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UNITED STATES

Male to Male relationships: Legal
Punishments for male to male relationships: No law
Female to Female Relationships: Legal
Age of consent: Equal for heterosexuals and homosexuals
Marriage and Substitutes for Marriage: Marriage laws vary in this country depending on area
Is it possible to change your gender on official documents?: Only in some areas
Gay or lesbian able to serve in the armed forces: Yes

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Have you had problems obtaining treatment for HIV/AIDS or STD/STIs in UNITED STATES?

The majority of people visiting this site have said No

Yes, there is no access prevention (2%) Yes, access to prevention is limited (0 %) Yes, getting prevention is stigmatized (16%) No (81%)

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Nina (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 24/10/2013 tagged with sexual orientation
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People are a lot more open to the thought of homosexuality in the United States opposed to some other countries in the world but even in the "Land of the free" people face discrimination for loving every day. I'm a lesbian. I've always been a lesbian. I was born a lesbian and I will die a lesbian. There have been so many times in my life where people have tried to tell me that being gay isn't natural. That this is just a "phase" but it's not. I know for a fact it's not. If it was "just a phase" I wouldn't have had my heart broken twice by two different females. I wouldn't feel the way that I do when I'm with a female. I've been with men before and I could never, ever feel the deep emotional connection I feel with a female, with a man. Trust me, I've tried. I used to think that there was something wrong with me. That the way I felt and thought was wrong. Of course as a young child I didn't exactly know what "gay" was and I didn't understand the concept of being with another girl. I was raised by straight parents and always assumed that being straight was the norm so of course that meant I had to be with a boy. As I reached about fifth grade, I realized that I wasn't attracted to the boys in my grade like the other girls were. They would all sit around and talk about how this boy was cute and how that boy was cute and of course I would engage in the conversations but I'd always be the one with the awkward comments that didn't really make sense or fit into what they were talking about. As middle school came, I learned was bisexuality was and assumed I fit into that category but still, it didn't feel right. My first kiss was from a boy and my first "relationship" was with a boy. I thought what I was doing was right but I soon realized that it was so wrong.. Around seventh grade I met a girl who changed my life. We met on the school bus, quickly became friends and shortly after our friendship began to bloom, I realized my feelings for her were so much more than anything else I've ever experienced. I wasn't exactly sure how I felt or why I felt like that. All I knew was that I would write her name on my papers and notebooks, I would think about her all day long, the highlight of my days were just seeing her and spending time with her, I wanted to have her in my life for the rest of my life. We began a flirtation eventually and my feelings continued to grow. I would swear that I was in love with her. Foolish me. I had no idea what love even was then. As the school year continued, I went through hell and back battling my feelings for this girl. Because she was a grade above me, when the next year came, she left my school to go into high school. We basically went our separate ways. We kept in touch here and there. But just having the experiences with her I realized what I wanted and who I was. Because of her, I didn't have to hide who I was anymore. Because of her, I was free from the shadows of my own mind. Around the time I started High School, I met another girl. My friend introduced us and very quickly we were talking all day, every day. I knew there was something about her that I couldn't help but just love. The first time we actually hung out and I looked into her eyes, I knew right away I would fall in love with her and sure enough, it didn't take long until I did. Our relationship was pretty crazy for about a year. Coming to an end in a less than platonic way. After we ended, I was heartbroken. I wasn't sure how to act or move on because I was so convinced that I would spend the rest of my life with her. But eventually time passed, other meaningless relationships came and went and I met someone new about two and a half years later. This other girl was everything I had been looking for, for so long. She was in a sense, perfect. Well, so I thought. We had our bad times but for the most part, I had never been so happy with anyone in my entire life. I loved this girl so purely and truly that I knew I would never feel this kind of love for any one else ever in my life. I've been blessed with an amazing support system between my friends and family. To this day I have yet to lose a friend or be disowned by a family member due to my sexual orientation and I am so grateful for that because I know that I can not change and I wouldn't change for anything in the world.
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Nina (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian readers on 24/10/2013 tagged with sexual orientation
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People are a lot more open to the thought of homosexuality in the United States opposed to some other countries in the world but even in the "Land of the free" people face discrimination for loving every day. I'm a lesbian. I've always been a lesbian. I was born a lesbian and I will die a lesbian. There have been so many times in my life where people have tried to tell me that being gay isn't natural. That this is just a "phase" but it's not. I know for a fact it's not. If it was "just a phase" I wouldn't have had my heart broken twice by two different females. I wouldn't feel the way that I do when I'm with a female. I've been with men before and I could never, ever feel the deep emotional connection I feel with a female, with a man. Trust me, I've tried. I used to think that there was something wrong with me. That the way I felt and thought was wrong. Of course as a young child I didn't exactly know what "gay" was and I didn't understand the concept of being with another girl. I was raised by straight parents and always assumed that being straight was the norm so of course that meant I had to be with a boy. As I reached about fifth grade, I realized that I wasn't attracted to the boys in my grade like the other girls were. They would all sit around and talk about how this boy was cute and how that boy was cute and of course I would engage in the conversations but I'd always be the one with the awkward comments that didn't really make sense or fit into what they were talking about. As middle school came, I learned was bisexuality was and assumed I fit into that category but still, it didn't feel right. My first kiss was from a boy and my first "relationship" was with a boy. I thought what I was doing was right but I soon realized that it was so wrong.. Around seventh grade I met a girl who changed my life. We met on the school bus, quickly became friends and shortly after our friendship began to bloom, I realized my feelings for her were so much more than anything else I've ever experienced. I wasn't exactly sure how I felt or why I felt like that. All I knew was that I would write her name on my papers and notebooks, I would think about her all day long, the highlight of my days were just seeing her and spending time with her, I wanted to have her in my life for the rest of my life. We began a flirtation eventually and my feelings continued to grow. I would swear that I was in love with her. Foolish me. I had no idea what love even was then. As the school year continued, I went through hell and back battling my feelings for this girl. Because she was a grade above me, when the next year came, she left my school to go into high school. We basically went our separate ways. We kept in touch here and there. But just having the experiences with her I realized what I wanted and who I was. Because of her, I didn't have to hide who I was anymore. Because of her, I was free from the shadows of my own mind. Around the time I started High School, I met another girl. My friend introduced us and very quickly we were talking all day, every day. I knew there was something about her that I couldn't help but just love. The first time we actually hung out and I looked into her eyes, I knew right away I would fall in love with her and sure enough, it didn't take long until I did. Our relationship was pretty crazy for about a year. Coming to an end in a less than platonic way. After we ended, I was heartbroken. I wasn't sure how to act or move on because I was so convinced that I would spend the rest of my life with her. But eventually time passed, other meaningless relationships came and went and I met someone new about two and a half years later. This other girl was everything I had been looking for, for so long. She was in a sense, perfect. Well, so I thought. We had our bad times but for the most part, I had never been so happy with anyone in my entire life. I loved this girl so purely and truly that I knew I would never feel this kind of love for any one else ever in my life. I've been blessed with an amazing support system between my friends and family. To this day I have yet to lose a friend or be disowned by a family member due to my sexual orientation and I am so grateful for that because I know that I can not change and I wouldn't change for anything in the world.
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