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A short documentary about gay Ugandan refugees in The Netherlands, who fled their home country due to anti gay laws in Uganda. I hereby send you the link of the video on Vimeo.

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To my Nigerian Brothers snd Sisters:

This is a forum to tell our stories to the world. Instead of poignant posts, you add the typical, and well known, "Nigerian Scams" to this special forum.

Shame on you! Shame on all who posted messages on this forum in an attempt to elicit money through illegitimate means.


And know that we now have the technological means of tracing you back to the computer terminal you used when posting. Yes, we have found Government officials in Nigeria, those willing to cooperate with our group.

Who are we? We are an International Group dedicated to stopping Internet Traffic that violates the Sun/Trent/Obama/Putin Internet Accords of 2012. This was a joint accord signed by Leaders of China, Europe, the Americas, and Russia. Its goal is to stop Internet Scams, Email Flooding, and intentional disruption of websites.

In situations such as Scamming, we are working with local Internet Providers, setting up cameras in their cafes so the Scammers can be identified, and then when known, they are followed so other members of their gang can be identified.

The team has been successful - it recently identified, and then apprehended, an eight member gang working in Idogwari, a town just outside the Nigerian capital of Abuja.
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Adeola (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay readers on 15/01/2014 tagged with at the work place, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, religion, marriage / civil unions +10
I think Nigeria as a country needs some education, Needs to understand .Freedom to expression
.Freedom to life
.Freedom to choose
and above all Nigeria needs to understand that there is more than Muslim and Christian as a religion, so if I decide to worship Hindu as a religion there will be a bill passed that will jail me for practicing what I wish...Wake up Nigeria
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Nigeria is a country with over 170 million people and shares boarders with the Republic of Benin,Cameroon and Niger. Nigeria is largely shared between 2 major religions which are the muslims that largely dominate the northern part and the christians in the western part though there were other religions but these are the 2 major conservative. I grew up in a country where homosexuality is totally frowned upon by the society, the government and the religion. Growing up as a child actually was fun not until when I openly came out with my sexuality to my family and that made the beginning of my journey into neglection, punishment and denial of some basic rights just because of my sexuality. This led to me being taken to a deliverance house with the hope of me being a better person but after four years this changed nothing about me till date. Few years later I ran into the hands of the corrupt Nigerian government cohorts [police} where I suffered several attacks and threats of been killed or jail term. My gay life has not been an interesting one from the age of thirteen till now that I am 24 coupled with the fact that I am gay man living with HIV.
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Grace (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for straight readers on 26/08/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights
I meet this guy at mingle2 online dating site about six months ago. According to him his name is Eddie Philip from Lagos Nigeria. He said he is working at (B W GAS) Norway Japan as a seaman. He told me he works for three months on sea and go for one month time off in Nigeria. So when he came back to Nigeria he asked for phone number I gave him and he called and we talked. After two days he told me on phone that his mum and sister are hospitalized .After about one week he said his best died and he joined the his friend to take the corpse home . After about four days he said his nieces is going back to school. The next time he said he brought some people to Nigeria to buy crude oil from Nigeria government. I was now convinced that he is a scammer just looking for away to steal from me. He asked me to come and see him in lagos and to borrow him money to take care of busniess partners until they finished negotiating with Nigeria government. When he found out that he can't dupe me he became angry and told me that he is a dangerous scammer and they two him and a lady . That they are experts in scamming busniess. This is his mingle name eddyphils 33 years old man from Sakai, Japan(BW GAS/NLNG) Norway. This is his phone number (2348060420255 ). I will also attach his pictures . I was lucky because I was sensible enough to he was lying . What of the innocent out there please be warned and play save. Also security agency should investigate people like this and bring them to book. He also asked my nude pictures but I refused. Be warned specially ladies don't send anybody your nude pictures .signs to know scammer they will tell you how much they love you and need you in their life,they never come and see you instead they will find reasons why they can't come . They have numerious fincial needs . They pretend to fear God and always be in church, they ask you to send nude pictures all in the name love.
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ADEYINKA CARTWAK (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 05/05/2011 tagged with lgbt families, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation, illegality of male to male relationships +28
On the 12th of jan 2011, a day before the PDP Primaries, PUNCH newspaper published an interview with the Gay Association of Nigeria {the interview was done on the 11th at a hotel in Abuja}. The interview in question, was done by some executive members of the Association but a whole lot of members turned up for support.... During the interview, Vikky labbele stated when he was asked who 'GAN' will support for primaries and said ALHAJI ATIKU. He said the association will support Atiku because he is father/businessman and an understanding person who they believe can make Nigeria better. He never said Atiku was gay. He further stated that GAN, like any other association has rights to declare support for who ever they want like its done in developed countries around the world. That said interview generated a lot of controversy and was believed to be cause of Atiku's downfall during the presidential primaries because he lost the primaries woefully. The issue at hand now is that Atiku loyalist have vowed to seek every member of GAN out dispose them....... As i write this report now, The SSS are on the tail of the members of GAN who are already on the run from Atiku's loyalist {the loyalist have murdered 2 members as at the 29th}. All the executive and most members of GAN are on the run for their lives.
The question now is that, How long will we keep running, What will happen to our jobs and houses since we are in no position to trust anybody? The said interview can be checked online on http://www.punchng.com/Archive.aspx?datex=01%2F12%2F2011 . This is an SOS call. On easter monday, three houses in three different locations belonging to some members was burnt down. How long do we have to endure this torture? Adeyinka is currently the project director for Gay Association of Nigeria and he is creator of 'Nigerian gay lesbian bisexual lovers and friends on facebook. https://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=154681804546033. Adeyinka can be reached on adeyinkacartwak@yahoo.com
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I was in Nigeria in Summer of 2009. I had a fantastic time there. The social life of lesbians was mostly visible in Abuja and Lagos. I was moving in circles of upper and middle class individuals so I cannot speak wider than this. The reactions I got from men were of a highly sexualized nature. Some of them found it arousing in the sense that they say lesbians as sexually adventurous and had high hopes for a threesome. This, I found offensive. Even more offensive was a discussion I had with a guy who told me of how he attended a party with many lesbians in Abuja. He was particularly hostile when he spoke of butch lesbians or girls who chose butch lesbians as sexual partners. He insinuated that he would support anyone who took the liberty of "correcting their sexual practices" i.e. rape or coerced sex.

Aside from that, I could not hold hands with my girlfriend in public or even dare to sneak a kiss but in the elitist clubs it was all well and good and no one batted an eyelid.
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Akudo O. (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for lesbian readers on 21/08/2010 tagged with at the work place, hate crime and violence prevention, sexual orientation, illegality of female to female relationships +28
I started work with my present organization in February 2007, i was their first employee and was placed on a very little salary because at that point the company had not started generating money. When we got our first contract, i worked weekends alone with the Managing Director, sometimes, when i close, i get called out again to work at night.

Later that Year, two tech guys that were so nice to me till date and a lady was employed under me, and then another two ladies, till we became 20 in the office. We worked amicably until the Managers started being intimate with the female employees. I didn't care because i always wear my engagement ring from my partner which they all guessed must be a man.

At a point, they started rumoring that my friends on Facebook are mostly girls and that i chat with only girls, i did not bother. When they talk about their boyfriends, i move away because i dont want anybody to want to hear my story.

The MD called me one evening after close of work that he wanted to visit my house. I lied that i was living with my sister, and there he promised to give me rent to move out of my sisters house so that he will be coming to eat our native soup in my house.

I kept hiding from him, until he shocked me with questions about my sexuality. I lied, (because of the rate of discrimination and stigmatization in my country)yet he demoted me and always make reference of me in meetings although without mentioning my name, yet everyone knows who he is always referring to.

Right now, i have been given a dress code, for only me and also warned that i should never be in contact with any female agent working under me and the most painful part is that the people i employed are now my bosses.

I have learnt a lot my self and i have vowed to embrace being an activist to make sure nobody ever experiences what i have. I working towards making my name while still here so that they will know that the stone that was rejected can become the chief corner stone.
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