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SkyGroup Finaid (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for straight readers on 11/07/2014
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Stacey Bruno (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for readers on 29/06/2014
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I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit. I meant a man who's name is Dr ATILA he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one's gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I'm now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 5 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn't believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is atilahealinghome@yahoo.com
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A short documentary about gay Ugandan refugees in The Netherlands, who fled their home country due to anti gay laws in Uganda. I hereby send you the link of the video on Vimeo.

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Fwab (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay readers on 20/06/2014
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Younger generation does not care about your sexual orientation in South Africa. The older generation does not talk about it, but they never discriminated publicly.
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CLAUDIA (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for straight readers on 15/06/2014
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My name is CLAUDIA and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful DR AJAGBO, a spell caster. in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behavior, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 10th of JUNE 6:00pm when he came to the house to pick his things. that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he was quitting the marriage which i have built for over 4 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare rent-age and all of it, i really went through Pains***. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR AJAGBO and i Email him AJAGBOSPELLTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM
i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after a 3days my husband called me telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily and i still do think their are some persons that need his help so you can also contact him on this email:ajagbospelltemple@gmail.com
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spotspot (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers in response to this story on 23/05/2014
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First, we are all spirit, then we are (hu) man. Therefore those who judge and attack gay and lesbian people, are in effect launching an attack on themselves.
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Barbara Castle (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/04/2014 tagged with at the work place, health, gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation, religion +5
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prof tito (user currently living in QATAR) posted for gay readers on 21/03/2014 +0
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Paul (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 11/03/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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While All Out have managed to get Orange to pull there ad revenue from the Red Pepper paper, the South Africa pan African satellite DSTV company are still running ads on the website.

If we can get all multinationals to pull their advertising perhaps the paper will tank.

I'm not exactly sure how to set up online petitions, etc but perhaps you guys would be able to sort it out.
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Fanny (user currently living in KAZAKHSTAN) posted for readers in response to this story on 05/03/2014
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Betty (user currently living in JAMAICA) posted for readers in response to this story on 05/03/2014
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adams (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian readers on 27/02/2014 tagged with illegality of male to male relationships
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RE: APPEAL FOR ASSISTANCE.

Good day
we are a couple from Uganda among several of us arriving in south Africa, we arrived on the 16th of January 2014, making ten couples in total that managed to make it for refugee here in south Africa waiting for our government bill against homosexuality which at the moment has been declared against our rights and freedom of expression, the bill was signed into law on Monday confirming anti-homosexuality resulting into permanent displacement for the minority of us with no one ready to advocate for us.
we are currently surviving on the help given to us by one of our fellow Ugandan who has been in south Africa before us for: shelter, food and of cause hiding for safety among other assistances he is able to afford. staying underground as humans has deprived us of any freedom of expression and progress in life more or less a terrorist without a gun. The situation we are going through right now is alarming and hard to persevere with several of our clan mates still arriving increasing the lord of responsibility to our patron without support.
we intend to stand up for our rights by taking up a peaceful demonstration at the Ugandan embassy in Pretoria ( south Africa) holding card boards expressing our rights and recognition rather than rejection for a common right of expression like the rest of the world. "date for the demonstration is yet to be established"
we humbly seek your assistance in all aspects to help us survive in a foreign country as we patiently wait for the coming of rescue from this oppression, we really look forward to your response and support as everyone has perverted us.
This message is confidential as it may result into un identified disappearance or life imprisonment of any of us.
we will be very grateful for your positive concern and assistance. for more information please don't hastate to contact us on

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Anne O'donnel (user currently living in EGYPT) posted for readers on 16/11/2013
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klaartje van damme (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for readers on 07/11/2013 +4
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there is this guy in my class and he hates gay people like literally hates. me and my best friend were yelling to him and the whole classroom stood by our side exept for three other people and the guy himself. i support gay people because tey are people just like us. so every gay peson who reads , people can only hurt you if you let them!!!!!!!!!!
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Bandile Mkhize (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay readers on 15/10/2013 tagged with hiv/aids +10
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I am a gay right activist and novelist on homosexuality and I am just simply seeking to do the best I can to contribute to the international welfare of LGBT People of the world. And on top of all this. I am a Humanitarian.
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Ale (user currently living in CAMEROON) posted for readers in response to this story on 14/10/2013 +5
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Caloe (user currently living in POLAND) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013
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Sigrid (user currently living in GEORGIA) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013
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Camila (user currently living in KAZAKHSTAN) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013
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Carlix (user currently living in LAO PEOPLE'S DEMOCRATIC REPUBLIC) posted for readers in response to this story on 11/10/2013
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Cloe (user currently living in MADAGASCAR) posted for readers in response to this story on 11/10/2013
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Hafid (user currently living in DOMINICAN REPUBLIC) posted for readers in response to this story on 11/10/2013
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Phitlok (user currently living in TOGO) posted for readers in response to this story on 11/10/2013
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Federico (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for readers in response to this story on 10/10/2013
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Angelarana (user currently living in COOK ISLANDS) posted for readers in response to this story on 10/10/2013
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Juliana (user currently living in KENYA) posted for readers in response to this story on 10/10/2013
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Bill at 9/11/2007 1:12 PM, and the commenter ietmdiamely after, are exactly right. The increasing normalization of homosexuality has done a great deal of damage to this society. The closet existed for a reason.And just as San Francisco was a (mostly) regular workingman's town in the 1960's, Seattle was similiarly so up through the 1980's, but it has since started to follow the road followed by San Francisco.Examples? Well the examples given by previous posters - the homosexualization of many churches and the use of public parks as trysting places - are certainly apt.I can think of another. Is it just me, or is American society increasingly - sorry to be indelicate - but increasingly anally focused. Notice all the casual references to behinds in popular culture. Notice also the increasingly casual references to male rape - in movies, the internet, TV, even on the Tonight Show. I don't know if this is due to the influence of homosexuals or of black prison culture (I suspect one of those two to be the likely culprit), but it definitely seems to be a trend in our society. Anyone else find this, well....creepy.I could easily imagine that in the near future, agressive forcible sodomy - by men against other men - will be an increasingly common crime.I noticed that UW calls thier state-sanctioned gay students' club "The Q center". Presumably Q stands for queer. Another case of "we can say it, but you can't". Perhaps straights should reclaim the word as thier patrimony. We were saying it before they were.
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Rakesh (user currently living in NETHERLANDS ANTILLES) posted for readers in response to this story on 09/10/2013
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NAMBLA has been lobbying ahlwie for an expansion team into the now GLB+TT+SQQI league with a small group of insider sympathizers who are afraid of public misperception.I understand how some think the TT guys deserve a franchise, but it's a mistake. They'll only split the already small B market (think of when both the Raiders and Rams were in LA which now has no team).How those SQQI bastards jumped the queue must really piss off long-time NAMBLA boosters. I guess advertisers think new age bat-shit insane sells more beer than class A felons.BTW, the first rule of acronyms is that they should simplify the concept they are trying to summarize. I suggest extending a franchise to the Asexual crowd who, although bringing more mainstream apathetic than fringe anger, could be the largest demographic. Then you could rename the center QQ and go with the more sensible acronym: I "QQ" GAL BuTTSWhere "QQ" is the variable: L: love G: hate B: love and hate T: used to love/hate guy butts, but now love/hate Queer: 'm hip and + L/G Quest: 'm confused about guy and 2S: 'm really confused about guy and I: love unicorn, guy and NAMBLA isn't going to work into any acronym. I see why they were left out now.- JAN
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Shaun (user currently living in ARMENIA) posted for readers in response to this story on 09/10/2013
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Identity politics work out the same for all gruops, right? Form an us/them grouping that many of "us" will identify with strongly. Start winning concessions. For optimal value to group organizers, the concessions need to be big and obvious and not at all related to merit. A big expensive building is perfect. A queer studies department is perhaps even better. These do essentially no good for anyone, but they demonstrate that the group organizers have brought home the bacon. Identity politics brings out the most strident members of the group, and the most inflamatory rhetoric. It can cause a nasty counter-reaction, in which your "us/them" demands invite identity politics among "them." This is universal. It's a property of identity politics, in the same sense that externalities are a property of free markets and rational ignorance is a property of democracy. The creepy thing to me is, this is so widespread, and the counter-reaction of overt hostility to all these gruops that exploit identity politics is kept under wraps by a kind of PC ideology that's visibly crumbling. How many Americans in the middle and upper classes even believe in the PC dogma at this point? How does that compare to the number of Soviet professionals and party members who really believed in Communism in, say, 1970? And what's the reaction going to look like when the dam breaks? And this is just nuts. The best possible outcome for gays and lesbians (and the rest of the society) is for sex between consenting adults to have nothing at all to do with politics.
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Umar (user currently living in HAITI) posted for readers in response to this story on 09/10/2013
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"It isn't ideology that keeps it under wraps for annyoe I know; it's a credible threat (e.g. you will get fired or publicly humiliated and subjected to Maoist-style self-criticism sessions)."There's nothing you can do to avoid this, bill. The cultural purification rites fall on the PC and conservative alike. For some reason, even when I was fresh out of college and rather liberal, I was never safe from the denizens of big city multiculturalism. I was considered cool by the gays and nonwhites in the university town where I lived while finishing my BA but once I returned to to my hometown I was subjected to mockery and all kinds of accusations from latent homophobery to snobbery. Finally, when I could take no more, being the vile white biggot no matter how I voted or who I dated, I started thinking and saying the things I had been accused of all along. You have survived this long without being under suspicion, bill. I think you will do fine but should probably either homeschool your children or move elsewhere. It's the being suspect part that puts you in most danger b/c the forces of multiculturalism will needle you until you actually do hate them. I can only conclude that they need a common enemy to rally against otherwise why polarize minor differences into hostile opposition. I think I could have avoided this cruel twist of fate by either staying in the liberal university town after graduation or moving almost anywhere other than where I had been raised. I guess I had inadvertently become identified with the enemy social class due to accent, high school attended, mode of dress, etc. Perhaps if I gone a few miles further away from home to start my adult life, none of these traits would've had any significance to my coworkers. Still, I advise you to keep a low profile and move as soon as possible, no sense staying in harm's way.
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Lee (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian readers on 05/10/2013
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Hi all!! I am glad to see that the community is growing as we need the support! I am a 28 year old female. I always thought that my feelings was just a faze or just part of my "jolling" lifestyle! Until I fell in love! I was 22 when I met the love of my life! Think I was too young to know how to deal with it! And I guess if we had the right support it may have worked out! However it's been about 2 years later and I am still dwelling in the past! As I do not have any friends that share the same sexuality and I'm too scared to just go out on my own! I am dying to meet someone, to fall in love again, to share and enjoy a partners company, friendship ,comfort and reliability! Please can someone help and point me into some form of direction? It's been a lonely road and looking forward to walking my path forward with someone in my life!

Thanks guys!
Lee
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Lee (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian bisexual readers on 04/10/2013 tagged with tourism, intersex, at the work place, adoption, illegality of female to female relationships
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Hi all!! I have been fighting a lonely battle for quite some time!! I always thought I was just going through a jolling faze and just exploring and then to discover I'm 100%!! Bisexual!! I can not choose between male or female but to just follow my heart, feelings and attraction to another!! I met the love of my life at age 22!! And royally messed that up cuz was too young to know how to deal with it all properly! Moved to jhb from durbs for this girl! It's about 2 years later and I'm still dwelling in the past as I don't have a reason to move forward! I don't hang out with any people that are like me so I do not get to meet new people! I am at a point where I am quite depressed about this as I am dying to fall in love again and give it my all in a relationship again and do things right! Please can someone give me some advice or point me in the right direction!?
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An American citizen has fallen in love in South Africa. She and her South African girlfriend have been living and working happily in South Africa for 7 years. Now, our American citizen is moving back to her home country to be near her family. In any other instance, she would be able to uproot and re-settle with her spouse but, owing to her choice in lover, a split is inevitable. Hearts are broken...

This is the outcome of their work together:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QDUggMzZpo&feature;=c4-overview&list;=UUN2TwjrZqRjakHy88NP-DCQ
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 24/08/2013 tagged with human rights +10
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Representatives of Johannesburg Pride, Pink Loerie Mardi Gras, Mr.Gay World, previous Mr. GSA Jason Rogers, as well as media from Sondag newspaper, The Sowetan and RSG showed up at the protest at the Russian Embassy in Pretoria. Coenie W. Kukkuk from Mr. Gay World and Kaye Ally from Johannesburg Pride spoke to Russian officials who came out to meet the protest group. Kukkuk said he was not in favour of a boycott of the Stochi Olympics in 2014 as innocent athletes from nations who do respect human rights will be affected - some of whom who have worked for most of their adult lives for that Olympic moment - but asked for targeted sanctions of Russian LPs responsible for the anti-gay act in Russia. Ally said to officials that in South Africa we respect diversity and equality in our constitution and homophobia is not welcome in South Africa. The officials agreed to convey the message to the Russian Ambassador. Afterward, a few couples kissed right in front of astonished security guards, South African Police Services officials who showed up and some suspicious Russians staring from theparking lot. The media present undertook to report about the protest.


- Gallery: Gay and lesbian South Africans staged kiss-in protests in Cape Town and Pretoria against Russia's anti-gay legislation on Friday. Mambaonline.com and PINK Papparazzi were there to capture all the smooching.
Cape Town and Pretoria - 8/23/2013

- Pics: Various http://www.mambaonline.com/galleries_view.asp?gal_id=737 (photos by Luiz de Barros)

- Read more here: http://www.mambaonline.com/article.asp?artid=8478

Photos attached by Oelof de Meyer
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posted for readers on 23/06/2013 +0
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Hello love

am Susan Lawrence by name, from USA. am looking for a lovely and a caring lesbian partner who will love and cherish for the rest of my life.. am so hot.. so sexy.. so caring..my hands are smooth to feel your body.. i also love sucking pussi and am so pretty and sweet.. i am in need of true life partner and i promise to love you till the end of this world.. my contact via:susanlawrence258@gmail.com

Best regards

Susan Lawrence
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posted for readers on 23/06/2013 +0
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Hello love

am Susan Lawrence by name, from USA. am looking for a lovely and a caring lesbian partner who will love and cherish for the rest of my life.. am so hot.. so sexy.. so caring..my hands are smooth to feel your body.. i also love sucking pussi and am so pretty and sweet.. i am in need of true life partner and i promise to love you till the end of this world.. my contact via:susanlawrence258@gmail.com

Best regards

Susan Lawrence
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jennifer (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for intersex readers on 02/04/2013 +5
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please im asking you yet so nicely to take off my story underneath jennifer please.........im getting into lots of trouble my career is being detroyed why you doing this i asked you years ago too please i beg you remove it .......even for relationships due to my story i am getting lifelong now problems why are you torturing me. im sure you realize whats this doing to me please. thanks a lot......
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fleur (user currently living in CAMEROON) posted for lesbian readers on 31/03/2013 tagged with lgbt families
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hi ilga,i will not like to be identified.
i am a caameroonian, female i have always had difficulties in sharing my identity for fear of repraisals. but since i grew older i have developed some courage which makes me express my views without fear or favour. but about my sexual orientation, i am receiving alot of discrimination of recent. it is affecting my job as a journalist. something very complecated to manage. i sometimes am compelled to think of going on exile but, how do i do it? i realy wish i would feel free in my nature and interact with others normally, why not find someone to love and live with. but i don't know how to go about it. can someone help me please...
in my country cameroon there is alot of discrimination towards people of complicated nature like gays, lesbians... i was last week witness to a humiliating confrontation visa vis a gay who openly dmitted his sexual orientation. i felt bad but sad to note that somoany cameroonians are in asimilar situation but do nothave the courage to declare. others areforced into marraige which ends up being a lifetime uneasiness.
but i will not like to do something forcfully but, i don't know how to go about it...
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GHMCC (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/02/2013 tagged with human rights, religion, marriage / civil unions +0
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Good Hope Metropolitan Community Church (GHMCC), an inclusive and affirming Christian Church in Cape Town, has moved to its new home at Central Methodist Mission on Greenmarket Square in Cape Town. Good Hope MCC Worship services are held every Sunday evening at 18h00.

Although Good Hope MCC serves a predominantly gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender congregation, the membership is diverse and goes beyond the social constructs of gender, beyond race and sexual orientation. Good Hope MCC traces its roots back to 1983, when a few Christians founded the "Gay Christian Community". Subsequently Good Hope MCC became a member congregation of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), an affirming Christian denomination with churches and ministries in more than 37 countries.

MCC are at the vanguard of civil and human rights movements by addressing important issues such as racism, sexism, homoprejudice, ageism and other forms of oppression. MCC has been on the forefront of the struggle towards marriage equality worldwide and continues to be a powerful voice in the movement for LGBTI equality. Across the globe Metropolitan Community Churches are also known as the “Human Rights Church”.

Core values are Inclusion, Community, Spiritual Transformation and Social Action.

Good Hope MCC recognises that people are not one dimensional and orientation, whether LGBTI or straight is only aspect of who we are ~ but for so many LGBTI’s, this can be something that deeply conflicts with our spirituality because of what is so commonly preached. It is GHMCC’s mission to serve God among those who are seeking and celebrating the integration of their spiritually and sexuality. We know that many have been deeply hurt by organised religion and GHMCC is a place, where people are able to have their faith and their love for God restored, whilst still being true to all of who they are, with no fear, no shame and no guilt.
At Good Hope MCC, we know that we are created in the image of God. We also understand that God is not limited by our understanding of God. God is not bound by any of our cultural or personal biases. God is beyond gender, beyond race, beyond nationality, beyond any church or religion, beyond any culture or time. We are created in the image of God – we do not create God in our image.

For further information, please visit www.goodhopemcc.org or e-mail welcome@goodhopemcc.org.
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Piet (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 10/12/2012 tagged with tourism, sexual orientation, religion
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I've been to South-Africa, it was an exchange program,
and I was pretty scared because I didn't know how homosexuality was in South-Africa.
Well, the area where I went (Pretoria) , was totally okay with it. Even their religion accepted gay people. (I felt really good about the religion-part, it's something catholicism has to work on...)
I have to admit I had a feeling it must not be easy for a South-African to come out. I think a lot of gay South-Africans struggle to come out.

Also, I've only been 'integrated' within the 'whites', so I don't know about homosexuality for 'blacks'.

I felt accepted and even normal in South-Africa as (obviously) gay.

Piet
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chantelle (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender straight readers on 21/09/2012 tagged with gender identity
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I cant find any support groups for transgeder persons in Potchefstroom South africa
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“WE” TOO ARE THE EARTH
When shall we be freed totally?
Will the freedom ever come to express our feelings without discrimination?
Who is going to free us from this societal bondage?
What a cruel world full of cruel people!

We live our everyday lives under fear and discrimination
Walking on the street in broad day light is a curse
Not to talk of the fear of the unknown at night
Abuse, mobbing and killing are order of the day
All in the name of societal beliefs, values and norms

I wonder if we are part of the earth
Since we cannot express our sexual feelings just like any other person on the planet
Society relied mostly on the biblical explanation of creation and approval of men and women unions
Some people often make jest of us and say God created “Adam and Eve” not “Adam and Steve”
Who says intimate unions/marriage should be between only men and women?
Who says such relationships is better than same-sex intimate relationships?
Some often say our sexual expression is a trend caused by westernisation and modernisation
They forget that this has been in existence since the time immemorial
Even past great men and women were attracted to same gender
Whether biblical or not biblical, what I know is that, this is who we are and society must accept us

We are treated like outcasts in our own land where there is freedom,
Freedom and equality irrespective of your sexual orientations
I wonder if this freedom will happen in reality
Due to continuous discrimination against our sexuality
I wonder if we are part of the social order of the earth
All I know is that, irrespective of how society sees us
We too are the earth
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for readers in response to this story on 27/06/2012 +5
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HI THERE PLS REMOVE The above story. I do not want it like it is I will write a NEW ONE THANKS JEN
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The Struggle of being a lesbian (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian straight readers on 25/05/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +4
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I used to live in South Africa, before i moved to U.S. Being a lesbian in South Africa is a challenge because men are now starting to rape lesbian women and threaten our families with the goal of turning us, lesbian women, straight. I remember, when i was on my way to see my friend, a group of 7 people; four boys and three girls stopped me, and the girls grabbed me with my belt. They said to me, "you think you're a boy, we see you all the time walking with other girls. You are supposed to be dating men, not other women." I kept quiet. One of the boys said to me, "Starting from today, you are my girlfriend. " I told him that i do not date boys, and he said that they will show me that i am woman. They grabbed a beer and pour it on me, and they told me to sit down. I refused. I told that i wasn't there to sit down with them, i was just going to see my friend. Luckily, those girls let go of me, and i managed to runaway from them and i went home. When i arrived at home, i was smelling beer all over my clothes, and i was really angry. So, i grabbed a big knife, and i went back to where they were sitting, as soon as they saw me coming with a knife, they ran away. I chased them. After that day, they never bothered me, i still took the same road to my friend's house. I hate what men do lesbian women in South Africa. Raping a women wouldn't make her fall in love or have feeling for men the next morning. It is really disgusting!
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian readers on 04/04/2012 tagged with lgbt families
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My partner and I had a baby last year by IVF afterwhich we completed all the necessary forms to register our little girl and to obtain a birth certificate with both our names stated as her parents. It has now been five and a half months and to date our child has not been registered and we have not received a birth certificate for her...the excuse I keep hearing from the Department of Home Affairs is that to print a birth certificate for a child born into a same sex marriage requires them to re-set the IT system and to change the words mother and father to parent 1 and parent 2....I am so incredibly frustrated that we are yet again discrimintated against because of an outdated IT system and red tape!
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