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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 24/08/2013 tagged with human rights +10
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Representatives of Johannesburg Pride, Pink Loerie Mardi Gras, Mr.Gay World, previous Mr. GSA Jason Rogers, as well as media from Sondag newspaper, The Sowetan and RSG showed up at the protest at the Russian Embassy in Pretoria. Coenie W. Kukkuk from Mr. Gay World and Kaye Ally from Johannesburg Pride spoke to Russian officials who came out to meet the protest group. Kukkuk said he was not in favour of a boycott of the Stochi Olympics in 2014 as innocent athletes from nations who do respect human rights will be affected - some of whom who have worked for most of their adult lives for that Olympic moment - but asked for targeted sanctions of Russian LPs responsible for the anti-gay act in Russia. Ally said to officials that in South Africa we respect diversity and equality in our constitution and homophobia is not welcome in South Africa. The officials agreed to convey the message to the Russian Ambassador. Afterward, a few couples kissed right in front of astonished security guards, South African Police Services officials who showed up and some suspicious Russians staring from theparking lot. The media present undertook to report about the protest.


- Gallery: Gay and lesbian South Africans staged kiss-in protests in Cape Town and Pretoria against Russia's anti-gay legislation on Friday. Mambaonline.com and PINK Papparazzi were there to capture all the smooching.
Cape Town and Pretoria - 8/23/2013

- Pics: Various http://www.mambaonline.com/galleries_view.asp?gal_id=737 (photos by Luiz de Barros)

- Read more here: http://www.mambaonline.com/article.asp?artid=8478

Photos attached by Oelof de Meyer
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ArishmaryCanada (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 14/10/2011 +5
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My Partner & I (Arishmary in Canada) will Be Sponsoring Transgender Asylum Seeker Living in South Africa right now - Everyday is Danger for her because she is a Congolese Transgender, from the Congo.

Human Rights & Freedom Costs For All of Us - But More For Transgender Gay Asylum Seeker “June” Because She’s Trapped in South Africa and Waiting for Permission To Leave. Pls Help Me Help Her Survive this waiting period.

The Financial Support I'm asking for Today is For protection; for shelter, for refuge, for human rights, WE MUST ALL FIGHT NOW. Crimes against humanity, torture, killing, persecutions, the prosecutorial system, attacks, homophobia, femaphobia, xenophobia, sexism, racism, ignorance, HATE AND DEATH. Please Help Me Save Just One Beautiful Life today; that’s all I ask, just for a little help.

There’s more Keywords and you’ll learn about them all by following me at Facebook and Liking my page there. For protection; for shelter, for refuge, for human rights, WE MUST ALL FIGHT NOW.

She needs a safe place to live and we need money to support her until she is here with us. South Africa Just have to Allow her To Leave, and the Money is to Keep her Alive until that time Comes.

She went there for Sanctuary after ending up fleeing from a Sexist, Racist, Homophobic Criminally Violent Prison called The Congo. FLEEING OPPRESSION FOR IMPRISONMENT is what happened - From the Hell of The Congo to the Hell of South Africa Cape Town.

Where many believe it's not so bad if the community is a gay and lesbian one, but it will always be unsafe for Feminine boys who are transgender, gay and from the Congo.
It may feel for June that her life now is not worth living, but the life she will be having here definitely is. When and if she gets here, she’ll be safe and living with us. We’ll take care of everything here and at some point in the future she’ll be a Canadian Citizen (but for me a friend for life; the sister I always wanted, the brother I know will always be here for me).

It’s not simple, it’s not fast, and will probably hit many snags along the way - it'll be a rough and highly strung ride for her, but with the few volunteers that are helping, time will go faster than if she did it alone.

We can do this, we can save this beautiful AND Amazing Transgender Girlyboy Feminine Loving Person, who feels like people are always attacking her, regardless if it's physical or not. She is still young, still impressionable, still trusting of to many, and still in danger. She is my sister, she is my brother.

I say she, I call her; but please help us save his life. Donate to me some of your hard earned money. We can always talk on the phone if you want; you can always send me a message here or on Facebook, I can always do things for you online, and you will forever be appreciated.

If you are worried that the money will be mismanaged, don’t worry it will not. Our contacts in South Africa in charge of the money for her from us, are responsible adult professionals and activists; humanitarians and educated people who fight for Human Rights and know exactly what to do more than anyone we’ve seen so far about this Case.

They will be managing her money because it is our money and we need it managed over there; for her, so it is not lost or spent wastefully. Right now she needs a safe place to live, and she’ll be finding one at some point with their help - or a separate NGO she may find to help her just to live somewhere that is safe and far from the social & party life of the GLBT Community as well as the Danger of every other place.

Basically we need to save June, she is worthy of Life, and she is an Activist still helping others when ever she can, still with friends I know I would not trust in a million years, and still welcoming anyone who shows a nice face; to be her friend.

But needs help for herself more than ever before even these friends surprise her with a punch or theft. The NGO contacts there are working to speak to Government for allowing her to leave, because she is not allowed as of yet.

It can take Months for them to allow her, it's been months already and we're just starting the paper work over there. In the meantime she needs a safe place to live; money, and courage to continue living out this time until she's allowed to leave. After she comes to Canada, we will work with her and everything will be okay finally for her.

There has to be international Justice FOR GLBT ASYLUM SEEKERS, REGUGEES, INNOCENT POLITICAL PRISONERS, PROTESTERS AND SO MUCH MORE, so until there is - We NEED YOU..

She’s one person that is my Friend; Family, Sister & Brother, just one person named Junior Mayema (I have named June), have you heard about her because people have tried to help her with no success until I came along. There are pages written for her, and I run the page written the most. You can find all those pages and more here: http://bitly.com/or349p

Junior is now living (or trying to live) in Cape Town South Africa. I need to help her and the only thing that will help her now is Money.

Money will pay her rent; buy her food & toiletries, allow us to communicate on the phone and online with her helping-contacts and herself - and it will save her time right now to build herself up with strength just to survive; but it’s hard to survive in a place where she is having to hide everyday while hoping to live another one..

She’s from Kinshasa now living in South Africa and it is not an easy place to live when you are a gay boy and feminine with no family no support no home or money. Junior is the sweetest thing you've seen and does not deserve what she is going through. It’s like I’m watching myself suffer over there when I was younger.

I know I would not last and I would be killed before growing my balls big enough to actually leave and run away. She's not suppose to run away until it's time to come here now, because where she is; is where the work is being done for her so she must stay and it's dangerous.

It takes courage, it takes strength, and it takes her so much that I know I would never succeed on my own. Junior being Born a Protestant doesn‘t help and being a Transgender Boy is a deathly No No where she is from and where she is living right now.

There's racism in the GLBT Community and her own social friends may not be social friends anymore if they find out that she's receiving financial help.

She was never able to finish her Studies of Law at the University of Kinshasa and had to flee for her life, she speaks English and French and she‘s not a she. She’s only a she to me and others but not to all.

To me she is like myself when I was young and didn't know how terrible people can be; even though back then when I had so called friends and coworkers around to protect me.
She was Born on July 30, 1987, that's 20 years younger than I am right now, but I will teach her everything I know. But ever since birth her life was doomed, unlike mine because I knew at least I would be alive the next day. I NEED TO HELP HER and I’m asking everyone to help me help her.

There is lots more to find out if you want to, I am an Activist Writer online and just by following this link to a page at facebook (I'm updating for her while supporting others with International News and Posts), you’ll find out all you need to know. http://on.fb.me/JMblog

Please go there for more and come here to give - or go there for more and become my friend so we can message each other while you decide how much to give. I am very personal able so please don't feel insecure about communicating with me.

I can be your friend or I can just except your financial help; you can be anonymous or I can blog about your generosity to the world. You can send me a cheque or what ever you want, just please help me help June Mayema, so she can have a Life worthy of all her loving goodness.

Thank you, and remember that my Fb page is the updated page of support blogs for June and others.

Ari R. Kolman
Ontario Canada
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:-( (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian readers on 18/02/2010 tagged with human rights, laws and leadership , religion, marriage / civil unions +5
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This is a sad day in South Africa. Today a lesbian minister was fired for marrying her life-partner. The Methodist church was happy to ordain her as a lesbian minister, even assign a church to her care, and dating was never a problem either. But when she fell in love and married, that was when she was suspended and today, they fired her.

Our country recognises gay marriages. Our constitution protects all people from any type of discrimination, including discrimination because of sexual orientation. But we are still targeted. The church will not marry us, and many will not even accept us through the door. We are raped and murdered, ostracised and mocked. The country and the constitution are merely pieces of paper, impotent. Ineffective and obviously unenforced.

Yes, today is a sad day for all GLBTI people in South Africa.
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jennifer kisten (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender intersex readers on 07/02/2011 tagged with intersex, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , armed forces +5
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hi there please remove my response under stories...you promised to do it before.....my life has been threatend here in south africa i just cannot have this....i added an email complaint here with very confidential details. etc.....which never supposed to happen at the time i suffered serious trauma to the head, had a bacterial tumor as well..... and didnt know what i was doing hence the detailed confusing email....please please remove it as police etc threatened to kill me....thanks god bless...
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for readers in response to this story on 27/06/2012 +5
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HI THERE PLS REMOVE The above story. I do not want it like it is I will write a NEW ONE THANKS JEN
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Bandile Mkhize (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay readers on 15/10/2013 tagged with hiv/aids +5
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I am a gay right activist and novelist on homosexuality and I am just simply seeking to do the best I can to contribute to the international welfare of LGBT People of the world. And on top of all this. I am a Humanitarian.
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Johan (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for readers on 20/07/2011 +5
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I am a 21 year old university student in a relatively small university town about 130km from Johannesburg, SA. I have been openly gay for all of three years on and off campus. Though I do experience a certain amount of subdued hostility in some of my peers there has been no attempt by any to change me. When walking around in town I find that people have a mood of interest rather than disgust. Wanting to know whether I am dressed for a party for instance or just generally being good-mannered and friendly. On my travels around South Africa I can honestly say that I have never been afraid to live out my personality as a young gay man, I annually partake in the Johannesburg gay pride parade and do so with as much flamboyance as I can. Though you hear of, and see very scary stories on the news and from peers I have thus far been lucky in the sense of only positive things sprouting from my coming out. SA has a massive gay community and especially in cities like Johannesburg and Cape Town a very active gay community. Though many have a very distorted image of our country I must say I'm proud to be a gay South African.
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Ale (user currently living in CAMEROON) posted for readers in response to this story on 14/10/2013 +5
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Well, I'm a lesbian so maybe I'm betetr suited to respond to this. I never chose to be gay. I never wanted it. I wanted to be straight like my sisters and everyone else I knew. At a very young age I found myself attracted to women. My earliest memory of my first attraction to the same sex was when I was in the first grade. She was my teacher. However, I didn't realize I was gay until I was 14 after I realized my friends were beginning to become boy crazy and I wasn't. I can't say I was born this way for certain, but I certainly didn't choose it. I was never attracted to men. Did you sit down one day and say I think I'll be str8 ? I'm sure you didn't.New England Journal of Medicine http://utfnleypu.com [url=http://gffyyqkbi.com]gffyyqkbi[/url] [link=http://drouegndlh.com]drouegndlh[/link]
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jennifer (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for intersex readers on 02/04/2013 +5
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please im asking you yet so nicely to take off my story underneath jennifer please.........im getting into lots of trouble my career is being detroyed why you doing this i asked you years ago too please i beg you remove it .......even for relationships due to my story i am getting lifelong now problems why are you torturing me. im sure you realize whats this doing to me please. thanks a lot......
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klaartje van damme (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for readers on 07/11/2013 +4
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there is this guy in my class and he hates gay people like literally hates. me and my best friend were yelling to him and the whole classroom stood by our side exept for three other people and the guy himself. i support gay people because tey are people just like us. so every gay peson who reads , people can only hurt you if you let them!!!!!!!!!!
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The Struggle of being a lesbian (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian straight readers on 25/05/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +4
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I used to live in South Africa, before i moved to U.S. Being a lesbian in South Africa is a challenge because men are now starting to rape lesbian women and threaten our families with the goal of turning us, lesbian women, straight. I remember, when i was on my way to see my friend, a group of 7 people; four boys and three girls stopped me, and the girls grabbed me with my belt. They said to me, "you think you're a boy, we see you all the time walking with other girls. You are supposed to be dating men, not other women." I kept quiet. One of the boys said to me, "Starting from today, you are my girlfriend. " I told him that i do not date boys, and he said that they will show me that i am woman. They grabbed a beer and pour it on me, and they told me to sit down. I refused. I told that i wasn't there to sit down with them, i was just going to see my friend. Luckily, those girls let go of me, and i managed to runaway from them and i went home. When i arrived at home, i was smelling beer all over my clothes, and i was really angry. So, i grabbed a big knife, and i went back to where they were sitting, as soon as they saw me coming with a knife, they ran away. I chased them. After that day, they never bothered me, i still took the same road to my friend's house. I hate what men do lesbian women in South Africa. Raping a women wouldn't make her fall in love or have feeling for men the next morning. It is really disgusting!
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posted for readers on 23/06/2013 +0
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Hello love

am Susan Lawrence by name, from USA. am looking for a lovely and a caring lesbian partner who will love and cherish for the rest of my life.. am so hot.. so sexy.. so caring..my hands are smooth to feel your body.. i also love sucking pussi and am so pretty and sweet.. i am in need of true life partner and i promise to love you till the end of this world.. my contact via:susanlawrence258@gmail.com

Best regards

Susan Lawrence
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posted for readers on 23/06/2013 +0
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Hello love

am Susan Lawrence by name, from USA. am looking for a lovely and a caring lesbian partner who will love and cherish for the rest of my life.. am so hot.. so sexy.. so caring..my hands are smooth to feel your body.. i also love sucking pussi and am so pretty and sweet.. i am in need of true life partner and i promise to love you till the end of this world.. my contact via:susanlawrence258@gmail.com

Best regards

Susan Lawrence
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GHMCC (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/02/2013 tagged with human rights, religion, marriage / civil unions +0
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Good Hope Metropolitan Community Church (GHMCC), an inclusive and affirming Christian Church in Cape Town, has moved to its new home at Central Methodist Mission on Greenmarket Square in Cape Town. Good Hope MCC Worship services are held every Sunday evening at 18h00.

Although Good Hope MCC serves a predominantly gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender congregation, the membership is diverse and goes beyond the social constructs of gender, beyond race and sexual orientation. Good Hope MCC traces its roots back to 1983, when a few Christians founded the "Gay Christian Community". Subsequently Good Hope MCC became a member congregation of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), an affirming Christian denomination with churches and ministries in more than 37 countries.

MCC are at the vanguard of civil and human rights movements by addressing important issues such as racism, sexism, homoprejudice, ageism and other forms of oppression. MCC has been on the forefront of the struggle towards marriage equality worldwide and continues to be a powerful voice in the movement for LGBTI equality. Across the globe Metropolitan Community Churches are also known as the “Human Rights Church”.

Core values are Inclusion, Community, Spiritual Transformation and Social Action.

Good Hope MCC recognises that people are not one dimensional and orientation, whether LGBTI or straight is only aspect of who we are ~ but for so many LGBTI’s, this can be something that deeply conflicts with our spirituality because of what is so commonly preached. It is GHMCC’s mission to serve God among those who are seeking and celebrating the integration of their spiritually and sexuality. We know that many have been deeply hurt by organised religion and GHMCC is a place, where people are able to have their faith and their love for God restored, whilst still being true to all of who they are, with no fear, no shame and no guilt.
At Good Hope MCC, we know that we are created in the image of God. We also understand that God is not limited by our understanding of God. God is not bound by any of our cultural or personal biases. God is beyond gender, beyond race, beyond nationality, beyond any church or religion, beyond any culture or time. We are created in the image of God – we do not create God in our image.

For further information, please visit www.goodhopemcc.org or e-mail welcome@goodhopemcc.org.
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