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MJ (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for lesbian readers on 01/10/2012 +25
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My first Confession

Life is harder when you’re a homosexual. Those words hurt me much. Yes I’ am a lesbian and this homosexuality kills me everyday. The world is not yet ready to accept us, our culture as a Filipino is still preventing us to integrate totally in the mainstream of our society, although some gays and lesbians have been accepted already because of their efforts, acceptance is not as whole as GENUINE recognition to us. I don’t know of laws recognizing us, like for example the same sex marriage is not yet mandated or legalized by our government at the present time, in my own family culture as well, where my family labeled homosexuals as abnormal and evils. And it hurts me that it frightened me to speak up my homosexuality.

I was a child when I felt that there is something wrong with me, I was 5 years old I guess, I remember when I don’t want to wear girl’s dress like “palda or bistida” and I am more of shorts or pants, I also had crushes with my females teachers then. I indentified myself as insane that time (because I’ am different), though I was a child then, everything was really different to me. My poor age didn’t obstruct me to think that there’s something wrong with me.

Years passed by and my homosexuality became part of my system, I learned to embrace it though it pains me so much then, It made me inferior about myself. That was the time when my inferiority complex started to ruin my life. I was very ashamed of myself, I had few friends, I didn’t participate in class, and I was very quiet with a very tiny voice in the class, I couldn’t speak up any stronger because of my inferiority complex. I thought my lesbianism would express and people would avoid me. I was like a dust, a figurine, or any displayed photos/pictures attached around classrooms. I never acknowledged because I didn’t want to because I feared that people would learn my identity. And I had been so much careful to hide it that time to avoid any rejections.

My high school days were one of the most hurtful moments through out my existence. I had my first love and my first heart break. I almost tried to take a suicide then. It broke my spirituality I felt that my life had no meaning at all. She’s the most lovely and intelligent student in our class that time. She loves to mingle with everyone. I fell in love with her because we became one of the closest friends in the class, and most of the time we were together. I didn’t expect much from her that time, I never disclosed my sexuality up to this time, I had my limitation, I never took advantage of her, however sometimes I got jealous and I expressed it through avoiding her. Why everything turned such way? The first time I saw her, I thought she was the same girl I had crush with. Until we became close friends because of her skills in making friends with everybody, that’s why everyone in the class loved her. I had good sense of humor then, the reason why she liked me. I was in 4th year high school when we became classmates and friends. Her friendly attitude killed me, though I never expected everything from her as I said earlier, because I know she could not love me back since she’s not a lesbian too, until one time, she said to me that she loves me and I was like her girlfriend, and the most striking words she said was “I would never ever find a boyfriend, you’re my girlfriend and I’ am a lesbian” she laughed after those words had expressed. And because I didn’t expect anything to her, I laughed too and I took those words as jokes; however deep inside I was very happy that time. Since then, my mind said “never expects” while my heart said “you have a chance” and I followed the second.

Everything turned well after that day, we texted some nights and we exchanged sweet messages, like” I love you” and were always together in every class, I think that situation last after months when she became close with our other classmates. I never get her attention anymore then. And that made us separate most of the times. Her new friends were also the friends of her suitor, and that made him had his easy contact to her, I was so jealous to the both of them every time I found her together. Since then, I realized that everything we had was only a joke, but that joke was never a funny joke nor an entertaining one but the most hurtful joke I could ever received in my life.
Though her suitor basted by her, I tried to give up my feelings, because I followed what my mind said to me (never expects) I analyzed every single thing we had, I concluded that she’s not a lesbian but she’s just a friendly girl who loves to get into a serious relationship with a BOY by the time she is ready to commit. That conclusion was very suicidal on my part but I tried to move on because I know my dream is impossible and it won’t ever happen. Until we graduated and years passed by, we saw each other again. This is through the use of facebook and I was second Year College then I guess. We chatted and greeted each other; I once or twice visited her in their house, my love for her started to bloom again, because of sweet messages to me, that’s my vulnerability, “sweet message from a sweet girl is my vulnerability”. When I asked her if she had a boyfriend, she said none, and she would wait for the perfect time, she never had one since high school, I asked her just to challenge her. Although I had crushes and I once in love again with other girls, my love for her bloomed once more but not for long and this was because I fell in love with other girls during my college days.

My college days were another suicidal days in my life, I fell in love with my girl classmate. But these were more painful that the prior experience. I had many crushes, but I will focus more on the people I fell in love with. I took (secret) course, the course that changes my life. Anyhow I fell in love with 2 girls. The one when I was 2nd year college, the second when I was 3rd up to 4th year college. The former was painful, and I fell for her for just months only, it was not that remarkable for me, I am moved on this time, but for the purpose of remembering I will tell it all on this writing. The girl was not that pretty and not that intelligent, (the opposite of my first love). I fell in love with her because she’s so friendly to me; my sense of humor was once again the cause of my attachment with her. As I remembered, only month when I we were attached to each other, again it was just a friendship attachment, and I was just paranoid again. It was in the middle of loving her when I learned that she’s in a relationship with a guy “a baduy guy” from that I tried my best to forget but it was so hurtful that my school performance was affected by that situation.

But the pain in my heart had lost easily when I met the second girl. She was different from the other girls. I enjoyed loving her, though she was the most insensitive girl among others. We fought most of the time. My sense of humor for another time was the reason why she liked me. But because of our opposite personalities we fought most of times then. Similar to my prior experiences, I was the one who expecting for her love back, she’s from a broken relationship with our classmate and because I ‘am cute and huggable (my sense of humor too) she enjoyed my company and perhaps I was her way of moving on from her broken relationship. But again, it was another friendship attachment. Though sometimes our sweetness is extraordinary, I bleed because of her. In the middle of my attachment with her, she fell in love again with her ex-boyfriend. I got jealous so I tried my best to separate myself with her, (so I won’t hurt that much) and since we always fighting, It motivated me to move away. I received hurt words from her, not so good treatment as well. That time, my sexuality is not only the problem but my preferences in terms of hobbies, styles, and point of views became the reasons why I bleed and tried my best to move on. Fortunately, I was able to let go of her, and now I confidently say that I am moved on with her memories. And the good thing is that we are all good friends presently.

The experience with the third girl made me more pessimistic about love. I tried my best to compensate my time to something that will make me happy and successful instead. Love is not a love for me, Love is just a word, but its definition doesn’t contain the feeling or the meaning when you’re in love” I became more serious about my work. After college, I volunteered myself as a community organizer in an agency. My sexuality was still the issue, but it was not that my major problem then. I focused more on my existential purpose in this world. I tried to do my best to be a good person and hard working one.

One year later, I fell in love with my first love again (high school); she invited me for a date on Feb 14, 2011. That was my happiest valentines through out my existence. I thought I gave up her. But she was the one who approached me for a date and she’s still kind and lovely to me then. (As I said earlier that’s my vulnerability). Since then, my hope for her love became powerful. However, after all, I found out that she’s in love with our high school classmate, the boy is currently active on church same as her, I think the reason why she’s in love with the guy is because of his (the guy)passion in doing church activities. I almost dead when I learned that, but since I bleed many times before, I was able to handle my depression, however one thing I worried of is my behavior towards love. I feel that everyday my pessimistic point of view about love gets stronger and most of the time I cannot control my anger which affects my work and my relation with other people and my family as well. Most of the time I prefer to be alone, I avoid any of emotional attachment, until I took my board exam.

I took my board exam this year and fortunately I passed the exam, this could be my biggest accomplishment this year, but in terms of love life, I ‘am still hopeless again. Until I met one of my closest friend in college, we took the board exam and board review together, it was almost 3 months and within that time, I fell in love with her, It was weird because during my college days I didn’t have care for her, although we are good friends ever since, but she was really kind and sweet to me, I remember when the time we ate together and she said that she had a crush on me, however since I had fallen in love with my other classmate that time, I ignored her and I took not seriously every thing she had said to me that time, anyway, if I took her seriously, that could be another false interpretation of love again, (perhaps I was just insanely thinking that she’s really in love with me when everything was a just a friendship thing) that’s why I ignored her BUT, my vulnerability prevailed again. After we passed the exam I fall in love again my feeling for her became stronger when I slept over in their house during the days of examination. She is more beautiful than before and she is still so sweet to me, the reason why I fell in love with her. After the board exam I was not able to see her everyday, however, I always see her on twitter, before I ignored her on twitter but since I have fallen in love with her right now, I always poke her with messages in twitter, and she’s tweet me back too with sweet messages like “I love you” a friendship thing but I look at it more than that. She invited me for a date last week only, I also slept over in their house. I was so happy to see her again; we talked, ate and laughed. She also loves me because of my sense of humor. BUT, another reason why I accepted her invitation was to validate if she loves me too, through silent investigation I found out that she’s not in love with me, she’s from a broken relationship two years ago, the reason why she loves to mingle with other people including me is to move on with her traumatic experience wit her former failed relationship. And it hurts like hell.

Until now, I’ am bleeding with my sexuality, I don’t know how to start, though I have plans separate from love live, I am still unhappy with my life, loving is the happiest experience in a man/woman life. But, knowing I could get the love the way I want to it to be felt, it keeps me thinking that I would never ever had I best moment in my life. Everything would be boring. I’ am depressed right now. I want to disclose my sexuality but for what? My family, my friends are not that supportive, I don’t know how is it going to be if I disclosed it now?

I feel my sexuality affect my whole individuality. And I am not happy with it, I had this inferiority complex because of this sexuality, and living with inferiority complex could increase the chances of failing. My profession is very different to what I supposed to portray myself. I should be stronger and I should accept myself. But regardless of professional background and knowledge I have right know if I’ am not happy with my life and that society is not that supportive to our sexuality everything then, would be USELESS. Where can I get the best motivation to speak up the real me?

I ‘am now working in an agency where I supposed to be strong. And I supposed to be stronger enough to handle and to solve my problem (my homosexuality). BUT I can’t. I want every one in this world would be supportive to homosexuals. I don’t want to be rejected, the world we are living right now has full of discriminating laws, policies, and structure. And I want to be heard by someone/somebody who will understand me genuinely, without judgment and rejections.

I ‘am sorry if I wrote so long. My experiences with whom I fell in love with were the saddest moments in my life. For me, loving is the most difficult moment for a homosexuals. Loving should be as sweet as heaven, but it became bitter as hell for us. I don’t want to compensate my broken hope about love to work. I ‘am not the kind of person who will work the rest of my life instead of doing things I preferred the most. But, the problem is the impossibility of my wants.

I want to be loved the way I want, I don’t want to be forever alone, or to devote much of my time in working. I want to be like other people, I want to have what I want to have. Life is temporary and I don’t want to live like an invisible homosexual whose real happiness is so far to achieve.

I want a help from you guys, I want to change my life, I want strength, a person to lean on, and a person to talk with without any pre-judgment impression on whatever I will disclose of. I want a loving responds from what I have been through. This is the first time I wrote to disclose my sexuality after more than 20 years of existence. I WANT A HELP FROM YOU L
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(user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay readers on 09/04/2013 tagged with gender identity, sexual orientation +15
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Hi, allow me to introduce myself as "Lei" (definitely not my real name), a young gay guy software engineer working in the Philippines.

I'd like to share to you my first ever true gay love story. I say "true", because it was my first time to experience being loved back as who I am. :-D
This happened during my second year of working as a professional. I remember during my elementary and high school days I've always had male crushes in all the schools I've been into.
Again, I say "all the schools I've been into", because starting from 1st grade, my family have always been moving from place to place, all around the Philippines,
from Luzon, to Visayas, and then Mindanao. And in all those places, I've always had at least one crush from among my classmates. :-D
But anyway, to get to that love story, let's just cut this short.

It was the Christmas season of the year 2012, I was all alone in our home - my family had to go somewhere else for the Christmas break,
but I decided to just stay at home and enjoy the holiday season just by myself. It was 23rd of December, I was online in FB, sending greetings to my friends,
since I've nothing to do. And then all of a sudden, there was this guy who chatted me, just making kumusta (asking how I am doing).
And then, of course, as friendly as I am, I did not ignore his message and I told him that I'm just at home, etc.
Let's just call him "Ken" (not real name). This guy added me as his FB friend two years ago, and for that span of two years,
I never really had a talk with him except for some few instances. One instance I remember was year 2011, when he asked me what type of work I am doing,
and from that conversation he told me that he is an electronics engineer, and then he asked me if I know C++ (a programming language),
because he, as an engineer, has been studying it too as a course. And then that conversation just ended there which I think was not really something memorable at all. :-D
By the way, Ken and I graduated from the same high school, and, the reason I added his as a friend was that his name is familiar,
even if I didn't really remember his face. However, during that Dec23 2012 chat of ours, he reminded me that we were actually high school batchmates,
and, all of a sudden, he told me that I was his high school crush. I could not believe what I was reading on my chat box that time.
Never in my life it crossed my mind that some guy would have a crush on me. I was really impressed with his guts to tell me that on our first interesting chat hahaha. :-D
He went on to tell me that after graduation, there was a Sunday afternoon when he accidentally met me inside a bookstore,
and we exchanged numbers simply because I recognized him as my high school batchmate, a guy from the other section, just a few doors away from my classroom.
And yes, I forgot to mention that we were not classmates - he belonged to another section, and he used to peek from their classroom's window just to see me.
Ahm, please do take note that Ken is not a feminine gay - in fact, no one believes him whenever he tells his friends that he is gay hahaha!
And, according to him, I am a good-looking and intelligent person. Graduated Magna Cum Laude from the university.
But anyway, he recalled that when a committee was looking for someone who would collect contact info of every class officer for the yearbook, he volunteered to do the task,
because I was the class president of our class, and by him doing so, he'd have a reason to go to our classroom to finally meet me in person.
When he told me this, I did not want to believe, but even if those events happened six years ago in Cagayan de Oro city, it was still very kilig for me! :-D
By the way, year 2012, I was in Cebu, and Ken was in Manila for work. To proceed with the story, we kept on talking via fb chat for the entire night.
We exchanged numbers, and immediately we were textmates. He asked me then if we could have a date.
In my mind I was saying, oh this guy's so fast huh? Asking for a date on the first night, but anyway, it was his birthday just a few weeks ago at that time,
and when he teased me for some birthday present, I don't know why I did it, maybe because I got overwhelmed by the feeling that some guy out there has ever liked me,
I offered to get him a round trip to Cebu, thanks to Cebu Pacific's Piso Fare. I told him that if you'd like a date with me and come here in Cebu,
then let's make it a good one - I take you to Cebu beaches. He thought that I was just joking but I really meant that one.
I mean, if for all the guys I liked before, it has been customary for me to be extra kind to them, how much more for someone who likes me for who I am?
I'd be willing to buy tickets for him. I told him that I just want to make him happy, because his my friend, and i just wanted his company,
that's why I wanted to buy him tickets. So January 2013 I did buy him plane tickets.

So, that was the first night of our reunion. The succeeding events came by so fast. We were so grabe in texting one another,
I remember consuming my P500 worth of text messages in less than four days. We just talk about anything - from high school memories,
to our common interests like music and me playing piano and him playing violin, etc. We used to talk about traveling -
me having gone to many places for residency and vacation, also his plans to go to different places in the Philippines.
I talked to him about my barkada, how we spend our nights together partying,looking for fun things to do as a group, or even chatting the night away.
I remember us sharing our dreams - him becoming an excellent IC engineer, me becoming a software engineer in a research-based facility and going to the academe to teach.
It was also fun to know that he is studying French, and me studying Japanese.
I don't know if by coincidence or fate, we shared a lot of things in common. He was also a geek - I remember one time we were talking on the phone,
he was talking about physics but we were both having fun because we both can relate. There were also those days when he would "interrogate" me -
ask me about my family, my attitude in life, my insecurities, my preferences, everything. It was my first time to have somebody interested in me that much.
Although yes, I've had a girlfriend when I was in college, but this was different, because this time, I felt like I was the girl :))

This friendship thing we had, went on for many weeks. One particular thread of conversation we had which I can never forget was when i was telling Ken that,
if ever I'd buy my own house in the future, I'd choose to be in Cebu. Then he asked me, how about Europe? Then I asked him, why Europe?
He replied, because that's where I want to be. I was struck with those words. My understanding was that, he wants me to be in Europe with him.
Ken is good-looking and intelligent and a good-hearted person, but I fell in love with him for those lines.
In a romantic sense, no one has ever made me feel important the way he did. We were already like lovers during that time.
The only thing lacking was the official status that we are boyfriends. I loved him, and I knew that he loved me.
In such happiness of mine, I finally told my friends that I have a "suitor".

But that was what I believed.

Our relationship, whatever it was, went on until early February. Now he is making me aware that he's got some friends from out of the country.
And when he said "friends", I started to have a doubt. I was beginning to sense something weird - whenever he needs assurance from me,
I lavished it upon him, but if it's me finding assurance from him, ahem, no crystal-clear answer came to me.
All he said was, don't be jealous, but if asked why, he won't tell me why.
And then I told myself that this is it, I knew it, either he has a boyfriend already or he has somebody whom he loves better than he loves me.
From then on, our friendship turned sour. I started to get jealous whenever he talks about any "friend" that he has,
and then there were weeks when I would not hear any word from him may it be text of fb chat or gmail chat or email.
Sometimes he'd send me messages but in my anger I won't reply immediately and just make him wait and ignore him.
It was very sudden, and it was painful for me. Really painful. At first I convinced myself that it would be ok, maybe he was just busy,
or maybe, well, the kilig moments are not meant to stay all the way, and at least the commitment from Ken is still there.
But later on I just moved on with my life, and chose to prepare myself to hear that Ken is with some other guy already, and not me.
I was really affected by those turn of events - during times like these I tend to be easily irritated and grumpy, and I dive into overworking.

So, one week more to go, and it's gonna be our schedule for our first date. In my mind I wanted to cancel our date,
but decided not to, because I wanted to know for sure if my doubts are real. So during that week, miraculously, our friendship was somehow restored,
we get to laugh whenever we call each other.

And finally, our long weekend began. He arrived to Cebu early morning, so I went to the airport to fetch him and take him home,
good thing family's not in town again ahaha. Made him sleep because the day before he was in NAIA for the entire day too excited waiting for the plane
that he waited for 10 hours ahead of schedule. At first it was awkward at the airport and at the taxi. But at home, after we had our breakfast,
we lied at the bed, and he hugged me, and I just hugged him in return. It was like all the pain I've had was suddenly gone.
We talked and talked for the entire day. Embraced one another, kisses here and there ahahha.
But take note, he did not want us to have sex because he doesn't want me to think that he came to Cebu just for sex.
So I was just ok with it. I prepared lunch and dinner for the two of us and it was a nice feeling to take care of somebody who also cares for you.
On the following day, I took him to a beach far from the city. We had fun, swimming in the beach, eating exotic food, taking pictures.
And finally, we talked about our status. I was right. There is another guy whom he loves and loves him in return.
He did not hide from me the details. He even showed me pictures of the guy from his cellphone.
He met that guy just a few months before we had our first chat in fb.
That was the other reason he did not want to have sex with me. That was the reason why he could not give me any assurance before.
Although I was emotionally prepared for this, I was not able to take it so I cried, while he was embracing me, and I was leaning on him.
He told me that he's guilty of giving me false hopes, and I admitted that I gave in too quickly. Although it really did hurt me a lot,
for me our date was still worth it all, because I felt free from having to believe in an illusion that we can be together.
So, for the last night, we slept together, now only as special friends. But the hugging and kissing were still there ahha!
On the following day, we went back to the city and I sent him to his long-time-no-see uncle,
which was out of our original plan and sort of took away our precious time together and became a reason of our quarrel and I felt really bad about it but still
I decided to send him to the airport before him boarding the airplane back to Manila.
He apologized for his mistake of allowing our time together to be cut short by his sudden meeting with this uncle,
but anyway, I forgave him, and we were ok before we parted.

From then on, Ken and I became special friends and kept in touch with one another. Special, in the sense that, although the two of us could not be together
because he's got somebody to love who also loves him, the two of us have left a mark on each others' lives.
He thanked me for everything and told me that no one has ever done what I have done for him - love him the way I did,
bought him a round trip ticket, prepared every detail of our date without expecting anything in return,
and treated him as a gay friend unto whom he can just be himself, without pretensions.
I also thanked him for accepting me with all my imperfections and insecurities, for making me feel loved,
even if it all ended so soon, at least it's way much better than loving someone who will never love you in return,
just like all the other guys I've had a crush on.
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tasha (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for readers on 30/05/2013 tagged with gender identity +10
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Right after reading ur post guys, i was inspired sharing my same sex relationship experience. By the way before we get this started, i am tasha from las pi単as city but born and raised in quezon city.i actualy came fr a very conventional type of family not until the day it already became absurd to me.well my very first and remarkable experience was during my college days. The day i met this girl ann melody now known as 'andy'. I find her weird the first day i met her she was so quiet and aloof from d group but i admit thar her brains blow me off cuz she is a genious. So there i considered her much of the nerdy type. Until 1day, i was so depressed of wtsgoin on with my family. I jst dnt kno exactly how to describe how affected i am during those ttime. Then there she was andy was so consistent lifting my spirit its as if im always for counselling. Crazy thoughts plays insyd my head suicide is like the best thing to do by that time. Andy became my bestest friend. We spend r breaktyms on the lagoon talking out of thiz world ideas. Until shr started to care for me that much she srnds me bk home safely and waits for me before r class begins. Then one afternoon she confessed something that completely changed my life...she said she loved me... And guess wt she even diatinguishrd that she jst dnt lyk me but again she has absolutely falln in love with me. My initial reaction was.so stupid. I said wr cn nvr be cuz wer both shes. She jst simply implied ilovryou and i dnt care if this is nt within d so called social norm. I was about to cry wen she said that. Cuz at d bk of my head i already loved her but i jst cnt confess bec of there r alot of factors to consider. She asked me if we can unwind for awhile maybe bec of my reaction she might have felt my confusion,doubts and fears. Until i camebk to my senses and i replied bk...'yes' i cud definitely be ur gf bt with an exemption there shall be no commitment...andy was perplexed by thr condition i set..
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kimctqz (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian readers on 10/07/2013 +10
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this is not a story but a poem i happened to write for my creative writing class. i just want to share it. Also, it is on my blog: ctqzkim.blogspot.com

here it is...


RAINBOW-X

She peeks from the ajar door
sees the rainbow flag
And feels freedom right there
Inside the closet, eyes closed
Scared the people will know

He sees the pink triangle
And knows what it means
Hidden world, sweet smile
Joy of acceptance he welcomes
But afraid to go and be bold

She closes the door, nothing
Weeping in her sleep
Longing for "her", so long
But "she" doesn’t know
And she keeps it like forever

He looks at them, nothing
talks to himself in solitude
wishes he could wear his heart
right on his sleeves for "him" to know
But "no" was his own answer.

Why is the world so cruel?
Disapproving are the eyes
Judgment know no boundaries
Breaking into the closet of secrets
Breaking the solace and mysteries.

-@kimctqz
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ZORAYA TOPACIO (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for lesbian readers on 27/10/2011 +9
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I AM A LESBIAN 42 YEARS OLD ..I AM AN ASPIRING TV/FILM DIRECTOR AND I WANTED TO BE A DIRECTOR OF GAY AND LESBIAN FILM BUT THERE IS NO PRODUCER THAT WILL PRODUCE SUCH FILMS HERE IN MY COUNTRY THE PHILIPPINES ...MY NAME IS ZORAYA TOPACIO FEMALE A RESIDENCE OF THE PHILIPPINES....FOR MORE INFO TO GET IN TOUCH WITH ME U CAN EMAIL ME THRU AD13AYA@YAHOO.COM...HELP ME IM JUST HERE TO PROMOTE THAT REGARDLESS OF GENDER LIFE IS FAIR...
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Iyaji (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for lesbian readers on 20/02/2013 +8
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Rigth Love at the Wrong Time
by : Iyaji

"We have the right love at the wrong time"

yan ang sabi s kantang "Somewhere Down the Road". Alam ko marami sa atin ang nakakaranas na magmahal sa maling pagkakataon o tao. Pero kailan ba natin masasabi o malalaman ang tamang pagkakataon? o sa tamang tao?

Ako nga po pala si Iyajii (hindi ko tunay na pangalan). Isa akong tomboy, tibo o kung anuman ang tawag ng ilan sa amin. Minsan na ako nagmahal at nasaktan pero pagkatapos ay hindi na nasundan pa. Oo, first time ko magkagirlfriend. Masasabi ko na masaya ako sa naging girlfriend ko kahit na sobra ako nasaktan. Gusto ko sana ibahagi sa lahat ang love story na 'to, sana ay magustuhan nyo.

Una ko nakilala si Rosa (hindi nya tunay na pangalan) sa kompanyang una kong pinagtrabahuan. 20 y/o palang ako nun at siya naman ay 24 y/o. Una ko palang siyang makita ay nalove at first sight na ako sa kanya. Hindi siya ganun kaganda pero napakasimple nya at mahinhin pa, pero may pagkamataray ang dating nya kaya medyo nahirapan ako makipagclose sa kanya.

One time nagkaroon ako ng pgkakataon makausap siya nung nagkasabay kami umuwi. Nung time na yun ay nkapagbiro ako at dun ko unang narinig ang tawa niya. Sa hindi ko malaman ang dahilan, lalo ako nainlove sa kanya dahil sa tawa niya. Para kasing ang sarap pakinggan. Simula nuon, walang araw na dumaan nang hindi ko siya napapatawa. At dahil dun naging malapit kami sa isat' isa. Lagi na kami magkasabay sa lahat ng bagay. Sa lunch, sa paguwi at kahit sa pagpunta lang ng C.R ay sabay pa kami. At dahil dun ay inakala ng mga kaofficemate namin na may relasyon na kami.

Isang araw kinausap ako ng tita nya na katrabaho din namin. Sinabi nito sa akin na engaged na daw si Rosa sa boyfriend nito. Nagulat ako pero hindi ako nagpahalata kasi alam ko na kaya niya ito sinasabi sa akin ay para iwasan ko si Rosa.

Kinabukasan, naisipan namin ni Rosa na tumambay muna sa Park (sa d'fort). At dun ko na din nabanggit sa kanya ang tungkol sa kasal.

"ikakasal ka na pla?" sabi ko habang nakatingin sa malayo.

"pano mo nalaman?" sagot nito na may pagtataka.

"sinabi sa akin ng tita mo kahapon"

"ahh.. oo, pero di ko nga sure kung tuloy pa yun eh"

"bakit?" para ako nagkaroon ng pagasa.

"kasi halos hindi na kami nagkikita at naguusap" may lungkot sa tono ng pagsasalita. "pero kung sakaling matuloy yun, gusto ko nandun k" nakangiting tumingin sa akin habang naghihintay ng isasagot ko.

"huh?! ayoko!" sa isip isip ko.. "putek! ano ba 'tong nasabi ko?!"

"bakit???" nakataas ang kilay ni Rosa.

"aahh.. try ko pero di ko sure ah hehe" balisa kong sagot

"basta asahan kita ah!"

ngumiti lang ako pero sa loob loob ko, sobrang nasasaktan ako. Kasi parang di ko ata kakayaning makitang naglalakad patungong altar ang babaeng mahal ko at ikakasal sa iba.

Nung mga oras na yun pakiramdam ko, para niya ko sinaksak sa dibdib at ibinaon pa niya. Gusto kong umiyak sa sobrang sakit. Gusto ko sabihin sa kanya na hindi ko kaya kasi mahal ko siya.. Pero hindi ko magawa. Tatlong buwan mula nung makilala ko siya ay itinago ko sa kanya na gusto ko siya dahil na din sa takot na baka iwasan niya ko at magbago siya sa kin.

Parang sasabog ang puso ko sobrang bigat dahil di ko masabi sa kanya ang totoo. Kaya inilabas ko na lang cp ko, binuksan ang calendar, at gumawa ng note sa petsa ng araw na yun at dun ko ilagay lahat ng gusto ko sabihin sa kanya ng mga oras na yun. At napansin niya ito.

"ano yan?" nakatingin sa cp ko

"huh?" gulat. "hindi wala 'to"

"sino ba yang katext mo?" sabay hablot sa cp ko.

"naloko na" pabulong habang hinihintay ang magiging reaksyon nya.

Matagal niyang hawak ang cp ko. Sa pagsulyap ko s cp ko, nakita ko na inililipat niya ang petsa ng calendar kung saan na may notes na nakalagay. Lahat kasi ng mga masasaya, lungkot, inis na nararamdaman ko sa tuwing magkasama kami ay inilalagay ko sa calendar ng cp ko.

Pagkatapos niyang basahin lahat ay nag aya na siyang umuwi. Habang naglalakad patungo sa sakayan jeep ay wala itong imik. Kinabahan ako sa reaksyon niyang iyon dahil baka nagalit siya sa nalaman niya.

"Para!" bigla ako nagising sa pagkakatulala ng marinig ko siya hudyat na bababa na siya ng jeep. Bago bumaba ay tumingin siya sa akin ng nakangiti "bye". Nagtaka ako bakit ganun. Ibig sabihin hindi siya nagalit?? Ang dami kong tanong ng mga oras na yun. Sobrang nalilito ako.

Pagdating ko sa bahay nakatanggap ako ng text galing sa kanya.

"Hi, asan ka na? nakauwi ka na ba? lam mo nakakainis ka, ganyan na pala nararamdaman mo sakin bakit hindi mo agad sinabi? tatlong buwan mo pang itinago, nakaya mo yun? hehe"

"pasensiya ka na, natakot kasi ako na baka iwasan mo ko eh"

"huh?! bakit ko naman gagawin yun? kaw na nga lang kasundo ko sa office eh"

"hindi ka ba galit sakin?"

"hindi, ang totoo niyan ang saya ko nga eh, kasi importante ka din sakin.. higit pa sa kaibigan"

"talaga?! ibig mong sabihin.. gusto mo din ako?"

"hmm siguro.. basta masaya ako pag andiyan ka., naiinis ako pag nakikita kitang may kausap na iba, pero alam naman natin na hindi pwede di ba?"

"ok lang kahit hanggang dito lang tayo, masaya na ko ngayong nalaman ko na importante din ako sayo.."

"basta promise mo na walang magbabago ah, promise mo din na diyan ka lang"

"PROMISE!"

Simula nuon, mas lumalim pa ang pagkakaibigan namin. At sa sobrang close namin, kumalat sa office ang tsimis na may relasyon kaming dalawa. Hindi naman namin yun pinansin dahil alam namin na walang katotohanan lahat ng yun. Pero ang tsismis na yun ay nakarating sa boyfriend ni Rosa.

Isang araw, sinabi sakin ni Rosa na hindi na muna siya sasabay paguwi dahil susunduin daw siya ng boyfriend niya. Nalungkot ako bigla dahil mukhang nagiging ok na ulit sila.

Makalipas ang ilang oras, dumating nga ang boyfriend niya. Pinapasok niya ito sa loob ng office at pinaupo sa tabi niya na katabi ko lang din. Hindi ako mapakali dahil naiilang ako at halos hindi ako makahinga dahil pakiramdam ko, sobrang liit na ng mundong ginagalawan namin. Kaya naisipan kong sumaglit muna sa rest room at dun magpakalma. Makalipas ang ilang minuto pabalik na ko sa office nang makita ko ang boyfriend ni Rosa sa labas ng office na para bang may hinihintay. Pagkakita nito sa akin ay agad ako nitong nilapitan.

"ikaw c iyajii di ba?" iniabot nito ang kanyang kamay para makipagkamay.

"ako nga bakit?" parang nagkaidea na ako kung bakit siya nandito., yun ay para kausapin ako.

"ako nga pala yung boyfriend ni Rosa at malapit na kami ikasal"

"ahh oo nabanggit na nga niya sakin"

"hmm siguro naman alam mo na kung bakit ako nagpunta dito? may mga naririnig kasi ako tungkol sa inyong dalawa ng girlfriend ko na hindi maganda, gusto ko lang malaman kung may relasyon nga ba kayo ng girlfriend ko"

"hahaha naku! hindi noh! binibigyan lang kasi nila ng ibang kahulugan yung pagiging malapit namin, wag kang maniwala dun"

"ganun ba? sana nga kasi hindi ako magdadalawang isip na bumalik dito para kausapin ka ulit pag napatunayan kong totoo yun, dahil sa tingin ko eh.. hindi mo magugustuhang magkita tayo ulit"

"wag ka magalala.. magkaibigan lang talga kami"

"sige.. salamat sa oras mo ah"

at nagkamayan kaming dalawa tanda ng magandang usapan.

Pagkatapos nuon ay minabuti kong umiwas na lang muna ke Rosa para na din makaiwas sa gulo. Kahit na mahirap iyun para sakin. Kinakausap ko pa din siya paminsan-minsan basta tungkol sa trabaho lang. Hindi ko na siya madalas na nakakausap, nakakasabay sa pagkain o paguwi gaya ng dati. Lahat nagbago. Nakikita ko siyang laging malungkot, matamlay at nagiisa. Halata na nasasaktan siya sa ginagawa kong pagiwas sa kanya.

Gamit ang skype, chinat niya ko.

"kailangan mo ba talaga ko iwasan?"

"oo para walang gulo"

"wala naman tayong ginagawang masama ah"

"pero iba ang nakikita nila sa atin pag magkasama tayo"

"nahihirapan na ko"

"mas lalo ako! kung alam mo lang"


ipagpapatuloy. . .
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Yohana (user currently living in SOMALIA) posted for readers in response to this story on 12/10/2013 +5
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i don't support gay <a href="http://jqzeottn.com">dantig</a>/marriage, homosexually is against nature, think about!!!!..if you're christian Muslim, a jew or follow any theistic religion you should know that we were meant to be males and females if you're an atheist you should know that we were evolved as male and female for a reasonI'm totally with youif the entire world become gay, we're going to extinct it has been proved because our genes will become weakerlooks like some homos are thumbing me down lol
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Ricky (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay readers on 04/07/2013 tagged with laws and leadership , marriage / civil unions +5
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We are both exited and scared about the opportunity to finally return home.

Please help us spread the word about this so we can come home. Thanks so much, if we can get 600 people to donate $10 we can finally come home! http://www.gofundme.com/clarkandricky

or http://clarkandricky.me will go to the same site.

We love you all very much!
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Helen (user currently living in RUSSIAN FEDERATION) posted for straight readers on 15/04/2014 tagged with laws and leadership +5
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Hello!
Iam a translator (english-russian) and I have a big question. I hope if somebody could explain what does the "Sige" mean? I've tried some slang dictionaries, but they doesn't help. The context is correspondence of a gay couple - "Dear/Darling Sige" (and it's not name or nickname). Thanks!
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Ceriel Dela Pena (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay readers on 28/12/2012 tagged with tourism +5
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Hi I am Ceriel Dela Pena, you can call me Mari Mar, I've been trying to organized an international pageant for gays. If there is Mr. Gay world. then there should be a need for an international competition of gay beauties called. Miss GAY UNIVERSE. That all who won in the local competition will fight for the crown to become MS. GAY UNIVERSE. I hope the gay association of the world will open this soon. Lets show them that we also have beauty and talents given by GOD. and we need a fare treatment.

If you are intereseted that there will be a Miss Gay Universe and International pageant please like my campaign at FACEBOOK. account name: mari_delmar@yahoo.com
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Xian (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for lesbian readers in response to this story on 18/11/2012 +5
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Hi i read your story and i may not experienced the same pain that you did i am also looking for the same thing to be loved by a woman and to love me in return. I actually thought i already found her, then out of nowhere she told me that she cannot say 'i love you' to me because shes busy at work then a week after that she told me she needs space. I was with her for 4years, i hope ul find that special someone. Stay strong.
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Brian Don Perez (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 07/02/2012 tagged with lgbt families, human rights, sexual orientation, marriage / civil unions, illegality of male to male relationships +4
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Hi.. good day
I'am Brian 20 y/0 gay male i reside in Philippines iam a college student taking up the course nursing actually iam a graduating this coming march. my mom is a plain housewife and my dad is a seaman…. And because my dad is a seaman most of the time he is not at home and we used to met once a year I have my little brother he is 10 year younger to me. When I was still a child I spent most of my time with our relatives and because of the absence of a fathers figure my mom is always there to fulfill all the attention that my dad didn’t gave to me because he is too far from us because of his work. Until at my age of 7 y/o I’ve discovered already myself That I’am a gay and because of my fear to be discriminated or abused I’ve decided to hide my gender to my family but my mom already knows that I’ am a gay because when I was still a baby I suffered from the disease known as hemorrhagic disease of the newborn where in the baby has a low platelet count and because of that condition the baby will star to vomit a blood and have a nosebleed until the baby dies. The only thing to manage this disease is to have a blood transfusion. I was a type B positive that time a B positive is very very difficult to find because of that problem My god mother took the floor she offered her blood because she was a B positive blood type and after the transfusion the doctor talk to my mom and she explained to my mom that your son may have a possibility to be a gay when he grown up because of the blood that we transfused is a blood of a woman and not from a man and after that conversation may mom explained my situation to my daddy and my daddy accepted and understand my situation deeply in to his heart. As time goes by after I graduated my high school and I’ve entered college when I’ve become a 17 y/o my mom and my dad approved me and its ok to them that I become a gay. You know what the feeling of being free and accepted of your family and relatives is one of the most happiest feeling in your life that is the reason why iam so blessed because in behalf of my choosen gender god gave me the opportunity to be loved by my family. And I hope that all of the LGBT who will read my story of my life will be inspired and I hope that they will not surrender because I belive as a LGBT we are all have the rights to be loved, accepted by our family, community and by the world that we are standing in so I hope that we are all fight for our rights especially the approval of same sex marriage we must unite for our future LGBT for them to have a good future without discrimination but having and equalization…

Very truly yours

Brian Don R. Perez
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G (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 04/05/2012 +3
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On national television, a discussion that tackled LGBT issue, a local celebrity said: “Homosexuality is not the one that makes you a sinner. Actually, sexual immorality is what makes you a sinner."

Among her succeeding tweets: “No offense to the LGBT but the Truth is the Truth that comes from God. Take it or leave it. We will all face the judgment seat of God.” “I’m not a savior. Just a messenger. Only Jesus saves. Turn to Jesus. God bless.” “Mahal ko ang LGBT. That’s why I am sharing with you the truth. If you are not ready for it, please don’t shoot me. I am just a messenger.”

But what really ruffled a lot of feathers was another tweet Miriam posted the following Sunday: “Homosexuality is not a sin but it is a lie from the devil. Do not be deceived. God loves gays and wants them to know the truth.”
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`A SAD STORY OF A COUPLE`
by: Ken chan tanoue
http://www.facebook.com/bonbon.jovi.17?ref=tn_tnmn

One day, the boy asked his girl to marry him.

The girl smiled at him and said: Ok honey, I`ll do but,! only if you could pass the challenge that I will be given to you.

Then the boy asked her about it with a loud and strong voice: So!! what`s the challenge honey>?!

GIRL: ok honey. I want you to live without me within 24 hours. No communication between us even using cellphones to check me up until you`ll pass this challenge!!
And when 24 hours is done, I want you to go at my house, look for my mom and she`ll give you a letter from me.
That letter will guide you to find me..... And please!!! Don`t forget to bring the ring honey! :)

~~ THE BOY WAS SO VERY EXCITED TO FINISH HIS TASK, NOT KNOWING THAT THE GIRL IS SURFING FROM ILLNESS AND SHE HAD ONLY 24 HOURS TO LIVE!!!!!~~

(AFTER 24 HOURS)
The boy wents to the girls house together with the ring.


He was wondering, because while he`s walking towards the house of his girl, he saw a lot of people like they`re all in black, then he heard that there was a peoples crying and shouting the name of the girl...

Just a few steps away from the house, he saw the mother of his girl.

BOY: what`s happening here??!!! please tell me! what`s the matter in here??!!

MOTHER: My daughter wants you to have this letter... please take it and that letter will tell you what to do....

AFTER GIVING THE LETTER, THE OLD LADY WALKED AWAY FROM THE GUY,
THEN THE BOY OPENED THE LETTER AND HE RED WHAT`S ON IT....



......((~READING THE LETTER~)).........



HONEY!!!!
You did it!!! ^_^

so, now???!!!!!

COULD YOU DO THIS AGAIN FOR ME EVERYDAY???


I love you so much honey! And it will be forever..... PROMISE.! ^_^





Lovingly yours
its me honey ^_^
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Jhem, 24, is a pretty transgender who frequently wins drag beauty pageants, a loving child and a doting provider to younger siblings who depend on her for their school expenses and lunches. She graduated with a degree in business management. Her neighbors in Barangay Caybiga, Caloocan City considers her to be better off than many residents who live a hard scrabble life in the village where unemployment runs at around 40%.

However, Jhem laments that she has to be content with working as a hairdresser in the neighborhood, working long hours for less thank minimum wage. After graduation, she spent months looking for a job in the corporate world, only to be turned down by erviewers.

"I didn't want to think that my feminine demeanor is the reason why they won't hire me," Jhem sighs. "In college, I was always in denial, refusing to believe my other cross-dressing friends who kept tellim me I will also have to be content working typecast work for queers, like cutting hair."

Like Jhem, hundreds of thousands of transgender, lesbians and gay men are victims of discrimination in hiring policies, wage levels, benefits and other workplace benefits. The problem is so pervasive that the victims are not even painfully aware that they suffer inequalities in quality of life and legal benefits.

However, a bill filed in the House of Representatives in 2010 aims to correct these inequities and provide hope to some eight million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Filipinos. House Bill 1483, An Act Defining Discrimination on the Basis of Sexual Orientation and

Gender Identity and Providing Penalties Therefor, was authored by Rep. Teodoro Casino who represents the partylist Bayan Muna, a leftist alliance of marginalized sectors,

Also known as the Anti-Discrimination Bill, the measure promises to provide people like Jehm and society at large the legal definition of discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity, or SOGI for short.

Once discrimination based on SOGI is defined, according to Rep. Casino, then the State can put up mechanisms for citizens to report, file unfair labor cases and access justice for violations of SOGI-related rights. The bill recommends penalties up to 200,000 pesos and prison terms.

During a town hall meeting sponsored by Bayan Muna in the city that explained the features of the bill, Jhem came close to tears after realizing the roots of her lingering unease about her situation.

"I didn't realize that the bakla (effeminate queers) have human rights, too! All my life, I thought I had to endure the taunts from almost everyone in the street. I was already resigned to my fate as a bakla who just silently accepts whatever crumbs come my way," Jhem explained.

The bill is supported by several LGBT activist groups such as ProGay Philippines, a national alliance of grassroots LGBT community organizers. According to ProGay spokesperson Goya Candelario, violations of human rights of LGBTs in the Philippines is difficult to document, precisely because a majority of the victims are not even aware what constitutes violations.

Candelario adds that Filipinos are also in denial about the level of discrimination and homophobia, because the suffering is less harsh compared to more conservative Southeast Asian societies. There are no laws punishing sodomy and other same-sex relations, but at the same time, SOGI status is not a protected classification.

"We usually get complaints about gay job applicants who give up on looking for work in prestigious workplaces, but because of a lack of an anti-discrimination law, the complainants do not get anywhere. We report it to the government, and the police simply laugh and send us away. This should end with House Bill 1483."

Aside from financial losses, ProGay activists assert that discrimination impairs physical and emotional health among victims, making Filipino LGBTs more susceptible to health issues such as malnutrition, personality disorders, sexually transmitted infections, and in the worst cases, traumatic injuries resulting from anti-gay violence.

The proposed law prohibits employers, malls service providers, schools, health care instutition, even public sector institutions such as the police and the military from making policies that bar employment or access according to real or perceived SOGI.

Government agencies who are negligent and that have failed to protect vulnerable groups from violators are also answerable, based on the principle that the State has a responsibility of protecting its citizens. Casino said that the Philippines, as a signatory to global treaties that uphold economic, political, civil and cultural rights, is obligated to chase after the violators and not just claim that the government is not able to implement the law.

However, getting the bill approved is an uphill battle. For now, only a handful of progressive solons are pushing the bill to be calendared for public hearings. ProGay is also doing its part to raise awareness in the public, in a campaign called "One Love, One Call,, Human Rights for All.". Candelario is one of the grassroots trainors who juggles her time between a busy salon and scheduling training workshops for activists.

Candelario goes around town telling people that the bill not only assures equality for LGBTs, but also helps the country gain economically and financially. She says that equality that is achieved with the Anti-Discrimination Bill will help reduce unemployment in a sector that is known for artistic and intellectual creativity. She is asking support from the heterosexual citizens to write or call their congressmen with the aim of getting the bill tabled the soonest.

To participate in the campaign, log on to www.progay.multiply.com
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Gerald Ygay (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 27/02/2012 tagged with gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation +0
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Cebu City, hailed Queen City of the South, is the capital city of Cebu and is the "second city" in the Philippines with the second most significant metropolitan centre and known as the oldest settlement established by the Spaniards in the country. In its hike for equality, Councilors Alvin Dizon, Margarita Osmeña, Nida Cabrera, Lea Japson, John Philip Po III and Augustus “Jun” Pe sponsored an ordinance on condemning and banning acts of discrimination against any person on the basis of disability, age, health status, sexual orientation, gender identity, ethnicity and religion. The Anti-Discrimination Ordinance (ADO) gathered a collective support from various sectors during its first public hearing last January 25, 2012 with at least ten provisions under the prohibited acts that include denial of access to public programs and services, refusing admission or expulsion from educational institutions, and denial of access to medical and health services, based on disability, age, health status, sexual orientation and gender identity, ethnicity and religion. The ADO is holistic in its approach in protecting peoples from discrimination and promoting equality in all levels. Currently, the ADO is up for deliberation for the next session. This encourages the Cebu LGBT community to be vigilant by proactively supporting the passage of the ADO and an island-wide campaign for the replication of the same measure. To add, the Cebu Rainbow LGBT Community is hosting its first Cebu Rainbow LGBT Congress with the theme of " One Cause, One Colorful Community, One Cebu" aimed to foster unity of each LGBT sectors as one strong community, collectively identifying local sectoral issues, establishing the network's core group this coming March 4, 2012 at the Social Hall, Fourth Floor Legislative Building, Cebu City Hall, Cebu City, Philippines.
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miles (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for lesbian readers on 01/09/2010 tagged with human rights +0
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hi Im miles and live in the Philippines .
I just want to ask If there is any programs supported by lesbian
community to help those women who cant get any decent job because they are being discriminated by their chosen sexuality. especially from those 3rd world country such mine,Financial Aid is not necessary but to help us work abroad to help our family.

thank you..and hope to hear from you guys... feel free to email me at dex_ford_22@yahoo.com
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(user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for bisexual readers on 23/02/2010 tagged with human rights +0
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If anyone can help me, please i badly need one. My family took my free will because im in a same sex relationship. I can't do anything (to think i'm already 25 years old), i don't have the liberty to do what i want, i can't even apply for a work. Please I really feel helpless. please can someone help me .

From Kris
if you can email me at: goldenfngr2002@yahoo.com
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G (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers in response to this story on 04/05/2012 +0
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http://estoryahey.com/2012/05/01/miriam-quiambao-on-gays-homosexuality-is-not-a-sin-but-it-is-a-lie-from-the-devil/
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bernard posted for gay readers on 14/01/2010 tagged with human rights +0
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hi to all, iam Bernard castillo 21 years of age. there are so many things in this world that are quite difficult i manage to be raised in a community. who are against gay. allow me to start my story when i was still 6 years old back then no father because i was being raised by my mother alone. before there are 3 questions running in my mind where is my father? do i have a father? when could i see him. in the early days of my life i manage to be away from others coz iam an adopted by my mother . whenever i saw her doing those retouch it seems like i somehow acquire it somehow i had some confusios inside my heart what to express.where to be what to ? what will happen to me if i continue being like this . some judge me saying isnt it an abnormality they even mangae to belittle my capabilities, talents , intellectual capacity,strenght in doing little chores. i somehow ask myself why does this world put me in a cage of being punish by burning words of insults noticing that iam not doing any bad to them nor even doing anything to oppose them. guys it was so painfull, hard is this the way we should live ?i stromgly believe like others we all have the right to be normal be treated to be an ordinary person on the next door. stand high guys because in leaping can gather and in hard work we could achieve what we want.i may not be a good english speaker i could even express my real feelings but if you guys are interested knowing me feel free to check my facebook and yahoo messenger pls bare me time coz iam so feeling bitten up by blues arrising XXXX or XXXXXXX or XXXXXXXX pls
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Gerald Ygay (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 08/03/2012 tagged with human rights +0
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News article from SunStar Cebu in line with the First Cebu LGBT Congress last March 4, 2012 at Social Hall, 4th Floor Legislative Bldg, Cebu City Hall, Cebu City, Philippines

Gays ask City: ‘Make Cebu friendly to us’
Posted in SunStar Cebu, March 5, 2012.

LGBTs meet, tell City Hall to help end violence against them

The lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender (LGBT) community in Cebu City is asking City officials to make the city LGBTfriendly.

This, after Niel Kintanar, of the Psychological Association of the Philippines (PAP), said the absence of LGBT protection and policies affects the well-being of the members of the LGBT in the city.

In his talk during the 1st LGBT Congress in Cebu at the Social Hall of Cebu City Hall yesterday, Kintanar said the LGBT community, aside from experiencing normal stressors, is experiencing anti-lgbt stigma.

Such stigma, he said, results to hate crimes, anti LGBT violence, and hate movements in social networking sites such as the “Patayin ang Kasaysayan ng mga Bading” among others.

Kintanar said there have been 144 deaths since 1996 in the country because of anti-lgbt violence, and 32 of them were “violently killed” last year.

To lessen hate crimes and erase stigma, Kintanar said policies, rules, and ordinances that protect the welfare of the LGBT community should be passed in the city. Mental health “The absence of LGBT protection and policies results in a significant link between being LGBT and poor mental health,” he said.

Councilor Margarita Osmeña asked the LGBT community to help and guide the City Council in drafting policies for them. “Show us the way on how to be with you and bring out the best in you. Look at us (City Council) not as enemies but as your friends,” she said.

Deliberation Councilor Alvin Dizon, for his part, said his office will make sure the LGBT community will be properly consulted on his proposed Anti-discrimination Ordinance before submitting it back to the council for final deliberation and approval.

Dizon’s proposed ordinance is co-authored by Osmeña and City Councilors Nida Cabrera, Lea Japson, Augustus Pe Jr. and John Philip Po II.

Meanwhile, the LGBT community will again try to gain a seat in the Congress in the 2013 national and local elections.
Mikay Dumabok, of the Akbayan Gays and Lesbians Collective-cebu, said Ang Ladlad Party-list will run again for party-list in next year’s polls and will be fielding their current chairman Bemz Benedito as their candidate.

During the 2010 elections, Ang Ladlad, which was given only three weeks to campaign because of their case against the Commission on Elections, garnered only 120,000 votes, 30,000 votes shy of a seat in Congress.
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Gerald Ygay (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 27/02/2012 tagged with gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership +0
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It is very fortunate in the Resolution No. 12-1672-2011 dated 7 December 2011 of Cebu City's 12th Sangguniang Panlungsod (Legislative Branch)has resolved the inclusion of the LGBT sector on the Gender and Development (GAD) program and to request the Chairperson of the Philippine Commission on Women (PCW) to include the LGBT in the national implementation of GAD programs and services and to urge the Cebu City Women and Family Affairs Commission (CCWFAC, the Association of Barangay Councils (ABC) and Barangay GAD focal persons to include the LGBT sector in the GAD program implementation within Cebu City.
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