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This is what people are saying about life for LGBTI people in UNITED KINGDOM...
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Hi - I wanted to leave you with a mostly positive story, which is nevertheless laced with frustration. I socialised within the gay community from 1886 to 1995, in the UK. The reason was so that I could cope at the time with my 'gender dysphoria' (as it was called) - this led to my full gender change. Later, I effectively moved, though not deliberately, more into the 'straight world' but as a post-op transsexual (M to F). I have managed to work professionally since 1996 in a well-respected role, without anyone knowing. I have not 'come out' - even though I have been in two 'lesbian' relationships during that time. I wanted to state this now because it proves that transgendered people can work well in society. However, the frustration has been that coming out would have ended my career - of that I have no doubt. The number of people who openly castigate gay people and transgendered in particular, to my face, without the slightest idea about me is remarkable. If there is a joke in any of this it is on them - but of course, it's not funny. In my role, I do the best I can to educate people - but it has to be subtle, with small moves... My gay and transgender experiences have been wonderful and I would never go back on them - but it has been a long and hard road. I found I needed to be very resilient. Thanks for reading this.
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crazyandkirst (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for transgender bisexual readers on 14/03/2013 tagged with intersex, at the work place, gender identity, sexual orientation
Read about the story of Steven transitioning to Kirsty

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Mark van Laarhoven (user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay readers on 23/05/2012 tagged with at the work place +4
Watch out for Mantrav Engeland. Unfortunately Mantrav UK is scamming collegeaus abroad concerning their Club Mancha situation. I have a gaytravel agency in the Netherlands and I have booked Club Mancha for the beginning of 2012. The park did not exist at that time en my client moved to a real gaybungalowpark. As Mantrav is the biggest gaytouroperator in the UK you should expect an honest and reliable settlement. No Mantrav is scamming their collegaues in the gayscene. After many, many emails, question etc. I haven't still seen my money. The refund department doesn't even repy on email anymore. It is unbelievable that they act this way. So I wanne warn everybody world wide. Don't book with Mantrav. You cannot trust them. They put letters on their websit with reliable explanations as they say but meanwhile they do not reply on emails and give no refunds. Regards, Mark van Laarhoven. Freedom Travel. The Netherlands.
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It's so big of you to report them & then actually get things fixed & now you're improving things for other people, People who may have been victimised just for being who they are. You truly are an inspiration.

Also you picked a great union! My Dad works there :)
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anonymous (user currently living in AUSTRALIA) posted for readers on 27/06/2011 tagged with at the work place, illegality of female to female relationships +5
I never came out to myself that i am a "bisexual" i am really highly attracted to lesbians.... Some of my friend knew this but my sister overreacted with who i am... i hated her a little bit, she cant understand that i am so madly in love with my lesbian friend... she called me immoral, but i dont care...
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JOHN ELLIOTT (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for gay readers on 08/03/2011 tagged with at the work place +5
I currently work for the DWP, which is an excellent employer for gay people, male or female. However, I think this has been a fairly recent development in the workplace. My less favourable memories were of an insurance company, where during the Christmas present exchange party, gay men’s magazines and gay sex manuals would be wrapped up as gifts and given to unsuspecting male employees as a joke.

On finding out that I was gay, malicious male colleagues would indulge in immature same-sex kissing and mild simulation of gay sex acts in front of me.

During the early 1990’s I had trouble with another respected female member of staff. I had been involved in distributing personal safety alarms for women employees. The staff member proceeded to make jokes about small male private parts, asking if I would marry, and stated that I was a man, “who couldn’t make it with a woman.” On complaining, absolutely nothing was done about her spiteful conduct, whereby she was playing devious psychological rape games. I found similar rather anti-male sentiments with a small percentage of lesbian women who would make unenlightened comments about gay men, but be having affairs both with men and women.

Therefore, due to my experiences at work, I would prefer to keep my private life to myself. I am still proud of being gay, and would help anybody being bullied about their sexuality. I fully support people like Steve Davies for representing gay people within the macho arena of sport.
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