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A short documentary about gay Ugandan refugees in The Netherlands, who fled their home country due to anti gay laws in Uganda. I hereby send you the link of the video on Vimeo.

http://vimeo.com/98122540
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(user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay readers on 02/02/2014 tagged with illegality of male to male relationships
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My name is david am a gay of 22 yrs of age and am a Nigeria. i have lived in Nigeria happily all through my life as a gay wit my partner paul which I met wen I was 18, until two weeks ago when the anti gay law was passed with a sentence of 14 years in jail. We ve seperated ever since for d fear of being caught. Please I need your help, I need to be with paul cos I miss him a lot.thanks. Contact me please for advise or help @ okieriname@yahoo.com
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Nigeria is a country with over 170 million people and shares boarders with the Republic of Benin,Cameroon and Niger. Nigeria is largely shared between 2 major religions which are the muslims that largely dominate the northern part and the christians in the western part though there were other religions but these are the 2 major conservative. I grew up in a country where homosexuality is totally frowned upon by the society, the government and the religion. Growing up as a child actually was fun not until when I openly came out with my sexuality to my family and that made the beginning of my journey into neglection, punishment and denial of some basic rights just because of my sexuality. This led to me being taken to a deliverance house with the hope of me being a better person but after four years this changed nothing about me till date. Few years later I ran into the hands of the corrupt Nigerian government cohorts [police} where I suffered several attacks and threats of been killed or jail term. My gay life has not been an interesting one from the age of thirteen till now that I am 24 coupled with the fact that I am gay man living with HIV.
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Joseph (user currently living in FRANCE) posted for gay readers on 26/09/2013 tagged with illegality of male to male relationships +5
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Being gay or practising homosexual living is so terrible in nigeria that people are pretending to be straight when they are actually gays.I am a typical example and my advice for any lgbt person going to visit Nigeria is this.Firstly do not show any affections with your partners in public and do not visit the northern part of nigeria.There are a lot of groups in nigeria now trying to break the draconal laws being implemented in nigeria and i happened to have being in one of them.My story occured in Bauchi state and as young men i had a partner who have been living together but problems started when extremist muslim vigilante groups who act as informers for the sharia court like the hisba group start to monitor people who seem to be same sex partners even if they are not.The next thing you get is usually a police warrant and the police authorities are so corrupt that they charge you to, the sharia instead of the federal government court making it very difficuilt for you to escape punishment.The advice for people is always ask for a lawyer who can stand witness for you so that you can get an initial freedom ,when you get it my advice is for you to flee because the police and the public now see you as a target for future beatings and attacks
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ADEYINKA CARTWAK (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 05/05/2011 tagged with lgbt families, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, illegality of male to male relationships +28
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On the 12th of jan 2011, a day before the PDP Primaries, PUNCH newspaper published an interview with the Gay Association of Nigeria {the interview was done on the 11th at a hotel in Abuja}. The interview in question, was done by some executive members of the Association but a whole lot of members turned up for support.... During the interview, Vikky labbele stated when he was asked who 'GAN' will support for primaries and said ALHAJI ATIKU. He said the association will support Atiku because he is father/businessman and an understanding person who they believe can make Nigeria better. He never said Atiku was gay. He further stated that GAN, like any other association has rights to declare support for who ever they want like its done in developed countries around the world. That said interview generated a lot of controversy and was believed to be cause of Atiku's downfall during the presidential primaries because he lost the primaries woefully. The issue at hand now is that Atiku loyalist have vowed to seek every member of GAN out dispose them....... As i write this report now, The SSS are on the tail of the members of GAN who are already on the run from Atiku's loyalist {the loyalist have murdered 2 members as at the 29th}. All the executive and most members of GAN are on the run for their lives.
The question now is that, How long will we keep running, What will happen to our jobs and houses since we are in no position to trust anybody? The said interview can be checked online on http://www.punchng.com/Archive.aspx?datex=01%2F12%2F2011 . This is an SOS call. On easter monday, three houses in three different locations belonging to some members was burnt down. How long do we have to endure this torture? Adeyinka is currently the project director for Gay Association of Nigeria and he is creator of 'Nigerian gay lesbian bisexual lovers and friends on facebook. https://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=154681804546033. Adeyinka can be reached on adeyinkacartwak@yahoo.com
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(user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 05/05/2011 tagged with human rights, sexual orientation, illegality of male to male relationships +20
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On the 12th of jan 2011, a day before the PDP Primaries, PUNCH newspaper published an interview with the Gay Association of Nigeria {the interview was done on the 11th at a hotel in Abuja}. The interview in question, was done by some executive members of the Association but a whole lot of members turned up for support.... During the interview, Vikky labbele stated when he was asked who 'GAN' will support for primaries and said ATIKU. He said the association will support Atiku because he is father/businessman and understanding person who they believe can make Nigeria better. He never said Atiku was gay. He further stated that GAN can like any other association has rights to declare support for who ever they want like its done in developed countries around the world. That said interview generated a lot of controversy and was believed to be cause of Atiku's downfall because he lost the primaries woefully. The issue at hand now is that Atiku loyalist have vowed to seek every member of GAN out dispose them....... As i write report now, The SSS are on the tail of the members who are already on the run from Atiku's loyalist {they have murdered 2 members as at the 29th}. All the executive and most members of GAN are on the run for their lives.
The question now is that, How long will we keep running, What will happen to our jobs and houses since we are in no position to trust anybody? The said interview can be checked online on http://www.punchng.com/Archive.aspx?datex=01%2F12%2F2011 . Thhis write up is written by Adeyinka Cartwak. Adeyinka is currently the project director for Gay Association of Nigeria and he is creator of 'Nigerian gay lesbian bisexual lovers and friends on facebook. https://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=154681804546033. Adeyinka can be reached on adeyinkacartwak@yahoo.com
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I was in Nigeria in Summer of 2009. I had a fantastic time there. The social life of lesbians was mostly visible in Abuja and Lagos. I was moving in circles of upper and middle class individuals so I cannot speak wider than this. The reactions I got from men were of a highly sexualized nature. Some of them found it arousing in the sense that they say lesbians as sexually adventurous and had high hopes for a threesome. This, I found offensive. Even more offensive was a discussion I had with a guy who told me of how he attended a party with many lesbians in Abuja. He was particularly hostile when he spoke of butch lesbians or girls who chose butch lesbians as sexual partners. He insinuated that he would support anyone who took the liberty of "correcting their sexual practices" i.e. rape or coerced sex.

Aside from that, I could not hold hands with my girlfriend in public or even dare to sneak a kiss but in the elitist clubs it was all well and good and no one batted an eyelid.
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