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Paul (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 11/03/2014 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
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While All Out have managed to get Orange to pull there ad revenue from the Red Pepper paper, the South Africa pan African satellite DSTV company are still running ads on the website.

If we can get all multinationals to pull their advertising perhaps the paper will tank.

I'm not exactly sure how to set up online petitions, etc but perhaps you guys would be able to sort it out.
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An American citizen has fallen in love in South Africa. She and her South African girlfriend have been living and working happily in South Africa for 7 years. Now, our American citizen is moving back to her home country to be near her family. In any other instance, she would be able to uproot and re-settle with her spouse but, owing to her choice in lover, a split is inevitable. Hearts are broken...

This is the outcome of their work together:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QDUggMzZpo&feature;=c4-overview&list;=UUN2TwjrZqRjakHy88NP-DCQ
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(user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 24/08/2013 tagged with human rights +10
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Representatives of Johannesburg Pride, Pink Loerie Mardi Gras, Mr.Gay World, previous Mr. GSA Jason Rogers, as well as media from Sondag newspaper, The Sowetan and RSG showed up at the protest at the Russian Embassy in Pretoria. Coenie W. Kukkuk from Mr. Gay World and Kaye Ally from Johannesburg Pride spoke to Russian officials who came out to meet the protest group. Kukkuk said he was not in favour of a boycott of the Stochi Olympics in 2014 as innocent athletes from nations who do respect human rights will be affected - some of whom who have worked for most of their adult lives for that Olympic moment - but asked for targeted sanctions of Russian LPs responsible for the anti-gay act in Russia. Ally said to officials that in South Africa we respect diversity and equality in our constitution and homophobia is not welcome in South Africa. The officials agreed to convey the message to the Russian Ambassador. Afterward, a few couples kissed right in front of astonished security guards, South African Police Services officials who showed up and some suspicious Russians staring from theparking lot. The media present undertook to report about the protest.


- Gallery: Gay and lesbian South Africans staged kiss-in protests in Cape Town and Pretoria against Russia's anti-gay legislation on Friday. Mambaonline.com and PINK Papparazzi were there to capture all the smooching.
Cape Town and Pretoria - 8/23/2013

- Pics: Various http://www.mambaonline.com/galleries_view.asp?gal_id=737 (photos by Luiz de Barros)

- Read more here: http://www.mambaonline.com/article.asp?artid=8478

Photos attached by Oelof de Meyer
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GHMCC (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/02/2013 tagged with human rights, religion, marriage / civil unions +0
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Good Hope Metropolitan Community Church (GHMCC), an inclusive and affirming Christian Church in Cape Town, has moved to its new home at Central Methodist Mission on Greenmarket Square in Cape Town. Good Hope MCC Worship services are held every Sunday evening at 18h00.

Although Good Hope MCC serves a predominantly gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender congregation, the membership is diverse and goes beyond the social constructs of gender, beyond race and sexual orientation. Good Hope MCC traces its roots back to 1983, when a few Christians founded the "Gay Christian Community". Subsequently Good Hope MCC became a member congregation of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC), an affirming Christian denomination with churches and ministries in more than 37 countries.

MCC are at the vanguard of civil and human rights movements by addressing important issues such as racism, sexism, homoprejudice, ageism and other forms of oppression. MCC has been on the forefront of the struggle towards marriage equality worldwide and continues to be a powerful voice in the movement for LGBTI equality. Across the globe Metropolitan Community Churches are also known as the “Human Rights Church”.

Core values are Inclusion, Community, Spiritual Transformation and Social Action.

Good Hope MCC recognises that people are not one dimensional and orientation, whether LGBTI or straight is only aspect of who we are ~ but for so many LGBTI’s, this can be something that deeply conflicts with our spirituality because of what is so commonly preached. It is GHMCC’s mission to serve God among those who are seeking and celebrating the integration of their spiritually and sexuality. We know that many have been deeply hurt by organised religion and GHMCC is a place, where people are able to have their faith and their love for God restored, whilst still being true to all of who they are, with no fear, no shame and no guilt.
At Good Hope MCC, we know that we are created in the image of God. We also understand that God is not limited by our understanding of God. God is not bound by any of our cultural or personal biases. God is beyond gender, beyond race, beyond nationality, beyond any church or religion, beyond any culture or time. We are created in the image of God – we do not create God in our image.

For further information, please visit www.goodhopemcc.org or e-mail welcome@goodhopemcc.org.
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“WE” TOO ARE THE EARTH
When shall we be freed totally?
Will the freedom ever come to express our feelings without discrimination?
Who is going to free us from this societal bondage?
What a cruel world full of cruel people!

We live our everyday lives under fear and discrimination
Walking on the street in broad day light is a curse
Not to talk of the fear of the unknown at night
Abuse, mobbing and killing are order of the day
All in the name of societal beliefs, values and norms

I wonder if we are part of the earth
Since we cannot express our sexual feelings just like any other person on the planet
Society relied mostly on the biblical explanation of creation and approval of men and women unions
Some people often make jest of us and say God created “Adam and Eve” not “Adam and Steve”
Who says intimate unions/marriage should be between only men and women?
Who says such relationships is better than same-sex intimate relationships?
Some often say our sexual expression is a trend caused by westernisation and modernisation
They forget that this has been in existence since the time immemorial
Even past great men and women were attracted to same gender
Whether biblical or not biblical, what I know is that, this is who we are and society must accept us

We are treated like outcasts in our own land where there is freedom,
Freedom and equality irrespective of your sexual orientations
I wonder if this freedom will happen in reality
Due to continuous discrimination against our sexuality
I wonder if we are part of the social order of the earth
All I know is that, irrespective of how society sees us
We too are the earth
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jennifer kisten (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for transgender intersex readers on 07/02/2011 tagged with intersex, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , armed forces +5
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hi there please remove my response under stories...you promised to do it before.....my life has been threatend here in south africa i just cannot have this....i added an email complaint here with very confidential details. etc.....which never supposed to happen at the time i suffered serious trauma to the head, had a bacterial tumor as well..... and didnt know what i was doing hence the detailed confusing email....please please remove it as police etc threatened to kill me....thanks god bless...
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WOW AMAZING WEBSITE.(sorry for caps im blind in right eye and sometimes its better to see with big letters)........GOSH IM SO PROUD OF U ALL....I WILL DEFINTELY GET BACK TO YOU BUT ...........AT THE MOMENT IVE GOT ;LOTS OF WORK AS WHOLE OF SOUTH AFRICA WANTS MY STORY......BUT I WANT TO USE MY EXPERIENCES GOOD AND BAD TO CONTRIBUTE FOR MORE AWARENESS AND PREVENT ABUSE ETC TO ""OUR"" PEOPLE.......... I HAVE BEEN YEARS AND YEARS ACTIVE IN THE CYBER WORLD ..............SPREADING TOLERANCE, PEACE, LOVE AND RESPECT FOR TRANSGENDER,INTERSEX, GAY,LESBIAN AND BISEXUAL FOLK AS INTERNET HAS BEEN FOR A LONG WHILE IN THE NETHERLANDS ALSO KNOWN AS HOLLAND(EUROPE)...OFFCOURSE I DID FOCUS MORE ON TRANSGENDER AS I WAS BORN THAT WAY BUT AFTER GENITAL CORRECTION I REFER TO MYSELF AS A TOTAL FEMALE. NOT ONLY FACING GENDER ISSUES BUT ALSO BEING A CHRONICALLY ILL PATIENT AFTER SUFFERING A DUBBEL NECKHERNIA AND MANY PTSD'S.......BUT BAD EXPERIENCES MADE ME A BITTER AND ANGRY WOMAN ....... I WASNT ALWAYS A LOVING PERSON ON THE NET BUT MOSTLY THERE WHEN PEOPLE NEEDED MY ADVICE AND BY THEM READING MY BLOGS OR VIEWING MY SLIDESHOWS AND PICS THEY BECAME MORE AWARE OF ""A DIFFERENT TYPE OF HUMAN BEING"""
I ALSO BECAME A ""VIRTUAL EXHIBITIONIST"" AS I WANTED OTHERS TO SEE WHAT WE LOOKED LIKE AND THE WAY WE LEAD OUR LIVES......YES I DARED.....
But EH VIEWERS,READERS, LISTENERS ALSO SHARED THEIR EXPERIENCES TOO EVEN MOMS WITH KIDS BORN LIKE ME.........THEY GAINED COURAGE FROM ME PUTTING MYSELF OPEN AND WIDE FOR ALL TO SEE AND READ.......INTERNATIONALLY.....RECENTLY WAS YET ANOTHER BLOW HERE IN SOUTH AFRICA........SEXUAL ASSUALTS AFTER SPIKING MY DRINK AND
ALMOST CAUSING RAPED BY TWO CHUBB AND BLUE SECURITY ARMED RESPONSE OFFICERS(SERVE AND PROTECT EXCUSE ME!!!) THESE GUYS STIL WORKING AND NOT PROSECUTED, NOT BROUGHT INTO COURT, NO JAIL SENTENCE NADA...OOOPS SOUTH AFRICA U DID IT AGAIN....BY THE WAY I WAS ALL ALONE 2 HOURS ALMOST NAKED IN THE BUSH DARK DARK BLEEDING AND CRYING AND TERRIFIED AND THIS TOOK PLACE IN OCTOBER 2009......
HAVING
RENTAL DISPUTES,( I APPRENTLY DIDNT FIT INTO THE MOSLIM DOMINATED GARDEN FALT I RENTED IN AUGUST 2009 IN OVERPORT CITYBORDER MNORNINGSIDE....
THEY SAID IM A MAN AND "TRANSVESTITE"" AND THEY DONT BELIEF IN THAT
TYPE OF PEOPLE AS IM NOT NATURAL AND IM TOO EXTRAVAGANT CAUSE THERE WERE LADIES IN BOERKAS AND CHILDREN THERE AND IM ""TOO MUCH""
WHICH LEAD ME TO GO TO HOUSING TRIBUNAL CAUSE THEY DIDNT WANT TO FUMAGATE PLACE NOR REMOVE BORER FILLED CUBBOARDS AND CARPETS....THIS SHOIWS HOW EVEN MORE TREACHEROUS LIVES WE LEAD AS THEY WOULD HAVE DONE IT IF I WORE A BOERKA THATS WHAT I SAID WHEN POLICE ARRIVED..ASSOMEONE ELSE THERE TOLD ME CAUSE IM DIFFERENT AND NOT MOLSIM THATS WHY IM NOT BEING HELPED./..THEIR MOUTHS WERE SHUT.............

STILL GOTTA GO TO EQUALITY COURT BOTH FOR POLICE AND LANDLORDS CAUSE WHEN THEY FOUND OUT I WAS TRANSGENDER ALL HELL BROKE LOSE.............
POLICE CORRUPTION(LANDLORD AND SAPS TENANT DOING EACH OTHER FAVOURS)
I WAS ARRESTED FOR DEFAMTION OF CHARACTER AND APPEARED WITHIN 3 DAYS IN ""H"" COURT AMONGST RAPIST AND MURDERS JUST TREACHEROUS AND DISGUSTING AS IVE GOT NO CRIMINAL RECORDS NO WHERE.....FINGER PRINTED LIKE A THIEF, RAPIST OR LIKE A HIJACKER,
WAISTING TAXPAYERS MONEY BY THE WAY AS I GOT MY OWN CASE THROWN OUT OF COURT SAME DAY,
DISCRIMINATED BY A BAR LADFY WHO SAID""IM A REAL WOMAN YOUR A FAKE WOMAN NOW FUCK OFF"" THIS AFTER A GUY HIT ON ME AS IMN A PRETTY FEMALE AND SHE GOT JEALOUS AND TOLD HIM ":""YOU KNOW THATS A MAN"" HE WAS OFFCOURSE ASHAMED AND ""DISGUSTED"ALL OF A SUDDEN
POLICE LISTENS TO HER AND WANTS TO ARREST ME AGAIN IF I CANT PROVE IM A FEMALE.......I APPARENTLY AM AN """HIV MOFFIE"" PPPFFFFF LOOK AT MY PICS

ALSO ABSA BANK REFUSES TO CHANGE GENDER AND FIRST NAME TO DUTCH FMEALE GENDER AND NAME JENNIFER KISTEN CAUSING SO MUCH PROBLEMS FOR ME MOTNHS NOW AS THEY SAY ARE YOU MR GJ KISTENS WIFE......AND THEY STILL DIDNT CHANGE IT YET..........STILL GOTTA FACE ALL RESTAURANTS OR WOOLWORTHS OR MUG AND BEAN WERE IM REGULAR CUSTOMER AND ITS SAYS CREDIT CARD MR GJ KISTEN ..DEBET CARDS TOO.....SALES PEOPLE ARE SUSPICIOUS SOMETIMES THEY THINK IM FRAUDING WITH A MANS CARD OR HAVE A HUSBAND WHEN I SAY I DONT AND IT SAYS NOT MARRIED EVERYWHERE...THIS IS WHEN THEY KNOW IM SINGLE AND JUST ARRIVED TO SOUTHA FRICA AFTER 20 YRS AND MAKING A NEW START.....THERES DUTCH MISS KISTEN AND SOUTH AFRICAN MR GJ KISTEN.....PPPFFFFFFFFF I AM NATURALLY PASSABLE AS WOMAN AND LOOK AT THE DRAMA AM I THE DRAMA QUEEN?? my adoptive parents gave me that male name i didnt...im female.
AND EMAIL POST ALSO"" DEAR GORDON""" ETC ETC ETC............ABSA IS UNBELIEVABLE EVEN I ASKED THEM TO CHANGE THE REWARDS CARD THEY DIDNT.....
YET I PULLED MYSELF TOGETHER AND PREVAILED.....OFFCOURSE IM STILL TROUBLED BUT HEY WE SHOUL
D LET OUR EMOTION GO RIGHT....BUT......NOW ITS TIME TO SERVE MY COUNTRY AND COMMUNITY.......... I AM AWARE YOU ALL HAVE BEEN HERE SOMETIME NOW AND I APPRECIATE PEOPLE LIKE YOU......CHAPEAU!!
. IVE HAD TO DO MANY TESTS ON MY OWN AS THE GENDER HELP IN THE NETHERLANDS WAS UNSATISFACTORY CAUSE EVEN THERE I ALSO HAD TO DO DEAL WITH RACISM, ....RAPE, ....BEATINGS. ....POLICE BRUTALITY AND UNJUSTICE....,GENDER DISCRIMINATIO(TRANSFOBIA).....UNEQUALITY......BIASNESS ETC ETC ETC.........YET I AM A TRUE SURVIVOR WANTING TO MAKE CHANGES ALSO IN MY OWN BIRTH COUNTRY SOUTH AFRICA.(CITY DURBAN) WHICH IS REALLY NOT WHAT I EXPECTED TO BE CONCERNING HUMAN RIGHTS FOR TANSGENDER PEOPLE.AS I HAD THE IDEA THAT IT WAS A TOTALLY PROGRESSED COUNTRY REGARDING PEOPLE WHOM ARE DIFFERENT......... CAUSE .I FOUND LOT OF SMILIARITIES AS IN ZIMBABWE.AND OTHER AFRICAN COUNTRIES....I READ ON THE INTERNET THAT WE ARE ONE OF THE MOST PROGRESSED COUNTRIES I ASK MYSELF IS IT THEN ONLY LEGALLY........
AMENDING LAWS IS WONDERFUL BUT SOCIETIES PRACTICE WORRIES ME TERRIBLY AND I MUST MAKE MY CONTRIBUTION SOON AS 8 MONTHS LIVING HERE AFTER 20 YEARS BEING A DUTCH CITIZEN IN THE NETHERLANDS AND HAVING DUAL NATIONALITY MADE ME LOSE EVERY RIGHT AS A HUMAN BEING WHEN I ARRIVED FROM,16TH AUGUST 2009...WHICH IS TOTALLY OUT OF PLACE FOR THIS DEMOCRATIC COUNTRY..
BUT I REFUSE TO STUMBLE AND FALL AND BECOME CRIPPLE.......EVEN IF I WERE IN A WHEELCHAIR I WILL CAUSE A STIR AND MAKE AWARENESS............
........I AM 2010 BUT IM ALSO FOR ALWAYS...TRANSFOBIA IS NOT LIKE A WORLD SOCCER CUP WHICH COMES AND GOES AND CREATES JOY,HAPPINESS, SATISFACTION AND WEALTH NO IT STAYS AND CAUSE MISERY, STRESS, DEATHS,INTOLERANCE AND NO RESPECT ATALL BUT WE CAN CHANGE THIS LETS JUST DOT IT COS WE ARE WORTH IT..........IM HERE T STAY SO I WILL CREATE AND PLACE MY OWN FLAG AND LET IT ""WAPPEREN""(BLOW) FLY IN THE WIND SO I CAN BE A PROUD SOUTH AFRICAN ALL OVER AGAIN......
THNX FOR YOUR TIME...MAYBE ITS TIME FOR ME TO WRITE A BOOK.......
GOD BLESS


JENNIFER KISTEN
Durban, South Africa
DONT ABUSE WOMEN AND CHILDREN..... GIVE TO CHARITIES LIKE THE AIDS FUNDS, GENDER DYSFORIA ORGANISATIONS AND FOR ANIMAL PROTECTION AND PROGRESS LIKE THE SPCA.
SOUTH AFRICA HAS A LONG WAY TO GO YES IT WILL CHANGE....... AND BE A MUCH BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN FOR ALL OF US BLACK, WHITE, INDIAN, COLOUREDS..........
MR MANDELA LAID THE FOUNDATION FOR RESPECT ALLOWING SUCCESS BUT WHAT DID WE DO? TAMPER WITH THE CONCRETE AND SLOWLY WHAT HE BUILT IS CRUMBLING DOWN....... ITS UP TO YOU TO PATCH-UP, REBUILD AND LET IT RISE AND SHINE AGAIN......
WE ARE ALL ONE....... HAVE RESPECT AND TOLERANCE FOR ALL HUMAN KIND..... BE YOURSELF BUT HELP OTHERS BY DOING SO...... SHARE....
ALSO RESPECT TRANSGENDER, INTERSEX, GAYS, LESBIANS AND BISEXUUAL PEOPLE.......I AM,AN HETEROSEXUAL XO CHROMOSOME TRANSGENDER(INTERSEX) FEMALE AND IM PROUD OF BEING ME.......... BUT I WONT ALLOW NOBODY TO UNDERESTIMATE MY URGE FOR SURVIVAL IN THIS UNIVERSE AS IT BELONGS TO ME TOO.......WE ARE HERE TO STAY GET USED TO US!!!

jenniferkisten@gmail.com
Keep Smiling, Keep Shining!!
Blijven Lachen!!
""DENK EROM ""IK BEN DE MOIETE WAARD"""
DUS KOM OP!!! LAAT JE ZIEN EN WEES VOORAL JEZELF WANT ZOALS IK EEN HELEBOEL IN HET LEVEN MEEMAAKTE HET IS OOK AAN JOU ONZE TOEKOMST TE WAARBORGEN EN ONZE KINDEREN TE EDUCATEREN. IK BEN ZOALS IK BEN.

God Bless You!!
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:-( (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for lesbian readers on 18/02/2010 tagged with human rights, laws and leadership , religion, marriage / civil unions +5
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This is a sad day in South Africa. Today a lesbian minister was fired for marrying her life-partner. The Methodist church was happy to ordain her as a lesbian minister, even assign a church to her care, and dating was never a problem either. But when she fell in love and married, that was when she was suspended and today, they fired her.

Our country recognises gay marriages. Our constitution protects all people from any type of discrimination, including discrimination because of sexual orientation. But we are still targeted. The church will not marry us, and many will not even accept us through the door. We are raped and murdered, ostracised and mocked. The country and the constitution are merely pieces of paper, impotent. Ineffective and obviously unenforced.

Yes, today is a sad day for all GLBTI people in South Africa.
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