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the following is my friend Tom's story, in his own words

I committed statutory rape with a 15-year old male when I was 51. He was my student. I loved and love him whole-heartedly and completely, and promised him unconditional love, long before any sex took place. Human behavior is complicated and has many varieties. This is an unusual story. The government told a cartoon story with broad strokes of black and white.

I was imprisoned without bond, and had my freedom of speech taken away before I had been convicted of any crime. Newspapers printed government press releases without any checking of any facts. If necessary, I will submit to a polygraph on any statement I make, from any independent administrator. Ask those who contradict my statements if they will do the same. If a statement was proved by evidence or the victim's statements, I will put (P). I have discovered that the police falsify information, and distort and manipulate facts and testimony. My belief in the United States has been shaken.

The young man, a South American adopted into an Orthodox Jewish family, was cutting himself in September of 2009 when we met. He told me it was from the frustration with his home life, and not being allowed to be Latino or social, and being forced to observe a religion he found oppressive. He said one sister attacked him physically several times. He is a remarkable, bright, witty, and kind human being, with a fierce urge for freedom. I found him to be extraordinary. He came to see me most days, even more often after he was warned by his parents that I was homosexual, I found out later.(P) He brought a chess board in for lunches when he found out I played chess. We talked about history, religion, politics, psychology. He eventually he told me about the cutting.

I called his father, talked to the rabbis, called a psychologist, put him in touch with a former student with whom I thought he might click (heterosexual), gave him a copy of The Road Less Travelled, the best book I thought on how one gets happy. He kept cutting. I was frantic to help. I promised to love him unconditionally, forever. We loved talking, and I hoped I could make up whatever he lacked. I promised to do anything in my power to help him be happy. I sent him affirmation texts. (Know you are loved, you are great as you are, say "I am a wonderful person," etc.)

Some months later, on the phone, he said we should have sex. I told him that was a "really bad idea."

Some time later, he said he was playing tennis next to my building, and he would come by to work on a project. He came up, and said he was not there to work on the project, but to have sex. I tried to talk him out of it. (P) I said I could love him without sex. (P) He said I didn't have to. I said he did not owe me sex for love. He said he knew he did not owe, he wanted it, and he said I did too. I said sex was not that important, that he should not ask such a thing just for sex. He said it was for true love, that we were soul mates, we would be together forever. I said if we were soul mates then, we would be so in a few years. He said, true, but since we were we did not have to wait. Many times, he said he needed it to live. He confirmed at trial that he believed that. (P) He believed he loved me and that I loved him. (P) I said he should be with someone his age. He said he was attracted to older men. (P) I said everyone would assume it was my fault when it came out (even years later if we were together). He said he would tell them he picked me, and besides, we would be together. He said he had known what he wanted for a long time. He said such things happened all the time. Nothing happened that day (Feb,. 13 2010) We agreed to work it out. The conversation continued the next day with many more reasons for no on my part. He finally said if it was not me, it would be some other older white guy. (P) I agreed on February 14.

I have tried to be a good person my whole life. I try not to manipulate people. I love people without sex; sex and love are not the same thing. I do not even like to have sex with someone drunk, even a boyfriend because of the consent issue. I have always tried to tell the truth. Even in teaching, I would tell students the reason I was doing something (quizzes are designed to force you to read, etc.) I have tried to help the outcasts, with chess and theater. Many students said I saved lives, saved souls.

No combination of things could have made me give in like those. I had to save the life of someone I loved, a soul mate with love so true that 35 years made no difference, and if I didn't do it he would go do it somewhere else. I justified it by saving his life, not denying true love, and protecting him from those who did not love him. It was clearly wrong, but has anyone been subject to such arguments in such a situation? He said, trust me, believe me.

I thought that rejection just might kill him. I thought he wanted to be trusted and believed. I rationalized that the release of sex with someone he loved might stop the cutting. I let myself believe. He said in a statement later he did it for power and control. (P) The cutting stopped for four months until another fight with his sister.

Once I agreed I did whatever I could to make him happy. He was very advanced sexually. He claimed that I was the first, but close examination of his statement excluded from trial makes that claim dubious. He wanted to try light bondage and spanking. I always did what he asked. The prosecutor loved to say "penetrated with objects." I was the far more often penetrated. Everything done was done mutually. He was very happy, almost giddy. Only he could arrange meeting times. I came when he called, and did what he asked. He estimated 50 to 60 times in 5 months. The frequency with which he chose should have been proof of a loving if wrong relationship; I had no ability to arrange to see him. The schedule was his. He repeatedly texted and told me "You saved my life."

I had to move to Virginia to make more money. He said he wanted us to be together, so I remained faithful. I saw him that Christmas break, once, and it was clear he was no longer interested. He had been sleeping with a number of other older men. (P This is factual from his statements, not speculation.) I did not know that until my arrest. He called me to officially end the relationship in January. I was heart-broken, but I never raised his vow of eternal love. I tried to continue loving him as a friend. We soon emailed, and I never asked to renew the sexual relationship. I offered to be a best friend (my choice) or never talk to him if that was what he needed. (P) His emails say things like "Thank you...for everything," and "Not worry about you? Not possible." The emails are available.

He broke contact in early June of 2011. I heard by email from someone claiming to be him in October of that year, but it was not him. I denied the sex, thinking it was his family. I promised to do anything to help him if HE asked, and ended contact with the impostor. It was a Florida law enforcement agent. That was my first offer to turn myself in.

He got in trouble for his sexual contact with men. He refused to cooperate with police. (P) He was locked in psychological facilities for a year. He was brainwashed into changing the facts of what happened, (P) and his attitude was reversed. As far as I can tell, he was locked up for being actively gay. He was 17 for most of that time. In May 2012 he cooperated with police, and contacted me. When he called, I said I was ready to come tell the truth if that was what he needed. My second offer. He said he wanted me to come see him (reversed by police) and that he could not wait until he was 18. (P) I was confused by his previous rejection and now reversal. The policeman, as the young man, sent me sexually suggestive texts and emails, begging for me to renew the relationship, and made me promise to say something on the phone. It was the young man on the phone. I promised, and the young man initiated phone sex at the behest of the police. (P) I tried to decline; he said he had "needs." (P) I came to Florida and was arrested, after telling him twice more on the phone I would come and tell the truth. He was three months away from his 18th birthday at this point. The federal age of consent is 16, but they charged me under the Florida age of 18, but using a federal charge that carried a sentence of 10 to life.

The young man's police statement on which the indictment was based was largely disproved at trial. (P) The federal government charged me under an internet predator law, convinced that there were other victims. The police directed or suggested the false testimony. (P) They said I showed him child porn, which makes no sense. This was dismissed on sentencing, but they used it twice in trial to disgust the jury. They kept hinting at trial and sentencing about other victims, who do not exist, in spite of running a hotline number that was carried in the US and England. I find men from the age of maturity to 30ish more attractive sexually than older men, though not exclusively. Do heterosexuals do this as well? Does a 50 year old heterosexual fantasize about 50 year-ld women? I tried NOT to see students outside of school. I would never seduce anyone; the greatest attraction for me is someone's desire for me.

When the other victims did not appear, they brought in the FBI grooming expert to say I groomed him, since the evidence of persuading, enticing, inducing or coercing was slim. No grooming scenario exists in which the "groomer" waits for the "victim" to ask for sex, and then tries to dissuade the "victim." As unlikely as my story sounds, at trial he admitted that he, not I, proposed sex, that I tried to talk him out of it (and thus he talked me into it), that he BELIEVED he needed it to live, that I said I could love him without sex, and that he said he would find another older white guy if I said no. He AFFIRMED these at trial.

The interpretation of the law for induce as "cause" is to "allow to happen," when it should mean force. Under this absurd reading, this law has a LOWER threshold of guilt than statutory rape; a text message saying "OK, I will pick you up," would convict, without any contact. If every gay teen who texted an older lover were to be found in South Florida, there would be an army in prison. Statutory rape under federal guidelines carries a 41-51 month sentence. I was given 200 months under the persuasion statute. I had offered to plead guilty to statutory rape and it was rejected; they blamed me at sentencing for putting him through the trial.

Most heterosexual women in the same situation are sentenced to probation to two years. The application of this statute was arbitrary and unequal. The prosecutor announced to the jury that he granted that the "sex was consensual." The age of consent in Israel is 15, so in that civilized a country I would not even have committed a crime at all. The rich are sued for this. Where is the moral fairness?

Why was I prosecuted this way? Conservative politics and homosexuality. The family is Orthodox Jewish, the investigator who fashioned the testimony is Catholic, the prosecutor is Republican, and the judge voted for Rick Santorum.

I believed saving his life, or both of us believing it, would mitigate the statutory rape charge. I believed telling the truth and offering to turn myself in would mitigate. Telling the truth was the worst thing I could have done. Had I denied him when he called, and lied, nothing would have happened. I tried to be honest; rejecting him seemed to violate my vow of love.

I do not "blame" him for sleeping with other men. I do not love him less. I would have done anything for his happiness. I would have gladly NOT slept with him. I rationalized that I was being courageous to save his life and risk my own. I felt he was testing to see if my vow of eternal, unconditional love was real. He convinced me we were breaking convention for our mutual happiness. I thought I could serve some years to save him. If it truly saved his life, I wish I could say that knowing what I do now, I would still have been loyal enough to say yes. I would not have had the courage. I am sorry it happened either way.

Does love matter? Does fairness matter? Does the truth matter? When does a person have sexual and religious freedom? Can a conservative family change those by locking someone in psychological units, to change attitudes and alter facts? Does gay sex justify any level of charges, and any lying by the government?

I hope the young will save my life some day.

Please tell my story.

Thomas Patrick Keelan 98219-004
FDC Miami
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Nicole (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 16/03/2013 tagged with lgbt families, human rights, sexual orientation, religion, marriage / civil unions, illegality of female to female relationships +5
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Why is being yourself so wrong? Lesbian, gay, bisexual, straight, and transgender will always find love no matter how much it is hated upon. You are you, I am me, and everyone is who they are, not what they choose. Is our society really that crooked that its thought of as a choice and we can be "saved" because its not a choice, we don't want or need to be saved. We are happy the way we are. I can honestly say I live and love that I am lesbian. I have been me through all the crap I have been put through. I lost a relationship with my mother, that one person you so desparately want to understand and be there for you no matter what. She wasn't there for me. She hated that I was and will always be lesbian. It hurts to lose someone, but It kills to lose your very own mother. I move forward though because I know that I need to make my life MY life. We will always have those people who won't understand, but if we stand together and never stop fighting for our rights and own love they can't do anything to stop us. We will be the ones sleeping comfortably at night.
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TranSquat (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for transgender intersex readers on 29/07/2012 tagged with tourism, human rights, illegality of female to female relationships
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TRANSQUAT, A GENDER NEUTRAL BATHROOM FINDER APP
Now available for download in Apple iTunes Store


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TranSquat was written by and for the trans community and is powered by data from safe2pee - a nationwide directory of gender neutral bathrooms. There are currently close to 4000 locations across the United States, Canada and the U.K. with more locations being added everyday.

This app is useful for transgender and gender variant individuals because sometimes finding a safe, discreet and comfortable restroom can be a challenge and or safety issue depending on where one is in their own transition or geographic location.

The app itself is community driven. Users can help build it by downloading it and sharing safe locations from their own communities. In that sense, a user can download the app and build a network of safe locations no matter where in the world they reside.

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posted for readers on 22/06/2012 tagged with illegality of female to female relationships
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Duality can explain Homosexuality
Whether you are right handed or left handed, most people will agree that everyone has a preference, of which they choose to use when writing a letter. This is similar to how I understand one being homosexual or heterosexual, there appears to be a dominant natural preference involved. Although the majority of people are right hand dominated, it is universally acceptable to be left handed; whereas the majorities, who are heterosexual, don’t as easily accept someone who is homosexual. This raging controversy has propelled many scientific studies in genetics to search for a relevant answer, and has fueled many religious factions to take up some firm moral stands, with an appalling effect. Overall popular acceptance has changed dramatically in recent history but the fact remains, neither Science nor Religion can give us a definite explanation for the reality of homosexuality.
The theory I am about to present, can help make it understandable to the probable cause of how homosexual preference in an individual can be connected to their natural state of being. I will not entertain such definitions as the term “Turning Gay”, for I believe it is an inborn attraction to the same sex, and not one that was developed by some physical or mental malfunction. There are Spiritual laws that govern our world through cause and effect, and what I am about to explain has little to do with scientific study or religious values. This goes much deeper and to the heart of our physical world, and does require some spiritual insight. First of all, I am a heterosexual Male who is attracted only to the opposite sex (females). This should alleviate anyone’s concern that my understanding may show favoritism or have any justifiable purpose for my conclusion. My understanding comes from the basic principles that we are all one in God’s eye.
We must incorporate some belief, that there is a reason for everything we see in nature to truly make sense of things. To really grasp what I am saying, there must be some concept of a higher self or true being. To really understand the spiritual concept of cause and effect or law of attraction, there is one piece to the puzzle that can explain where we have come from, pertaining to who we are (the cause), and why we are here (the effect) that is vital. This is the spiritual understanding of the “Duality in nature”. Many may not be able to understand anything beyond their physical appearance, but the self-seeker and spiritually minded individual should not find it hard to comprehend. As we explore who we really are as individuals, we gain the wisdom of acceptance for others.
This duality in nature can be defined as what perpetuates our physiological reality. This duality is the process by which nature evolves and creation exists in our world. It is with purpose, and its function is the division and multiplying from the one omnipotent source, or God. Duality is a continual process for equalizing or balancing nature’s own well-being. Everything that we know of in this three dimensional world has been divided from one source, the cause of everything. There is an opposite of everything in our physical world. It is the opposites that link dualities necessity of balance; as we view the relationship between man-woman, light-dark, hot-cold, and positive-negative. It is the opposites that create the cycle of continual reunification from which it came from. What can better interoperate dualities magical sequent of events, than the rain that fills the lakes that becomes a body of water, which then is evaporated by the Sun to replenish the clouds, so it may return once again? Without duality nothing would exist of this reality we live in. Because of this perpetual cycle, nothing comes to complete rest, so it remains in infinite motion, continually dividing, constantly expanding and creating. Everything is elegantly made in retrospect for the sequence of continual rebirth, as you see in the nature of our four seasons, and in the way the Earth rotates from day to night.
To understand nature’s connection to us it helps to understand the division, and why there is such division. For example; electricity would not exist if there were no positive and negative fields. One cannot be the other, and yet they are both important to create the power needed. Man is physically opposite from a woman, but the two combined represent the human character. I believe man and woman is the division from the one total being. This is often described as the Yin and Yang, masculine/ feminine. Understanding this will also explain why some people are born to be homosexual. There is nothing wrong per say with these individuals; it is just a different division of the dual nature from which we all came from. The hard part for anyone to grasp with a three dimensional viewpoint, is that the opposites are really a division from the one source. Nature is a continual cycle in motion that is constantly seeking to return to the source from which it came. This is the same for the desire for man to find God; he is seeking the divinity he knows is in his heart. Duality in nature is how our physical reality is portrayed to us. Water cannot be vapor, and vapor cannot be water, but the duality in nature is the cause of division from any one element, and it insures a continual cycle for enhancement of life.
To explain this even further in relevance to ourselves, we must first consider ourselves to be something much more than just another product of nature, but entities that can develop a greater potential that can expand our universe. We must believe that in the raw form of our higher consciousness, duality will no longer exist, and there will be no separation. We will inhabit total awareness, and our instinctual physical senses will no longer be needed. The animal desire to administer sexual pleasure will be extinguished along with the purpose for our physicality. We will then recognize our masculine and feminine qualities as one entity. We will realize our physical bodies were only a manifestation produced from the duality that exists on the physical plane, and then know that it was the duality in nature that created our physicality, and the gender we were to be. If we have come here in a predetermined form, could it just be possible that homosexuals are another form of division to help us to better understand our commonality from which our true being resides? This being said; the procreation aspects in Duality is ignored in the sense to portray a spiritual understanding of a divine interpretation.
To reference what has been spoken of in spiritual terms as the Light. The Light can be considered the source, or God. Everything has been manifested from the one light of God. To be enlightened is the knowing of this Light. This light is the Bliss; it is where we find Rest. God has manifested his expression by dividing this light. In essence, everything is connected to the one light from which it has been divided from. Everyone and everything is seeking to return to the source from which it was created. It is by witnessing the synchronicity found in nature one can understand this evolution taking place. It will help in bringing the understanding that we are all One.
As we grasp and understand the importance of duality in our world, we begin to realize the divine intervention in place. It points to the precision of all we witness in nature, and gives so much more purpose to the world. It shouts the meaningful cause that has produced such wondrous effects. It proves that God provided everything that was needed to sustain life. Developing this insight of duality in nature, may bring strength to our spiritual perception and reason for our faith. It can bridge our divided misconceptions and align our common direction. There is a definite connection with everything and everyone, and is evident within the duality of nature. Duality has provided the continuation of the well-being for all in nature, and proves there is a law that cannot be denied. Everything is reborn, everything is replenished, and everything is bound by this law, which is evident in the duality of nature.
The evidence is in the soul and heart of man. No one can gift us any understanding of what we come to know and believe within ourselves. There should be no outside influence or persuasion that detours the performance of our individual thought. When we understand that it is our individual right to adhere to such principles, then we will gain the knowledge and wisdom that we truly deserve. Individuality has much more importance than a mere independent choice or preference; it is the expression that enables humanities growth and expansion. There are limitless boundaries society will be able to overcome, by a collective agreement sprouted from one individual idea.
I believe this theory can enable humanities answers to some of the most complex questions that have ever been conceived. It may even eliminate our physical limitations and open the door for a unified consciousness that can accept our higher awareness of certainty. Much of this article has been taken from a chapter in my ebook, “Thinking is Spiritual (We are All Spiritual)”. I want everyone to understand their own self-worth. I hope to help spread the word of this wondrous time of Awakening we are experiencing today. We are at the dawn of a new age, and a unified higher state of consciousness. We are all connected, and it is all Good!
Written by Rolley Hurley ©2012
http://reachyourdreams.weebly.com/duality-can-explain-homosexuality.html
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Ouida King (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 11/06/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, illegality of female to female relationships +0
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Greetings,

LGBT community

Please allow this letter to introduce you to OKK Fashion Studio, LLC and the N’BTWN Fashion Event for which we seek your support.

Our mission at OKK Fashion Studio, LLC and our subsidiary, Just US Designs, is to provide a diverse and inclusive shopping experience for the Metro Detroit LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) Community. OKK Fashion Studio will provide a variety of LGBT clothing at competitive prices. We will give our customers the kind of customer service that is respectful, prompt, friendly and all-encompassing.

On September 22, 2012 we will be hosting the “N’BTWN” fashion event, to be held at the Detroit Institute of Arts in Downtown Detroit, Michigan for the Metro Detroit LGBT Community and its supporters. Featured will be some trend setting creations from local designers, as well as a grand finale from Just US Designs creative director and OKK Fashion Studio LLC CEO, Ms. Ouida King.

This is a great opportunity for your company or organization to receive exposure, and help to support a worthy cause. The attached sponsorship package includes benefits to all sponsors, as well as the types of specific sponsorships that are available to you. In addition, your generous sponsorship will be highlighted during our event, so that we may publicly thank you for your support.

We appreciate your consideration and look forward to hearing from you soon. If you have any questions, please contact publicist, Mrs. Lacretia Rogers at 313-758-1366 or via email, at info@sapphire-rose.com.

Sincerely,

Ouida K. King
Ouida K. King
Creative Director
OKK Fashion Studio, LLC
okkfashionstudio@ymail.com
Lacretia L. Rogers
Chief Executive Officer
Sapphire Rose Enterprises
www.sapphire-rose.com
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Kini Cosma (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 22/02/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, health, human rights, sexual orientation, illegality of female to female relationships
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Kini Cosma (541)880-4534 P.O. Box 7918 Klamath Falls, Oregon 97602

MEMORANDUM OF UPDATED FACTS

TO: HONORABLE MEMBERS OF THE INTER-AMERICAN COMMISSION ON HUMAN RIGHTS, ORGANIZATION OF AMERICAN STATES, CASE NO.: P-878-09:
EUROPEAN COMMISSION
FROM: KINI COSMA
DATE: FEBRUARY 22, 2012
REGARDING: UNLAWFUL EVICTION AND EXCESSIVE HARASSMENT

I was profiled as a lesbian and arbitrarily arrested excessively since 1989-1995 (approx 40 times-landing in prison on July 4th, arrested on Martin Luther King Day, arrested 1st business day of 2011, sent to a mental institution on March 1, 2011: my birthday). When I was wrongfully convicted of "stalking", the status was enhanced to include a "sex offense" after I was sent to prison. Branded a “sex offender,” I lost custody of my two sons. The officer has since been charged with excessive force by another attorney.

All legal activities others are entitled to have become illegal for me. All my business ventures were deliberately destroyed and frustrated and they have left me to languish resulting in loss of liberty, civil rights, productive lifestyles, financial and personal ruin, mental anguish, social condemnation and personal and family embarrassment.

I have appealed to the Federal courts since 1995 and ALL of my cases were dismissed without review. All of the difficult and dedicated work I've done was ignored while federal judges demanded that I complete more work. Even though Federal judges know I am not the “Betty Crocker” type girl, they have become obsessed with “curative rape” by forcing their disregard on me making me an object of ridicule and scorn in order that I submit to and service their American Men.

As a result of my legal battles against the U.S. Government, I have become an extremely unfavorable person subjected to and having to suffer severe retaliation. I noticed my $100k rightfully inherited trust fund was wrongfully pilfered/seized after I asked the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals to suspend the powers of the trustee. I also noticed that at least two attempts to entrap me in illegal ponzi schemes occurred while I was suffering brutality at the hands of the Lassen County community in California.
I have also lost other real property and vehicles wrongfully seized and confiscated by the states of California and Oregon authorities.

The state and federal courts, in both California and Oregon, deliberately set me up to fail refusing to grant me asylum or protection from persecution and using me as a human battering instrument for others in the community to abuse, physically and emotionally. Those in the community banter me because they just want me to shut up and go away and endure the sexual harassment. Because of the selfish reasons of those who conspired for my false imprisonment, other malicious prosecutions and judicial injustice has taken place. Impropriety, prosecution for the sake of prosecution, lack of funds for legal aid to prove my innocence and/or other errors of one kind or another, has occurred.

All of the excessive government entanglement running afoul of civil and human rights guaranteed by the U.S. Constitution without legal support has deeply affected my health. Even though I have brought separate §1983 and §2254 actions against the police and other officials on the grounds that labeling me as a sex offender based upon a policy enacted after my criminal conviction violated my constitutional rights. And, the infringements of the Due Process and Ex Post Facto Clauses of the Fourteenth Amendment privilege against self-incrimination constitutes cruel and unusual punishment and is in violation of the Eighth Amendment.

The U.S. Government endorsed this cruel and unusual punishment by continuing to identify me as a sex offender, allowing me to be defined as someone who has been convicted, at any time, of any sex offense or [who] engaged in sexual misconduct during the course of an offense. They have continued to recommend that I receive disparate treatment making it their constitutional duty to inculcate cruel and unusual punishment by portraying me to the public that “sexual assault is a heinous crime committed by Offenders with deviant behavior patterns that cannot be controlled by incarceration alone.”

Still no remedies available for these violations or the disparate treatment set forth under Title VII while retaliating and conspiring against my rights under 18 USC §241, there is now substantiated evidence that I am being been tortured to premeditate my murder using their power of abuse to maliciously disintegrate my health.

Just recently throughout August and September 2011, I diligently sought housing. Finally relying on the verbal agreement made by manager's Christopher John and Ericka Little of Wiseman's Mobile Home Park at 6800 South 6th Street in Klamath Falls, Oregon. Previously managers Christopher John and Ericka Little declared to me that they made a visual inspection of my residential travel trailer at another location and approved thereof, preserving the certain space for me to move into on October 3, 2011. Relying on said verbal agreement, I halted any other effort to seek housing else before the winter's debilitating freeze that caused my health breakdown (including hearing loss) the previous season.

I paid the rent and moved my residential trailer in. When I relocated my residential travel trailer to Wiseman's Mobile Home Park at 6800 South 6th Street in Klamath Falls, Oregon, on October 3, 2011, said management used bantering and forcible hostilities1 against me to unlawfully evict me without proper legal notice making the excuse that my trailer was not in compliance to their standards. Said management had a limited contractors license that definitely did not include having the authority to inspect the electrical components in my trailer.

Coincidently, the Klamath County Sheriff's department was right there to assist in these civil matters2 by forcibly running me out of the mobile home park regardless that rent was paid. As a result, I have been housed in an illegal concentration camp type setting with barbed wire all around while staff of the Klamath County Sheriff's Department are, coincidentally, tenants in the immediate vicinity asking me to secure their property.

These actions also have interfered with all of my legitimate home office based businesses. (disconnecting electrical utilities, forcing me to spend money to seek resources the government will block, excessive late fines and fees) The pattern of abuse goes on and on with constant patterns for propensities of humiliation always setting me up in an illegal manner to justify their means for, yet, another malicious prosecution. Having to urinate in buckets and defecate on newspapers prove their successful effort for making me live like an animal unworthy of attention or exposure to their pattern of consistent horrific human right violations.

Regardless of the well-founded fears of persecution on the grounds of my being a member in a particular social group demonstrating my political opinions... I remain ignored and undefined as an disenfranchised, elderly, sex offending-stalker, Caucasian, Jewish, lesbian, woman vulnerable to U.S. Government abuse and oppression suffering their prevailing patterns of consistent years and years of physical and emotional abuse in both California and in Oregon.

While others qualify as refugees to be granted asylum or protection somewhere in the United States, the harm feared is being inflicted by the this government...and by persons and organizations that the government is unable or unwilling to control. I have contacted 1000's of agencies connected only in the legal industries relying on those agencies for answers. While they were asleep, I was sent to mental institution for several months on bogus charges, again, my civil rights were violated. Anonymous people are coming out of the woodwork who I do not know, nor should have any information regarding my civil and human right violations in the communities I am transient in. So, why are they hostile and derogatory using such efforts to intimidate and harass me?

I, Kini Cosma, hereby declare under penalty of perjury that all of the foregoing statements, records on file with this case is true and correct to the best of my knowledge.

Kini Cosma Dated: February 21, 2012
http://judiciary.zoomshare.com
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SORRY. TRY THIS ONE:


Cast the Last Stone
or
I Got Your Civil Union Hangin’

Do you take this man and this woman
Do you take this woman and man
To love and to honor and cherish
The way only a good Christian can

Will you throw a few stones at the heathens
Will you tell ‘em all where they can go
Will you hate everyone who’s not like you
For the Bible tells you it’s so

Or will you listen to that old hippy Jesus
Who said Leave all the bullshit behind
And let two dear sweet lesbian lovers
Enjoy all the love they can find

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I’ve always loved you
And you’ve always loved me
You’d think love would be easy
In the land of the free
In a world full of bitterness
Hatred
And stone
Why don’t you leave all the lovers alone?

The love police say we can’t marry
The thought police say we can’t think
While the lawmakers locked in the closet
Say we can’t watch them buy the boys drinks

I love you like your soul is my soul
I’ll stay till the end of the world
But the minister ran from the altar
When he found we’re a couple of girls

Tradition can be a real mother
Those weren’t cruise ships in the triangle trade
And the two dear sweet lesbian lovers
Know it’s time to make history fade

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Money is nice if it’s decent
And handy when push comes to shove
But the two dear sweet lesbian lovers
Know everything’s lost without love

They say Jesus he died for the sinners
And he fought so that true love will win
But the two dear sweet lesbian lovers
Were told they should read the small print


Charlie Manson can legally marry
Any woman that’ll give him the time
But the two dear sweet lesbian lovers
Were told that their love is a crime

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Yeah, Charlie Manson can legally marry
Any woman that’ll give him the time
But the two dear sweet lesbian lovers
THEY KNOW THAT THEIR LOVE IS SUBLIME

hank ezralily@ca.rr.com 714 915 5814
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sheryl (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for transgender readers on 18/11/2011 tagged with lgbt families, marriage / civil unions, illegality of female to female relationships
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in my country same sex marriage is accepted in i think 3-5 states.unfortunately it is not accepted where i reside.in fact, my girlfriend and i have to be very discrete.another word:
'HIDE"! so we are preparing to move to another state.
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As an American girl in her college years, I meet people from all over the world and of all different religions. Although America tends to have some horrendous issues on the subject of gay marriage, they are, overall, quite accepting. Since one of my majors in college is religious studies, I have made a lot of Muslim friends and have learned a lot about Arabic countries. It saddens me to hear of countries where you can be put in jail for life or even put to death for being gay. I simply cannot, whatsoever, understand such ignorance and hatred towards a person simply due to a basic part of their personnage that does not harm anyone else! I'm glad to say though, that everyone single one of these Islamic friends, who come from countries such as Morocco, Egypt, and Saudi Arabia, are all open-minded! Whatever their typical religious or cultural beliefs, they all believe in freedom of expression and a person being aloud to be who they are as long as they don't harm others. This, to me, sounds like a major step. Not only are they spreading Arab and Muslim culture that will spread Gay Tolerance here in America, but most of them even hope to do so in mother countries. I can only wish them the best of luck as they attempt to do so, hoping that I too can do something to aid the situations of those countries where gays are put to death simply for being themselves. I've begun to learn a lot about the Qur'an (Koran) and have learned to speak Arabic. I hope to start various online and in-person groups to continue the spread of positive LGBT outlook from the Muslim/Arab community.
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(user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 15/08/2011 tagged with human rights, marriage / civil unions, illegality of female to female relationships +10
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I am a 28 year old woman, in love with a 30 year old woman from Finland. I've always felt that gay and lesbian communities deserve the same rights as heterosexual couples, but to be honest, the issue has never been more personal. I would do anything to be with the woman I love, even move to Finland, but sadly, my entire life will change in a big way. Im studying clinical psychology and I want to help people. I have a large family I will leave behind, and great friends. Im writting this story because I want others to know the pain of being a second class citizen causes. Its not about rights, its about love, and no one deserves to be treated different because the love someone. I will leave my country knowing that Im different and under our federal law, undeserving of love. I love you Emma
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The Honolulu Pride Festival Foundation is starting to kick off this years 2011 Hawaii State Pride Fest hosted in beautiful Honolulu Hawaii September 15 - 17, 2011 and encourage all to come and participate as this year we strive to bring PRIDE AROUND THE WORLD!

As Hawaii and the rest of the United States takes pro-active choices in sharing in the equality and justice for all with long roads ahead the little steps we take will lead to bigger victories for all of our LGBT brothers and sister who do not have the same freedoms we do in America. Help our politicians to understand that PRIDE is one way of showing that we are equal and we do not have to fear the hate and discrimination from the world around us which view us as a minority community who is filled with so called "Sinners". Take a stand and support all of your PRIDE organization around the world as we work hand in hand to creating peace, equality and justice for all!
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Heyo, keep calm.
I think that you´re right in some parts. It´s not fair, that the western countries try to enforce their culture onto other countries. But i think it´s not fair either to be killed because of your sexuality, religion, oppinion, race, culture, etc. Eerybody should have the right to choose i what you believe, which gender you prefer for sex, to tell his own oppinion.
I know that he world isn´t perfect and never will be, but i think everyone can make a step toward a better world with less discrimination.
And i think that it´s nice to warn everyone, that homosexuals should be carfull in some countries.
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"Welcome to the 21st Century" by Reinaldo J. Rendon
Oct.04 2010

It hasn’t been too long since the recognition of civil rights for women and our black brethren has allowed their successful integration into what has become a more tolerant, even welcoming society to those that were originally oppressed by outdated laws, and fearful politicians. Although society and laws are still adapting to these modifications, their success has depended mostly on the efforts of those who saw conservation of unnecessary old customs as misguided way to conceal inconvenient or uncomfortable truths. By truth I refer to something universal, unaffected by our perceptions; by truth in this case I refer to equality and freedom.
Thousands of years have passed since certain flawed corrupted/outdated values of the church began to persecute "the wicked", from witches to demons as its doctrine spread through all corners of the Earth. Meanwhile, science has been evolving alongside human civilization and society. Although our knowledge and justice systems have supposedly evolved to the point where we understand all capable humans as equals, (and those not fully capable, as still human…sometimes more), we still don’t have laws that protect and grant gay citizens the same rights, protections, and benefits as our heterosexual counterparts.

Greater understanding of the human mind has been achieved since the consolidation of psychology as a social science. No longer “witches”, nor possessed, we understand mentally ill patients and their conditions; we create treatments to aid them, and structure adequate processes to integrate them into society in a way that they can successfully “fuse” with the system. With the progress of science, and its imminent exposure of the truth, many conservatives have come to re-awaken to the idea that Christianity promotes love and tolerance, not hate nor discrimination. I remember a great quote from a great man who once said “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone” with a hooker-made-apostle lying at his feet. Although we now frown upon societies that throw stones as ways of punishing their “criminals”, many still throw verbal/mental stones at those who are different simply because they were not educated properly and laws haven’t progressed rapidly enough to protect those in need.

“In recognition of the scientific evidence, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from the DSM in 1973, stating that “homosexuality per se implies no impairment in judgment, stability, reliability, or general social or vocational capabilities.
After thoroughly reviewing the scientific data, the American Psychological Association adopted the same position in 1975, and urged all mental health professionals “to take the lead in removing the stigma of mental illness that has long been associated with homosexual orientations…Thus, mental health professionals and researchers have long recognized that being homosexual poses no inherent obstacle to leading a happy, healthy, and productive life” (American Psychiatric Association, 1975).

This is true in every sense but the legal one, for denying homosexuals the right to benefit from social/financial unions such as marriage deprives them of certain benefits such as tax-breaks, insurance coverage, or even to be treated as a family member at the time of an accident. The right for a gay American to marry their foreign lover in order to live happily in their free country is impossible; their relationship has no option but to end the moment their foreign “life-partner’s” Visa expires.

Furthermore, the absence of laws that prevent the hate word “faggot” being as commonly used as the hate word “nigger” was before the creation of civil laws that protected the blacks, prevents the social boundaries that allow proper growth of youths in a non-hostile environment. Evidence of this are the (now due to the increasing growth of general acceptance, as the next generation of straight and gay citizens whose education has been updated steps up to the plate) recently public wave of juvenile suicide cases...that are sadly, and ultimately, nothing new...
The point is that people’s lives are still ticking away while bureaucrats place the issue on the back-burner generation after generation, refusing to accept that gay people are equal, and therefore deserve the same rights as everyone else. While most other developed nations in Europe, and even Latin American (Colombia, Argentina, Mexico currently debating it) permit civil unions between homosexuals with equal recognition of all their rights, “The Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave” continues to ignore the silent screaming of a small, but definetly existent percentage of their population that seeks nothing more but an equal opportunity at happiness. If the constitution and even the declaration of independence place us all as equals, defining America as a nation ruled by majority, that protects minorities…then how can we allow our rights to freedom, financial prosperity, protection of our nation, and even to live safely in peace without being forced to deny who you are slip away from us.

Is there not a separation between Church and State? Does scientific evidence hold any value over social struggle against the conservation of ignorance? Aren’t we all guaranteed the same protections and rights regardless of our race, gender, sexual orientation, or favorite ice-cream flavor? Do societies evolve or change on their own?

Gay (much like “straight” or “bi”) is also not a choice, but it is something that affects everyone, regardless of their race, gender, or religious preference across the globe since the beginning of civilization. Even animals may choose a same-sex life partner as evidenced by the study of the University of Oslo, that states “More than 1500 species where homosexuality have been observed” (“Against Nature? Oslo). Gay should not be a taboo. Gay is not an illness that can be prayed nor drugged away. You can attempt to brainwash someone into becoming straight, but then you would just be hindering their potential to fully experience their lives, and their rights to explore themselves as human beings without hurting anyone.

Would you want your children, or a loved one's child to live unhappily repressed simply because God/Genetics made them in a certain way that the world hasn’t updated fast enough to fully accept them as people? In a world of repression and lies, it would not be difficult for one to marry someone that is secretly gay, and refuses to come out simply out of lack of courage that it takes to live under such different conditions...do you think that could truly be a happy and honest marriage? Think about the children caught within the parental struggle to stabilize their personal mentality and sexuality and their mental health compared to those that grow up in open and caring environments.

With Florida being one of the many states that recognizes gays’ right to adopt (instead of permitting an vast number of children stuck in orphanages or foster homes relying on state budget/care), we join many developed nations who understand the full personal/economic value of all its tax-payers without any form of discrimination. Furthermore, if the violation of the sanctity of marriage is in question, then know some consider divorce a far greater offense, for it breaks an oath made in front God and the State (perjury?)...but it was still implemented into law due to the social necessity that so many people required in order to find financial and personal stability in their lives.

To simplify the concept a bit more:
If Gay-Joe and Gay-Jane were perceived as “people” instead of “gays” by the majority, our society would improve a lot more having provided every normal human being the rights and protections they deserve. People shouldn’t be perceived legally or socially by who they are biologically, but by what they hope to do for the world around them. This would promote a more accepting co-existence between all members of American society, as well as monogamy and general honesty.

Most conservatives that still discriminate against people based on their sexual orientation are mostly misinformed, or choose to ignore truth simply out of the comfort brought on by tradition or some form of profit. Others are closeted gays who envy the freedom, while others are simply out to hate on someone for what they’ve been taught as “sins” to feel a little better about their own faults; however they’re not the ones we allow to write our academic texts, nor are they the knowledgeable authorities we quote when we teach facts in our schools. Also, if gays were allowed to formally unite under the state, and their individual interpretation of God (we all see our Creator differently, we have a right to do so), that alone would promote monogamy and prevent sexually transmitted diseases among all groups (not that gays are statistically in the lead anymore; now replaced by African-American men). This would also allow more people to reconcile with the bonds that have been severed by temples that promote hate and discrimination, instead of providing help to those in need, or uniting the children of God without casting any stones (if they truly do see him as the supreme judge).

I invite you all to re-examine your definitions of justice, violence, and empathy for we are forging today the world of tomorrow, and as we do, we must do so carefully given how this nation has remained the center-stage of the world (at the very least in terms of democratic ideals) for a couple centuries. It shouldn't take global calamities, waves of pestilence, the bloody (in a term familiar to most: expensive) aftermath of riots and wars, or financial meltdowns for people to focus more in building the bridges and crumbling the walls that separate us, before they become bars in the dawn of an age with diminishing natural resources, and the decaying socio-political values that impede people from realizing how much influence they have lost over the basics of their democratic principles. We are all still working on Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s dream to make this nation “rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: we hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal”…and that no one should be judged by the color of their skin (or the way God/Genetics brought them into the world).

We shouldn’t wait for it to “get better”, it should be “alright” for all who support and believe the democratic spirit of America, a nation conformed of different states that in spite of being slightly different in their ideology, most stand united as those who wish to protect freedom and peace.
Remember, America is “The Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave”.
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Hello,

My name is Alberto Morales, I am a videographer at the New York Civil Liberties Union. I am writing to let you know about a video we just made that features your map of lgbt rights around the world prominently. I wanted to share with you so that you would know that your work is appreciated and that it is our honor to share it with our members. We also hope that you find occasion to send to your members and interested parties.

Again, thank you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcD5eHsgHLY


-Alberto Morales
amorales@nyclu.org
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Hello,
I am the daughter of a lesbian. I love my mom very much and support her completely. As I child I was ridiculed, and isolated because of this. I lived in the bible belt and the people there were closed-minded and hurtful. I want to be a part of this movement to CHANGE MINDS! Equal rights are for everyone! One day, (wo)mankind will realize that we are all equal.
I just want you all to know that there are other people that support your cause, not everyone has hate in their heart. I cannot wait to live in a world where foster children get placed in loving homes instead of being moved around and feeling unloved because "there aren't enough straight people to adopt them". A world that understands that there are more than two genders. A world that will let my mom get married. A world where everyone really is equal.
and I want to help any way I can.
I love everyone.
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Samantha (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for bisexual readers on 21/01/2010 tagged with gender identity, sexual orientation, illegality of female to female relationships, illegality of male to male relationships +0
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My name is sam. im 17 years old. I am freely Bisexual. i have a boyfriend, but i still like girls,, he has no problem with it. he just doesnt want to know that a girl can take me awa from him. i think its wrong for him to say something like that becasue i love him, but i like girls too. sometimes idk what to do. my dad doesnt like me being bisexual because im an embarrasment to him. but my mom loves me no matter what. i think the only real reason why i am the way that i am is because i was raised by 3 gay cousins. i love them to death. but sometimes ppl think that my brother might be gay and its wrong. everyday i walk around like i have a cement block on my head because i dont know the answers to myself. im stuck in a little box because no one wants to hear me out. and this is the only way i see out of that box...
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