Judge not that you may not be judged!

My name is Rex, male, 48 years, Nigerian. I am proudly and an unrepentant a bisexual by choice. Because of

my sexual orientation, my life is presently in danger. I am marked to killed or thrown into jail. Trouble started for me on the 3rd of September 2012 when an intruder barged in at a secluded location where I was having sexual intercourse with my male sex partner, and on noticing that we were both males the intruder raised an alarm that attracted a mob who descended on my sex partner and I, beating us mercilessly to a point where my partner slumped and died on the spot, while I sustained serious injuries. Following this incident, my landlord ejected me from my rented apartment and the Police declared me for legal prosecution for engaging in sexual intercourse with a fellow male. I evaded arrest by going into hiding. I have been in hiding since 8 - months now. Tii date the neighborhood vigilante group, some religious zealots as well as the Police are still searching all over town to get me to killed or thrown into jail. Being in hiding over these several months, I have not been able to work and earn money to sustain my family so much so that my children have dropped out of school for non-payment of school fees. I am highly devastated on all fronts, so also is my family. The Sexual Right Advocacy group ((IMH-Initiative), which I am a registered member here in Nigeria though aware of my plight does not run a human rights session to follow up such cases like mine. I have been made to understand that the Nigerian Penal Law imposes a 14 years imprisonment term for carnal sex outside the order of nature. I really need help. Please advice me or come to my aid in any way can. rex.ijomanta@gmail.com
Thank you.

Am black single gay young man here in Nigeria and i want to use this opportunity to share my life story with you all and see if there is any assistance anyone can lender to me either than been this way i am since is not normal been single and lonely which i find too hard to believe in my life and also the community where i am living it.

I was born on Feb.14th 1983 from Family of (3boys,3girls) am the 3rd son and i grew up from eastern part of Nigeria as i am from Anambra state and throughout my life time i have been living a lonely life though inside me i knew exactly what i am and whom i am and i can say that i started meeting people when i enter secondary school though is not easy for me but still am the Shy type who does not speak much and what am trying to explain to you people out there is that am single and seriously searching for true a man for true love with anyone who need someone for life partner as am alone, single and based on the nature of Discrimination here in Nigeria and the Law filed by the Government i think is not wise for one to continue staying here and passing through this and i do not need to stay lonely all my life as am no getting younger anymore. I seriously need a man in my life , one who will be to me as friend and partner a man whom i can share my life with and live happily ever after with either than been lonely and single here all my life please if anyone have any suggestion please i am begging and i am serious please need a partner in my life . my email is larrycage1@yahoo.ca

Am black single gay young man here in Nigeria and i want to use this opportunity to share my life story with you all and see if there is any assistance anyone can lender to me either than been this way i am since is not normal been single and lonely which i find too hard to believe in my life and also the community where i am living it.

I was born on Feb.14th 1983 from Family of (3boys,3girls) am the 3rd son and i grew up from eastern part of Nigeria as i am from Anambra state and throughout my life time i have been living a lonely life though inside me i knew exactly what i am and whom i am and i can say that i started meeting people when i enter secondary school though is not easy for me but still am the Shy type who does not speak much and what am trying to explain to you people out there is that am single and seriously searching for true a man for true love with anyone who need someone for life partner as am alone, single and based on the nature of Discrimination here in Nigeria and the Law filed by the Government i think is not wise for one to continue staying here and passing through this and i do not need to stay lonely all my life as am no getting younger anymore. I seriously need a man in my life , one who will be to me as friend and partner a man whom i can share my life with and live happily ever after with either than been lonely and single here all my life please if anyone have any suggestion please i am begging and i am serious please need a partner in my life . my email is larrycage1@yahoo.ca

Hi ,

I am a Christian film maker and recently attached my self to the Peter Tatchell foundation in London , I would like to help out . I recently made a christian lesbian film, my situation is a bit complicated ..but just to say that i am for gay rights and believe in the Completed Works of the Cross.

I was hoping to do a promotion with some of your members on it, I think it would educate the Christian community who are the main antagonist in all queer love stories and it would help Christian gays and lesbians to make a stand for their faith and their love . Lastly that it would help change the law in NIgeria.


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My experience in my country have been one of total fear as people are very unpredictable. Been homosexual has been a tragedy for me because it has completely eroded my freedom. Its purely a jungle situation as you are constantly at the bottom of the food chain. You can only go public if you are suicidal or looking for someone to snuff off the life in you, particularly in my imminent environment. To stay alive and avoid harsh repercussion disguising is in your interest.

Whilst the society labels us criminals by passing a bill in the house of senate, nothing is been done to enable teenagers grow with a reliable source of sexual education. The society is very hypothetical when it come to matters of sex. while sex issues are treated as though they are forbidden it does happen behind closed door frequently.

As a result youngsters develop whatever sexual orientation that is appealing and available. Gays are Nigerians not aliens. They are human not beast. They deserve to live not die. They should live without fear of molestation or raising the slightest indication of abnormalities. There are many reasons people chose there sexual orientation or find themselves where they are today.

The human dignity should be respected. Why kill people because they chose what makes them happy and gives them satisfaction. To the government why remove the protection of already exposed minority? Stipulating laws that invades people's privacy in search of their sensual orientation.

You who hunt fellow humans on account of their sexual orientation do remember that this people are humans, vulnerable within your communities and maybe be that very person who could save you when its most needed.

Ask yourselves how does ones sexual orientation affects you. Think as Christian what will Christ do to homosexuals. If you know the answer do the same.

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Since i join online bgc website from London , so now that i have relocated back to Lagos now, i could see many friendship and relationship network in Lagos and every part of Nigeria to connect with me online and I love it, anyway, am a social care worker, i handle a lot of private intimacy contact and connection both male and female.that's all

It is assumed that being straight is the only acceptable way of life. How they got it wrong!
LGBT people do exist in the society; all they need is the right support and environment to identify openly. Unfortunately the State is prohibity homosexuality, so who is going to help LGBTs?

Dear friends I am a 26 year old gay Nigerian but I am discrete and with this I could not live my life freely which makes me live a double life.
I went visit my friend and saw that he was arrested because he was suspected of being a gay and he was attacked by the youth in the area so I fear to stay there because even the police will deal with you if you say you know him.
Now my friend will be release if what we were told is true but now he can't go back to his former home and his job.
please what can be done.
blizprince@yahoo.com

i need someone to show me how it work's and teach me very well...

Attn: sir/ma

we are a non governmental association in care for the gay and lesbian right in Nigeria. right now we are really going thru a lot of challenges via the band of gay and lesbian right in our country and this has result to so many killings of our brothers and sisters in the north side of the country..
right now we are hiding under the shadow of this association Doctor Uwa Foundation for the gay and lesbian but we can not come out openly bcus right now our life is not save.
we are writing you this mail so that u can use your able network to inform others what we have been facing in our country Nigeria and if you have any advise you can send to us pls we will really welcome it urgently.
pls you can reach our foundation thru this:

Doctor Uwa Foundation
for the gay and lesbian right
5,oyetola street,
mafoluku oshodi,
lagos, nigeria
west african
Tel:2348033924579

pls we will urgently be waiting for your respond and help
to enable us help our brothers and sister in the north side
of our country to enable us save there life..
we will send you some of the killings picture of some of our member
that was killed trying to run for there life.

pls your urgent respond is highly needed.

regards
Doctor Keven Uwa

GAY life in Nigeria , i am a gay man and also HIV positive i have faced a lot of stigma because of my status as a gay man and also living with HIV , my family has disown me because they feel i have been coursed by god and am been punished by god, Avery day of my life i live in fear and pain because am not able to live the kind of life i will want to live , but one thing that brings me joy is the fact that even in the face of all this issues am able to change my community members lives (MSM)many of them now believe that HIV is real because they have seen some one who is infected,many who are infected now know the right things to do and get health care services they are now members of the support group which is for MSM alone , am also glad about the organization where i work because we provide services for MSM and also have a clinic specific for MSM alone where they get ARVs with out going out there to be stigmatized by health care workers . all this we have achieved in Nigeria even in face of all the stigma and laws against gay people in Nigeria

If you have been monitoring situations in Nigeria, you will understand that a bill originally designed to outlaw gay marriage is in the pipeline in the country. Gay sex stands the risk of being banned in Nigeria. Gays and lesbians face open discrimination and abuse in a country divided by Christians and Muslims who almost uniformly oppose homosexuality. In the areas in Nigeria's north where Islamic Shariah law has been enforced for about a decade, gays and lesbians can face death by stoning.
Under the proposed law to be passed by Senate, couples who marry could face up to 14 years each in prison. Witnesses or anyone who helps couples marry could be sentenced to 10 years behind bars. The bill also punishes the "public show of same-sex amorous relationships directly or indirectly'' with ten years in prison. A newly added portion of the bill, leveling 10 years in prison for those found guilty of organizing, operating or supporting gay clubs, organizations and meetings, worries advocates in Nigeria.
Efforts made by some international organizations seem to be falling on deaf ears. It is against this backdrop that the under listed people who are professionals and activists of various works of life in the different states of the federation wish to step up the fight against this bill which we have all described as an infringement on the fundamental human rights of the Nigerian citizen.
Under the auspices of Gay advocacy Nigeria, we intend to tackle the bill by secretly lobbying our various House of Representatives and members of the Senate in our various constituencies to frustrate the full passage of the bill. We are sure that our efforts will yield positive results since we have in the past influenced similar bills that were passed in our favour.
However, we are constrained by finance since this involves a huge consultation and lobbying. We therefore appeal to your organization to assist us with some finances that will facilitate our objective. It is our desire to keep this effort a top secret until the results start coming. We therefore hope that this letter will be given the utmost confidentiality it deserves. From time to time we shall be giving adequate report to your organization on the way forward and if need be, invite some of your members over where we shall introduce you to the various honourable members.
Believing that this letter will be treated with the urgency it requires. Looking forward to hearing from you soon.
Yours partners in the struggle;
Shaapera Donatus Terfa, Cordinator, Benue State
Ajayi yomi Ogun State
Osas Theophilus Edo State
Felicia Asui Delta State
Badmus Damkor Cross River State
Wugak Manji Plateau State
John Thomas Bayelsa State
Judith Akura Kogi State
Danladi Aminu Kano
Osagie Onus Akwa Ibom State
Emeka Chinedu Enugu State
Damilola Adekunle Oyo State
Chukwuma Chikelo Abia State
Tricia Anebi Osun State
Mustapha Abubakar Jigawa State
Dooshima Anyam Nasarawa State
Dior IOrkor Tararba State
Mary doo Ukange Bauchi State
Aminu Biu Borno State
Chinasa Eze Anambra State
Ben Igboko Imo State
Patricia Alongu Lagos State
Aluma Theodore Abuja FCT.

Look, have you ever heard of sodom and gommorrah, some think the story is a fable. soon we would have sexual orientation for animals. Please, we should be scared the judgement of God has been reserved until now. Let us repent of this nonsense saying sexual orientation, some people have orientation to kill, that doesn’t make it right. A word is enough for the wise

On the 12th of jan 2011, a day before the PDP Primaries, PUNCH newspaper published an interview with the Gay Association of Nigeria {the interview was done on the 11th at a hotel in Abuja}. The interview in question, was done by some executive members of the Association but a whole lot of members turned up for support.... During the interview, Vikky labbele stated when he was asked who 'GAN' will support for primaries and said ALHAJI ATIKU. He said the association will support Atiku because he is father/businessman and an understanding person who they believe can make Nigeria better. He never said Atiku was gay. He further stated that GAN, like any other association has rights to declare support for who ever they want like its done in developed countries around the world. That said interview generated a lot of controversy and was believed to be cause of Atiku's downfall during the presidential primaries because he lost the primaries woefully. The issue at hand now is that Atiku loyalist have vowed to seek every member of GAN out dispose them....... As i write this report now, The SSS are on the tail of the members of GAN who are already on the run from Atiku's loyalist {the loyalist have murdered 2 members as at the 29th}. All the executive and most members of GAN are on the run for their lives.
The question now is that, How long will we keep running, What will happen to our jobs and houses since we are in no position to trust anybody? The said interview can be checked online on http://www.punchng.com/Archive.aspx?datex=01%2F12%2F2011 . This is an SOS call. On easter monday, three houses in three different locations belonging to some members was burnt down. How long do we have to endure this torture? Adeyinka is currently the project director for Gay Association of Nigeria and he is creator of 'Nigerian gay lesbian bisexual lovers and friends on facebook. https://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=154681804546033. Adeyinka can be reached on adeyinkacartwak@yahoo.com

On the 12th of jan 2011, a day before the PDP Primaries, PUNCH newspaper published an interview with the Gay Association of Nigeria {the interview was done on the 11th at a hotel in Abuja}. The interview in question, was done by some executive members of the Association but a whole lot of members turned up for support.... During the interview, Vikky labbele stated when he was asked who 'GAN' will support for primaries and said ATIKU. He said the association will support Atiku because he is father/businessman and understanding person who they believe can make Nigeria better. He never said Atiku was gay. He further stated that GAN can like any other association has rights to declare support for who ever they want like its done in developed countries around the world. That said interview generated a lot of controversy and was believed to be cause of Atiku's downfall because he lost the primaries woefully. The issue at hand now is that Atiku loyalist have vowed to seek every member of GAN out dispose them....... As i write report now, The SSS are on the tail of the members who are already on the run from Atiku's loyalist {they have murdered 2 members as at the 29th}. All the executive and most members of GAN are on the run for their lives.
The question now is that, How long will we keep running, What will happen to our jobs and houses since we are in no position to trust anybody? The said interview can be checked online on http://www.punchng.com/Archive.aspx?datex=01%2F12%2F2011 . Thhis write up is written by Adeyinka Cartwak. Adeyinka is currently the project director for Gay Association of Nigeria and he is creator of 'Nigerian gay lesbian bisexual lovers and friends on facebook. https://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=154681804546033. Adeyinka can be reached on adeyinkacartwak@yahoo.com

I was in Nigeria in Summer of 2009. I had a fantastic time there. The social life of lesbians was mostly visible in Abuja and Lagos. I was moving in circles of upper and middle class individuals so I cannot speak wider than this. The reactions I got from men were of a highly sexualized nature. Some of them found it arousing in the sense that they say lesbians as sexually adventurous and had high hopes for a threesome. This, I found offensive. Even more offensive was a discussion I had with a guy who told me of how he attended a party with many lesbians in Abuja. He was particularly hostile when he spoke of butch lesbians or girls who chose butch lesbians as sexual partners. He insinuated that he would support anyone who took the liberty of "correcting their sexual practices" i.e. rape or coerced sex.

Aside from that, I could not hold hands with my girlfriend in public or even dare to sneak a kiss but in the elitist clubs it was all well and good and no one batted an eyelid.

I started work with my present organization in February 2007, i was their first employee and was placed on a very little salary because at that point the company had not started generating money. When we got our first contract, i worked weekends alone with the Managing Director, sometimes, when i close, i get called out again to work at night.

Later that Year, two tech guys that were so nice to me till date and a lady was employed under me, and then another two ladies, till we became 20 in the office. We worked amicably until the Managers started being intimate with the female employees. I didn't care because i always wear my engagement ring from my partner which they all guessed must be a man.

At a point, they started rumoring that my friends on Facebook are mostly girls and that i chat with only girls, i did not bother. When they talk about their boyfriends, i move away because i dont want anybody to want to hear my story.

The MD called me one evening after close of work that he wanted to visit my house. I lied that i was living with my sister, and there he promised to give me rent to move out of my sisters house so that he will be coming to eat our native soup in my house.

I kept hiding from him, until he shocked me with questions about my sexuality. I lied, (because of the rate of discrimination and stigmatization in my country)yet he demoted me and always make reference of me in meetings although without mentioning my name, yet everyone knows who he is always referring to.

Right now, i have been given a dress code, for only me and also warned that i should never be in contact with any female agent working under me and the most painful part is that the people i employed are now my bosses.

I have learnt a lot my self and i have vowed to embrace being an activist to make sure nobody ever experiences what i have. I working towards making my name while still here so that they will know that the stone that was rejected can become the chief corner stone.

let me take it shortly and as nigeria one question before i take my story, if somebody work for some organasation and the company is making money and the jobs are risk and chairman of the company after many operation that he never collect the money of the jobs and the person bear it and still send them to another operation and the worker still complay with him now started used police treating them and he hold them ten months salary,
what can the person do, and the person is hysically challeng person, i need your advice

i am writing with deep fear and am psychologically disturbed for reasons that i will be persecuted in some sort such as to be subjected
to being openly punished and humiliated by my family relatives and feared that my cultural clan in Edo,Nigeria will make me insane because i am a bisexual. Since March, 2009 i have been a bisexual and i told a close relative about my current sexual position but he has accused me strongly on the phone and vowed with other family relatives in line with our culture that it is a taboo and i shall be subjected to curses and threatened i will be put to be insane for being a bisexual. Currently i fear returning home after i last visited in 2008 Christmas. I am a Masters student(writing my final thesis on gender representation)temporarily residing in the Turkish Republic of North Cyprus. I am Psychologically imbalanced and am on the verge of terminating my MA studies and fear that my residency here expires in September,2010.I am grip with fear to return home.I fear to be insane especially.
North Cyprus is politically an unrecognized country and not part of the EU competent countries where i may find refuge.I dont want to be a destitute here after my studies but I am scared and dread returning home. I am an Orphan and the only child of my Late parents. the end of me implies the end of my father's generation to come. I dont want to change my sexual position however.