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Barbara Castle (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/04/2014 tagged with at the work place, health, gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation, religion +5
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Paul (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 11/03/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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While All Out have managed to get Orange to pull there ad revenue from the Red Pepper paper, the South Africa pan African satellite DSTV company are still running ads on the website.

If we can get all multinationals to pull their advertising perhaps the paper will tank.

I'm not exactly sure how to set up online petitions, etc but perhaps you guys would be able to sort it out.
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Fanny (user currently living in KAZAKHSTAN) posted for readers in response to this story on 05/03/2014
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Betty (user currently living in JAMAICA) posted for readers in response to this story on 05/03/2014
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Lissa (user currently living in TURKS AND CAICOS ISLANDS) posted for readers in response to this story on 05/03/2014
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adams (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian readers on 27/02/2014 tagged with illegality of male to male relationships
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RE: APPEAL FOR ASSISTANCE.

Good day
we are a couple from Uganda among several of us arriving in south Africa, we arrived on the 16th of January 2014, making ten couples in total that managed to make it for refugee here in south Africa waiting for our government bill against homosexuality which at the moment has been declared against our rights and freedom of expression, the bill was signed into law on Monday confirming anti-homosexuality resulting into permanent displacement for the minority of us with no one ready to advocate for us.
we are currently surviving on the help given to us by one of our fellow Ugandan who has been in south Africa before us for: shelter, food and of cause hiding for safety among other assistances he is able to afford. staying underground as humans has deprived us of any freedom of expression and progress in life more or less a terrorist without a gun. The situation we are going through right now is alarming and hard to persevere with several of our clan mates still arriving increasing the lord of responsibility to our patron without support.
we intend to stand up for our rights by taking up a peaceful demonstration at the Ugandan embassy in Pretoria ( south Africa) holding card boards expressing our rights and recognition rather than rejection for a common right of expression like the rest of the world. "date for the demonstration is yet to be established"
we humbly seek your assistance in all aspects to help us survive in a foreign country as we patiently wait for the coming of rescue from this oppression, we really look forward to your response and support as everyone has perverted us.
This message is confidential as it may result into un identified disappearance or life imprisonment of any of us.
we will be very grateful for your positive concern and assistance. for more information please don't hastate to contact us on

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Anne O'donnel (user currently living in EGYPT) posted for readers on 16/11/2013
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klaartje van damme (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for readers on 07/11/2013 +4
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there is this guy in my class and he hates gay people like literally hates. me and my best friend were yelling to him and the whole classroom stood by our side exept for three other people and the guy himself. i support gay people because tey are people just like us. so every gay peson who reads , people can only hurt you if you let them!!!!!!!!!!
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Bandile Mkhize (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay readers on 15/10/2013 tagged with hiv/aids +5
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I am a gay right activist and novelist on homosexuality and I am just simply seeking to do the best I can to contribute to the international welfare of LGBT People of the world. And on top of all this. I am a Humanitarian.
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Ale (user currently living in CAMEROON) posted for readers in response to this story on 14/10/2013 +5
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Caloe (user currently living in POLAND) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013
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Sigrid (user currently living in GEORGIA) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013
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Camila (user currently living in KAZAKHSTAN) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013
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Phitlok (user currently living in TOGO) posted for readers in response to this story on 11/10/2013
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Geison (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for readers in response to this story on 10/10/2013
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Federico (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for readers in response to this story on 10/10/2013
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Juliana (user currently living in KENYA) posted for readers in response to this story on 10/10/2013
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Bill at 9/11/2007 1:12 PM, and the commenter ietmdiamely after, are exactly right. The increasing normalization of homosexuality has done a great deal of damage to this society. The closet existed for a reason.And just as San Francisco was a (mostly) regular workingman's town in the 1960's, Seattle was similiarly so up through the 1980's, but it has since started to follow the road followed by San Francisco.Examples? Well the examples given by previous posters - the homosexualization of many churches and the use of public parks as trysting places - are certainly apt.I can think of another. Is it just me, or is American society increasingly - sorry to be indelicate - but increasingly anally focused. Notice all the casual references to behinds in popular culture. Notice also the increasingly casual references to male rape - in movies, the internet, TV, even on the Tonight Show. I don't know if this is due to the influence of homosexuals or of black prison culture (I suspect one of those two to be the likely culprit), but it definitely seems to be a trend in our society. Anyone else find this, well....creepy.I could easily imagine that in the near future, agressive forcible sodomy - by men against other men - will be an increasingly common crime.I noticed that UW calls thier state-sanctioned gay students' club "The Q center". Presumably Q stands for queer. Another case of "we can say it, but you can't". Perhaps straights should reclaim the word as thier patrimony. We were saying it before they were.
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Rakesh (user currently living in NETHERLANDS ANTILLES) posted for readers in response to this story on 09/10/2013
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NAMBLA has been lobbying ahlwie for an expansion team into the now GLB+TT+SQQI league with a small group of insider sympathizers who are afraid of public misperception.I understand how some think the TT guys deserve a franchise, but it's a mistake. They'll only split the already small B market (think of when both the Raiders and Rams were in LA which now has no team).How those SQQI bastards jumped the queue must really piss off long-time NAMBLA boosters. I guess advertisers think new age bat-shit insane sells more beer than class A felons.BTW, the first rule of acronyms is that they should simplify the concept they are trying to summarize. I suggest extending a franchise to the Asexual crowd who, although bringing more mainstream apathetic than fringe anger, could be the largest demographic. Then you could rename the center QQ and go with the more sensible acronym: I "QQ" GAL BuTTSWhere "QQ" is the variable: L: love G: hate B: love and hate T: used to love/hate guy butts, but now love/hate Queer: 'm hip and + L/G Quest: 'm confused about guy and 2S: 'm really confused about guy and I: love unicorn, guy and NAMBLA isn't going to work into any acronym. I see why they were left out now.- JAN
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Shaun (user currently living in ARMENIA) posted for readers in response to this story on 09/10/2013
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Identity politics work out the same for all gruops, right? Form an us/them grouping that many of "us" will identify with strongly. Start winning concessions. For optimal value to group organizers, the concessions need to be big and obvious and not at all related to merit. A big expensive building is perfect. A queer studies department is perhaps even better. These do essentially no good for anyone, but they demonstrate that the group organizers have brought home the bacon. Identity politics brings out the most strident members of the group, and the most inflamatory rhetoric. It can cause a nasty counter-reaction, in which your "us/them" demands invite identity politics among "them." This is universal. It's a property of identity politics, in the same sense that externalities are a property of free markets and rational ignorance is a property of democracy. The creepy thing to me is, this is so widespread, and the counter-reaction of overt hostility to all these gruops that exploit identity politics is kept under wraps by a kind of PC ideology that's visibly crumbling. How many Americans in the middle and upper classes even believe in the PC dogma at this point? How does that compare to the number of Soviet professionals and party members who really believed in Communism in, say, 1970? And what's the reaction going to look like when the dam breaks? And this is just nuts. The best possible outcome for gays and lesbians (and the rest of the society) is for sex between consenting adults to have nothing at all to do with politics.
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Umar (user currently living in HAITI) posted for readers in response to this story on 09/10/2013
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"It isn't ideology that keeps it under wraps for annyoe I know; it's a credible threat (e.g. you will get fired or publicly humiliated and subjected to Maoist-style self-criticism sessions)."There's nothing you can do to avoid this, bill. The cultural purification rites fall on the PC and conservative alike. For some reason, even when I was fresh out of college and rather liberal, I was never safe from the denizens of big city multiculturalism. I was considered cool by the gays and nonwhites in the university town where I lived while finishing my BA but once I returned to to my hometown I was subjected to mockery and all kinds of accusations from latent homophobery to snobbery. Finally, when I could take no more, being the vile white biggot no matter how I voted or who I dated, I started thinking and saying the things I had been accused of all along. You have survived this long without being under suspicion, bill. I think you will do fine but should probably either homeschool your children or move elsewhere. It's the being suspect part that puts you in most danger b/c the forces of multiculturalism will needle you until you actually do hate them. I can only conclude that they need a common enemy to rally against otherwise why polarize minor differences into hostile opposition. I think I could have avoided this cruel twist of fate by either staying in the liberal university town after graduation or moving almost anywhere other than where I had been raised. I guess I had inadvertently become identified with the enemy social class due to accent, high school attended, mode of dress, etc. Perhaps if I gone a few miles further away from home to start my adult life, none of these traits would've had any significance to my coworkers. Still, I advise you to keep a low profile and move as soon as possible, no sense staying in harm's way.
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Lee (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian readers on 05/10/2013
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Hi all!! I am glad to see that the community is growing as we need the support! I am a 28 year old female. I always thought that my feelings was just a faze or just part of my "jolling" lifestyle! Until I fell in love! I was 22 when I met the love of my life! Think I was too young to know how to deal with it! And I guess if we had the right support it may have worked out! However it's been about 2 years later and I am still dwelling in the past! As I do not have any friends that share the same sexuality and I'm too scared to just go out on my own! I am dying to meet someone, to fall in love again, to share and enjoy a partners company, friendship ,comfort and reliability! Please can someone help and point me into some form of direction? It's been a lonely road and looking forward to walking my path forward with someone in my life!

Thanks guys!
Lee
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Lee (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian bisexual readers on 04/10/2013 tagged with tourism, intersex, at the work place, adoption, illegality of female to female relationships
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Hi all!! I have been fighting a lonely battle for quite some time!! I always thought I was just going through a jolling faze and just exploring and then to discover I'm 100%!! Bisexual!! I can not choose between male or female but to just follow my heart, feelings and attraction to another!! I met the love of my life at age 22!! And royally messed that up cuz was too young to know how to deal with it all properly! Moved to jhb from durbs for this girl! It's about 2 years later and I'm still dwelling in the past as I don't have a reason to move forward! I don't hang out with any people that are like me so I do not get to meet new people! I am at a point where I am quite depressed about this as I am dying to fall in love again and give it my all in a relationship again and do things right! Please can someone give me some advice or point me in the right direction!?
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An American citizen has fallen in love in South Africa. She and her South African girlfriend have been living and working happily in South Africa for 7 years. Now, our American citizen is moving back to her home country to be near her family. In any other instance, she would be able to uproot and re-settle with her spouse but, owing to her choice in lover, a split is inevitable. Hearts are broken...

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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 24/08/2013 tagged with human rights +10
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Representatives of Johannesburg Pride, Pink Loerie Mardi Gras, Mr.Gay World, previous Mr. GSA Jason Rogers, as well as media from Sondag newspaper, The Sowetan and RSG showed up at the protest at the Russian Embassy in Pretoria. Coenie W. Kukkuk from Mr. Gay World and Kaye Ally from Johannesburg Pride spoke to Russian officials who came out to meet the protest group. Kukkuk said he was not in favour of a boycott of the Stochi Olympics in 2014 as innocent athletes from nations who do respect human rights will be affected - some of whom who have worked for most of their adult lives for that Olympic moment - but asked for targeted sanctions of Russian LPs responsible for the anti-gay act in Russia. Ally said to officials that in South Africa we respect diversity and equality in our constitution and homophobia is not welcome in South Africa. The officials agreed to convey the message to the Russian Ambassador. Afterward, a few couples kissed right in front of astonished security guards, South African Police Services officials who showed up and some suspicious Russians staring from theparking lot. The media present undertook to report about the protest.


- Gallery: Gay and lesbian South Africans staged kiss-in protests in Cape Town and Pretoria against Russia's anti-gay legislation on Friday. Mambaonline.com and PINK Papparazzi were there to capture all the smooching.
Cape Town and Pretoria - 8/23/2013

- Pics: Various http://www.mambaonline.com/galleries_view.asp?gal_id=737 (photos by Luiz de Barros)

- Read more here: http://www.mambaonline.com/article.asp?artid=8478

Photos attached by Oelof de Meyer
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posted for readers on 23/06/2013 +0
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Hello love

am Susan Lawrence by name, from USA. am looking for a lovely and a caring lesbian partner who will love and cherish for the rest of my life.. am so hot.. so sexy.. so caring..my hands are smooth to feel your body.. i also love sucking pussi and am so pretty and sweet.. i am in need of true life partner and i promise to love you till the end of this world.. my contact via:susanlawrence258@gmail.com

Best regards

Susan Lawrence
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posted for readers on 23/06/2013 +0
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Hello love

am Susan Lawrence by name, from USA. am looking for a lovely and a caring lesbian partner who will love and cherish for the rest of my life.. am so hot.. so sexy.. so caring..my hands are smooth to feel your body.. i also love sucking pussi and am so pretty and sweet.. i am in need of true life partner and i promise to love you till the end of this world.. my contact via:susanlawrence258@gmail.com

Best regards

Susan Lawrence
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jennifer (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for intersex readers on 02/04/2013 +5
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please im asking you yet so nicely to take off my story underneath jennifer please.........im getting into lots of trouble my career is being detroyed why you doing this i asked you years ago too please i beg you remove it .......even for relationships due to my story i am getting lifelong now problems why are you torturing me. im sure you realize whats this doing to me please. thanks a lot......
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fleur (user currently living in CAMEROON) posted for lesbian readers on 31/03/2013 tagged with lgbt families
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hi ilga,i will not like to be identified.
i am a caameroonian, female i have always had difficulties in sharing my identity for fear of repraisals. but since i grew older i have developed some courage which makes me express my views without fear or favour. but about my sexual orientation, i am receiving alot of discrimination of recent. it is affecting my job as a journalist. something very complecated to manage. i sometimes am compelled to think of going on exile but, how do i do it? i realy wish i would feel free in my nature and interact with others normally, why not find someone to love and live with. but i don't know how to go about it. can someone help me please...
in my country cameroon there is alot of discrimination towards people of complicated nature like gays, lesbians... i was last week witness to a humiliating confrontation visa vis a gay who openly dmitted his sexual orientation. i felt bad but sad to note that somoany cameroonians are in asimilar situation but do nothave the courage to declare. others areforced into marraige which ends up being a lifetime uneasiness.
but i will not like to do something forcfully but, i don't know how to go about it...
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GHMCC (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/02/2013 tagged with human rights, religion, marriage / civil unions +0
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Good Hope Metropolitan Community Church (GHMCC), an inclusive and affirming Christian Church in Cape Town, has moved to its new home at Central Methodist Mission on Greenmarket Square in Cape Town. Good Hope MCC Worship services are held every Sunday evening at 18h00.

Although Good Hope MCC serves a predominantly gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender congregation, the membership is diverse and goes beyond the social constructs of gender, beyond race and sexual orientation. Good Hope MCC traces its roots back to 1983, when a few Christians founded the "Gay Christian Community". Subsequently Good Hope MCC became a member congregation of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), an affirming Christian denomination with churches and ministries in more than 37 countries.

MCC are at the vanguard of civil and human rights movements by addressing important issues such as racism, sexism, homoprejudice, ageism and other forms of oppression. MCC has been on the forefront of the struggle towards marriage equality worldwide and continues to be a powerful voice in the movement for LGBTI equality. Across the globe Metropolitan Community Churches are also known as the “Human Rights Church”.

Core values are Inclusion, Community, Spiritual Transformation and Social Action.

Good Hope MCC recognises that people are not one dimensional and orientation, whether LGBTI or straight is only aspect of who we are ~ but for so many LGBTI’s, this can be something that deeply conflicts with our spirituality because of what is so commonly preached. It is GHMCC’s mission to serve God among those who are seeking and celebrating the integration of their spiritually and sexuality. We know that many have been deeply hurt by organised religion and GHMCC is a place, where people are able to have their faith and their love for God restored, whilst still being true to all of who they are, with no fear, no shame and no guilt.
At Good Hope MCC, we know that we are created in the image of God. We also understand that God is not limited by our understanding of God. God is not bound by any of our cultural or personal biases. God is beyond gender, beyond race, beyond nationality, beyond any church or religion, beyond any culture or time. We are created in the image of God – we do not create God in our image.

For further information, please visit www.goodhopemcc.org or e-mail welcome@goodhopemcc.org.
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Piet (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 10/12/2012 tagged with tourism, sexual orientation, religion
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I've been to South-Africa, it was an exchange program,
and I was pretty scared because I didn't know how homosexuality was in South-Africa.
Well, the area where I went (Pretoria) , was totally okay with it. Even their religion accepted gay people. (I felt really good about the religion-part, it's something catholicism has to work on...)
I have to admit I had a feeling it must not be easy for a South-African to come out. I think a lot of gay South-Africans struggle to come out.

Also, I've only been 'integrated' within the 'whites', so I don't know about homosexuality for 'blacks'.

I felt accepted and even normal in South-Africa as (obviously) gay.

Piet
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chantelle (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender straight readers on 21/09/2012 tagged with gender identity
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I cant find any support groups for transgeder persons in Potchefstroom South africa
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“WE” TOO ARE THE EARTH
When shall we be freed totally?
Will the freedom ever come to express our feelings without discrimination?
Who is going to free us from this societal bondage?
What a cruel world full of cruel people!

We live our everyday lives under fear and discrimination
Walking on the street in broad day light is a curse
Not to talk of the fear of the unknown at night
Abuse, mobbing and killing are order of the day
All in the name of societal beliefs, values and norms

I wonder if we are part of the earth
Since we cannot express our sexual feelings just like any other person on the planet
Society relied mostly on the biblical explanation of creation and approval of men and women unions
Some people often make jest of us and say God created “Adam and Eve” not “Adam and Steve”
Who says intimate unions/marriage should be between only men and women?
Who says such relationships is better than same-sex intimate relationships?
Some often say our sexual expression is a trend caused by westernisation and modernisation
They forget that this has been in existence since the time immemorial
Even past great men and women were attracted to same gender
Whether biblical or not biblical, what I know is that, this is who we are and society must accept us

We are treated like outcasts in our own land where there is freedom,
Freedom and equality irrespective of your sexual orientations
I wonder if this freedom will happen in reality
Due to continuous discrimination against our sexuality
I wonder if we are part of the social order of the earth
All I know is that, irrespective of how society sees us
We too are the earth
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for readers in response to this story on 27/06/2012 +5
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HI THERE PLS REMOVE The above story. I do not want it like it is I will write a NEW ONE THANKS JEN
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The Struggle of being a lesbian (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for lesbian straight readers on 25/05/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +4
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I used to live in South Africa, before i moved to U.S. Being a lesbian in South Africa is a challenge because men are now starting to rape lesbian women and threaten our families with the goal of turning us, lesbian women, straight. I remember, when i was on my way to see my friend, a group of 7 people; four boys and three girls stopped me, and the girls grabbed me with my belt. They said to me, "you think you're a boy, we see you all the time walking with other girls. You are supposed to be dating men, not other women." I kept quiet. One of the boys said to me, "Starting from today, you are my girlfriend. " I told him that i do not date boys, and he said that they will show me that i am woman. They grabbed a beer and pour it on me, and they told me to sit down. I refused. I told that i wasn't there to sit down with them, i was just going to see my friend. Luckily, those girls let go of me, and i managed to runaway from them and i went home. When i arrived at home, i was smelling beer all over my clothes, and i was really angry. So, i grabbed a big knife, and i went back to where they were sitting, as soon as they saw me coming with a knife, they ran away. I chased them. After that day, they never bothered me, i still took the same road to my friend's house. I hate what men do lesbian women in South Africa. Raping a women wouldn't make her fall in love or have feeling for men the next morning. It is really disgusting!
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian readers on 04/04/2012 tagged with lgbt families
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My partner and I had a baby last year by IVF afterwhich we completed all the necessary forms to register our little girl and to obtain a birth certificate with both our names stated as her parents. It has now been five and a half months and to date our child has not been registered and we have not received a birth certificate for her...the excuse I keep hearing from the Department of Home Affairs is that to print a birth certificate for a child born into a same sex marriage requires them to re-set the IT system and to change the words mother and father to parent 1 and parent 2....I am so incredibly frustrated that we are yet again discrimintated against because of an outdated IT system and red tape!
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ArishmaryCanada (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 14/10/2011 +5
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My Partner & I (Arishmary in Canada) will Be Sponsoring Transgender Asylum Seeker Living in South Africa right now - Everyday is Danger for her because she is a Congolese Transgender, from the Congo.

Human Rights & Freedom Costs For All of Us - But More For Transgender Gay Asylum Seeker “June” Because She’s Trapped in South Africa and Waiting for Permission To Leave. Pls Help Me Help Her Survive this waiting period.

The Financial Support I'm asking for Today is For protection; for shelter, for refuge, for human rights, WE MUST ALL FIGHT NOW. Crimes against humanity, torture, killing, persecutions, the prosecutorial system, attacks, homophobia, femaphobia, xenophobia, sexism, racism, ignorance, HATE AND DEATH. Please Help Me Save Just One Beautiful Life today; that’s all I ask, just for a little help.

There’s more Keywords and you’ll learn about them all by following me at Facebook and Liking my page there. For protection; for shelter, for refuge, for human rights, WE MUST ALL FIGHT NOW.

She needs a safe place to live and we need money to support her until she is here with us. South Africa Just have to Allow her To Leave, and the Money is to Keep her Alive until that time Comes.

She went there for Sanctuary after ending up fleeing from a Sexist, Racist, Homophobic Criminally Violent Prison called The Congo. FLEEING OPPRESSION FOR IMPRISONMENT is what happened - From the Hell of The Congo to the Hell of South Africa Cape Town.

Where many believe it's not so bad if the community is a gay and lesbian one, but it will always be unsafe for Feminine boys who are transgender, gay and from the Congo.
It may feel for June that her life now is not worth living, but the life she will be having here definitely is. When and if she gets here, she’ll be safe and living with us. We’ll take care of everything here and at some point in the future she’ll be a Canadian Citizen (but for me a friend for life; the sister I always wanted, the brother I know will always be here for me).

It’s not simple, it’s not fast, and will probably hit many snags along the way - it'll be a rough and highly strung ride for her, but with the few volunteers that are helping, time will go faster than if she did it alone.

We can do this, we can save this beautiful AND Amazing Transgender Girlyboy Feminine Loving Person, who feels like people are always attacking her, regardless if it's physical or not. She is still young, still impressionable, still trusting of to many, and still in danger. She is my sister, she is my brother.

I say she, I call her; but please help us save his life. Donate to me some of your hard earned money. We can always talk on the phone if you want; you can always send me a message here or on Facebook, I can always do things for you online, and you will forever be appreciated.

If you are worried that the money will be mismanaged, don’t worry it will not. Our contacts in South Africa in charge of the money for her from us, are responsible adult professionals and activists; humanitarians and educated people who fight for Human Rights and know exactly what to do more than anyone we’ve seen so far about this Case.

They will be managing her money because it is our money and we need it managed over there; for her, so it is not lost or spent wastefully. Right now she needs a safe place to live, and she’ll be finding one at some point with their help - or a separate NGO she may find to help her just to live somewhere that is safe and far from the social & party life of the GLBT Community as well as the Danger of every other place.

Basically we need to save June, she is worthy of Life, and she is an Activist still helping others when ever she can, still with friends I know I would not trust in a million years, and still welcoming anyone who shows a nice face; to be her friend.

But needs help for herself more than ever before even these friends surprise her with a punch or theft. The NGO contacts there are working to speak to Government for allowing her to leave, because she is not allowed as of yet.

It can take Months for them to allow her, it's been months already and we're just starting the paper work over there. In the meantime she needs a safe place to live; money, and courage to continue living out this time until she's allowed to leave. After she comes to Canada, we will work with her and everything will be okay finally for her.

There has to be international Justice FOR GLBT ASYLUM SEEKERS, REGUGEES, INNOCENT POLITICAL PRISONERS, PROTESTERS AND SO MUCH MORE, so until there is - We NEED YOU..

She’s one person that is my Friend; Family, Sister & Brother, just one person named Junior Mayema (I have named June), have you heard about her because people have tried to help her with no success until I came along. There are pages written for her, and I run the page written the most. You can find all those pages and more here: http://bitly.com/or349p

Junior is now living (or trying to live) in Cape Town South Africa. I need to help her and the only thing that will help her now is Money.

Money will pay her rent; buy her food & toiletries, allow us to communicate on the phone and online with her helping-contacts and herself - and it will save her time right now to build herself up with strength just to survive; but it’s hard to survive in a place where she is having to hide everyday while hoping to live another one..

She’s from Kinshasa now living in South Africa and it is not an easy place to live when you are a gay boy and feminine with no family no support no home or money. Junior is the sweetest thing you've seen and does not deserve what she is going through. It’s like I’m watching myself suffer over there when I was younger.

I know I would not last and I would be killed before growing my balls big enough to actually leave and run away. She's not suppose to run away until it's time to come here now, because where she is; is where the work is being done for her so she must stay and it's dangerous.

It takes courage, it takes strength, and it takes her so much that I know I would never succeed on my own. Junior being Born a Protestant doesn‘t help and being a Transgender Boy is a deathly No No where she is from and where she is living right now.

There's racism in the GLBT Community and her own social friends may not be social friends anymore if they find out that she's receiving financial help.

She was never able to finish her Studies of Law at the University of Kinshasa and had to flee for her life, she speaks English and French and she‘s not a she. She’s only a she to me and others but not to all.

To me she is like myself when I was young and didn't know how terrible people can be; even though back then when I had so called friends and coworkers around to protect me.
She was Born on July 30, 1987, that's 20 years younger than I am right now, but I will teach her everything I know. But ever since birth her life was doomed, unlike mine because I knew at least I would be alive the next day. I NEED TO HELP HER and I’m asking everyone to help me help her.

There is lots more to find out if you want to, I am an Activist Writer online and just by following this link to a page at facebook (I'm updating for her while supporting others with International News and Posts), you’ll find out all you need to know. http://on.fb.me/JMblog

Please go there for more and come here to give - or go there for more and become my friend so we can message each other while you decide how much to give. I am very personal able so please don't feel insecure about communicating with me.

I can be your friend or I can just except your financial help; you can be anonymous or I can blog about your generosity to the world. You can send me a cheque or what ever you want, just please help me help June Mayema, so she can have a Life worthy of all her loving goodness.

Thank you, and remember that my Fb page is the updated page of support blogs for June and others.

Ari R. Kolman
Ontario Canada
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Johan (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for readers on 20/07/2011 +5
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I am a 21 year old university student in a relatively small university town about 130km from Johannesburg, SA. I have been openly gay for all of three years on and off campus. Though I do experience a certain amount of subdued hostility in some of my peers there has been no attempt by any to change me. When walking around in town I find that people have a mood of interest rather than disgust. Wanting to know whether I am dressed for a party for instance or just generally being good-mannered and friendly. On my travels around South Africa I can honestly say that I have never been afraid to live out my personality as a young gay man, I annually partake in the Johannesburg gay pride parade and do so with as much flamboyance as I can. Though you hear of, and see very scary stories on the news and from peers I have thus far been lucky in the sense of only positive things sprouting from my coming out. SA has a massive gay community and especially in cities like Johannesburg and Cape Town a very active gay community. Though many have a very distorted image of our country I must say I'm proud to be a gay South African.
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jennifer kisten (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender intersex readers on 16/02/2011
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HI PLEASE TAKE THIS ARTICLE OF ME OUT OF HERE. I ASKED MANY TIMES BEFORE. I AM HAVING INTENSE PROBLEMS AS ITS GOT MY NAME.....ETC ETC.....I JUST WANT TO CARRY ON WITH LIFE PLS. BOYFRIENDS ETC ARE GOOGLING ME. ALSO THE NEWSPAPERS ARE GOING TO TAKE THE ARTICLE OFF......I HAVE CONSULTED WITH LAWYERS AND I DONT WANT TO BE RUDE OR HARSH SO PLS REMOVE THIS ARTICLE ABOUT JENNIFER KISTEN...INTERSEX THANKS SO MUCH..GOD BLESS
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jennifer kisten (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender intersex readers on 07/02/2011 tagged with intersex, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , armed forces +5
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hi there please remove my response under stories...you promised to do it before.....my life has been threatend here in south africa i just cannot have this....i added an email complaint here with very confidential details. etc.....which never supposed to happen at the time i suffered serious trauma to the head, had a bacterial tumor as well..... and didnt know what i was doing hence the detailed confusing email....please please remove it as police etc threatened to kill me....thanks god bless...
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Lee (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 25/04/2010 tagged with health
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To whom it may concern:

Hi

Please contact me regarding the possibility of placing a small GLBT Alcoholics Anonymous AD post on your site.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you.

Lee

0728505141
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WOW AMAZING WEBSITE.(sorry for caps im blind in right eye and sometimes its better to see with big letters)........GOSH IM SO PROUD OF U ALL....I WILL DEFINTELY GET BACK TO YOU BUT ...........AT THE MOMENT IVE GOT ;LOTS OF WORK AS WHOLE OF SOUTH AFRICA WANTS MY STORY......BUT I WANT TO USE MY EXPERIENCES GOOD AND BAD TO CONTRIBUTE FOR MORE AWARENESS AND PREVENT ABUSE ETC TO ""OUR"" PEOPLE.......... I HAVE BEEN YEARS AND YEARS ACTIVE IN THE CYBER WORLD ..............SPREADING TOLERANCE, PEACE, LOVE AND RESPECT FOR TRANSGENDER,INTERSEX, GAY,LESBIAN AND BISEXUAL FOLK AS INTERNET HAS BEEN FOR A LONG WHILE IN THE NETHERLANDS ALSO KNOWN AS HOLLAND(EUROPE)...OFFCOURSE I DID FOCUS MORE ON TRANSGENDER AS I WAS BORN THAT WAY BUT AFTER GENITAL CORRECTION I REFER TO MYSELF AS A TOTAL FEMALE. NOT ONLY FACING GENDER ISSUES BUT ALSO BEING A CHRONICALLY ILL PATIENT AFTER SUFFERING A DUBBEL NECKHERNIA AND MANY PTSD'S.......BUT BAD EXPERIENCES MADE ME A BITTER AND ANGRY WOMAN ....... I WASNT ALWAYS A LOVING PERSON ON THE NET BUT MOSTLY THERE WHEN PEOPLE NEEDED MY ADVICE AND BY THEM READING MY BLOGS OR VIEWING MY SLIDESHOWS AND PICS THEY BECAME MORE AWARE OF ""A DIFFERENT TYPE OF HUMAN BEING"""
I ALSO BECAME A ""VIRTUAL EXHIBITIONIST"" AS I WANTED OTHERS TO SEE WHAT WE LOOKED LIKE AND THE WAY WE LEAD OUR LIVES......YES I DARED.....
But EH VIEWERS,READERS, LISTENERS ALSO SHARED THEIR EXPERIENCES TOO EVEN MOMS WITH KIDS BORN LIKE ME.........THEY GAINED COURAGE FROM ME PUTTING MYSELF OPEN AND WIDE FOR ALL TO SEE AND READ.......INTERNATIONALLY.....RECENTLY WAS YET ANOTHER BLOW HERE IN SOUTH AFRICA........SEXUAL ASSUALTS AFTER SPIKING MY DRINK AND
ALMOST CAUSING RAPED BY TWO CHUBB AND BLUE SECURITY ARMED RESPONSE OFFICERS(SERVE AND PROTECT EXCUSE ME!!!) THESE GUYS STIL WORKING AND NOT PROSECUTED, NOT BROUGHT INTO COURT, NO JAIL SENTENCE NADA...OOOPS SOUTH AFRICA U DID IT AGAIN....BY THE WAY I WAS ALL ALONE 2 HOURS ALMOST NAKED IN THE BUSH DARK DARK BLEEDING AND CRYING AND TERRIFIED AND THIS TOOK PLACE IN OCTOBER 2009......
HAVING
RENTAL DISPUTES,( I APPRENTLY DIDNT FIT INTO THE MOSLIM DOMINATED GARDEN FALT I RENTED IN AUGUST 2009 IN OVERPORT CITYBORDER MNORNINGSIDE....
THEY SAID IM A MAN AND "TRANSVESTITE"" AND THEY DONT BELIEF IN THAT
TYPE OF PEOPLE AS IM NOT NATURAL AND IM TOO EXTRAVAGANT CAUSE THERE WERE LADIES IN BOERKAS AND CHILDREN THERE AND IM ""TOO MUCH""
WHICH LEAD ME TO GO TO HOUSING TRIBUNAL CAUSE THEY DIDNT WANT TO FUMAGATE PLACE NOR REMOVE BORER FILLED CUBBOARDS AND CARPETS....THIS SHOIWS HOW EVEN MORE TREACHEROUS LIVES WE LEAD AS THEY WOULD HAVE DONE IT IF I WORE A BOERKA THATS WHAT I SAID WHEN POLICE ARRIVED..ASSOMEONE ELSE THERE TOLD ME CAUSE IM DIFFERENT AND NOT MOLSIM THATS WHY IM NOT BEING HELPED./..THEIR MOUTHS WERE SHUT.............

STILL GOTTA GO TO EQUALITY COURT BOTH FOR POLICE AND LANDLORDS CAUSE WHEN THEY FOUND OUT I WAS TRANSGENDER ALL HELL BROKE LOSE.............
POLICE CORRUPTION(LANDLORD AND SAPS TENANT DOING EACH OTHER FAVOURS)
I WAS ARRESTED FOR DEFAMTION OF CHARACTER AND APPEARED WITHIN 3 DAYS IN ""H"" COURT AMONGST RAPIST AND MURDERS JUST TREACHEROUS AND DISGUSTING AS IVE GOT NO CRIMINAL RECORDS NO WHERE.....FINGER PRINTED LIKE A THIEF, RAPIST OR LIKE A HIJACKER,
WAISTING TAXPAYERS MONEY BY THE WAY AS I GOT MY OWN CASE THROWN OUT OF COURT SAME DAY,
DISCRIMINATED BY A BAR LADFY WHO SAID""IM A REAL WOMAN YOUR A FAKE WOMAN NOW FUCK OFF"" THIS AFTER A GUY HIT ON ME AS IMN A PRETTY FEMALE AND SHE GOT JEALOUS AND TOLD HIM ":""YOU KNOW THATS A MAN"" HE WAS OFFCOURSE ASHAMED AND ""DISGUSTED"ALL OF A SUDDEN
POLICE LISTENS TO HER AND WANTS TO ARREST ME AGAIN IF I CANT PROVE IM A FEMALE.......I APPARENTLY AM AN """HIV MOFFIE"" PPPFFFFF LOOK AT MY PICS

ALSO ABSA BANK REFUSES TO CHANGE GENDER AND FIRST NAME TO DUTCH FMEALE GENDER AND NAME JENNIFER KISTEN CAUSING SO MUCH PROBLEMS FOR ME MOTNHS NOW AS THEY SAY ARE YOU MR GJ KISTENS WIFE......AND THEY STILL DIDNT CHANGE IT YET..........STILL GOTTA FACE ALL RESTAURANTS OR WOOLWORTHS OR MUG AND BEAN WERE IM REGULAR CUSTOMER AND ITS SAYS CREDIT CARD MR GJ KISTEN ..DEBET CARDS TOO.....SALES PEOPLE ARE SUSPICIOUS SOMETIMES THEY THINK IM FRAUDING WITH A MANS CARD OR HAVE A HUSBAND WHEN I SAY I DONT AND IT SAYS NOT MARRIED EVERYWHERE...THIS IS WHEN THEY KNOW IM SINGLE AND JUST ARRIVED TO SOUTHA FRICA AFTER 20 YRS AND MAKING A NEW START.....THERES DUTCH MISS KISTEN AND SOUTH AFRICAN MR GJ KISTEN.....PPPFFFFFFFFF I AM NATURALLY PASSABLE AS WOMAN AND LOOK AT THE DRAMA AM I THE DRAMA QUEEN?? my adoptive parents gave me that male name i didnt...im female.
AND EMAIL POST ALSO"" DEAR GORDON""" ETC ETC ETC............ABSA IS UNBELIEVABLE EVEN I ASKED THEM TO CHANGE THE REWARDS CARD THEY DIDNT.....
YET I PULLED MYSELF TOGETHER AND PREVAILED.....OFFCOURSE IM STILL TROUBLED BUT HEY WE SHOUL
D LET OUR EMOTION GO RIGHT....BUT......NOW ITS TIME TO SERVE MY COUNTRY AND COMMUNITY.......... I AM AWARE YOU ALL HAVE BEEN HERE SOMETIME NOW AND I APPRECIATE PEOPLE LIKE YOU......CHAPEAU!!
. IVE HAD TO DO MANY TESTS ON MY OWN AS THE GENDER HELP IN THE NETHERLANDS WAS UNSATISFACTORY CAUSE EVEN THERE I ALSO HAD TO DO DEAL WITH RACISM, ....RAPE, ....BEATINGS. ....POLICE BRUTALITY AND UNJUSTICE....,GENDER DISCRIMINATIO(TRANSFOBIA).....UNEQUALITY......BIASNESS ETC ETC ETC.........YET I AM A TRUE SURVIVOR WANTING TO MAKE CHANGES ALSO IN MY OWN BIRTH COUNTRY SOUTH AFRICA.(CITY DURBAN) WHICH IS REALLY NOT WHAT I EXPECTED TO BE CONCERNING HUMAN RIGHTS FOR TANSGENDER PEOPLE.AS I HAD THE IDEA THAT IT WAS A TOTALLY PROGRESSED COUNTRY REGARDING PEOPLE WHOM ARE DIFFERENT......... CAUSE .I FOUND LOT OF SMILIARITIES AS IN ZIMBABWE.AND OTHER AFRICAN COUNTRIES....I READ ON THE INTERNET THAT WE ARE ONE OF THE MOST PROGRESSED COUNTRIES I ASK MYSELF IS IT THEN ONLY LEGALLY........
AMENDING LAWS IS WONDERFUL BUT SOCIETIES PRACTICE WORRIES ME TERRIBLY AND I MUST MAKE MY CONTRIBUTION SOON AS 8 MONTHS LIVING HERE AFTER 20 YEARS BEING A DUTCH CITIZEN IN THE NETHERLANDS AND HAVING DUAL NATIONALITY MADE ME LOSE EVERY RIGHT AS A HUMAN BEING WHEN I ARRIVED FROM,16TH AUGUST 2009...WHICH IS TOTALLY OUT OF PLACE FOR THIS DEMOCRATIC COUNTRY..
BUT I REFUSE TO STUMBLE AND FALL AND BECOME CRIPPLE.......EVEN IF I WERE IN A WHEELCHAIR I WILL CAUSE A STIR AND MAKE AWARENESS............
........I AM 2010 BUT IM ALSO FOR ALWAYS...TRANSFOBIA IS NOT LIKE A WORLD SOCCER CUP WHICH COMES AND GOES AND CREATES JOY,HAPPINESS, SATISFACTION AND WEALTH NO IT STAYS AND CAUSE MISERY, STRESS, DEATHS,INTOLERANCE AND NO RESPECT ATALL BUT WE CAN CHANGE THIS LETS JUST DOT IT COS WE ARE WORTH IT..........IM HERE T STAY SO I WILL CREATE AND PLACE MY OWN FLAG AND LET IT ""WAPPEREN""(BLOW) FLY IN THE WIND SO I CAN BE A PROUD SOUTH AFRICAN ALL OVER AGAIN......
THNX FOR YOUR TIME...MAYBE ITS TIME FOR ME TO WRITE A BOOK.......
GOD BLESS


JENNIFER KISTEN
Durban, South Africa
DONT ABUSE WOMEN AND CHILDREN..... GIVE TO CHARITIES LIKE THE AIDS FUNDS, GENDER DYSFORIA ORGANISATIONS AND FOR ANIMAL PROTECTION AND PROGRESS LIKE THE SPCA.
SOUTH AFRICA HAS A LONG WAY TO GO YES IT WILL CHANGE....... AND BE A MUCH BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN FOR ALL OF US BLACK, WHITE, INDIAN, COLOUREDS..........
MR MANDELA LAID THE FOUNDATION FOR RESPECT ALLOWING SUCCESS BUT WHAT DID WE DO? TAMPER WITH THE CONCRETE AND SLOWLY WHAT HE BUILT IS CRUMBLING DOWN....... ITS UP TO YOU TO PATCH-UP, REBUILD AND LET IT RISE AND SHINE AGAIN......
WE ARE ALL ONE....... HAVE RESPECT AND TOLERANCE FOR ALL HUMAN KIND..... BE YOURSELF BUT HELP OTHERS BY DOING SO...... SHARE....
ALSO RESPECT TRANSGENDER, INTERSEX, GAYS, LESBIANS AND BISEXUUAL PEOPLE.......I AM,AN HETEROSEXUAL XO CHROMOSOME TRANSGENDER(INTERSEX) FEMALE AND IM PROUD OF BEING ME.......... BUT I WONT ALLOW NOBODY TO UNDERESTIMATE MY URGE FOR SURVIVAL IN THIS UNIVERSE AS IT BELONGS TO ME TOO.......WE ARE HERE TO STAY GET USED TO US!!!

jenniferkisten@gmail.com
Keep Smiling, Keep Shining!!
Blijven Lachen!!
""DENK EROM ""IK BEN DE MOIETE WAARD"""
DUS KOM OP!!! LAAT JE ZIEN EN WEES VOORAL JEZELF WANT ZOALS IK EEN HELEBOEL IN HET LEVEN MEEMAAKTE HET IS OOK AAN JOU ONZE TOEKOMST TE WAARBORGEN EN ONZE KINDEREN TE EDUCATEREN. IK BEN ZOALS IK BEN.

God Bless You!!
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