter most, instead? Let us, in this case, call the female man Dibs and the conservative Dobs.
I’ll give another example.
Suppose Joe marries Alex. A man marries a woman. The conservative has no problem (he assumes…).
Now, suppose Joanna (XX) was born with congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH). In females this syndrome may likely result in an elongated clitoris and a fusing of the labia. In other words, masculinization of the genitals occurs and, essentially, Joanna (XX) is a man. She is a female man. Suppose, then, Joanna changed her name to Joe and, eventually, met a woman named Alex. They fall in love and, legally, they are married. Problems?
Anyone who is not a marriage conservative would see no issue with this story. Why would we? Joanna (Joe) is in love with Alex. A man is in love with a woman. What is the problem? However, there should be something awfully tangy to the conservative about this: Joanna is a female marrying a woman.
Now consider that Alex was really a female man (like Joanna) but (unlike Joanna) had a common surgery to correct CAH during her infancy.
Does this fact make the story any more revolting? For the conservative, most definitely. It becomes clear, any way you spin it, that a “same-sex” marriage has not only occurred but it has been sanctioned! How could the conservative have justifiably prohibited this?!
Pretend for a moment that Joe was from a small town in Brazil, where no doctors knew of the condition CAH. In this case, Joe would always be Joe and never know the difference. For all intents and purposes, Joe would feel like a man and think she were a man. In this case, could the marriage conservative justifiably prohibit Joe and Alex’s marriage?
The answer is no. The marriage conservative cannot justifiably distinguish what it is he (or she) wishes to prohibit in this case. If the conservative wishes to take the homosexual position then the marriage of Joe and Alex would be impermissible but the marriage of Dibs and Dobs would be permissible. If the conservative wishes to take the homogender approach then both cases would be permissible. If the marriage conservative, then, took the position of both positions neither the marriage of Dibs and Dobs nor the marriage of Joe and Alex would be acceptable.
Can the marriage conservative rightly argue, though, that neither the marriage of Dibs and Dobs nor the marriage of Joe and Alex would be acceptable? The answer is no. When Dibs marries Dobs or Joe marries Alex, for all intents and purposes, a man marries a woman and a female marries and male. For, there is no easy way of knowing that Joe was a female and Dibs was a male. And, if we cannot know it, then why should it be relevant?
Of course, you may say, that we can know this. However, what you are really saying is that we can test for this information. The fact remains, we cannot simply know it—or at least, in many cases, it may be hard to know it, just as it is hard to know that someone plucks their eyebrows or has broken their wrist before. The contradiction here is that the marriage conservative knows what it is he (or she) is prohibiting, when really he (or she) does not.
There are an infinite variety of stories I can make up along these lines to illustrate the point. The point does not lie in my creativity—or anyone else’s for that matter. The point is merely that the marriage conservatives should see the flaws in their position, namely that the position of “same-sex” marriage prohibition cannot justifiably be held the way it currently is. It is simply absurd and contradictory.
But, this is not the end of our discussion. The “same-sex” marriage position certainly has not been completely defeated!
Revisions to the Marriage Conservative’s Approach
What then is there for the marriage conservative to do? If he (or she) cannot hold his (or her) position justifiably, then, what?
X: We reject the idea of “same-sex” marriage prohibition
Y: We revise the idea of “same-sex” marriage prohibition
Let us start with Y.
Y.
How may we revise the position of “same-sex” marriage prohibition?
First of all, we need to know what it is that the “same-sex” marriage prohibition cannot justifiably hold.
If the “same-sex” marriage prohibition holds that no two people of the same sex may be married it would be absurd and contradictory. A person’s sex can be completely independent of their gender. Furthermore, while it is fairly obvious what a person’s gender is, it is not obvious what a person’s sex is. This position threatens to confuse what it is that the marriage conservative stands for in the first place. This position would even threaten to dissolve many marriages that have already been deemed permissible.
If the “same-sex” marriage prohibition holds that no two people of the same gender may be married it must specify the following: no two people who are currently of the same gender may be married. This qualification would rightly end the contradiction in the “same-sex” marriage prohibition.
However, this qualification does not make the “same-sex” marriage prohibition any more justifiable! In the following section I will demonstrate why this is true:
X.
We reject the idea of the “same-sex” marriage prohibition.
The only defensible position the “same-sex” marriage prohibition can hold is that we qualify the homogender argument to mean any two people who are currently of the same gender, rejecting the homosexual argument altogether. However, this qualification is clearly arbitrary and seems to be absurd in respect to the bases for the “same-sex” marriage prohibition to begin with!
That is, if we accept the homogender argument under this qualification that would mean that the conservative would have to accept Joe and Alex’s matrimony as completely permissible. But, it does not seem that this is the conservative’s position.
Furthermore, it does not seem justifiable to permit the matrimony of Alex and Joe… but not that of Alex and Joanna. The change between these two circumstances is merely superficial. Fundamentally Joanna as a man and Joanna as a woman is entirely the same person, Joe. Similarly, Alex as a man and Alex as a woman is entirely the same person, Alex.
Why should it make any difference what gender a person is, when we consider the case of Alex and Joe, if they are to be married? If, for some reason, Joe decided to get a sex change as well and become female, like Alex did early on, well… is there anything more wrong about this than the fact that a female married a female in the first place?!
Strictly speaking, the conservative cannot win. The conservative cannot win simply because the “same-sex” marriage prohibition just does not make any sense! No matter how the conservative swings it, their position is absurd and contradictory. It is impossible to justify an absurd and contradictory position.
Yet, despite this, the “same-sex” marriage prohibition still holds! Surely this must be some sort of mistake. The marriage conservative does not have a clear idea of what he (or she) is prohibiting when he (or she) prohibits same-sex marriage. If the same-sex marriage conservative does not know what it is he (or she) is prohibiting, then it follows that they cannot rationally prohibit it! That is, either he (or she) is irrational or he (or she) just has not thought about the issue clearly.
I hope to (the conservative’s) god that he (or she) just simply has not seen this issue clearly. I would hate to think that those that run our government and, subsequently, our lives are irrational…
Discussion
Despite what you may have thought, the point of this paper was not to prove that the marriage conservative is a hypocrite and that his (or her) position is unjustifiable. No. That is true. Any reasonable person would see this. As such, it is not worth discussing.
There is another point that is worth discussion, though. That is, these sorts of conversations are useless. Who really cares if we can prove that the marriage conservative is a hypocrite or if his (or her) position is unjustifiable? You may say that we should be interested in the truth. But, I would posit that for most, the truth is highly irrelevant.
In minor discussions such as these we distract ourselves from major issues. Right now, the world is in distress. People are suffering unnecessarily: starving, homeless, and dispossessed. They are victims of frivolous brutality: rape, murder, and genocide. But, despite this, we could help them. Shouldn’t our concerns be on those in need as opposed to on petty squabbles concerning ideology? If the question of “same-sex” marriage prohibition is one of morality, then how can we rightly call ourselves moral people and neglect the real, solvable issue pressing us: the global welfare of humanity.
My argument is that this paper, really, serves no purpose. I never should have had to write it in the first place. That is, those same people who champion marriage conservancy would be better off attacking real problems like human trafficking in India, gang violence, or the HIV pandemic. Similarly, those people who try to fight the marriage conservative should save their breath and disengage. Both of their efforts could be better spent.
The liberal and the conservative are always going to disagree. It is in our genes. This does not mean, however, that we cannot overlook these trifling interests and see the big picture. As technology advances and burgeoning countries develop, the world community is growing tighter than ever. While only yesterday it may have been that the problems of our neighbors were none of our concern, today we cannot ignore them. Doing so we are no better than the proverbial ostrich burying its head in the sand. Closing our eyes does not make issues go away, despite that being the most immediate and accessible solution to our global problems. In this same way, attacking different issues may satisfy us and keep us occupied in the short term but that will most certainly prove to be our undoing in the long term.
Perhaps the marriage conservative should see this problem of “same-sex” marriage not in the sanctity of the thing itself, marriage, but in perspective of what it means altogether. The problem of the people of Sodom was not directly in the nature of their actions. Rather, it was that they were “arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy.” (Ezekiel 16:49). But, in our petty debate, are we no better? What have we achieved for the poor and the needy in this argument? I would go so far as to say: nothing. The poor and needy are still suffering, and we, neglecting them to argue over ideology, have all become no different than those arrogant, overfed, and unconcerned people of Sodom.
If people wish to marry, let them. Who are we to stand opposed to another person’s happiness when such happiness is of no consequent to us? I say, drop it. We’re bigger than this. Instead of fighting over ourselves, we could help the poor and needy. There are bigger fish to fry, let’s not miss the forest for the trees.
Either way the marriage conservative loses. Really, what does he (or she) win from winning this debate? Sure there’s pride… but surely that is not worth the suffering of those whose happiness such a conclusion deprives. Perhaps we can create a win-win situation: The marriage conservative drops the issue and starts attacking real problems, the conclusion of which would actually prove to be a valuable contribution to this world. This horse is dead. The only thing left to do now is bury it and walk away. To continue beating it would be insane.
Thus concludes the proof against marriage coconservancy.
Aníbal
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Hi, I am 66 years old and my partner is 36. We have had this relationship for 6 years now and we love each other deeply and are very happy. It was only this year, in February, that I came out of the closet in front of my two children, both married heterosexually. They accepted my sexuality and relationship naturally and reacted with a shrug and a warm hug. Our relationship father-son/daughter has improved greatly since. The only thing I regret regarding my coming out is not having done so much, much earlier. I feel so free since I told my children "I´m gay"
Now I suffer from serious complication out of gender reassignment surgery in Thailand forced to recognisation of my personality, that is, my legal sex. But no dorcor help or care me and I also suffer from dreadful discrimination because of my disabilities, not only my gender identity. And further I am oppressed because I translated The Yogyakarta Principles into Japanese and Latin that are in Wipipedia. But I regret to translate this into Swedish where forced stelirisations are required for legal sex change. Yet I am released to know that United Nation have recognised NGO for LGBT according to the additional recommandation of The Yogyakarta Principles. I have been treated as a slave because of my gender identity. Still now I even regret that I hesitated to kill myself at the age of ten. My future depends on the permission of my asylum.
I hope the brothers in the United Alenthdp help me to solve issues
like any other case of brothers Iraqis in Iraq and the rest is in fear
and suspicion and anxiety My name is Hassan, 28 years old from
Baghdad, and I work as a journalist, beginning at and I experienced
and a number of areas, and I'm good at English and French, in spite of
the mother tongue Arabic, and I frankly I lived my life in anxiety and
fear that Ekshffine one that I am Gay, and I can not live my life this
very moment that I was young, had been harassed several, although
Tstre what inside of me and my story to this case with a member of the
government in Iraq, it made me live a state of dread and fear of
severe escape from Baghdad and live temporarily in northern Iraq, and
please help me in this matter and I await your response because I
desperately need you and thank you very much with appreciation
& thank you
Hasan
I hope the brothers in the United Alenthdp help me to solve issues
like any other case of brothers Iraqis in Iraq and the rest is in fear
and suspicion and anxiety My name is Hassan, 28 years old from
Baghdad, and I work as a journalist, beginning at and I experienced
and a number of areas, and I'm good at English and French, in spite of
the mother tongue Arabic, and I frankly I lived my life in anxiety and
fear that Ekshffine one that I am Gay, and I can not live my life this
very moment that I was young, had been harassed several, although
Tstre what inside of me and my story to this case with a member of the
government in Iraq, it made me live a state of dread and fear of
severe escape from Baghdad and live temporarily in northern Iraq, and
please help me in this matter and I await your response because I
desperately need you and thank you very much with appreciation
& thank you
Hasan
Hasan
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hi for everyone
I hope the brothers in the United Alenthdp help me to solve issues
like any other case of brothers Iraqis in Iraq and the rest is in fear
and suspicion and anxiety My name is Hassan, 28 years old from
Baghdad, and I work as a journalist, beginning at and I experienced
and a number of areas, and I'm good at English and French, in spite of
the mother tongue Arabic, and I frankly I lived my life in anxiety and
fear that Ekshffine one that I am Gay, and I can not live my life this
very moment that I was young, had been harassed several, although
Tstre what inside of me and my story to this case with a member of the
government in Iraq, it made me live a state of dread and fear of
severe escape from Baghdad and live temporarily in northern Iraq, and
please help me in this matter and I await your response because I
desperately need you and thank you very much with appreciation
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HI to everybody.
We - my friend and I need a help. I'm from Ukraine, now living in Poland. My friend from Czech living in UK. We want to be together. but can't married in Czech course of his family and course he is long time living in UK. one way for us - to have a job and live in Netherlands, became a residance permission and then married.
Been UE citizen he can do that without problem. But not me.
If somebody can help me to receave job permit in Netherland or can tell me how to do it as soon as possible.. i will very thakfull.
please write to e-mail : vaniaba@ukr.net
thank You very much
This is a very disturbing story. I feel very sorry for this girl and hope that she can find a way to resolve her very real concerns. I am a pre op MTF living in Hawai'i and have had some level of unwanted and unwarranted harassment, not quite as bad as this, and it is extremely frightening.
There is nothing to be ashamed of, God created us differently and we all ought to tolerate and respect each other so as to live in the community harmoniously. What surprises me most is the hypocrisy of our people. They would rather live in denial than face their challenges. It will take people like you and me for the future generations to live free of fear and intimidation.
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Please help me i want an advice how can i change my sex. I want to live like a women .if anybody out there please help me .my email roopucaustine46@yahoo.com.Its urgent please
I have been dating a Syrian living in belfast Northern Ireland.I was disturbed yesterday when he told me he dates both men and women.I asked why he did not say he was bisexual before and he got angry and left my house.Could it be that he did not leave Syria of his own volition but was made to emmigrate?
7/7/10
My partner is being discriminated against at her job by her supervisor because of her sexual preference.He has used derogatory terms such as calling her Sr. and Mr. He has questioned as to why she prefers women over men as well as gave her the most difficult labors and has told her that it suits her because she wants to be man, and that what men do. It has been an ongoing situation for the past 3 month. She opted not to say anything due to the fact that she relatively new there. Yet the injustices soften a coworker’s heart and came forward and brought the matter to the attention of the general manager. It is happening so fast for her, she does not know what to do. She is not sure if she should seek legal advice or let her employer settle the situation with the interest of the company in first row…
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I was born on the 30th of July 1987 in Kinshasa, the capital of the Democratic Republic of Congo. I have always really liked the fact my zodiac sign is Leo. What do they say about Leo’s – ‘Leos tend to be dignified and strong.’ Ummm. The thought has always inspired me.
Since I was 14 years old I have known I am gay. My friends called me ‘pede’ (queer), because I have always preferred to play with girls rather than boys. I was very effeminate and attractive. My uncle, whose name was also Junior, and my old brother Olivier’s friends all raped me several times. Why did they choose to rape me? It pleased them to do so; they felt excited and powerful. They knew it was wrong, as they raped me again and again.
When I was 16 years old I experienced much stress and frustration, because I was hiding my sexual orientation. Then one day I listened to Radio Canada International, which is based in Montreal. I began to discuss my life and my sexuality with Stephen Parent, who was a journalist on Radio Canada International. Stephen assured me that being gay is not something bad or unnatural. He urged me not to give up hope or the desire to live.
Stephen put my in touch with someone called Alexis Musanganya at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) Association - ARC EN CIEL D AFRIQUE, which is based in Montreal. Together they helped me to come to terms with who I am, and to find the courage to begin to share my ‘secret’ with those around me.
I began by attending bars and visiting gay websites. I even subscribed to www.gayafrique.com to find a soul mate. I was so young and inexperienced, and so far away from Canada. Life in the Democratic Republic of Congo, in Kinshasa, in my neighbourhood among my friends, inside my home among my family – was so incredibly hurtful, as a direct result of my sexuality. I am gay and being gay in the Democratic Republic of Congo is not something anyone would choose to be at this moment in time, because being gay is considered completely unacceptable – sinful even.
My parents were divorced and both remarried when I was young. I lived with my mother until she and my step-father, a conservative pastor, learnt that I was gay. My mother kicked me out of the home. They wanted nothing to do with me. I caused them embarrassment and shame. They broke my heart. I was sixteen years old and yearned for the support and acceptance of my family. I longed for someone to love me and to guide me. To make me feel safe when all around me there was so much unkindness towards people who are gay.
So what did I do then? Luckily the Leo in me rose to the occasion and I contacted Amnesty International. They in turn connected me up with Francoise Mukuky, who was working with the feminist association Si Jeunesse Savait in Kinshasa. But things did not work out for me in Kinshasa, so after a while I moved to the Province of Bandundu to live with my father and to study Law at the University.
During this period I was introduced to Facebook, by the late George Kanuma. From a small town in the Democratic of Congo my world was opened up through Facebook. People shared their experiences and knowledge. I began to feel not so alone.
I met Dennis Hambridge on Facebook and together we created a group called ARC EN CIEL RDCONGO. This was established to raise awareness about the underground LGBT community within my country. I also joined Gay Activist Alliance International (GAAI). I was becoming involved, motivated and more knowledgeable.
I wish I could have stayed to finish my Law Degree. I wish I could have stayed in my beloved country. But my life was under threat everyday whilst I was at University. No-one wanted to publicly support me and many expressed their fears and hatred by hurting and abusing me. I began to fear for my life – and so doing watched my dream of becoming a lawyer slip away.
Today I am twenty-two years old and living in Cape Town, South Africa. Three courageous friends, Dennis Hambridge, Henk Bongers and Maik Diekmannsheike helped me to leave and make my way to South Africa. I left the Democratic Republic of Congo, my country, with a heavy heart and so much hope for a new future.
South Africa is not an easily place to live as a young gay person, who would like to complete a Law Degree. South Africa is not an easy place to live when you have no family or home or money.
I am still on my journey to find a place of safety and peace of mind. Perhaps it is tomorrow that people will wake up around me and say “Good Morning Junior,” and that I shall not have to fear being raped, or hearing hurtful descriptive phrases, as a direct result of my sexuality.
Thank you for listening to my story. I am a real person with real feelings and real dreams. I am a Leo. I also happen to be gay.
I used to meditate on various religious texts and by that i faced a terrible curse, god has forbiddened my right to mate i am destined to be a transgender. I am osterized from the social line no job nothing .I have got two aged parent's to look open, i am a big fun amongst my relatives and friends . I can't take this any more, on the verge of committing suicide pls help me if you have gopt counsellors . Help me to get a job amongst your members or make me a part of your team
Below is a letter which I am giving to human sevices in New Castle, it says something about my situation and the problems I have and why I have them. I'm not a good activist, for I have always suffered from CLOSE Quarters, but perhaps if some evidence could be brought to light about the things which happened in my past then maybe it would trigger a lawsuit to make hate crimes a federal offence.
Dear Human Services:
I have been thinking quite a bit about the many delusions which I have suffered from over the years, from believing that my memory had been covered up down at paragon trade brands in the 90’s. Though I have been delusion free for way over a year now, the thoughts of things still cause me anxiety.
Many years ago I was so frustrated in my beliefs that I punched the floor in my bedroom and dislocated a finger. To this very day that knuckle is different from the one on my right hand. I did that while kicking against the pricks, wanting to believe that something had happened down there which nobody would admit to.
And later after the first of the year in 2004 I had tried to kill myself for the very same reason. I took two bottle of Sleepenal and then when I changed my mind about dying I couldn’t even throw up, even when I stood over the sink and struggled mightily to get my fingers down as far as I could. And when I knew this wouldn’t work, I didn’t not seek help from my family which was down stairs. So I dropped into bed and lay down to die. Fear took over then. The sensation was the rawest form of anxiety. Perhaps it was the adrenaline which kept my heart beating.
I couldn’t feel my heart beating for some time, either due to the numbness caused by the drugs or that it had repeatedly stopped on me. I do remember the rushing feeling force down on me from the core of my mind, even as I repeatedly blacked out.
So finally out of desperation I got up and went outside and began running and running and when I got tired of running I would walk. My skin blistered some around my ankles. I feel that I was lucky to have escaped even in one piece.
What finally cured me of such nonsense was what happened in 2005, working for Traco and being around vats of rubbing alcohol, literally hearing voices constantly as well as having delusions of hearing angelic voices singling amazing grace. And so I got the help I needed. I want to thank the doctors of Human Services for helping me in my hours of need.
When I went to Church so many years ago, they placed a lot of blame on me for my sickness, calling it a generational curse, always wanting to baptize me in the spirit. And I even had memories of them finding out that I had shaved my legs and the girls in singles ministry picking on me about it. But I never accused them of this or anything against that church because I knew that the medications were helping me.
I am simply writing this as a good report that though I still can be stressed by things and even though I have certain memories due to the delusions which I had suffered from, that I am still taking my medications and doing better. And I do feel much better being on the trilafon. My anxiety is better, for one. As I have to do is learn to relax when driving and deal with the heat and sleep better.
Below is a letter which I am giving to human sevices in New Castle, it says something about my situation and the problems I have and why I have them. I'm not a good activist, for I have always suffered from CLOSE Quarters, but perhaps if some evidence could be brought to light about the things which happened in my past then maybe it would trigger a lawsuit to make hate crimes a federal offence.
Dear Human Services:
I have been thinking quite a bit about the many delusions which I have suffered from over the years, from believing that my memory had been covered up down at paragon trade brands in the 90’s. Though I have been delusion free for way over a year now, the thoughts of things still cause me anxiety.
Many years ago I was so frustrated in my beliefs that I punched the floor in my bedroom and dislocated a finger. To this very day that knuckle is different from the one on my right hand. I did that while kicking against the pricks, wanting to believe that something had happened down there which nobody would admit to.
And later after the first of the year in 2004 I had tried to kill myself for the very same reason. I took two bottle of Sleepenal and then when I changed my mind about dying I couldn’t even throw up, even when I stood over the sink and struggled mightily to get my fingers down as far as I could. And when I knew this wouldn’t work, I didn’t not seek help from my family which was down stairs. So I dropped into bed and lay down to die. Fear took over then. The sensation was the rawest form of anxiety. Perhaps it was the adrenaline which kept my heart beating.
I couldn’t feel my heart beating for some time, either due to the numbness caused by the drugs or that it had repeatedly stopped on me. I do remember the rushing feeling force down on me from the core of my mind, even as I repeatedly blacked out.
So finally out of desperation I got up and went outside and began running and running and when I got tired of running I would walk. My skin blistered some around my ankles. I feel that I was lucky to have escaped even in one piece.
What finally cured me of such nonsense was what happened in 2005, working for Traco and being around vats of rubbing alcohol, literally hearing voices constantly as well as having delusions of hearing angelic voices singling amazing grace. And so I got the help I needed. I want to thank the doctors of Human Services for helping me in my hours of need.
When I went to Church so many years ago, they placed a lot of blame on me for my sickness, calling it a generational curse, always wanting to baptize me in the spirit. And I even had memories of them finding out that I had shaved my legs and the girls in singles ministry picking on me about it. But I never accused them of this or anything against that church because I knew that the medications were helping me.
I am simply writing this as a good report that though I still can be stressed by things and even though I have certain memories due to the delusions which I had suffered from, that I am still taking my medications and doing better. And I do feel much better being on the trilafon. My anxiety is better, for one. As I have to do is learn to relax when driving and deal with the heat and sleep better.
DANON Christophe
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Je vis actuellement en Belgique et rencontre enormement de problèmes avec une sorte d'homophobe peut-être une secte ou une mafia, je ne sais pas plus sur ces individus que la police elle-même, les identifier(nom) est malheureusement impossible....
Que puis-je faire ? je suis invalide aujourd'hui et m' immobilise chez moi...tellement mes déplacements sont devenus très difficile..je ne peux, hélas, faire plus de 100 mètres sans rencontrer une des ces personnes ..;qui ne manquera pas d' ennuyer mon déplacement...je me fais aussi régulièrement "injurié"..
>Ch. Danon
What if different LGBT organisations and groups began working cooperatively on different communications campaigns:
1. Targeting LGBT that helps define and promote a positive identity for LGBT people that has a useful, positive, productive role in their local communities, societies, countries, the world, etc...
2. Targeting Mainstream audiences that communicates the positive, productive roles that LGBT people fill in society:
2.1 What % of GNP can be attributed to the professional activities of LGBT people? (Could include amount of company revenue attributable to LGBT people who are managers, CEOs, business owners too...)
2.2 What % or amount of money that funds government and/or social services within any given country is thanks to the contribution of LGBT people? (Could include amount of company tax attributable to the revenus generated by LGBT people who are managers, CEOs, business owners too...)
2.2.1 How much or what % of public education funding is thanks to tax money paid by LGBT people?
2.2.2 How much or what % of funding for security/defense is thanks to tax money paid by LGBT people?
2.2.3 How much or what % of funding for healthcare? etc...
2.3 What % of consumer economic activity/growth in any given country is thanks to the spending by LGBT people? (Could include amount of company revenue attributable to LGBT people who are managers, CEOs, business owners too...)
2.4 What is the overall contribution to academia/culture within any given country which can be attributed to output, artistic creations, publications, teaching, etc...thanks to LGBT people whether openly out or not about their LBGT lifestyle or identity?
Where this line of thinking is going is that in order to improve acceptance and integration of LGBT people within greater society, the above 2 things need to happen:
1. Work on building, reinforcing, and promoting positive identities for LGBT people
2. Work on the perception greater society(-ies) has/have of LGBT people -- if they are confronted with cold hard $ figures of what LGBT people do for society, if those numbers are non-negligible, this could help people view LGBT people differently.
Heather and Jeannie
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Hello, my name is Heather and I met my partner five and a half years ago at a Bible College in New Brunswick. She is an American and I am Canadian. We have each taken turns working lots of hours and the other schooling so that we could be in the same country together. WE were married in July of 2008 in Canada, where it was legal. We lived in Maine though because I was finishing school and Jeannie hd like three social work jobs. My visa ended this May (2010) and I was forced to move back to Canada. Jeannie has followed but is not legal yet, because it costs almost a total of $2000, which a social worker can't save up when trying to live and pay for two people to survive. Has anyone else had this issue? Is there another way around the fees?
Growing up in Rural Georgia has been one of the hardest things i have had to deal with as a gay man. Growing up with country, close minded folks have been really tough. They have said some pretty mean things to me over the past few years. That is y i left and moved to atlanta where there scene is more acceptable. I love travelling to big cities b.c the people there are always more acceptive of gay people. Out of all the cool cities i have been to the best one has been Buenos Aires argentina. Great gay scene with a lot of cool things to do. I went on a gay pub crawl there and it was amazing. www.outandaboutpubcrawl.com This was a gay tour of bars which was pretty cool. You would never be able to walk a gay group around where i am from. You would get heckled or even shot.
Hola i'm from a small town in Georia, USA. The gay scene is looked down upon, so its hard to open about it. I recently took a trip to Buenos Aires Argentina and would absolutely say it was a great place to be open about your sexuality. I had a really good experience there with this group called The OUT and About Pub crawl. They were a pub crawl just catered to the gay community. The staff was amazing and the bars and clubs we went to were awesome. I have never felt so comfortable walking around the streets of Buenos Aires with a bunch of others just like me. Good times. check them out at www.OutAndAboutPubCrawl.com
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Militância quer ação do governo na morte de jovem no Rio ABGLT pede que governo tome providências com relação à morte de jovem gay no Rio
Alexandre tinha 14 anos
O assassinato do jovem militante Alexandre Thomé Ivo Rojão, de 14 anos, na semana passada no Rio de Janeiro ganhou repercussão nacional e a indignação de toda a militância brasileira. Em nota enviada à imprensa no último sábado, 26, a ABGLT (Associação Brasileira de Lésbicas, Gays, Bissexuais, Travestis e Transexuais) classifica o crime como “um dos casos mais chocantes de violência homofóbica dos últimos tempos”.
Na nota, a entidade “reitera seu pedido, já formalizado duas vezes, de que o Ministério da Justiça implemente as políticas públicas previstas no Plano Nacional de Promoção da Cidadania e Direitos Humanos de LGBT, em especial as que dizem respeito à repressão da violência homofóbica”. Confira o texto na íntegra.
Nota da ABGLT sobre o assassinato de Alexandre Ivo Rajão
Alexandre Ivo Rajão, 14 anos, foi assassinado na segunda-feira, 23/06, em São Gonçalo-RJ. Alexandre foi torturado com crueldade. O adolescente era ligado ao Grupo LGBT Atitude e voluntário da Parada LGBT de São Gonçalo. No laudo consta que ele foi morto por:
1- asfixia mecânica;
2- enforcado com sua própria camisa;
3- com graves lesões no crânio, provavelmente causadas por agressões com pedras, pedaços de madeira e ferro.
Alexandre voltava para casa às 2h30, quando foi brutalmente assassinado. Seu corpo foi deixado num terreno baldio.
O delegado Geraldo Assed, da 72ª DP (Mutuá), suspeita que o crime tenha sido praticado por skinheads e motivado por intolerância à orientação sexual. Três suspeitos foram detidos.
Este é um dos casos mais chocantes de violência homofóbica dos últimos tempos. A ABGLT conclama as autoridades competentes para que tomem todas as medidas cabíveis, que a justiça seja feita e os culpados punidos exemplarmente. Não podemos tolerar mais um caso de impunidade.
Segundo dados do Grupo Gay da Bahia, 198 lésbicas, gays, bissexuais, travestis e transexuais foram assassinados no Brasil apenas no ano de 2009, seguindo uma tendência anual crescente, e representando uma média de 1 assassinato a cada 2 dias. Sem dúvida, estes dados são subnotificados, uma vez que dependem de informações obtidas através do monitoramento dos meios de comunicação, e não existe o registro oficial (governamental) de estatísticas sobre a violência homofóbica.
A ABGLT reitera seu pedido, já formalizado duas vezes, de que o Ministério da Justiça implemente as políticas públicas previstas no Plano Nacional de Promoção da Cidadania e Direitos Humanos de LGBT, em especial as que dizem respeito à repressão da violência homofóbica.
A ABGLT pede que sejam feitos pronunciamentos sobre o caso na Câmara dos Deputados e no Senado Federal, e que este seja um dos casos a serem expostos na Audiência Pública sobre Assassinatos de Homossexuais, a ser realizado no final deste ano pela Comissão de Direitos Humanos e Minorias da Câmara dos Deputados, com requerimento já aprovado, proposto pela deputada Iriny Lopes e pelo deputado Iran Barbosa.
A ABGLT exige que seja aprovado o Projeto de Lei da Câmara nº 122/2006, que entre diversas formas de discriminação, proíbe e pune a discriminação por orientação sexual e identidade de gênero.
Até quando parte do Congresso Nacional vai ser conivente com a prática da homofobia? Quantas pessoas LGBT ainda vão ter que sofrer discriminação e até ser mortas para que o Congresso Nacional cumpra seu papel de legislar para o bem de todos os segmentos da população?
Corroborando com a fala da dona Angélica, mãe de Alexandre Ivo, "... a gente tem que ser livre... , as pessoas têm que ter o direito de ir e vir, não interessa se você gosta de vermelho, eu gosto de laranja e ele gosta de branco", queremos uma sociedade que respeite a todos e todas, sem violência.
ABGLT - Associação Brasileira de Lésbicas, Gays, Bissexuais, Travestis e Transexuais
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I waited 23yrs to accept that i was Day because my country this that being gay is a disorder but i am GLAD that i have accepted myself and have a wonderful girl who loves me
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I live in a small town and it is hard to find a woman because they are so tight lipped over this stuff, and really would like to meet some nice woman and take it from there. So I don't understand how this all works and don't know how anyone gets ahold of you but hopefully its from here. Please write and I will answer , Corey
SAME SEX SURROGACY - Feature in the next issue of Fertility Road (www.fertilityroad.com). First Lifestyle Fertility Magazine! We are happy to announce that we are working together with Pride Angel to provide a fantastic resource for all the gay community that have an interest in becoming parents.For more information please visit Fertility Road website..
My name is George Reginald Freeman. We lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people face violence and exploitation at home, in our schools, communities, clubs, churches and street. For me violence has become a way of life. It hurts my body, mind and family because it is kept invisible. Violence and exploitation goes together which remains strong in my community. Like most of the world Sierra Leone is a very homophobic place. Homophobia does not only lead to the perpetuation of myths and stereotype about LGBT people, but more importantly to the creation of an environment in which we LGBT people feel vulnerable and unsafe.
I want to bring to your attention the dangers faced by LGBT people in my beloved Sierra Leone and throughout Africa. It is an issue which most African leaders do not like to address as we are considered ‘as a waste in society and considered deader than the dead’. In fact, many African leaders do not want to even acknowledge that we exist. Their denial has many disastrous results for our community.
We do exist. But because of the denial of our existence, I live in constant fear of the police and officials who have arrested and detained me several times simply because I am a gay.
I live in fear as my family has disowned me and kicked me out of the family house, as it is very common for LGBT people when their identity becomes known. I was mocked and a lot of people gathered around me provoked, mocked and disgraced me publicly which make me ashamed and feel shy after the death of my mother in December 24th 1999, I was a street child for five years.
I was abused, neglect, dejected and looked upon by the society. As street child things were very hard as there are no shelters during rainy seasons, even a meal per day one must be lucky to get one. In order for me to survive under those difficult circumstances, I was forced by hunger to do some menial jobs like, washing plates for cookery shops, collecting garbage’s from the gutter, carrying foodstuffs for people in the market stalls. Despite all these inhuman and degrading treatment I had in life, I was more determined never to let this background affect my future, as my vision was to help other LGBT people like myself to become better individuals in society. I used the money I earn from menial job to up keep and educate myself.
I believe that my background as a street child really gave me a better edge to express profound empathy towards my unfortunate brothers and sisters (Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people) in Sierra Leone. As a former street child who went through all the difficulties in life, I believe I'm in the better position to salvage the predicament of street children and fellow LGBT people in my society. As I felt how they felt, and think alike of solutions that will enhance our status in life, I am still voiceless as I am neglected in the society.
The life I lived and experienced gained as a former street child was far more degrading. Due to the hard and bitter life I crawled through as a former gay street child, everyday came with a different dimension of difficulties that only a determined and focused mind can sail through and advocate for my other LGBT brothers and sisters as we are the silence and neglected voices in our society. As the person who sailed through many challenges in life, I strongly believe that I'm more than capable to identify the problems faced and solutions to make a visible change in our lives.
I live in fear within my community, where I face constant harassment and violence from neighbors and other people on the street; just because of my sexual orientation is gay. Their homophobic attacks go unpunished by the police and other authorities, further encouraging their discriminatory and violent attitude.
When African leaders, especially Sierra Leoneans use culture, tradition, religion and societal norms to deny our existence they send a message that tolerates discrimination, violence and overall indignity.
There are no accesses to health care facilities for LGBT people in Sierra Leone. I have to hide my sexual identity for me to attend school. I was not accepted into any University in Sierra Leone, so I did a correspondence course with the Institute of Commercial Management London where I acquired a Diploma in International Business Communication and Business Management and Administration.
We LGBT people in Sierra Leone are being called as a waste in society and a nuance in our community. “Should we sit down and allow the trend to continue?” This is a question that lingers in my mind which prompted me to strongly come out to advocate and defend the rights of other LGBT young people which I strongly believe will not only salvage the predicament of us LGBT people, but will give us solution and hope in life. I want to join hands with other LGBTQ activist so that we can fight for the inclusion and liberation of our LGBT human rights and the emancipation of hate crimes, violence and discrimination in Africa, especially Sierra Leone.
I intend to advocate by breaking down the stereotypes and creating a more understanding world for inter-racial, inter-religious and queer couples worldwide. I want to promote understanding, respect and equality for inter-racial, inter-religious and LGBT people worldwide.
I urge LGBT people, youth development activists, local and international human rights organization, LGBT Organizations, LGBT philanthropists, Civil Society Movements and Governmental agencies to break the chains of violence and exploitation so that we can live in peace, love, dignity and respect.
“I want to assure you that change start with a small intention, being put into action is realised far beyond our imagination”
George Reginald Freeman – WhyCantWeGetMarried.Com West Africa Regional Coordinator
My partner and I visited Barbados and made friends with a gay couple who openly live together on the island. It would seem that although the law has not been changed regarding particularly male homosexual activitiy, it is not enforced. There is a gay community and my partner and I had no issues booking into a hotel where we shared a bed. The Leader of the current Opposition Party in Paliament also supports equal treatment for all including gay people. The island also seems to welcome LGBT tourists.
However, it is a social conservative with Protestant Christian values, which means that only openly affectionate or sexual acts in public, whether straight (and certainly not gay) are frowned upon.
So as a gay tourist, provided you are not demonstrative in public, you should have a great holiday.
Guys, everyone of you knows that there are countries liberal to homosexuality, although in some states the attitude to it is exceptionally awful. Russia is one of them.
Here talking about legal gay or lesbian marriages makes somebody risk to be not even blamed but killed. Homophobia is one of the most important problems thus being an obstacle to LGBTI existence. Anyway. Types of it differ from one individual to another but the most widely spread is that almost everybody here is not straight. Nevertheless the mentality doesn't give an ability to reveal, the majority of them has to hide. No way to come out.
Nowadays the main problem is of students, they don't get any possibility even to meet each other (I mean other belonging to LGBTI), so cases of commiting suicidal action among them increase. Really impossible to live here. As for me, a schoolboy, there is the only way - to immigrate. I suppose everybody of my age here will maintain the same position.
Individual members of our LGBT Organisation were scammed by a man - Ivan Bruce Ssempa Ssendenge, a Ugandan claiming to be a gay Asylum Seeker who had survived horrendous violence and fled to the UK.
After supporting him (fortunately only in our individual capacity, to protect the organisation) and getting him released from detention, the two women who'd acted as bail guarantours and out him up discovered he'd been watching the TV Adult channel and downloading ONLY heterosexual pornography on their laptop, visiting over 100 porn sites in the process!
Be warned, do not let yourselves be scammed like this!
In British Columbia, Canada, intersex people who go to the clinics that are supposedly for LGBT (and I) get targeted by gangs involved with prostitution.
They get targeted AT THE CLINIC. Someone on the inside tips off the gangs that they have an appointment, and they get tailed when they leave it and are then targets.
There are NO specialists for Intersexuality in BC.
It took me 8 months of DEMANDING to get a karotype test.
People have targeted me in my home, shortly after I visited the clinic, and no one else knew of the condition.
The police don't investigate hate crimes in BC. Only 2 people have ever been charged in the last 15 years.
Vancouver is one of the top 3 destinations for pedophiles, what people overlook is that all conditions that are fetishized are also cause for being targeted as a victim.
Caroline Wheeler was trying to get specialists for intersex people to get proper care. Her plane was sabotaged, and her murder was called an accident.
A professor has proposed the change of 'Homophobia' to 'Anti Gay' because Homo means same and Phobo(s) means fear. Id Est: Homophobia means two or more persons fearing the same thing, example: Tom and John are afraid of elevators so they are homophobic about elevators. Thus Homophobia does not apply for fearing homosexual(s). It applies to two or more persons that have the same fear(Homo-same, Phobo-fear).
Sinaark
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Hi Everyone. This is Sinaark from India, Asia. I'm a film maker. I'm currently working on a script. Though the 377 section(LGBT rights) has become legalised in our country in the last year, still 90% people are treating it as a different issue.My script is to establish LGBT is nothing but a pure form of love and it's natural. With it the awareness portion will also be there.
I've assisted few national award winning directors in our country. I need help from all over the world. As it is an inspirational story I need financial support. Please response me.@ thegreatark@yahoo.co.in
Israeli and Pround
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The Israeli gov't has dealt with riots, demonstrations and outrage by certain groups when they allow the Gay Pride Parade each year in Jerusalem. This location is perhaps the most central part of every religion and every year it gets this organizaiton tons of free press.
I don't remember any such parade happening in the streets of Turkey, Saudi Arabia, Syria etc.
What kind of friends are you? The only country in the middle east that supports your rights and you refuse to host them in your Spanish parade out of politics.
You're cowards- shame on you
Siarhei Androsenka
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Arrested, Beaten, Threatened, Jailed and Sent for Trial Just for Taking Part in Slavic Gay Pride
By Sergey Yenin (probably the most dramatic 1,000 words written about a Gay Pride event anywhere in the world this year)
There were four of us in the taxi. Myself, Logan (and Australian filmmaker), Jack (his boyfriend) and Chad (a photographer working on a project Walk with Pride). I couldn’t help shivering in anticipation of the upcoming Pride march and the possible extreme few hours that I would probably face. But I couldn’t let my friends worry as well. The taxi driver noticed that something was really wrong with the place he had to drop us off.
“What’s going on here? Who are you?” – the taxi driver asked me. “Just tourists going to the hotel” – I responded. It was the place where the Pride was going to take place and was situated near a hotel.
Logan prepared his camera and Jack took a paper notebook and a pen into his hands: “I hope I will look like a journalist,” he remarked.
kareem fatai balogun
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let me take it shortly and as nigeria one question before i take my story, if somebody work for some organasation and the company is making money and the jobs are risk and chairman of the company after many operation that he never collect the money of the jobs and the person bear it and still send them to another operation and the worker still complay with him now started used police treating them and he hold them ten months salary,
what can the person do, and the person is hysically challeng person, i need your advice