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Ishan Perera (user currently living in SRI LANKA) posted for gay lesbian readers on 06/10/2011 tagged with lgbt families, health, sexual orientation +0
Several years ago when I realized that I am a homosexual, I became very depressed, frustrated and dispirited. I tried to rationalize my sexuality in every possible way. I would look for Buddhist articles supporting homosexuality; I had a very profound knowledge of the biological, social, political factors favoring the existence of homosexuality. I hated Christianity for its homophobic views. I hated my parents for I know that they don’t like homosexuality. I hated everyone who was conservative and favored everybody with liberal norms. But at the meantime I looked on the www whether there are any treatments for homosexuality. The internet is bombarded with articles saying that homosexuality is biological and I came up with the youtube video made by APA saying that homosexuality is innate and reparative therapies are harmful.
But deep within I wished whether I can change. I did not like the way I behaved. I would have sex very often. I was addicted to pornography. I would browse the facebook for possible sex partners. I was obsessed with sex. I was failing my university exams. No appetite. No motivation. Just sex. I was so down that I went to meet a psychiatrist. I was given an anti-depressant. I told him that I am gay. He asked me whether I wanted to change. I said yes. He said the change is possible. I didn’t go to meet that doctor again because I instantly judged him as a stupid, conservative person. I thoroughly believed that homosexuality is biological and it cannot be changed.
My depression erupted again. I went to meet another psychiatrist who is very famous. He was so young and kind. He diagnosed me with social phobia and secondary depression arose due to homosexuality. I was referred to a psychologist who is very proficient in cognitive and behavioural therapies. She explained me the behaviour of homosexual thoughts and I luckily identified that homosexuality is the root cause for all these problems. It should be noted that both these professionals did not try to convert me. They clearly asked me whether I have a desire to change.
I have come out of the closet as a strong, independent, effective, and efficient and most importantly a happy heterosexual. I am less disturbed by sexual thoughts. I started seeing that there is something beyond flesh. I have a better concentration and found myself very good at meditating. I would for political reasons say that homosexuality is not a disease. But I would vehemently encourage homosexuals to become heterosexuals for their own betterment. There are very effective psychological help for homosexuals who want to change. Some will attain change instantly and some will take several years. It depends and worth a try than being a slave to your own emotions. The heterosexual potential is within you. But unfortunately some so called activists and organizations keep misleading the homosexuals that sexual orientation cannot be change since they are born that way. This is very destructive and selfish. Organizations and activists must respect the homosexual’s right to change and they should be helped to realize their ambitions.
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