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Erin Dary (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian bisexual intersex readers on 02/03/2014 tagged with intersex, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion
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When I graduated high school, I didn't know what I was. Hi, my name is Erin (Legally it's Eric). This website helped me to discover who and what I am.
When I graduated, I thought I was gay, then straight, then a girl, then a boy, then something else entirely. A different website helped me discover that I am something called Intersex.
If you don't know what that is, let me explain. It is both, which is cool, because my favorite kind of science is quantum physics. If you don't know what that is, look it up. If you do, then you understand.
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nour (user currently living in LIBYAN ARAB JAMAHIRIYA) posted for transgender readers in response to this story on 25/01/2014 tagged with religion
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not in auganda only libya is just the same ....
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HELLO??? People are being imprisoned in the USA and elsewhere for merely downloading pictures or talking about having consensual sex, but ILGA doesn't care about that. In fact, ILGA continues to distribute HATE propaganda right here on its website, because ILGA is bullshit.
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Proof that the Bible does NOT condemn homosexuality! Most of the anti-homosexual ignorance and resultant hatred comes from misinterpreting the Bible. This bigotry has been around for many centuries, but just because it has survived this long does not make it correct. Time for people to learn the truth and change accordingly. The Bible does not support anti-gay actions, and there is now a scholarly book on the subject titled "Homosexuality, The Bible, The Truth - The Bible Does NOT Condemn Homosexuality." This book represents forty years of intense scholarly research into the correct meanings of every biblical passage ever used to condemn gays, and it shows with irrefutable and verifiable fact that the Bible is not on the side of the haters. "Homosexuality, The Bible, The Truth - The Bible Does NOT Condemn Homosexuality" is available through all major booksellers. Bigots who want to continue in their hatred will face the judgment of God one day, but while we are all living here, we need to promote the freeing power of truth. God made all sexual orientations, not just one, and God made no mistakes. He made no "valueless" persons, He made no one who is worthless or a "zero," and anyone who takes it upon himself to condemn God's children based on the ignorance of their self-taught prejudices cannot say they do this in His name. God is not the author of hate, He is not the author of ignorance, and He made all of us. Let there be peace, and let it begin with education in the subject of truth.
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In the U.S context, prominent domestic organizations sought to establish LGBT normalcy and inclusion as a means of assimilating into the heterosexual mainstream in order to change the minds and hearts of heterosexuals, pressuring local LBGT communities and individuals to give up their own sense of self and experience. I think its important to remember that stressing that " LGBTI people" are as normal as heterosexuals and deserve acceptance precisely because we are like every one else (aka straight people) was a political strategy. We need to remember what is normal and natural in society is constructed, our understandings of these categories are made up by mainstream society and politics. We should take pride in our difference and our queerness, we should not feel that we must make ourselves normal for others in order to feel good or enough or deserving of rights. there is no normal
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Rhiannon (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for bisexual readers on 17/12/2013 tagged with human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, marriage / civil unions, illegality of female to female relationships +10
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Living in the United States and being bisexual is probably easier than most other countries but for me it's still been hard. I figured it out quite recently actually. My parents don't know and I don't plan on telling them. My friends know and I hope they don't think any different of me. I'm happy that the states are starting to allow gay/lesbian marriages and it makes me happy that people are finally starting to think of people like me as normal. 5 years ago if I had told somebody I was bisexual I would be made fun of, I'd be frowned upon. Now in our growing world people are finally accepting us. We are stepping forward one step at a time showing people that we're no different than them. People might hear that someone is gay and call them rude things. It's happened to me. Of course when the person called me lesbian I denied it and just went back to what I was doing but honestly, it hurt. It hurt me a lot because I knew that they were thinking rude thoughts towards me. I could just tell. Yes, our economy is changing, our countries are changing, but they just aren't changing fast enough for us. We need people to stand up for us and help us fight the discrimination. I say we as in everyone on this planet. Not just LGBTI people. Everybody needs somebody to fight for them and to fight for. I want to be the kind of person who does both. The bible says things like "Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable." Do you know how this makes us feel?? We go to our schools, to our homes, possibly to church, thinking about the kind of person we are and maybe even feeling good about ourselves and then we remember something like this and it's like a knife to the back. We are individual human beings with our own minds and feelings. We can't change who we are.
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arno ralf kneisel - osce/ksze-missionsleiter der StadtCOLOUR (user currently living in SWITZERLAND) posted for gay readers on 21/09/2013 tagged with tourism, at the work place, gender identity, human rights, religion
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we have reorganisation in our project StadtCOLOUR and new contacts for the worldwide gay-community:

StadtCOLOUR
www.osce-mission-der-stadtcolour.de.rs
www.botschaftderstadtcolour.com
www.flickr.com/photos/wim-international
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I am a documentary filmmaker, gay, and have just completed a film called STRAIGHT LINE CURVE. It showcases seven successful gay men of the USA Southwest who do not fit the stereotypes often associated with homosexuality. Each man has a high profile and is fulfilled, optimistic, inspirational and proud.

I believe this film offers the world a wonderful and motivational look at the gay journey, which few people in the general populace knows exists...but it does! This 32-minute film is available on DVD.

Ed Breeding, Las Cruces, New Mexico, USA
email: breeding4051@comcast.net
www.ed-breeding.artistwebsites.com
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the following is my friend Tom's story, in his own words

I committed statutory rape with a 15-year old male when I was 51. He was my student. I loved and love him whole-heartedly and completely, and promised him unconditional love, long before any sex took place. Human behavior is complicated and has many varieties. This is an unusual story. The government told a cartoon story with broad strokes of black and white.

I was imprisoned without bond, and had my freedom of speech taken away before I had been convicted of any crime. Newspapers printed government press releases without any checking of any facts. If necessary, I will submit to a polygraph on any statement I make, from any independent administrator. Ask those who contradict my statements if they will do the same. If a statement was proved by evidence or the victim's statements, I will put (P). I have discovered that the police falsify information, and distort and manipulate facts and testimony. My belief in the United States has been shaken.

The young man, a South American adopted into an Orthodox Jewish family, was cutting himself in September of 2009 when we met. He told me it was from the frustration with his home life, and not being allowed to be Latino or social, and being forced to observe a religion he found oppressive. He said one sister attacked him physically several times. He is a remarkable, bright, witty, and kind human being, with a fierce urge for freedom. I found him to be extraordinary. He came to see me most days, even more often after he was warned by his parents that I was homosexual, I found out later.(P) He brought a chess board in for lunches when he found out I played chess. We talked about history, religion, politics, psychology. He eventually he told me about the cutting.

I called his father, talked to the rabbis, called a psychologist, put him in touch with a former student with whom I thought he might click (heterosexual), gave him a copy of The Road Less Travelled, the best book I thought on how one gets happy. He kept cutting. I was frantic to help. I promised to love him unconditionally, forever. We loved talking, and I hoped I could make up whatever he lacked. I promised to do anything in my power to help him be happy. I sent him affirmation texts. (Know you are loved, you are great as you are, say "I am a wonderful person," etc.)

Some months later, on the phone, he said we should have sex. I told him that was a "really bad idea."

Some time later, he said he was playing tennis next to my building, and he would come by to work on a project. He came up, and said he was not there to work on the project, but to have sex. I tried to talk him out of it. (P) I said I could love him without sex. (P) He said I didn't have to. I said he did not owe me sex for love. He said he knew he did not owe, he wanted it, and he said I did too. I said sex was not that important, that he should not ask such a thing just for sex. He said it was for true love, that we were soul mates, we would be together forever. I said if we were soul mates then, we would be so in a few years. He said, true, but since we were we did not have to wait. Many times, he said he needed it to live. He confirmed at trial that he believed that. (P) He believed he loved me and that I loved him. (P) I said he should be with someone his age. He said he was attracted to older men. (P) I said everyone would assume it was my fault when it came out (even years later if we were together). He said he would tell them he picked me, and besides, we would be together. He said he had known what he wanted for a long time. He said such things happened all the time. Nothing happened that day (Feb,. 13 2010) We agreed to work it out. The conversation continued the next day with many more reasons for no on my part. He finally said if it was not me, it would be some other older white guy. (P) I agreed on February 14.

I have tried to be a good person my whole life. I try not to manipulate people. I love people without sex; sex and love are not the same thing. I do not even like to have sex with someone drunk, even a boyfriend because of the consent issue. I have always tried to tell the truth. Even in teaching, I would tell students the reason I was doing something (quizzes are designed to force you to read, etc.) I have tried to help the outcasts, with chess and theater. Many students said I saved lives, saved souls.

No combination of things could have made me give in like those. I had to save the life of someone I loved, a soul mate with love so true that 35 years made no difference, and if I didn't do it he would go do it somewhere else. I justified it by saving his life, not denying true love, and protecting him from those who did not love him. It was clearly wrong, but has anyone been subject to such arguments in such a situation? He said, trust me, believe me.

I thought that rejection just might kill him. I thought he wanted to be trusted and believed. I rationalized that the release of sex with someone he loved might stop the cutting. I let myself believe. He said in a statement later he did it for power and control. (P) The cutting stopped for four months until another fight with his sister.

Once I agreed I did whatever I could to make him happy. He was very advanced sexually. He claimed that I was the first, but close examination of his statement excluded from trial makes that claim dubious. He wanted to try light bondage and spanking. I always did what he asked. The prosecutor loved to say "penetrated with objects." I was the far more often penetrated. Everything done was done mutually. He was very happy, almost giddy. Only he could arrange meeting times. I came when he called, and did what he asked. He estimated 50 to 60 times in 5 months. The frequency with which he chose should have been proof of a loving if wrong relationship; I had no ability to arrange to see him. The schedule was his. He repeatedly texted and told me "You saved my life."

I had to move to Virginia to make more money. He said he wanted us to be together, so I remained faithful. I saw him that Christmas break, once, and it was clear he was no longer interested. He had been sleeping with a number of other older men. (P This is factual from his statements, not speculation.) I did not know that until my arrest. He called me to officially end the relationship in January. I was heart-broken, but I never raised his vow of eternal love. I tried to continue loving him as a friend. We soon emailed, and I never asked to renew the sexual relationship. I offered to be a best friend (my choice) or never talk to him if that was what he needed. (P) His emails say things like "Thank you...for everything," and "Not worry about you? Not possible." The emails are available.

He broke contact in early June of 2011. I heard by email from someone claiming to be him in October of that year, but it was not him. I denied the sex, thinking it was his family. I promised to do anything to help him if HE asked, and ended contact with the impostor. It was a Florida law enforcement agent. That was my first offer to turn myself in.

He got in trouble for his sexual contact with men. He refused to cooperate with police. (P) He was locked in psychological facilities for a year. He was brainwashed into changing the facts of what happened, (P) and his attitude was reversed. As far as I can tell, he was locked up for being actively gay. He was 17 for most of that time. In May 2012 he cooperated with police, and contacted me. When he called, I said I was ready to come tell the truth if that was what he needed. My second offer. He said he wanted me to come see him (reversed by police) and that he could not wait until he was 18. (P) I was confused by his previous rejection and now reversal. The policeman, as the young man, sent me sexually suggestive texts and emails, begging for me to renew the relationship, and made me promise to say something on the phone. It was the young man on the phone. I promised, and the young man initiated phone sex at the behest of the police. (P) I tried to decline; he said he had "needs." (P) I came to Florida and was arrested, after telling him twice more on the phone I would come and tell the truth. He was three months away from his 18th birthday at this point. The federal age of consent is 16, but they charged me under the Florida age of 18, but using a federal charge that carried a sentence of 10 to life.

The young man's police statement on which the indictment was based was largely disproved at trial. (P) The federal government charged me under an internet predator law, convinced that there were other victims. The police directed or suggested the false testimony. (P) They said I showed him child porn, which makes no sense. This was dismissed on sentencing, but they used it twice in trial to disgust the jury. They kept hinting at trial and sentencing about other victims, who do not exist, in spite of running a hotline number that was carried in the US and England. I find men from the age of maturity to 30ish more attractive sexually than older men, though not exclusively. Do heterosexuals do this as well? Does a 50 year old heterosexual fantasize about 50 year-ld women? I tried NOT to see students outside of school. I would never seduce anyone; the greatest attraction for me is someone's desire for me.

When the other victims did not appear, they brought in the FBI grooming expert to say I groomed him, since the evidence of persuading, enticing, inducing or coercing was slim. No grooming scenario exists in which the "groomer" waits for the "victim" to ask for sex, and then tries to dissuade the "victim." As unlikely as my story sounds, at trial he admitted that he, not I, proposed sex, that I tried to talk him out of it (and thus he talked me into it), that he BELIEVED he needed it to live, that I said I could love him without sex, and that he said he would find another older white guy if I said no. He AFFIRMED these at trial.

The interpretation of the law for induce as "cause" is to "allow to happen," when it should mean force. Under this absurd reading, this law has a LOWER threshold of guilt than statutory rape; a text message saying "OK, I will pick you up," would convict, without any contact. If every gay teen who texted an older lover were to be found in South Florida, there would be an army in prison. Statutory rape under federal guidelines carries a 41-51 month sentence. I was given 200 months under the persuasion statute. I had offered to plead guilty to statutory rape and it was rejected; they blamed me at sentencing for putting him through the trial.

Most heterosexual women in the same situation are sentenced to probation to two years. The application of this statute was arbitrary and unequal. The prosecutor announced to the jury that he granted that the "sex was consensual." The age of consent in Israel is 15, so in that civilized a country I would not even have committed a crime at all. The rich are sued for this. Where is the moral fairness?

Why was I prosecuted this way? Conservative politics and homosexuality. The family is Orthodox Jewish, the investigator who fashioned the testimony is Catholic, the prosecutor is Republican, and the judge voted for Rick Santorum.

I believed saving his life, or both of us believing it, would mitigate the statutory rape charge. I believed telling the truth and offering to turn myself in would mitigate. Telling the truth was the worst thing I could have done. Had I denied him when he called, and lied, nothing would have happened. I tried to be honest; rejecting him seemed to violate my vow of love.

I do not "blame" him for sleeping with other men. I do not love him less. I would have done anything for his happiness. I would have gladly NOT slept with him. I rationalized that I was being courageous to save his life and risk my own. I felt he was testing to see if my vow of eternal, unconditional love was real. He convinced me we were breaking convention for our mutual happiness. I thought I could serve some years to save him. If it truly saved his life, I wish I could say that knowing what I do now, I would still have been loyal enough to say yes. I would not have had the courage. I am sorry it happened either way.

Does love matter? Does fairness matter? Does the truth matter? When does a person have sexual and religious freedom? Can a conservative family change those by locking someone in psychological units, to change attitudes and alter facts? Does gay sex justify any level of charges, and any lying by the government?

I hope the young will save my life some day.

Please tell my story.

Thomas Patrick Keelan 98219-004
FDC Miami
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Nicole (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 16/03/2013 tagged with lgbt families, human rights, sexual orientation, religion, marriage / civil unions, illegality of female to female relationships +5
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Why is being yourself so wrong? Lesbian, gay, bisexual, straight, and transgender will always find love no matter how much it is hated upon. You are you, I am me, and everyone is who they are, not what they choose. Is our society really that crooked that its thought of as a choice and we can be "saved" because its not a choice, we don't want or need to be saved. We are happy the way we are. I can honestly say I live and love that I am lesbian. I have been me through all the crap I have been put through. I lost a relationship with my mother, that one person you so desparately want to understand and be there for you no matter what. She wasn't there for me. She hated that I was and will always be lesbian. It hurts to lose someone, but It kills to lose your very own mother. I move forward though because I know that I need to make my life MY life. We will always have those people who won't understand, but if we stand together and never stop fighting for our rights and own love they can't do anything to stop us. We will be the ones sleeping comfortably at night.
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ismael (user currently living in ITALY) posted for gay readers on 04/03/2012 tagged with lgbt families, sexual orientation, religion +10
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i always wanted to tell my story but never knew how. so here goes nothing.

my name is ismael vera jr. i was born and raised in new york. in Brooklyn. i am 21 now. i am gay Hispanic guy. my story had many story's. from the boy who was homeless because he was gay. to in high school drama. to bad relationship. to wanting to do it all to not doing anything. i just want a chance to some one to hear me out.

i am very nice. funny. out going. laid back guy. who likes to do many different things and always looking to try something new. but one thing is holding me back is that i never got to finish high school. when i started high school. it was great i loved to learn and loved school. my sister graduated from that school and my little sister came in after me. but my older sister was the only one who got to graduate. but my little sister and i had a little secret. i knew i was gay since i was little i use to mess with my cousin when i was younger. i always was into men. i was OK with my self. i got picked on in school but it didn't bother me as much as what was going on at home. i remember when i got a phone call from a teacher who i use to talk to. and that my mother had called the school demanding for me to come home. she said to me that she said that she read something of mine and that i was sick. from that i knew what she had found out for i use to write in my journal and my mother always looked though my things. i was so scared to go home that day. my mother is very religious. i remember going home and she asked me to read her my journal out load to her. she mad my sisters read it to her for she could not understand what i was writing. after that it was hell. she use to throw my cloths out. she threw out my books everything i had. i could not go out, have friends. watch tv. or anything. i would spend most of my time in my room. working out. she use to beat me and my sister. we fought a lot. i remember wanting to kill my self many times but was scared to go to hell. my mother hit my sister really bad once that she went to school and someone called ACS. my sister took the chance to leave. i was scared to leave. even though my mother did all that i couldn't do that, but i was just so tired and didn't want to live there any more. so i went with my sister. it was a scary thing going though ACS and foster care. its not what it seems. in court. i went back home in terms i would work.

my mother never let me work for she did not want to me become independent. she didn't even let me get my state id. i remember not going to school and stealing my social secretary card and my documents from my mother so i can get my state id. when got my first check for 260. if i remember right my mother went crazy. and said i got paid to much. she did not want me to work. i never understood why until she took me to this place. she where they gave her money because i was a premature child and got SSI. she use to tell me to act like i couldn't read. she did not tell them i was working. when they found out my, and my mother had to pay them back she was upset and said i had to pay back a lot of money. she hated that i was gay and that my sister left with foster care and blamed on me. i went home one day and she threw everything out. i was 18 and i could not go back to foster care. so i was in my last year of high school and need 3 credits to graduate. i was leaving from house to house. in trains. in a stockroom of a mall. i got a job and i started to go to programs for gay youth i got in. but i had to get a job and i just wanted to have my own place. so i got more work. i moved from program to program. i was modeling, go go dancing. working at 2 jobs and working for the census at the time and i couldn't do school. i didn't sleep. so i stop going. my school helped me as much as they can.

at one point in high school it was like the movie "mean girls". but things got bad. i remember my friend punching the mirror in the boys bathroom because of something and cops caking him aways. it was bad at one point. i went from a no body. to knowing everybody in high school. and at the end. i was by my self.

i was very stupid for not graduating. i really wish i could go back and do things over. now i am with my boyfriend in Italy for a month and i am going to try to get my GED in new york. i just wanted to tell my story. it gets better.
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As an American girl in her college years, I meet people from all over the world and of all different religions. Although America tends to have some horrendous issues on the subject of gay marriage, they are, overall, quite accepting. Since one of my majors in college is religious studies, I have made a lot of Muslim friends and have learned a lot about Arabic countries. It saddens me to hear of countries where you can be put in jail for life or even put to death for being gay. I simply cannot, whatsoever, understand such ignorance and hatred towards a person simply due to a basic part of their personnage that does not harm anyone else! I'm glad to say though, that everyone single one of these Islamic friends, who come from countries such as Morocco, Egypt, and Saudi Arabia, are all open-minded! Whatever their typical religious or cultural beliefs, they all believe in freedom of expression and a person being aloud to be who they are as long as they don't harm others. This, to me, sounds like a major step. Not only are they spreading Arab and Muslim culture that will spread Gay Tolerance here in America, but most of them even hope to do so in mother countries. I can only wish them the best of luck as they attempt to do so, hoping that I too can do something to aid the situations of those countries where gays are put to death simply for being themselves. I've begun to learn a lot about the Qur'an (Koran) and have learned to speak Arabic. I hope to start various online and in-person groups to continue the spread of positive LGBT outlook from the Muslim/Arab community.
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The Honolulu Pride Festival Foundation is starting to kick off this years 2011 Hawaii State Pride Fest hosted in beautiful Honolulu Hawaii September 15 - 17, 2011 and encourage all to come and participate as this year we strive to bring PRIDE AROUND THE WORLD!

As Hawaii and the rest of the United States takes pro-active choices in sharing in the equality and justice for all with long roads ahead the little steps we take will lead to bigger victories for all of our LGBT brothers and sister who do not have the same freedoms we do in America. Help our politicians to understand that PRIDE is one way of showing that we are equal and we do not have to fear the hate and discrimination from the world around us which view us as a minority community who is filled with so called "Sinners". Take a stand and support all of your PRIDE organization around the world as we work hand in hand to creating peace, equality and justice for all!
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Seven Star Hand (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for straight readers on 05/02/2011 tagged with religion +5
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Hello all,

I am not gay, but we have a common foe. Remember the saying "the enemy of my enemy is my friend"? Well friends, I've done the hard work necessary to make the Vatican and religious right disappear in 2011. I freely give you the ammo to make them finally shut up and go into hiding. Don't be shy and shove it down their throats. Karma can be a bitch, so give her a hand...

http://www.sevenstarhand.org/
Here is Wisdom...
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"Welcome to the 21st Century" by Reinaldo J. Rendon
Oct.04 2010

It hasn’t been too long since the recognition of civil rights for women and our black brethren has allowed their successful integration into what has become a more tolerant, even welcoming society to those that were originally oppressed by outdated laws, and fearful politicians. Although society and laws are still adapting to these modifications, their success has depended mostly on the efforts of those who saw conservation of unnecessary old customs as misguided way to conceal inconvenient or uncomfortable truths. By truth I refer to something universal, unaffected by our perceptions; by truth in this case I refer to equality and freedom.
Thousands of years have passed since certain flawed corrupted/outdated values of the church began to persecute "the wicked", from witches to demons as its doctrine spread through all corners of the Earth. Meanwhile, science has been evolving alongside human civilization and society. Although our knowledge and justice systems have supposedly evolved to the point where we understand all capable humans as equals, (and those not fully capable, as still human…sometimes more), we still don’t have laws that protect and grant gay citizens the same rights, protections, and benefits as our heterosexual counterparts.

Greater understanding of the human mind has been achieved since the consolidation of psychology as a social science. No longer “witches”, nor possessed, we understand mentally ill patients and their conditions; we create treatments to aid them, and structure adequate processes to integrate them into society in a way that they can successfully “fuse” with the system. With the progress of science, and its imminent exposure of the truth, many conservatives have come to re-awaken to the idea that Christianity promotes love and tolerance, not hate nor discrimination. I remember a great quote from a great man who once said “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone” with a hooker-made-apostle lying at his feet. Although we now frown upon societies that throw stones as ways of punishing their “criminals”, many still throw verbal/mental stones at those who are different simply because they were not educated properly and laws haven’t progressed rapidly enough to protect those in need.

“In recognition of the scientific evidence, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from the DSM in 1973, stating that “homosexuality per se implies no impairment in judgment, stability, reliability, or general social or vocational capabilities.
After thoroughly reviewing the scientific data, the American Psychological Association adopted the same position in 1975, and urged all mental health professionals “to take the lead in removing the stigma of mental illness that has long been associated with homosexual orientations…Thus, mental health professionals and researchers have long recognized that being homosexual poses no inherent obstacle to leading a happy, healthy, and productive life” (American Psychiatric Association, 1975).

This is true in every sense but the legal one, for denying homosexuals the right to benefit from social/financial unions such as marriage deprives them of certain benefits such as tax-breaks, insurance coverage, or even to be treated as a family member at the time of an accident. The right for a gay American to marry their foreign lover in order to live happily in their free country is impossible; their relationship has no option but to end the moment their foreign “life-partner’s” Visa expires.

Furthermore, the absence of laws that prevent the hate word “faggot” being as commonly used as the hate word “nigger” was before the creation of civil laws that protected the blacks, prevents the social boundaries that allow proper growth of youths in a non-hostile environment. Evidence of this are the (now due to the increasing growth of general acceptance, as the next generation of straight and gay citizens whose education has been updated steps up to the plate) recently public wave of juvenile suicide cases...that are sadly, and ultimately, nothing new...
The point is that people’s lives are still ticking away while bureaucrats place the issue on the back-burner generation after generation, refusing to accept that gay people are equal, and therefore deserve the same rights as everyone else. While most other developed nations in Europe, and even Latin American (Colombia, Argentina, Mexico currently debating it) permit civil unions between homosexuals with equal recognition of all their rights, “The Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave” continues to ignore the silent screaming of a small, but definetly existent percentage of their population that seeks nothing more but an equal opportunity at happiness. If the constitution and even the declaration of independence place us all as equals, defining America as a nation ruled by majority, that protects minorities…then how can we allow our rights to freedom, financial prosperity, protection of our nation, and even to live safely in peace without being forced to deny who you are slip away from us.

Is there not a separation between Church and State? Does scientific evidence hold any value over social struggle against the conservation of ignorance? Aren’t we all guaranteed the same protections and rights regardless of our race, gender, sexual orientation, or favorite ice-cream flavor? Do societies evolve or change on their own?

Gay (much like “straight” or “bi”) is also not a choice, but it is something that affects everyone, regardless of their race, gender, or religious preference across the globe since the beginning of civilization. Even animals may choose a same-sex life partner as evidenced by the study of the University of Oslo, that states “More than 1500 species where homosexuality have been observed” (“Against Nature? Oslo). Gay should not be a taboo. Gay is not an illness that can be prayed nor drugged away. You can attempt to brainwash someone into becoming straight, but then you would just be hindering their potential to fully experience their lives, and their rights to explore themselves as human beings without hurting anyone.

Would you want your children, or a loved one's child to live unhappily repressed simply because God/Genetics made them in a certain way that the world hasn’t updated fast enough to fully accept them as people? In a world of repression and lies, it would not be difficult for one to marry someone that is secretly gay, and refuses to come out simply out of lack of courage that it takes to live under such different conditions...do you think that could truly be a happy and honest marriage? Think about the children caught within the parental struggle to stabilize their personal mentality and sexuality and their mental health compared to those that grow up in open and caring environments.

With Florida being one of the many states that recognizes gays’ right to adopt (instead of permitting an vast number of children stuck in orphanages or foster homes relying on state budget/care), we join many developed nations who understand the full personal/economic value of all its tax-payers without any form of discrimination. Furthermore, if the violation of the sanctity of marriage is in question, then know some consider divorce a far greater offense, for it breaks an oath made in front God and the State (perjury?)...but it was still implemented into law due to the social necessity that so many people required in order to find financial and personal stability in their lives.

To simplify the concept a bit more:
If Gay-Joe and Gay-Jane were perceived as “people” instead of “gays” by the majority, our society would improve a lot more having provided every normal human being the rights and protections they deserve. People shouldn’t be perceived legally or socially by who they are biologically, but by what they hope to do for the world around them. This would promote a more accepting co-existence between all members of American society, as well as monogamy and general honesty.

Most conservatives that still discriminate against people based on their sexual orientation are mostly misinformed, or choose to ignore truth simply out of the comfort brought on by tradition or some form of profit. Others are closeted gays who envy the freedom, while others are simply out to hate on someone for what they’ve been taught as “sins” to feel a little better about their own faults; however they’re not the ones we allow to write our academic texts, nor are they the knowledgeable authorities we quote when we teach facts in our schools. Also, if gays were allowed to formally unite under the state, and their individual interpretation of God (we all see our Creator differently, we have a right to do so), that alone would promote monogamy and prevent sexually transmitted diseases among all groups (not that gays are statistically in the lead anymore; now replaced by African-American men). This would also allow more people to reconcile with the bonds that have been severed by temples that promote hate and discrimination, instead of providing help to those in need, or uniting the children of God without casting any stones (if they truly do see him as the supreme judge).

I invite you all to re-examine your definitions of justice, violence, and empathy for we are forging today the world of tomorrow, and as we do, we must do so carefully given how this nation has remained the center-stage of the world (at the very least in terms of democratic ideals) for a couple centuries. It shouldn't take global calamities, waves of pestilence, the bloody (in a term familiar to most: expensive) aftermath of riots and wars, or financial meltdowns for people to focus more in building the bridges and crumbling the walls that separate us, before they become bars in the dawn of an age with diminishing natural resources, and the decaying socio-political values that impede people from realizing how much influence they have lost over the basics of their democratic principles. We are all still working on Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s dream to make this nation “rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: we hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal”…and that no one should be judged by the color of their skin (or the way God/Genetics brought them into the world).

We shouldn’t wait for it to “get better”, it should be “alright” for all who support and believe the democratic spirit of America, a nation conformed of different states that in spite of being slightly different in their ideology, most stand united as those who wish to protect freedom and peace.
Remember, America is “The Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave”.
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Robert W Walter (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay straight readers on 04/07/2010 tagged with religion +0
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Below is a letter which I am giving to human sevices in New Castle, it says something about my situation and the problems I have and why I have them. I'm not a good activist, for I have always suffered from CLOSE Quarters, but perhaps if some evidence could be brought to light about the things which happened in my past then maybe it would trigger a lawsuit to make hate crimes a federal offence.

Dear Human Services:
I have been thinking quite a bit about the many delusions which I have suffered from over the years, from believing that my memory had been covered up down at paragon trade brands in the 90’s. Though I have been delusion free for way over a year now, the thoughts of things still cause me anxiety.
Many years ago I was so frustrated in my beliefs that I punched the floor in my bedroom and dislocated a finger. To this very day that knuckle is different from the one on my right hand. I did that while kicking against the pricks, wanting to believe that something had happened down there which nobody would admit to.
And later after the first of the year in 2004 I had tried to kill myself for the very same reason. I took two bottle of Sleepenal and then when I changed my mind about dying I couldn’t even throw up, even when I stood over the sink and struggled mightily to get my fingers down as far as I could. And when I knew this wouldn’t work, I didn’t not seek help from my family which was down stairs. So I dropped into bed and lay down to die. Fear took over then. The sensation was the rawest form of anxiety. Perhaps it was the adrenaline which kept my heart beating.
I couldn’t feel my heart beating for some time, either due to the numbness caused by the drugs or that it had repeatedly stopped on me. I do remember the rushing feeling force down on me from the core of my mind, even as I repeatedly blacked out.
So finally out of desperation I got up and went outside and began running and running and when I got tired of running I would walk. My skin blistered some around my ankles. I feel that I was lucky to have escaped even in one piece.
What finally cured me of such nonsense was what happened in 2005, working for Traco and being around vats of rubbing alcohol, literally hearing voices constantly as well as having delusions of hearing angelic voices singling amazing grace. And so I got the help I needed. I want to thank the doctors of Human Services for helping me in my hours of need.
When I went to Church so many years ago, they placed a lot of blame on me for my sickness, calling it a generational curse, always wanting to baptize me in the spirit. And I even had memories of them finding out that I had shaved my legs and the girls in singles ministry picking on me about it. But I never accused them of this or anything against that church because I knew that the medications were helping me.
I am simply writing this as a good report that though I still can be stressed by things and even though I have certain memories due to the delusions which I had suffered from, that I am still taking my medications and doing better. And I do feel much better being on the trilafon. My anxiety is better, for one. As I have to do is learn to relax when driving and deal with the heat and sleep better.

Sincerely:
Robert Wayne Walter
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Robert W Walter (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for straight readers on 04/07/2010 tagged with religion +0
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Below is a letter which I am giving to human sevices in New Castle, it says something about my situation and the problems I have and why I have them. I'm not a good activist, for I have always suffered from CLOSE Quarters, but perhaps if some evidence could be brought to light about the things which happened in my past then maybe it would trigger a lawsuit to make hate crimes a federal offence.

Dear Human Services:
I have been thinking quite a bit about the many delusions which I have suffered from over the years, from believing that my memory had been covered up down at paragon trade brands in the 90’s. Though I have been delusion free for way over a year now, the thoughts of things still cause me anxiety.
Many years ago I was so frustrated in my beliefs that I punched the floor in my bedroom and dislocated a finger. To this very day that knuckle is different from the one on my right hand. I did that while kicking against the pricks, wanting to believe that something had happened down there which nobody would admit to.
And later after the first of the year in 2004 I had tried to kill myself for the very same reason. I took two bottle of Sleepenal and then when I changed my mind about dying I couldn’t even throw up, even when I stood over the sink and struggled mightily to get my fingers down as far as I could. And when I knew this wouldn’t work, I didn’t not seek help from my family which was down stairs. So I dropped into bed and lay down to die. Fear took over then. The sensation was the rawest form of anxiety. Perhaps it was the adrenaline which kept my heart beating.
I couldn’t feel my heart beating for some time, either due to the numbness caused by the drugs or that it had repeatedly stopped on me. I do remember the rushing feeling force down on me from the core of my mind, even as I repeatedly blacked out.
So finally out of desperation I got up and went outside and began running and running and when I got tired of running I would walk. My skin blistered some around my ankles. I feel that I was lucky to have escaped even in one piece.
What finally cured me of such nonsense was what happened in 2005, working for Traco and being around vats of rubbing alcohol, literally hearing voices constantly as well as having delusions of hearing angelic voices singling amazing grace. And so I got the help I needed. I want to thank the doctors of Human Services for helping me in my hours of need.
When I went to Church so many years ago, they placed a lot of blame on me for my sickness, calling it a generational curse, always wanting to baptize me in the spirit. And I even had memories of them finding out that I had shaved my legs and the girls in singles ministry picking on me about it. But I never accused them of this or anything against that church because I knew that the medications were helping me.
I am simply writing this as a good report that though I still can be stressed by things and even though I have certain memories due to the delusions which I had suffered from, that I am still taking my medications and doing better. And I do feel much better being on the trilafon. My anxiety is better, for one. As I have to do is learn to relax when driving and deal with the heat and sleep better.

Sincerely:
Robert Wayne Walter
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(user currently living in CHILE) posted for readers on 08/01/2010 tagged with homosexuality within a religious/ ethical framework, religion , religion, law +0
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Marriage reflects the natural moral and social law evidenced the world over. As the late British social anthropologist Joseph Daniel Unwin noted in his study of world civilizations, any society that devalued the nuclear family soon lost what he called "expansive energy," which might best be summarized as society's will to make things better for the next generation. In fact, no society that has loosened sexual morality outside of man-woman marriage has survived.

Analyzing studies of cultures spanning several thousands of years on several continents, Harvard sociologist Pitirim Sorokin found that virtually all political revolutions that brought about societal collapse were preceded by a sexual revolution in which marriage and family were devalued by the culture’s acceptance of homosexuality.

British Prime Minister Winston Churchill once said, “A politician looks to the next election, and a statesman looks to the next generation.”

When marriage loses its unique status, women and children most frequently are the direct victims. Giving same-sex relationships or out-of-wedlock heterosexual couples the same special status and benefits as the marital bond would not be the expansion of a right but the destruction of a principle. . If the one-man/one-woman definition of marriage is broken, there is no logical stopping point for continuing the assault on marriage.

If feelings are the key requirement, then why not let three people marry, or two adults and a child, or consenting blood relatives of any age? . Marriage-based kinship is essential to stability and continuity in California. Child abuse is much more prevalent when a living arrangement is not based on kinship. Kinship imparts family names, heritage, and property, secures the identity and commitment of fathers for the sake of the children, and entails mutual obligations to the community.
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