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ArishmaryCanada (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 14/10/2011 +5
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My Partner & I (Arishmary in Canada) will Be Sponsoring Transgender Asylum Seeker Living in South Africa right now - Everyday is Danger for her because she is a Congolese Transgender, from the Congo.

Human Rights & Freedom Costs For All of Us - But More For Transgender Gay Asylum Seeker “June” Because She’s Trapped in South Africa and Waiting for Permission To Leave. Pls Help Me Help Her Survive this waiting period.

The Financial Support I'm asking for Today is For protection; for shelter, for refuge, for human rights, WE MUST ALL FIGHT NOW. Crimes against humanity, torture, killing, persecutions, the prosecutorial system, attacks, homophobia, femaphobia, xenophobia, sexism, racism, ignorance, HATE AND DEATH. Please Help Me Save Just One Beautiful Life today; that’s all I ask, just for a little help.

There’s more Keywords and you’ll learn about them all by following me at Facebook and Liking my page there. For protection; for shelter, for refuge, for human rights, WE MUST ALL FIGHT NOW.

She needs a safe place to live and we need money to support her until she is here with us. South Africa Just have to Allow her To Leave, and the Money is to Keep her Alive until that time Comes.

She went there for Sanctuary after ending up fleeing from a Sexist, Racist, Homophobic Criminally Violent Prison called The Congo. FLEEING OPPRESSION FOR IMPRISONMENT is what happened - From the Hell of The Congo to the Hell of South Africa Cape Town.

Where many believe it's not so bad if the community is a gay and lesbian one, but it will always be unsafe for Feminine boys who are transgender, gay and from the Congo.
It may feel for June that her life now is not worth living, but the life she will be having here definitely is. When and if she gets here, she’ll be safe and living with us. We’ll take care of everything here and at some point in the future she’ll be a Canadian Citizen (but for me a friend for life; the sister I always wanted, the brother I know will always be here for me).

It’s not simple, it’s not fast, and will probably hit many snags along the way - it'll be a rough and highly strung ride for her, but with the few volunteers that are helping, time will go faster than if she did it alone.

We can do this, we can save this beautiful AND Amazing Transgender Girlyboy Feminine Loving Person, who feels like people are always attacking her, regardless if it's physical or not. She is still young, still impressionable, still trusting of to many, and still in danger. She is my sister, she is my brother.

I say she, I call her; but please help us save his life. Donate to me some of your hard earned money. We can always talk on the phone if you want; you can always send me a message here or on Facebook, I can always do things for you online, and you will forever be appreciated.

If you are worried that the money will be mismanaged, don’t worry it will not. Our contacts in South Africa in charge of the money for her from us, are responsible adult professionals and activists; humanitarians and educated people who fight for Human Rights and know exactly what to do more than anyone we’ve seen so far about this Case.

They will be managing her money because it is our money and we need it managed over there; for her, so it is not lost or spent wastefully. Right now she needs a safe place to live, and she’ll be finding one at some point with their help - or a separate NGO she may find to help her just to live somewhere that is safe and far from the social & party life of the GLBT Community as well as the Danger of every other place.

Basically we need to save June, she is worthy of Life, and she is an Activist still helping others when ever she can, still with friends I know I would not trust in a million years, and still welcoming anyone who shows a nice face; to be her friend.

But needs help for herself more than ever before even these friends surprise her with a punch or theft. The NGO contacts there are working to speak to Government for allowing her to leave, because she is not allowed as of yet.

It can take Months for them to allow her, it's been months already and we're just starting the paper work over there. In the meantime she needs a safe place to live; money, and courage to continue living out this time until she's allowed to leave. After she comes to Canada, we will work with her and everything will be okay finally for her.

There has to be international Justice FOR GLBT ASYLUM SEEKERS, REGUGEES, INNOCENT POLITICAL PRISONERS, PROTESTERS AND SO MUCH MORE, so until there is - We NEED YOU..

She’s one person that is my Friend; Family, Sister & Brother, just one person named Junior Mayema (I have named June), have you heard about her because people have tried to help her with no success until I came along. There are pages written for her, and I run the page written the most. You can find all those pages and more here: http://bitly.com/or349p

Junior is now living (or trying to live) in Cape Town South Africa. I need to help her and the only thing that will help her now is Money.

Money will pay her rent; buy her food & toiletries, allow us to communicate on the phone and online with her helping-contacts and herself - and it will save her time right now to build herself up with strength just to survive; but it’s hard to survive in a place where she is having to hide everyday while hoping to live another one..

She’s from Kinshasa now living in South Africa and it is not an easy place to live when you are a gay boy and feminine with no family no support no home or money. Junior is the sweetest thing you've seen and does not deserve what she is going through. It’s like I’m watching myself suffer over there when I was younger.

I know I would not last and I would be killed before growing my balls big enough to actually leave and run away. She's not suppose to run away until it's time to come here now, because where she is; is where the work is being done for her so she must stay and it's dangerous.

It takes courage, it takes strength, and it takes her so much that I know I would never succeed on my own. Junior being Born a Protestant doesn‘t help and being a Transgender Boy is a deathly No No where she is from and where she is living right now.

There's racism in the GLBT Community and her own social friends may not be social friends anymore if they find out that she's receiving financial help.

She was never able to finish her Studies of Law at the University of Kinshasa and had to flee for her life, she speaks English and French and she‘s not a she. She’s only a she to me and others but not to all.

To me she is like myself when I was young and didn't know how terrible people can be; even though back then when I had so called friends and coworkers around to protect me.
She was Born on July 30, 1987, that's 20 years younger than I am right now, but I will teach her everything I know. But ever since birth her life was doomed, unlike mine because I knew at least I would be alive the next day. I NEED TO HELP HER and I’m asking everyone to help me help her.

There is lots more to find out if you want to, I am an Activist Writer online and just by following this link to a page at facebook (I'm updating for her while supporting others with International News and Posts), you’ll find out all you need to know. http://on.fb.me/JMblog

Please go there for more and come here to give - or go there for more and become my friend so we can message each other while you decide how much to give. I am very personal able so please don't feel insecure about communicating with me.

I can be your friend or I can just except your financial help; you can be anonymous or I can blog about your generosity to the world. You can send me a cheque or what ever you want, just please help me help June Mayema, so she can have a Life worthy of all her loving goodness.

Thank you, and remember that my Fb page is the updated page of support blogs for June and others.

Ari R. Kolman
Ontario Canada
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Johan (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for readers on 20/07/2011 +5
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I am a 21 year old university student in a relatively small university town about 130km from Johannesburg, SA. I have been openly gay for all of three years on and off campus. Though I do experience a certain amount of subdued hostility in some of my peers there has been no attempt by any to change me. When walking around in town I find that people have a mood of interest rather than disgust. Wanting to know whether I am dressed for a party for instance or just generally being good-mannered and friendly. On my travels around South Africa I can honestly say that I have never been afraid to live out my personality as a young gay man, I annually partake in the Johannesburg gay pride parade and do so with as much flamboyance as I can. Though you hear of, and see very scary stories on the news and from peers I have thus far been lucky in the sense of only positive things sprouting from my coming out. SA has a massive gay community and especially in cities like Johannesburg and Cape Town a very active gay community. Though many have a very distorted image of our country I must say I'm proud to be a gay South African.
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jennifer kisten (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender intersex readers on 16/02/2011
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HI PLEASE TAKE THIS ARTICLE OF ME OUT OF HERE. I ASKED MANY TIMES BEFORE. I AM HAVING INTENSE PROBLEMS AS ITS GOT MY NAME.....ETC ETC.....I JUST WANT TO CARRY ON WITH LIFE PLS. BOYFRIENDS ETC ARE GOOGLING ME. ALSO THE NEWSPAPERS ARE GOING TO TAKE THE ARTICLE OFF......I HAVE CONSULTED WITH LAWYERS AND I DONT WANT TO BE RUDE OR HARSH SO PLS REMOVE THIS ARTICLE ABOUT JENNIFER KISTEN...INTERSEX THANKS SO MUCH..GOD BLESS
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jennifer kisten (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender intersex readers on 07/02/2011 tagged with intersex, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , armed forces +5
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hi there please remove my response under stories...you promised to do it before.....my life has been threatend here in south africa i just cannot have this....i added an email complaint here with very confidential details. etc.....which never supposed to happen at the time i suffered serious trauma to the head, had a bacterial tumor as well..... and didnt know what i was doing hence the detailed confusing email....please please remove it as police etc threatened to kill me....thanks god bless...
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Lee (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 25/04/2010 tagged with health
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To whom it may concern:

Hi

Please contact me regarding the possibility of placing a small GLBT Alcoholics Anonymous AD post on your site.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you.

Lee

0728505141
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WOW AMAZING WEBSITE.(sorry for caps im blind in right eye and sometimes its better to see with big letters)........GOSH IM SO PROUD OF U ALL....I WILL DEFINTELY GET BACK TO YOU BUT ...........AT THE MOMENT IVE GOT ;LOTS OF WORK AS WHOLE OF SOUTH AFRICA WANTS MY STORY......BUT I WANT TO USE MY EXPERIENCES GOOD AND BAD TO CONTRIBUTE FOR MORE AWARENESS AND PREVENT ABUSE ETC TO ""OUR"" PEOPLE.......... I HAVE BEEN YEARS AND YEARS ACTIVE IN THE CYBER WORLD ..............SPREADING TOLERANCE, PEACE, LOVE AND RESPECT FOR TRANSGENDER,INTERSEX, GAY,LESBIAN AND BISEXUAL FOLK AS INTERNET HAS BEEN FOR A LONG WHILE IN THE NETHERLANDS ALSO KNOWN AS HOLLAND(EUROPE)...OFFCOURSE I DID FOCUS MORE ON TRANSGENDER AS I WAS BORN THAT WAY BUT AFTER GENITAL CORRECTION I REFER TO MYSELF AS A TOTAL FEMALE. NOT ONLY FACING GENDER ISSUES BUT ALSO BEING A CHRONICALLY ILL PATIENT AFTER SUFFERING A DUBBEL NECKHERNIA AND MANY PTSD'S.......BUT BAD EXPERIENCES MADE ME A BITTER AND ANGRY WOMAN ....... I WASNT ALWAYS A LOVING PERSON ON THE NET BUT MOSTLY THERE WHEN PEOPLE NEEDED MY ADVICE AND BY THEM READING MY BLOGS OR VIEWING MY SLIDESHOWS AND PICS THEY BECAME MORE AWARE OF ""A DIFFERENT TYPE OF HUMAN BEING"""
I ALSO BECAME A ""VIRTUAL EXHIBITIONIST"" AS I WANTED OTHERS TO SEE WHAT WE LOOKED LIKE AND THE WAY WE LEAD OUR LIVES......YES I DARED.....
But EH VIEWERS,READERS, LISTENERS ALSO SHARED THEIR EXPERIENCES TOO EVEN MOMS WITH KIDS BORN LIKE ME.........THEY GAINED COURAGE FROM ME PUTTING MYSELF OPEN AND WIDE FOR ALL TO SEE AND READ.......INTERNATIONALLY.....RECENTLY WAS YET ANOTHER BLOW HERE IN SOUTH AFRICA........SEXUAL ASSUALTS AFTER SPIKING MY DRINK AND
ALMOST CAUSING RAPED BY TWO CHUBB AND BLUE SECURITY ARMED RESPONSE OFFICERS(SERVE AND PROTECT EXCUSE ME!!!) THESE GUYS STIL WORKING AND NOT PROSECUTED, NOT BROUGHT INTO COURT, NO JAIL SENTENCE NADA...OOOPS SOUTH AFRICA U DID IT AGAIN....BY THE WAY I WAS ALL ALONE 2 HOURS ALMOST NAKED IN THE BUSH DARK DARK BLEEDING AND CRYING AND TERRIFIED AND THIS TOOK PLACE IN OCTOBER 2009......
HAVING
RENTAL DISPUTES,( I APPRENTLY DIDNT FIT INTO THE MOSLIM DOMINATED GARDEN FALT I RENTED IN AUGUST 2009 IN OVERPORT CITYBORDER MNORNINGSIDE....
THEY SAID IM A MAN AND "TRANSVESTITE"" AND THEY DONT BELIEF IN THAT
TYPE OF PEOPLE AS IM NOT NATURAL AND IM TOO EXTRAVAGANT CAUSE THERE WERE LADIES IN BOERKAS AND CHILDREN THERE AND IM ""TOO MUCH""
WHICH LEAD ME TO GO TO HOUSING TRIBUNAL CAUSE THEY DIDNT WANT TO FUMAGATE PLACE NOR REMOVE BORER FILLED CUBBOARDS AND CARPETS....THIS SHOIWS HOW EVEN MORE TREACHEROUS LIVES WE LEAD AS THEY WOULD HAVE DONE IT IF I WORE A BOERKA THATS WHAT I SAID WHEN POLICE ARRIVED..ASSOMEONE ELSE THERE TOLD ME CAUSE IM DIFFERENT AND NOT MOLSIM THATS WHY IM NOT BEING HELPED./..THEIR MOUTHS WERE SHUT.............

STILL GOTTA GO TO EQUALITY COURT BOTH FOR POLICE AND LANDLORDS CAUSE WHEN THEY FOUND OUT I WAS TRANSGENDER ALL HELL BROKE LOSE.............
POLICE CORRUPTION(LANDLORD AND SAPS TENANT DOING EACH OTHER FAVOURS)
I WAS ARRESTED FOR DEFAMTION OF CHARACTER AND APPEARED WITHIN 3 DAYS IN ""H"" COURT AMONGST RAPIST AND MURDERS JUST TREACHEROUS AND DISGUSTING AS IVE GOT NO CRIMINAL RECORDS NO WHERE.....FINGER PRINTED LIKE A THIEF, RAPIST OR LIKE A HIJACKER,
WAISTING TAXPAYERS MONEY BY THE WAY AS I GOT MY OWN CASE THROWN OUT OF COURT SAME DAY,
DISCRIMINATED BY A BAR LADFY WHO SAID""IM A REAL WOMAN YOUR A FAKE WOMAN NOW FUCK OFF"" THIS AFTER A GUY HIT ON ME AS IMN A PRETTY FEMALE AND SHE GOT JEALOUS AND TOLD HIM ":""YOU KNOW THATS A MAN"" HE WAS OFFCOURSE ASHAMED AND ""DISGUSTED"ALL OF A SUDDEN
POLICE LISTENS TO HER AND WANTS TO ARREST ME AGAIN IF I CANT PROVE IM A FEMALE.......I APPARENTLY AM AN """HIV MOFFIE"" PPPFFFFF LOOK AT MY PICS

ALSO ABSA BANK REFUSES TO CHANGE GENDER AND FIRST NAME TO DUTCH FMEALE GENDER AND NAME JENNIFER KISTEN CAUSING SO MUCH PROBLEMS FOR ME MOTNHS NOW AS THEY SAY ARE YOU MR GJ KISTENS WIFE......AND THEY STILL DIDNT CHANGE IT YET..........STILL GOTTA FACE ALL RESTAURANTS OR WOOLWORTHS OR MUG AND BEAN WERE IM REGULAR CUSTOMER AND ITS SAYS CREDIT CARD MR GJ KISTEN ..DEBET CARDS TOO.....SALES PEOPLE ARE SUSPICIOUS SOMETIMES THEY THINK IM FRAUDING WITH A MANS CARD OR HAVE A HUSBAND WHEN I SAY I DONT AND IT SAYS NOT MARRIED EVERYWHERE...THIS IS WHEN THEY KNOW IM SINGLE AND JUST ARRIVED TO SOUTHA FRICA AFTER 20 YRS AND MAKING A NEW START.....THERES DUTCH MISS KISTEN AND SOUTH AFRICAN MR GJ KISTEN.....PPPFFFFFFFFF I AM NATURALLY PASSABLE AS WOMAN AND LOOK AT THE DRAMA AM I THE DRAMA QUEEN?? my adoptive parents gave me that male name i didnt...im female.
AND EMAIL POST ALSO"" DEAR GORDON""" ETC ETC ETC............ABSA IS UNBELIEVABLE EVEN I ASKED THEM TO CHANGE THE REWARDS CARD THEY DIDNT.....
YET I PULLED MYSELF TOGETHER AND PREVAILED.....OFFCOURSE IM STILL TROUBLED BUT HEY WE SHOUL
D LET OUR EMOTION GO RIGHT....BUT......NOW ITS TIME TO SERVE MY COUNTRY AND COMMUNITY.......... I AM AWARE YOU ALL HAVE BEEN HERE SOMETIME NOW AND I APPRECIATE PEOPLE LIKE YOU......CHAPEAU!!
. IVE HAD TO DO MANY TESTS ON MY OWN AS THE GENDER HELP IN THE NETHERLANDS WAS UNSATISFACTORY CAUSE EVEN THERE I ALSO HAD TO DO DEAL WITH RACISM, ....RAPE, ....BEATINGS. ....POLICE BRUTALITY AND UNJUSTICE....,GENDER DISCRIMINATIO(TRANSFOBIA).....UNEQUALITY......BIASNESS ETC ETC ETC.........YET I AM A TRUE SURVIVOR WANTING TO MAKE CHANGES ALSO IN MY OWN BIRTH COUNTRY SOUTH AFRICA.(CITY DURBAN) WHICH IS REALLY NOT WHAT I EXPECTED TO BE CONCERNING HUMAN RIGHTS FOR TANSGENDER PEOPLE.AS I HAD THE IDEA THAT IT WAS A TOTALLY PROGRESSED COUNTRY REGARDING PEOPLE WHOM ARE DIFFERENT......... CAUSE .I FOUND LOT OF SMILIARITIES AS IN ZIMBABWE.AND OTHER AFRICAN COUNTRIES....I READ ON THE INTERNET THAT WE ARE ONE OF THE MOST PROGRESSED COUNTRIES I ASK MYSELF IS IT THEN ONLY LEGALLY........
AMENDING LAWS IS WONDERFUL BUT SOCIETIES PRACTICE WORRIES ME TERRIBLY AND I MUST MAKE MY CONTRIBUTION SOON AS 8 MONTHS LIVING HERE AFTER 20 YEARS BEING A DUTCH CITIZEN IN THE NETHERLANDS AND HAVING DUAL NATIONALITY MADE ME LOSE EVERY RIGHT AS A HUMAN BEING WHEN I ARRIVED FROM,16TH AUGUST 2009...WHICH IS TOTALLY OUT OF PLACE FOR THIS DEMOCRATIC COUNTRY..
BUT I REFUSE TO STUMBLE AND FALL AND BECOME CRIPPLE.......EVEN IF I WERE IN A WHEELCHAIR I WILL CAUSE A STIR AND MAKE AWARENESS............
........I AM 2010 BUT IM ALSO FOR ALWAYS...TRANSFOBIA IS NOT LIKE A WORLD SOCCER CUP WHICH COMES AND GOES AND CREATES JOY,HAPPINESS, SATISFACTION AND WEALTH NO IT STAYS AND CAUSE MISERY, STRESS, DEATHS,INTOLERANCE AND NO RESPECT ATALL BUT WE CAN CHANGE THIS LETS JUST DOT IT COS WE ARE WORTH IT..........IM HERE T STAY SO I WILL CREATE AND PLACE MY OWN FLAG AND LET IT ""WAPPEREN""(BLOW) FLY IN THE WIND SO I CAN BE A PROUD SOUTH AFRICAN ALL OVER AGAIN......
THNX FOR YOUR TIME...MAYBE ITS TIME FOR ME TO WRITE A BOOK.......
GOD BLESS


JENNIFER KISTEN
Durban, South Africa
DONT ABUSE WOMEN AND CHILDREN..... GIVE TO CHARITIES LIKE THE AIDS FUNDS, GENDER DYSFORIA ORGANISATIONS AND FOR ANIMAL PROTECTION AND PROGRESS LIKE THE SPCA.
SOUTH AFRICA HAS A LONG WAY TO GO YES IT WILL CHANGE....... AND BE A MUCH BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN FOR ALL OF US BLACK, WHITE, INDIAN, COLOUREDS..........
MR MANDELA LAID THE FOUNDATION FOR RESPECT ALLOWING SUCCESS BUT WHAT DID WE DO? TAMPER WITH THE CONCRETE AND SLOWLY WHAT HE BUILT IS CRUMBLING DOWN....... ITS UP TO YOU TO PATCH-UP, REBUILD AND LET IT RISE AND SHINE AGAIN......
WE ARE ALL ONE....... HAVE RESPECT AND TOLERANCE FOR ALL HUMAN KIND..... BE YOURSELF BUT HELP OTHERS BY DOING SO...... SHARE....
ALSO RESPECT TRANSGENDER, INTERSEX, GAYS, LESBIANS AND BISEXUUAL PEOPLE.......I AM,AN HETEROSEXUAL XO CHROMOSOME TRANSGENDER(INTERSEX) FEMALE AND IM PROUD OF BEING ME.......... BUT I WONT ALLOW NOBODY TO UNDERESTIMATE MY URGE FOR SURVIVAL IN THIS UNIVERSE AS IT BELONGS TO ME TOO.......WE ARE HERE TO STAY GET USED TO US!!!

jenniferkisten@gmail.com
Keep Smiling, Keep Shining!!
Blijven Lachen!!
""DENK EROM ""IK BEN DE MOIETE WAARD"""
DUS KOM OP!!! LAAT JE ZIEN EN WEES VOORAL JEZELF WANT ZOALS IK EEN HELEBOEL IN HET LEVEN MEEMAAKTE HET IS OOK AAN JOU ONZE TOEKOMST TE WAARBORGEN EN ONZE KINDEREN TE EDUCATEREN. IK BEN ZOALS IK BEN.

God Bless You!!
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:-( (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian readers on 18/02/2010 tagged with human rights, laws and leadership , religion, marriage / civil unions +5
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This is a sad day in South Africa. Today a lesbian minister was fired for marrying her life-partner. The Methodist church was happy to ordain her as a lesbian minister, even assign a church to her care, and dating was never a problem either. But when she fell in love and married, that was when she was suspended and today, they fired her.

Our country recognises gay marriages. Our constitution protects all people from any type of discrimination, including discrimination because of sexual orientation. But we are still targeted. The church will not marry us, and many will not even accept us through the door. We are raped and murdered, ostracised and mocked. The country and the constitution are merely pieces of paper, impotent. Ineffective and obviously unenforced.

Yes, today is a sad day for all GLBTI people in South Africa.
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