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Shenylee Ann C. Villavicencio (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for transgender bisexual readers on 03/05/2014 tagged with tourism, sexual orientation +5
I'm a 19 bisexual 3rd yr pharmacy student , i identify my sexuality when i was 13 i was attracted to bithgenders even male or female but mostly i am always engage to gays and transgenders, so i can say that i am pansexual , i refuse to tell that im like this because i always feel that it is wron pg , there are things that usually bothers me like the elders rules that man is for woman because woman was created for man... but all i can say is LOVE is for everyone no matter what you no matter who you are everyone, anyone is free to love the way that they want , there are no such rules in the bible that oh man is just for woman , your a great sinner why would you love someone knowing that is immoral...
I also think that way before but now i realize living in your own way is way much better than living because of what others say. Now im happy that everyone accepts me. Except for my father, well i know sooner he will accept me. Actually i didnt have much troubke revealing who i am , because i already start proving them that people like me are not useless, my entire time revealing my sexuality is way better , i got few descrimination but it is more on acceptance im happy that everyone supports me,

there is one big problem that i am encountering right now, im currently in a relationship with a 32yrs old transgender woman who is living on USA well we all know that US is a liberated country, but there are still places there who keeps on discriminating trannies lesbians are ok gays are ok but not transgenders community doesnt want them to be called woman. And efen job opportunites there specially white people they are totally descriminated, now we are on our sorrowful dilenma of our life, her parents told her to leave me and just go with some guys there and she also think thats the only way to for her to live until i can go there. I dont ever want that kind of relationship, polygamy is a sin for me, i dont want her to use someone to support her because i cant support each other right now.
Now im asking my FELLOW LGBT for help i really wanted to be with her i love her so much and i really wanted to do anything for her its just always financial thing,
its like nowadays its not just our sexuality is a great problem but money also burry us to death
im still hoping that things could work out for both of us.
any suggestion?
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Oscar Atadero (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual straight readers on 12/06/2012 tagged with gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, marriage / civil unions
ProGay consoles Pacquiao, hints rep should work on gay-friendly bills

From GMA News Network

The Progressive Organization of Gays in the Philippines on Sunday came out in support of defeated boxing legend Manny Pacquiao, who was outscored by American Timothy Bradley in their fight, saying that he still needs to quickly return home in order to work on important bills in Congress.

"We sympathize with the Pacquaio camp and all his saddened supporters. But in defeat, we rise again and help build equality in our nation by knocking out discrimination and violence based on sexual orientation and gender identity," said Progressive Organization of Gays in the Philippines, or ProGay, Spokesperson Goya Candelario in a press statement.

Furthermore, ProGay said that the pound-for-pound king Pacquiao should also re-assess his political stand against marriage equality issues and learn to totally accept lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) equality as a member of the House of Representatives.

A few weeks before his fight with Bradley, Pacquiao was criticized for speaking out against U.S. President Barack Obama's support for lesbian and gay marriage.

"We ask Congressman Pacquiao to support our equality by endorsing the passage of House Bill 1483 or the Antidiscrimination Bill if he really is supportive of LGBT citizens," Candelario added.

ProGay also called on Pacquiao to continue supporting bills that increase wages by P125 in order to revive the economy and thus help gay and transgender salon workers. — DVM, GMA News
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G (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers in response to this story on 04/05/2012 +0
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G (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 04/05/2012 +3
On national television, a discussion that tackled LGBT issue, a local celebrity said: “Homosexuality is not the one that makes you a sinner. Actually, sexual immorality is what makes you a sinner."

Among her succeeding tweets: “No offense to the LGBT but the Truth is the Truth that comes from God. Take it or leave it. We will all face the judgment seat of God.” “I’m not a savior. Just a messenger. Only Jesus saves. Turn to Jesus. God bless.” “Mahal ko ang LGBT. That’s why I am sharing with you the truth. If you are not ready for it, please don’t shoot me. I am just a messenger.”

But what really ruffled a lot of feathers was another tweet Miriam posted the following Sunday: “Homosexuality is not a sin but it is a lie from the devil. Do not be deceived. God loves gays and wants them to know the truth.”
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Gerald Ygay (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 08/03/2012 tagged with human rights +0
News article from SunStar Cebu in line with the First Cebu LGBT Congress last March 4, 2012 at Social Hall, 4th Floor Legislative Bldg, Cebu City Hall, Cebu City, Philippines

Gays ask City: ‘Make Cebu friendly to us’
Posted in SunStar Cebu, March 5, 2012.

LGBTs meet, tell City Hall to help end violence against them

The lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender (LGBT) community in Cebu City is asking City officials to make the city LGBTfriendly.

This, after Niel Kintanar, of the Psychological Association of the Philippines (PAP), said the absence of LGBT protection and policies affects the well-being of the members of the LGBT in the city.

In his talk during the 1st LGBT Congress in Cebu at the Social Hall of Cebu City Hall yesterday, Kintanar said the LGBT community, aside from experiencing normal stressors, is experiencing anti-lgbt stigma.

Such stigma, he said, results to hate crimes, anti LGBT violence, and hate movements in social networking sites such as the “Patayin ang Kasaysayan ng mga Bading” among others.

Kintanar said there have been 144 deaths since 1996 in the country because of anti-lgbt violence, and 32 of them were “violently killed” last year.

To lessen hate crimes and erase stigma, Kintanar said policies, rules, and ordinances that protect the welfare of the LGBT community should be passed in the city. Mental health “The absence of LGBT protection and policies results in a significant link between being LGBT and poor mental health,” he said.

Councilor Margarita Osmeña asked the LGBT community to help and guide the City Council in drafting policies for them. “Show us the way on how to be with you and bring out the best in you. Look at us (City Council) not as enemies but as your friends,” she said.

Deliberation Councilor Alvin Dizon, for his part, said his office will make sure the LGBT community will be properly consulted on his proposed Anti-discrimination Ordinance before submitting it back to the council for final deliberation and approval.

Dizon’s proposed ordinance is co-authored by Osmeña and City Councilors Nida Cabrera, Lea Japson, Augustus Pe Jr. and John Philip Po II.

Meanwhile, the LGBT community will again try to gain a seat in the Congress in the 2013 national and local elections.
Mikay Dumabok, of the Akbayan Gays and Lesbians Collective-cebu, said Ang Ladlad Party-list will run again for party-list in next year’s polls and will be fielding their current chairman Bemz Benedito as their candidate.

During the 2010 elections, Ang Ladlad, which was given only three weeks to campaign because of their case against the Commission on Elections, garnered only 120,000 votes, 30,000 votes shy of a seat in Congress.
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Gerald Ygay (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 27/02/2012 tagged with gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation +0
Cebu City, hailed Queen City of the South, is the capital city of Cebu and is the "second city" in the Philippines with the second most significant metropolitan centre and known as the oldest settlement established by the Spaniards in the country. In its hike for equality, Councilors Alvin Dizon, Margarita Osmeña, Nida Cabrera, Lea Japson, John Philip Po III and Augustus “Jun” Pe sponsored an ordinance on condemning and banning acts of discrimination against any person on the basis of disability, age, health status, sexual orientation, gender identity, ethnicity and religion. The Anti-Discrimination Ordinance (ADO) gathered a collective support from various sectors during its first public hearing last January 25, 2012 with at least ten provisions under the prohibited acts that include denial of access to public programs and services, refusing admission or expulsion from educational institutions, and denial of access to medical and health services, based on disability, age, health status, sexual orientation and gender identity, ethnicity and religion. The ADO is holistic in its approach in protecting peoples from discrimination and promoting equality in all levels. Currently, the ADO is up for deliberation for the next session. This encourages the Cebu LGBT community to be vigilant by proactively supporting the passage of the ADO and an island-wide campaign for the replication of the same measure. To add, the Cebu Rainbow LGBT Community is hosting its first Cebu Rainbow LGBT Congress with the theme of " One Cause, One Colorful Community, One Cebu" aimed to foster unity of each LGBT sectors as one strong community, collectively identifying local sectoral issues, establishing the network's core group this coming March 4, 2012 at the Social Hall, Fourth Floor Legislative Building, Cebu City Hall, Cebu City, Philippines.
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Gerald Ygay (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 27/02/2012 tagged with gender identity, human rights, laws and leadership +0
It is very fortunate in the Resolution No. 12-1672-2011 dated 7 December 2011 of Cebu City's 12th Sangguniang Panlungsod (Legislative Branch)has resolved the inclusion of the LGBT sector on the Gender and Development (GAD) program and to request the Chairperson of the Philippine Commission on Women (PCW) to include the LGBT in the national implementation of GAD programs and services and to urge the Cebu City Women and Family Affairs Commission (CCWFAC, the Association of Barangay Councils (ABC) and Barangay GAD focal persons to include the LGBT sector in the GAD program implementation within Cebu City.
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Brian Don Perez (user currently living in PHILIPPINES) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 07/02/2012 tagged with lgbt families, human rights, sexual orientation, marriage / civil unions, illegality of male to male relationships +4
Hi.. good day
I'am Brian 20 y/0 gay male i reside in Philippines iam a college student taking up the course nursing actually iam a graduating this coming march. my mom is a plain housewife and my dad is a seaman…. And because my dad is a seaman most of the time he is not at home and we used to met once a year I have my little brother he is 10 year younger to me. When I was still a child I spent most of my time with our relatives and because of the absence of a fathers figure my mom is always there to fulfill all the attention that my dad didn’t gave to me because he is too far from us because of his work. Until at my age of 7 y/o I’ve discovered already myself That I’am a gay and because of my fear to be discriminated or abused I’ve decided to hide my gender to my family but my mom already knows that I’ am a gay because when I was still a baby I suffered from the disease known as hemorrhagic disease of the newborn where in the baby has a low platelet count and because of that condition the baby will star to vomit a blood and have a nosebleed until the baby dies. The only thing to manage this disease is to have a blood transfusion. I was a type B positive that time a B positive is very very difficult to find because of that problem My god mother took the floor she offered her blood because she was a B positive blood type and after the transfusion the doctor talk to my mom and she explained to my mom that your son may have a possibility to be a gay when he grown up because of the blood that we transfused is a blood of a woman and not from a man and after that conversation may mom explained my situation to my daddy and my daddy accepted and understand my situation deeply in to his heart. As time goes by after I graduated my high school and I’ve entered college when I’ve become a 17 y/o my mom and my dad approved me and its ok to them that I become a gay. You know what the feeling of being free and accepted of your family and relatives is one of the most happiest feeling in your life that is the reason why iam so blessed because in behalf of my choosen gender god gave me the opportunity to be loved by my family. And I hope that all of the LGBT who will read my story of my life will be inspired and I hope that they will not surrender because I belive as a LGBT we are all have the rights to be loved, accepted by our family, community and by the world that we are standing in so I hope that we are all fight for our rights especially the approval of same sex marriage we must unite for our future LGBT for them to have a good future without discrimination but having and equalization…

Very truly yours

Brian Don R. Perez
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Jhem, 24, is a pretty transgender who frequently wins drag beauty pageants, a loving child and a doting provider to younger siblings who depend on her for their school expenses and lunches. She graduated with a degree in business management. Her neighbors in Barangay Caybiga, Caloocan City considers her to be better off than many residents who live a hard scrabble life in the village where unemployment runs at around 40%.

However, Jhem laments that she has to be content with working as a hairdresser in the neighborhood, working long hours for less thank minimum wage. After graduation, she spent months looking for a job in the corporate world, only to be turned down by erviewers.

"I didn't want to think that my feminine demeanor is the reason why they won't hire me," Jhem sighs. "In college, I was always in denial, refusing to believe my other cross-dressing friends who kept tellim me I will also have to be content working typecast work for queers, like cutting hair."

Like Jhem, hundreds of thousands of transgender, lesbians and gay men are victims of discrimination in hiring policies, wage levels, benefits and other workplace benefits. The problem is so pervasive that the victims are not even painfully aware that they suffer inequalities in quality of life and legal benefits.

However, a bill filed in the House of Representatives in 2010 aims to correct these inequities and provide hope to some eight million lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Filipinos. House Bill 1483, An Act Defining Discrimination on the Basis of Sexual Orientation and

Gender Identity and Providing Penalties Therefor, was authored by Rep. Teodoro Casino who represents the partylist Bayan Muna, a leftist alliance of marginalized sectors,

Also known as the Anti-Discrimination Bill, the measure promises to provide people like Jehm and society at large the legal definition of discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity, or SOGI for short.

Once discrimination based on SOGI is defined, according to Rep. Casino, then the State can put up mechanisms for citizens to report, file unfair labor cases and access justice for violations of SOGI-related rights. The bill recommends penalties up to 200,000 pesos and prison terms.

During a town hall meeting sponsored by Bayan Muna in the city that explained the features of the bill, Jhem came close to tears after realizing the roots of her lingering unease about her situation.

"I didn't realize that the bakla (effeminate queers) have human rights, too! All my life, I thought I had to endure the taunts from almost everyone in the street. I was already resigned to my fate as a bakla who just silently accepts whatever crumbs come my way," Jhem explained.

The bill is supported by several LGBT activist groups such as ProGay Philippines, a national alliance of grassroots LGBT community organizers. According to ProGay spokesperson Goya Candelario, violations of human rights of LGBTs in the Philippines is difficult to document, precisely because a majority of the victims are not even aware what constitutes violations.

Candelario adds that Filipinos are also in denial about the level of discrimination and homophobia, because the suffering is less harsh compared to more conservative Southeast Asian societies. There are no laws punishing sodomy and other same-sex relations, but at the same time, SOGI status is not a protected classification.

"We usually get complaints about gay job applicants who give up on looking for work in prestigious workplaces, but because of a lack of an anti-discrimination law, the complainants do not get anywhere. We report it to the government, and the police simply laugh and send us away. This should end with House Bill 1483."

Aside from financial losses, ProGay activists assert that discrimination impairs physical and emotional health among victims, making Filipino LGBTs more susceptible to health issues such as malnutrition, personality disorders, sexually transmitted infections, and in the worst cases, traumatic injuries resulting from anti-gay violence.

The proposed law prohibits employers, malls service providers, schools, health care instutition, even public sector institutions such as the police and the military from making policies that bar employment or access according to real or perceived SOGI.

Government agencies who are negligent and that have failed to protect vulnerable groups from violators are also answerable, based on the principle that the State has a responsibility of protecting its citizens. Casino said that the Philippines, as a signatory to global treaties that uphold economic, political, civil and cultural rights, is obligated to chase after the violators and not just claim that the government is not able to implement the law.

However, getting the bill approved is an uphill battle. For now, only a handful of progressive solons are pushing the bill to be calendared for public hearings. ProGay is also doing its part to raise awareness in the public, in a campaign called "One Love, One Call,, Human Rights for All.". Candelario is one of the grassroots trainors who juggles her time between a busy salon and scheduling training workshops for activists.

Candelario goes around town telling people that the bill not only assures equality for LGBTs, but also helps the country gain economically and financially. She says that equality that is achieved with the Anti-Discrimination Bill will help reduce unemployment in a sector that is known for artistic and intellectual creativity. She is asking support from the heterosexual citizens to write or call their congressmen with the aim of getting the bill tabled the soonest.

To participate in the campaign, log on to www.progay.multiply.com
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