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Emi (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay lesbian readers on 31/07/2014 tagged with at the work place, lgbt families, sexual orientation, illegality of female to female relationships
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Hello, everyone!

I'm lesbian and, sadly, live in the RF. I'm just a persona, who wants to live in peace, but now, when the USA and EU accused RF and make a sanctions, I have 2 problems - my country hates me because I'm gay and the rest of the World hate me coz' I'm russian.

I just want to say that it's painfull and to me unfair that now I feel like I have no any moral support from anyone. Please don't forget about ordinary people, because, maybe you don't know and even don't understand how is that possible, our government when they have problems rise the pressure on people like me.

My colleagues hate me, my parents hate me, my government hate me, so please, you, make an exception... and be on my side...

You can find me on this page: http://vk.com/mr.mishkin
Sorry for bothering
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Роман (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 03/05/2014 tagged with sexual orientation +10
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Здраствуйте! Меня зовут Роман! Мне 19 лет. Я живу в России. Я гей. Сейчас я боюсь жить в России. Законы стали жестокие. Сейчас если узнают что ты гей, то могут избить. А дальше что? Начнут убивать. Это плохо. Поэтому мне страшно так жить. Россия никогда не станет хорошо относиться к геям. Дальше будет ещё хуже. Чтобы связаться со мной; roma.pokemon@mail.ru или http://vk.com/madre_tereza
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Nikita (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 12/02/2014
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Hello, Boys and Girls.

My name is Nikita and I live in Russia, the biggest country of the whole world. My story can be long and short at the same time. I am a gay, have been since I know myself. I like guys and I want to be with a guy, but I cannot. When I walk I sometimes find myself watching a guy passing me. Unfortunately that is all I can do. I would like to talk with any of you, I just need to talk with somebody sometime:)
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(user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay readers on 09/02/2014 tagged with tourism +5
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I just brought a butt plug instead of my partner.
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Никита (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 02/12/2013 +25
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Хочу поднять некую тему и привлечь внимание!
В России есть активисты ЛГБТ движения которые преследуют свои личные и корыстные цели, помощи от них ни какой, прямая агрессия с их стороны! У меня много информации о некоторых активистах, которые явно преследуют корыстные цели в свою пользу, помощи они не оказывают только какие то собрания на которых говорят о чем то другом,,, я много раз сталкивался с личным оскорблением одной Активистки Наташи Цимбаловой,,, в её группе "Альянс гетеросексуалов за права ЛГБТ,они и капли уважения не уделяла гею,а порой и осыпала оскорблениями, хотя вроде активистка ЛГБТ движения!!! Я считаю что помощь ЛГБТ людям нужно оказывать на прямую а не через активистов, либо как то координировать их действия и поступки, у меня много информации по поводу этого сайта где дискриминируют СЕКС МЕНЬШИНСТВА, хотя и сайт на ЛГБТ тематику!!! Свои слова могу подтвердить скринами страниц с конфликтами!!! ПОЗОР ТАКИМ АКТИВИСТАМ,,,
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Evgeniy (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 10/11/2013 +20
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Hello All! We are a couple from Russia, with her boyfriend live fifth year. Officially legalize their marriage in Denmark four months ago! We are haunted by neighbors, a couple of times changed the place of residence, but приследования still go on. I was fired from work when they learned that I was GAY, at the following place of work, a former employer, sends a negative description of my work((( With the adoption of this law, it was hard to live... Left from Moscow, near Moscow , but there is no peace... Help US ... as we move from Russia... Please HELP!!! Our friends went to Germany... have returned after seven months, they have been "NEGATIVE" ... they told all the terrible thing that are going on in a refugee camp. We are quite scary to live in such conditions!
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Andrey (user currently living in UKRAINE) posted for gay readers on 27/10/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention +4
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Hello!
The group of people to whom the problems, facing LGBT community of Russia, aren't indifferent - addresses to you. Among the members of our group is Russian, the citizens of the United States, Europe and other countries. Unfortunately, for the reasons which will be stated further, we are compelled temporarily, as we hope, to conceal our names and faces. However, we believe, that it will not prevent our work for the benefit of the LGBT communities of Russia and the World.
By this performance we want to draw your attention to the problems of the LGBT community in Russia. Today, Russian law, applicable to the members of this community, in its cruelty, matched only by the laws of Nazi Germany, acting against the Jews. Today, as well as at the time of Hitler, when people could be punished or even are killed only that were Jews, in Putin's Russia, a person may be subjected to criminal punishment for the fact that it belongs to the LGBT community, especially if he does not hide.
There have already been cases of physical violence, including murder, carried out with extreme brutality. Moreover, these crimes are carried out by not only "ordinary citizens" - but law enforcement officials. Murder and torture have taken place in Volgograd, Novosibirsk, Kazan, Kamchatka. In the Russian city of Rostov, in many parts of the city, have already appeared leaflets, pasted on the walls of buildings, containing calls to "identify gay men and punish them." Authorities declared the event a "provocation," but, in fact, made no effort to investigate the incident. According to the "official" statistics, every seventh member of LGBT-community in Russia - was exposed to physical and sexual abuse from outside "citizens with normal sexual orientation". And how many such cases aren't considered by "official" statistics? Imprisonment of "Pussy Riot" - is a prelude and an evident illustration to the future, which expects progressive part of inhabitants of Russia.
In nazi Germany in the same way all also began - with "separate" acts of violence from outside "the indignant citizens". Proceeded - concentration camps, gas chambers and six million dead Jews ... and not just the Jews: more than 50 million people became, as a result, victims of the war, which has begun with "separate acts of violence" and "laws against defective".
50 million victims!
Yes, you say, but then there was no Internet, mobile communication, social networking, and the victims of the Nazis could not tell what was going on around the world, to warn each other of danger. Now, you say, the rights of the LGBT community in Russia to protect Barack Obama, Angela Merkel, Stephen Fry, Lady Gaga, and thousands of other personalities. Yes, it is - but the Russian government, like Hitler, does not pay any attention to the protests, arguing that no LGBT issues in Russia does not exist!
Today the question is not: "Will we see a Russian concentration camps for LGBT citizens?" - Question is: "How soon we will see these Russian concentration camp?" And not just for LGBT people, but also for all dissenters at all.
You hope for the international human rights organizations? But at the first hint on communication with the foreign organizations, with human rights activists, at the first cent of donations from abroad - any human rights organization working in Russia, will be declared by "the foreign agent", bank accounts will be blocked, and her employees will be interrogated by security service! Yes, in Russia such laws today work!
You're looking at the Internet, e-mail, Skype, etc.? You hope on "Tor" project? And you know, what this project for 60% is financed by NSA of the USA? And other 40% - FSB of Russia? Edward Joseph Snowden proved, that the all governments controls all open channels of communication. In the U.S. it is called PRISM, in Russia - "SORM-2." But the point of the name is independent: if necessary, all communication channels are closed, and there will be no way to draw the world's attention to the trouble, no way to call for help...
In Russia already have laws, that allow close access to arbitrary segments of the Internet at the request of the police, the Federal Security Service or the courts.
And what do you do? After all, the situation is "how soon?" - Requires immediate action!
Our group of activists works in several directions:
1. Creation of the protected network intended for exchange of information between dissidents in Russia (in that specific case - the people identifying as members of LGBT-community), a network allowing them not to depend on actions of the government of Russia, allowing, in case of any repressive actions, at least, to report about danger to adherents, both in Russia, and behind its borders, allowing to transfer truthful information on a situation, passing official channels of the state. The description of this project being now for us priority, is given below.
2. Support (financing of receiving the higher education) the young people identifying as members of LGBT-community and people of old age, not having worthy pension and earnings. Unfortunately, in this area we have no special successes as training of one person costs, at least, $10.000,00, and our financing is based only donations of individuals and small firms.
3. We offer the help in planning and financing of joint trips on the states of Europe and Asia for the people identifying with LGBT-community. As of a present situation we already achieved that LGBT-rounds ceased to be exotic not only in Russia, but already and in Ukraine.
4. We offer the help in search of partners for cohabitation and/or creations of matrimonies, in all directions, in Russia, Europe, Asia.
So, now we will tell you about our project of the protected network of exchange of information by means of which we want to protect LGBT-community of Russia:
The network will operate on the basis of the Internet, but to go beyond the Russian segment will be used by the mobile station disguised space communications. Oddly enough, but it and other necessary equipment can be purchased from corrupt Russian military! And that's good - we will beat the enemy with his own weapon!
Thus, even if the Russian government and the Russian segment of the Internet isolates from the rest of the world, such as China did, the proposed network will continue to have open channels of communication with the outside world.
Traffic network, comprising voice, text and any other information will be encrypted and disguised as ordinary traffic exchange HTTP-content service under network traffic, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Server that will be used to route traffic - will also be mobile and disguised as transport and other vehicles delivery services, service, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Thus, due to masking and mobility, as well as the use of satellite communications to maintain channels of communication, the government cannot control the network (used for this and other measures, which we do not speak openly).
You only need to install on your computer, smartphone or tablet is a small program - and the authorities will not be able to control you, even if they themselves and connect to the network.
In the end, we get a secure, self-organizing network for exchanging information, not controlled by the government. To disrupt the authorities will have to shut down the Internet and telephone (mobile and wired) across Russia, which in any case is unbelievable.
Today, the network is in the process of testing and trial operation in micro-scale. But for the completion of the project - we need the money. Now for us - it hurts the most. Yes, we know where we can buy the necessary equipment, and we know the people who are willing to sell it to us. We have an existing piece of software, but does not have all the necessary set of equipment, required almost no cars on the basis of which we plan to expand the network of communication stations and routing traffic.
Part of the necessary funds already collected by activists of our group, but, unfortunately, it is not enough to start the project in operation. Still needed relatively little money: about $150.000,00-$200.000,00. We therefore ask you to take part in it, sacrificing its completion any amount of money that you think it is possible to allocate to such a thing. Let it be a few dollars or euros - it does not matter.
And so we turn to you for help. We ask you to give us any help: moral, financial, or ... well, just tell us who it may help to provide us with this. We ask you to help spread our message to all people, who are not indifferent to the concepts of freedom, tolerance and equality for all people, regardless of what the signs are distinguished from each other.
We ask that you use your world-recognized authority in order to attract the attention of all free people to the threat to all members of the LGBT community in Russia.
We ask for your advice: please indicate who else can we turn to the world's attention to the fact that, today, the threat hangs over not only the LGBT community in Russia, but over all its residents who do not agree with the government Russia, the government, leading to the country on the path of Hitler's Germany.
Yes, it is - a non-profit project, and you will not get from any benefits of its implementation.
No catch, but gratitude from the Russian people, from the Russian LGBT community. And knowing, that you have helped prevent a second Holocaust.
Few can say to yourself: "Yes, I saved thousands of lives!"
But You - can!
Our E-mail: lgbt.fight @ gmail.com
If you have an opportunity to make a financial donation for our project, please, visit our site http://lgbt-fight.org/
If you consider necessary, please, specify to us for what from listed before the directions of our activity you would like to spend your donation. In case you, for any reasons, don't want to use the payment systems transferred on our site, write to us (an E-mail: lgbt.fight@gmail.com), and we will send at once you the documents necessary for a bank transfer of money.
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lgbt.fight
YouTube: LGBT.Fight
Thank you!
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Andrey (user currently living in UKRAINE) posted for gay readers on 27/10/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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Hello!
The group of people to whom the problems, facing LGBT community of Russia, aren't indifferent - addresses to you. Among the members of our group is Russian, the citizens of the United States, Europe and other countries. Unfortunately, for the reasons which will be stated further, we are compelled temporarily, as we hope, to conceal our names and faces. However, we believe, that it will not prevent our work for the benefit of the LGBT communities of Russia and the World.
By this performance we want to draw your attention to the problems of the LGBT community in Russia. Today, Russian law, applicable to the members of this community, in its cruelty, matched only by the laws of Nazi Germany, acting against the Jews. Today, as well as at the time of Hitler, when people could be punished or even are killed only that were Jews, in Putin's Russia, a person may be subjected to criminal punishment for the fact that it belongs to the LGBT community, especially if he does not hide.
There have already been cases of physical violence, including murder, carried out with extreme brutality. Moreover, these crimes are carried out by not only "ordinary citizens" - but law enforcement officials. Murder and torture have taken place in Volgograd, Novosibirsk, Kazan, Kamchatka. In the Russian city of Rostov, in many parts of the city, have already appeared leaflets, pasted on the walls of buildings, containing calls to "identify gay men and punish them." Authorities declared the event a "provocation," but, in fact, made no effort to investigate the incident. According to the "official" statistics, every seventh member of LGBT-community in Russia - was exposed to physical and sexual abuse from outside "citizens with normal sexual orientation". And how many such cases aren't considered by "official" statistics? Imprisonment of "Pussy Riot" - is a prelude and an evident illustration to the future, which expects progressive part of inhabitants of Russia.
In nazi Germany in the same way all also began - with "separate" acts of violence from outside "the indignant citizens". Proceeded - concentration camps, gas chambers and six million dead Jews ... and not just the Jews: more than 50 million people became, as a result, victims of the war, which has begun with "separate acts of violence" and "laws against defective".
50 million victims!
Yes, you say, but then there was no Internet, mobile communication, social networking, and the victims of the Nazis could not tell what was going on around the world, to warn each other of danger. Now, you say, the rights of the LGBT community in Russia to protect Barack Obama, Angela Merkel, Stephen Fry, Lady Gaga, and thousands of other personalities. Yes, it is - but the Russian government, like Hitler, does not pay any attention to the protests, arguing that no LGBT issues in Russia does not exist!
Today the question is not: "Will we see a Russian concentration camps for LGBT citizens?" - Question is: "How soon we will see these Russian concentration camp?" And not just for LGBT people, but also for all dissenters at all.
You hope for the international human rights organizations? But at the first hint on communication with the foreign organizations, with human rights activists, at the first cent of donations from abroad - any human rights organization working in Russia, will be declared by "the foreign agent", bank accounts will be blocked, and her employees will be interrogated by security service! Yes, in Russia such laws today work!
You're looking at the Internet, e-mail, Skype, etc.? You hope on "Tor" project? And you know, what this project for 60% is financed by NSA of the USA? And other 40% - FSB of Russia? Edward Joseph Snowden proved, that the all governments controls all open channels of communication. In the U.S. it is called PRISM, in Russia - "SORM-2." But the point of the name is independent: if necessary, all communication channels are closed, and there will be no way to draw the world's attention to the trouble, no way to call for help...
In Russia already have laws, that allow close access to arbitrary segments of the Internet at the request of the police, the Federal Security Service or the courts.
And what do you do? After all, the situation is "how soon?" - Requires immediate action!
Our group of activists works in several directions:
1. Creation of the protected network intended for exchange of information between dissidents in Russia (in that specific case - the people identifying as members of LGBT-community), a network allowing them not to depend on actions of the government of Russia, allowing, in case of any repressive actions, at least, to report about danger to adherents, both in Russia, and behind its borders, allowing to transfer truthful information on a situation, passing official channels of the state. The description of this project being now for us priority, is given below.
2. Support (financing of receiving the higher education) the young people identifying as members of LGBT-community and people of old age, not having worthy pension and earnings. Unfortunately, in this area we have no special successes as training of one person costs, at least, $10.000,00, and our financing is based only donations of individuals and small firms.
3. We offer the help in planning and financing of joint trips on the states of Europe and Asia for the people identifying with LGBT-community. As of a present situation we already achieved that LGBT-rounds ceased to be exotic not only in Russia, but already and in Ukraine.
4. We offer the help in search of partners for cohabitation and/or creations of matrimonies, in all directions, in Russia, Europe, Asia.
So, now we will tell you about our project of the protected network of exchange of information by means of which we want to protect LGBT-community of Russia:
The network will operate on the basis of the Internet, but to go beyond the Russian segment will be used by the mobile station disguised space communications. Oddly enough, but it and other necessary equipment can be purchased from corrupt Russian military! And that's good - we will beat the enemy with his own weapon!
Thus, even if the Russian government and the Russian segment of the Internet isolates from the rest of the world, such as China did, the proposed network will continue to have open channels of communication with the outside world.
Traffic network, comprising voice, text and any other information will be encrypted and disguised as ordinary traffic exchange HTTP-content service under network traffic, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Server that will be used to route traffic - will also be mobile and disguised as transport and other vehicles delivery services, service, etc. (Of course, we do not disclose further details.) Thus, due to masking and mobility, as well as the use of satellite communications to maintain channels of communication, the government cannot control the network (used for this and other measures, which we do not speak openly).
You only need to install on your computer, smartphone or tablet is a small program - and the authorities will not be able to control you, even if they themselves and connect to the network.
In the end, we get a secure, self-organizing network for exchanging information, not controlled by the government. To disrupt the authorities will have to shut down the Internet and telephone (mobile and wired) across Russia, which in any case is unbelievable.
Today, the network is in the process of testing and trial operation in micro-scale. But for the completion of the project - we need the money. Now for us - it hurts the most. Yes, we know where we can buy the necessary equipment, and we know the people who are willing to sell it to us. We have an existing piece of software, but does not have all the necessary set of equipment, required almost no cars on the basis of which we plan to expand the network of communication stations and routing traffic.
Part of the necessary funds already collected by activists of our group, but, unfortunately, it is not enough to start the project in operation. Still needed relatively little money: about $150.000,00-$200.000,00. We therefore ask you to take part in it, sacrificing its completion any amount of money that you think it is possible to allocate to such a thing. Let it be a few dollars or euros - it does not matter.
And so we turn to you for help. We ask you to give us any help: moral, financial, or ... well, just tell us who it may help to provide us with this. We ask you to help spread our message to all people, who are not indifferent to the concepts of freedom, tolerance and equality for all people, regardless of what the signs are distinguished from each other.
We ask that you use your world-recognized authority in order to attract the attention of all free people to the threat to all members of the LGBT community in Russia.
We ask for your advice: please indicate who else can we turn to the world's attention to the fact that, today, the threat hangs over not only the LGBT community in Russia, but over all its residents who do not agree with the government Russia, the government, leading to the country on the path of Hitler's Germany.
Yes, it is - a non-profit project, and you will not get from any benefits of its implementation.
No catch, but gratitude from the Russian people, from the Russian LGBT community. And knowing, that you have helped prevent a second Holocaust.
Few can say to yourself: "Yes, I saved thousands of lives!"
But You - can!
Our E-mail: lgbt.fight @ gmail.com
If you have an opportunity to make a financial donation for our project, please, visit our site http://lgbt-fight.org/
If you consider necessary, please, specify to us for what from listed before the directions of our activity you would like to spend your donation. In case you, for any reasons, don't want to use the payment systems transferred on our site, write to us (an E-mail: lgbt.fight@gmail.com), and we will send at once you the documents necessary for a bank transfer of money.
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lgbt.fight
YouTube: LGBT.Fight
Thank you!
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Gabor Kale (user currently living in HUNGARY) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 13/09/2013 tagged with tourism, hate crime and violence prevention, laws and leadership , sexual orientation
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Open letter to Thomas Bach, the new president of IOC
... In the event of non compliance with the Olympic Charter the IOC is entitled to withdraw, at any time and with immediate effect, the organisation of the Olympic Games from the host city" (Olympic Charter 36 ยง 2.)
The IOC is entitled to withdraw the right to host Winter Olympic Games from Russia.
Please find the whole letter on Kaleidoscope website: http://kaleidoscope.blog.hu/2013/09/13/open_letter_to_thomas_bach_the_new_president_of_ioc
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c (user currently living in BELARUS) posted for gay readers on 14/08/2013
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I have a request concerning your support during the Olympic games in Russia while the new Gay-law is active.
I am an active athlete who will be joining the Olympic games, but i´d like to stay anonymous, due to the risks I may have while being in Russia otherwise.

It was refused to boycott the Olympic games, but I still believe that we should not stand still , but mark a sign for tolerance.
Since its forbidden to show the rainbow flag, I had an idea how we could still show our sign for freedom of speech and tolerance.Mmy appeal to all western-athletes:

Wear Shirts with rainbow colours, or while arriving in the stadium for the opening ceremony: wear suits in colours, that next to each other combine the gay-flag colour:
Red suit, next to orange, next to yellow, next to green, next to light blue, next to dark blue
This could be our peaceful sign for tolerance, without boycotting, without violating the law, and without hurting anyone.

It would be amazing to viral-spread this idea on the internet with your help and have all sports-fans …all fans of “freedom”…and all athletes to join this idea, of spreading peace and freedom while we are in a country that doesn’t share this freedeom

Best
C.
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Alexander (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 14/06/2013 +5
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ПОЖАЛУЙСТА РЕПОСТ!Дамы и Господа! 11 июня стал самым позорным днем в истории России в целом и госдумы в частности! Именно в этот день был окончательно одобрен сегрегационный законопроект о запрете гей-пропаганды. Если этот закон не будет аннулирован-он поломает судьбы многим. 7 июня на сайте Белого Дома США мной была создана петиция о внесении в список Магнитского основных лоббистов этого законопроекта. (Мизулиной, Баталиной, Железняка). Пожалуйста, подпишите и помогите стать этому документу более известным!Ladies and Gentlemen! July 11, Russia was finally passed the infamous segregation law against LGBT people. I created a petition on the website of the White House USA with request to add in Magnitsky list main creators of this law.Help this document to become more well-known!http://wh.gov/llJ16
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Егор (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 12/06/2013
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I've never contemplated suicide, and I could not imagine what must be the person to at least think, not what to make. But here today, these thoughts have visited. I do not plan on doing. Went to the Internet, has introduced a search engine something like "painless suicide methods", and all awake. How I was just thinking about it?
And I thought about this after .... damn how stupid. It has started after love, well, this is one of the components. In the present I fell only 3 months ago, that's for sure of this, I understand that, because that is completely stopped thinking about myself, but about him. I do not care what we do and where we are. If he's around and I feel him, I'm too happy. I and the kitchen is a bomb worse one that fell on the Hirasimu, but learned to cook for him (though is not very much, but, damn it, I'm trying). The fact that this guy is bi and when meeting he once told me that he wants relationship only with a girl, he needs a traditional family. It happened that for 3 months, we live together, but soon I will have to move, and of course I do not wish. Having decided that during the time of cohabitation has changed something for him to me, I raised this topic. And that's all ....... He recalled that mentioned it, and he would still be of opposite-sex family. Next, feelings, mine, I can not describe them. I do not want to part with him, really, even for a couple of hours, and the fact that soon will be the end,not happy end, then his wife, children ..................... Here we go again tears come. And then there's this whole situation with gomofobomi, homophobic laws, murders of gays. I and my whole life as a groundhog peeking out of burrow, and quickly home, preferably in the city by taxi to move around. I can not describe what I feel.
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Wuist (user currently living in FRANCE) posted for gay readers on 19/04/2012 tagged with lgbt families
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Dear all

My Company is about to propose me a great job in Russia (Project Director in the infrastructure / transport business). I would like to get there as an expatriate with my boyfriend. Do you know if my boyfriend can follow me or how he can follow me or where to find information ?

Please note that we have a French Partnership (called PACS) together.

Thanks for your help

Note: It is getting seriously hard to do the job you like (Project Management of International Infrastructure Projects) as borders are often closed to family members of gay workers.
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(user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 06/03/2012 tagged with adoption
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That's is what happen in my country. In my city.
Our government officially forbid us to be gay.

http://www.allout.org/en/actions/stpetersburg-dont-go/taf
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Anzor (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 10/01/2012 +10
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Hello! I live in The Kabardino-Balkar Republic - it's a federal subject of Russia (a republic) located in the North Caucasus. Our republic includes two major ethnic communities, the Kabardins and the Balkars - both of them are Muslims. I belong to Kabardins and I'm gay. I guess you don't need the explanations how difficult it is for gay person to live in Muslim community...
Anyway, I've spent all my life living in Nalchik (a capital of The Kabardino-Balkar Republic) and all my life I was hoping that one day everything will change.
I was 12 years old when I realized that I'm gay. I had no one with whom I could share my secret. There was no person to help me with any kind of advice. I was bullied by every single person I know, including my own parents... But I did not give up and for over 11 years I was trying to survive my problems. I kept fighting because I was hoping that one day, after graduation I will leave The Kabardino-Balkar Republic. But moving to any other Russian City is not a solution of my problem also, because all my relatives have sworn to find and kill me for being openly gay. I've already told you that my family members are Muslims and when I told them that I'm gay, their religious views did not allow them to accept me the way I am... In 2009 I tried to run away from my family: I moved to Saint Petersburg, which WAS known as being the most Gay-Friendly City in Russia. But two months later my family tracked me down and brought me home by force. Now I understand that even if they didn't find me I couldn't keep living in Saint Petersburg, because last year St. Petersburg became Russia's third city to pass an anti-gay law called “gay propaganda.” Two regions of Russia — Arkhangelsk and Ryazan — have previously passed the same law. 62% of Russians supported the re-criminalization of homosexual acts between consenting adults. I'm in despair... And I don't know what to do... Russia is becoming homophobic country. I can not keep living in Muslim Homophobic Republic - it's dangerous for my life. My father wants me to marry a girl this summer - he thinks that it will change me and who I am. But it won't. Even if it would, I don't want it to... I live in horror and tyranny... My family and my country do not want me to be happy with who I am. But I'm proud I'm gay... Sometimes I want to kill myself (it seems to be the only solution of my problems)... I'm just thinking: If I won't kill myself somebody else will kill me... I beg for help... I just want to live normal life without fear and discrimination...
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Taras (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 03/01/2012 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, sexual orientation
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Happy New Year! Wish everybody to have better life in new year and good changes in homofobic countries
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Taras (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian bisexual straight readers on 27/10/2011 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights +15
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I am from Russia and I am gay. My past experience of living there was horrible. Especially last few years. I was beaten, threatened, harassed and abused because of my sexual orientation. Russia is a very homophobic country. Everybody: policemen, officials, common people, orthodox church etc. hate us. They say we are sick, call us freaks, perverts, garbage. All our rights and freedoms violated and nobody cares.
I was beaten by neo-nazies and policemen because I am “not like them… different”. And I got to hospital two times in very grave condition.
Russia hates gays and knows no mercy. I left this country 1 year ago and went to the U.S. hoping to find a new home where people value you for what you can do but not for your personal questions. The country where I have a chance for normal life. Where I don’t have to survive every day.
I am so scared to go back…
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Alestaro (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 20/01/2011 +5
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Gays Siberian city of Barnaul live in fear

For six months in this city occurred in April killing of gays. The first victim - known in the town tailor, the second - a university lecturer. Three of them occurred in the last 2 weeks. In the latest tragedy killed the couple. Police to solve crimes. Their perpetrators are homophobes who kill and rob their victims. The latter crime is not solved, it happened several days ago.
Gays living in Barnaul, grieving, being in a depressed and frightened state. In the town before the killings related to sexual orientation. Over the past 10 years, were killed 5 people, not counting what happened in the past six months. Unable to explain this terrible phenomenon. Gay - the community is afraid to lead his normal life, fearing for their future.
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Alexander Kukharsky (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 12/05/2010 tagged with human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation +5
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In 1980's I was instructing my gay friends, how to avoid imprisonment due to the antisodomy pragraph 121-1 of the Criminal Code of the USSR. At last the City Prosecutor's Office desided to punish me for this sort of activity and tried to fabricate a criminal case, based on absolutly false accusations. The started investigation deprived me of my work in the state university and left unemployed for two years till the very end of the court procedures and my conditional verdict. On June 1990 a group of activists came to my apartment and we founded gay-lesbian "Krilija" Center of St.Petersburg, http://krilija.sp.ru , which is active up to now, being the oldest LGBTI NGO in Russia, officially registered after a year of struggle at the courts of different level.
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ansel (user currently living in CHINA) posted for gay readers in response to this story on 27/04/2010 tagged with illegality of male to male relationships
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Hi, Alan

It's really nice to see you are working for the better days to come of the LGBT community.It's hard sometimes I feel to be a minority, and the sense of being forlorn in a deserted place is just overwhelming for me.
I am a Chinese college student by now, and I do not know any of gay friends in real life, and I guess the situation here in China is somewhat like that in Russia. I hope one day I can do something to change that. But, well, sometimes I do seem to break down as a result of the feeling that I am all by myself and fighting alone. I do not know who I can trust and pour my heart to though I indeed have some good straight friends to whom I came out. And I guess they just can not understand the situation that really faces us gay people.
I will try my best to cheer up, though, and embrace the future that really belongs to me with the trying of my efforts, and I hope that one day I can find the place I really feel belonging to in the world and be the true self at ease eventually.
Best wishes! and Good Luck!

yours sincerely,
Ansel
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Alan (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay readers on 03/04/2010 tagged with at the work place, teaching lgbt rights in schools, gender identity, human rights
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Hi!
I'm Alan...I'm gay... And I'm Lecturer of Politics in the classical university, located in one of the heterosexist region of Russia. Within six years I study queer-identity in political and social context of various contries with different mental and authentic features... On December, 2009 I defended my candidate thesis on the topic “Institutionalization of the minorities in public policy”... I guess, this step is shock factor for our conservative academic community, 'cause a lot of my collegues have a mass stereotypes about gay-discourse, which they cultivate among students... For example, mostly popular - homosexuals are minority, which should not stick out the essence, remaining in a underground. Nevertheless, I represent the my students alternative values and stories about real gay life!! I feel that young people are held down by sanctimonious morals... and I feel that fetters of idiocy and hatred are closed all more strongly under pressure of separate representatives of elite everyday... I try to be an optimist and to impart of students rules of tolerance by means of such lectures as Evolution of gueer-identity: retrospective and reality... Transformation of the attitude in respect of sexual minority as a political problem of modern Russian society etc. They are interested... they reflect about it... but, I think that russian's conformism is stronger than mind... It's sad... But I trust in humanism...
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LGBT Christians international conference summed up in Moscow (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 12/01/2010 tagged with religion +5
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The conference of LGBT Christians of different confessions "Accepting the force" that has been opened for the public since the middle of November summed up today in Moscow.

"Nuntiare et Recreare" internet site reports that 26 people from 10 different states participated in the work of the Int'l conference. Among those twenty six Christians were Orthodox Christians, Catholics, Lutherans, Baptists and others.

The conference opened with a prayer for gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people who are standing on the spiritual crossroads in their lives and for those who is forced to be in isolation... and consisted of three parts. In Part One - "Love each other as I loved you..." (In. 13,34) its participants shared their opinions on understanding the Creed, Christianity in general and Christian love in particular. Part Two - "LGBT Christians from different countries of the world" - informed the audience on LGBT Christianity issues in different countries of the world and in Part Three - "Our stories" delegates told their life stories...

The Conference adopted a Resolution - Appeal to Christian Churches of the world, LGBT Christians and LGBT community that is published in the Internet on the "Nuntiare et Recreare" site.

http://english.gay.ru/news/rainbow/2009/12/04-16927.htm
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Ukrainian LGBT Activity in 2009 (user currently living in UKRAINE) posted for gay readers on 12/01/2010 tagged with human rights
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Recently in Kyiv Ukraine's LGBT community has held the final forum of the passing 2009 year, telling to the audience about its rises and falls and plans in the forthcoming 2010, reports www.ugay.ru. Its participants represented all regions of Ukraine and autonomous Crimean Republic. This event had financial support of Int'l Alliance against HIV/AIDS representative Office to Ukraine.

That forum summed up the results of Ukrainian LGBT NGO's activities in the passing year, including the data obtained from the three major researches conducted – on same-sex partnerships; on HIV prevalence among Ukraine's MSM (MSM – men practising sex with other men); on MSM needs in social and medical services.

“In some countries of the West men practising sex with other men are the main HIV risk group. In our country that way is the third on the list of HIV positive cases. The supposed stabilization of HIV spreading among gay and bisexual men tied up with improved during the last two years knowledge about ways of becoming HIV positive, enlarging field of preventive programmes and more sensitive HIV testing equipment could confirm the effectiveness of our job”, reported Inna Schwab (IAAIDS's specialist for Ukraine).

“The 2009 was fruitful for us in many ways, - noted Laima Gaydar, the head of “Women's Network” (a feminist-lesbian organization) - first, Ukraine's LGBT Network became stronger, there are 21 registered LGBT organizations and more than 20 informal unions of gays, lesbians and bisexuals, 25 HIV testing and caring outlets that give social and medical services for people who prefer same-sex relations. Second, we detect the rise of tolerance toward homosexual people among political leaders of Ukraine and third – the level of anti-gay rhetoric of religious organizations significantly decreased. The negative side is the rise of anti-gay crime and gay-hate terror from ultra-conservative groups on the ground of hatred to homosexual citizens”.

“In 2009 the scope of UN agencies work in Ukraine with LGBT community has significantly increased”, said Zoryan Kys, a consultant of the HIV/AIDS department of UNDP Office to Ukraine. Svyatoslav Sheremet, the leader of Ukraine's Gay Forum summed up that in 2010 year he would be looking for positive political shifts toward LGBT community from the authorities elected. “Civil equality for all is our goal”, he stressed.

For reference: On September 22nd, 2009, the members of the Ukrainian gay movement unveiled a Resistance Plan for counter discrimination on the grounds of sexual orientation or gender identity, consisting of 109 planks to be fulfilled by the elected Ukrainian authorities.

http://english.gay.ru/news/rainbow/2009/12/25-17095.htm
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