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NIGERIA

Male to Male relationships: Not Legal
Punishments for male to male relationships: Death
Female to Female Relationships: Legal only in some areas
Marriage and Substitutes for Marriage: No law

Your Views

Are you LGBTI? We want to hear from you! Help us inform other users of the site with your views on this country. Below is a random question about this country. If it is relevant to you please answer it.

Have you changed government documents in NIGERIA concerning your gender identity? How easy was the process?
I could change official documents easily (0 %) I changed official documents, but with much stress (0 %) I could not change my official documents (0 %) I have not tried to change official documents (0 %)

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Readers Experiences

This is what people are saying about life for LGBTI people in NIGERIA...
Olatunji (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay readers on 28/08/2013 tagged with sexual orientation +5
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I'm a man, but sexually attracted to other men. I have been this way since like forever, I can't remember things being different.
I grew up with a very strict Christian background, where the mention of erotic love, sex, and relationships was taboo, and viewed as the most mortal of sins.
But I could not help my feelings. As early as 8 years old, I had a crush on a lot of men in my daily lives, but had no ways of expressing it.
I was very good in academics, and excelled at the top of my class throughout Primary, Secondary and University days. I became a Medical Doctor.
My secondary school days were very melancholic, because I strove to fight the "strange" fire within me....It was a very trying time, denying my feelings for handsome young men around....Numerous sessions of fasting and prayers, and a few sessions of deliverance prayers in churches....all to no avail.
I practically wished I could be "normal", but all my efforts yielded no results. By the time I was in 300 level in Medical School, I just about gave up on myself, and came to the conclusion that it was impossible to change who I am. I decided to live with it, and be the best I could be in life...
I began to question a lot of church doctrine, and these all hinged on the thought that: If God really wanted me not to be this way, He shouldn't have made me this way...
I had a few men in my lives over time, but I was deep in the closet. I still am. I am currently practicing Medicine in Nigeria, in a Federal Tertiary Institution. I live a "normal" life.
I am still unmarried, despite a lot of pressures from family, and I am resolved that I will not be enslaved into marriage with a woman, as it will be a recipe for disaster.
I meet men on internet sites, usually chatting and talking about general things first. Then, I tend to meet selected people in person, if I feel that the persona is right for me.
In my experience, quite a number of young Nigerian men have same-sex sexual intercourse. A majority of them are involved in this only for money, and that is a large majority. I have met quite a lot of these people. They cannot be counted as LGBT. Most Nigerians that are truly LGBT are in the closet, because of the stigma associated with it in Nigeria here. It is still seen as a SIN by the majority of people here.
If you read the Nigerian dailies, you will see a lot of stories about people who are accused of having sex with someone of the same sex, and it is usually attributed to ritual purposes or demonic possession.
I live my life in the closet as much as possible. I don't flaunt my sexuality. I have stopped going to church, though, it just doesn't seem right to me, since my life is not accepted.
I am looking forward to a Nigeria where people tolerate the sexuality of others, and respect other people's lives.
I am not asking for same sex unions or marriages, all I am asking for is that straight people should see gay people as people, not as less than animals...
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Olatunji (user currently living in NIGERIA) posted for gay readers on 28/08/2013 tagged with sexual orientation +5
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I'm a man, but sexually attracted to other men. I have been this way since like forever, I can't remember things being different.
I grew up with a very strict Christian background, where the mention of erotic love, sex, and relationships was taboo, and viewed as the most mortal of sins.
But I could not help my feelings. As early as 8 years old, I had a crush on a lot of men in my daily lives, but had no ways of expressing it.
I was very good in academics, and excelled at the top of my class throughout Primary, Secondary and University days. I became a Medical Doctor.
My secondary school days were very melancholic, because I strove to fight the "strange" fire within me....It was a very trying time, denying my feelings for handsome young men around....Numerous sessions of fasting and prayers, and a few sessions of deliverance prayers in churches....all to no avail.
I practically wished I could be "normal", but all my efforts yielded no results. By the time I was in 300 level in Medical School, I just about gave up on myself, and came to the conclusion that it was impossible to change who I am. I decided to live with it, and be the best I could be in life...
I began to question a lot of church doctrine, and these all hinged on the thought that: If God really wanted me not to be this way, He shouldn't have made me this way...
I had a few men in my lives over time, but I was deep in the closet. I still am. I am currently practicing Medicine in Nigeria, in a Federal Tertiary Institution. I live a "normal" life.
I am still unmarried, despite a lot of pressures from family, and I am resolved that I will not be enslaved into marriage with a woman, as it will be a recipe for disaster.
I meet men on internet sites, usually chatting and talking about general things first. Then, I tend to meet selected people in person, if I feel that the persona is right for me.
In my experience, quite a number of young Nigerian men have same-sex sexual intercourse. A majority of them are involved in this only for money, and that is a large majority. I have met quite a lot of these people. They cannot be counted as LGBT. Most Nigerians that are truly LGBT are in the closet, because of the stigma associated with it in Nigeria here. It is still seen as a SIN by the majority of people here.
If you read the Nigerian dailies, you will see a lot of stories about people who are accused of having sex with someone of the same sex, and it is usually attributed to ritual purposes or demonic possession.
I live my life in the closet as much as possible. I don't flaunt my sexuality. I have stopped going to church, though, it just doesn't seem right to me, since my life is not accepted.
I am looking forward to a Nigeria where people tolerate the sexuality of others, and respect other people's lives.
I am not asking for same sex unions or marriages, all I am asking for is that straight people should see gay people as people, not as less than animals...
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