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posted for readers on 06/03/2014 +5

On behalf of Federalist Alliance for Democracy and Development in Uganda (FADDU) we are determined to bring freedom and human rights to all people in Uganda regardless of who there. Recently the government of president Yoweri Museveni signed a law that will sentence gay people up to life in prison for being who there are. We are asking for your help in away possible to help us bring equality and freedom to the people of Uganda. Federalist Alliance for Democracy and Development in Uganda (FADDU) is a non profit organization. Visit us at www.faddu.org and our e-mail is info@faddu.org
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Ruth Tidemann (user currently living in NEW ZEALAND) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 03/04/2013 tagged with marriage / civil unions
The NZ government is about to have voted in LGBT marriage. There is 100% chance that this will be passed! Good on you NZ
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steven kasiko (user currently living in NEW ZEALAND) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 26/09/2011 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention, human rights

As agay am really worried as crime against gays increase On Saturday i happened to read this story that shocked me in the New Zealand Weekend Herald of saturday 24 sept 2011 about the hate campaign being done by some people even here in New Zealand. it scared me and made me to remember about what 's happening in Africa the problems LGBT communities are facing that have resulted into some of them being harassed, killed ,gangraped and arrested. I feel its high time we should comeout blodly condemne these acts in the strongest terms possible and fight for our rights .As everyone is equal and 's entitled to the same rights and freedoms regardless of his race, colour ,sex

Lindsay Curnow 62 says i didn't find it hard to be gay before this and her partner Juliet Leigh 64 how re victims of ahate campaign in Newzealand This has cost them their business and its forcing them to quit the beach side community that they ve loved and it has caused them to question being openly gay. While they were out , some one tramped around their Mangawhai Heads property armed with afelt- tipped pen and adangerous mix of audacity and homophobia and wrote words "filth" "sluts" "trash" " cars dirt" and dikes" across their
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LGB people have almost achieved legal equality in New Zealand. M/M sex was decriminalised in 1986. Anti-gay discrimination was added to the Human Rights Act in 1993. The exemption from this anti-discrimination law for the public sector was removed in 2000. We have openly LGT officers serving in the police, and LG officers in the army and navy. We don't have adoption rights or full marriage equality but many younger LGB people don't worry about that.

Bullying at school, especially for transgender young people, is still a big problem. New Zealand has high rates of suicide and of child abuse. Many intersex children report being abused and some are still genitally mutilated without their consent. Invisibility of some problems means that there tens to be media focus on problems when something particularly bad happens, like recent arson attacks on an older lesbian couple's business in a rural community. The violence has led to them leaving that community. Police are still investigating the crime, and many straight people in that community are outraged by the crime.

Life in bigger New Zealand cities is fine for most LGB people, and even for TI people who pass. It is legally OK to be transgender and there is some Government work to improve processes and policies relating to transger people at work and in the health services. Police will investigate crimes against transgender people but there are no laws against hate crimes. NZ was the first country in the Pacific to have a transsexual Member of Parliament. There are only limited public funds for gender reassignment treatments so many transgender people save up for private treament. Some MtF women work as prostitutes to pay for treatment. Prostitution is legal for NZ citizens over 18 years but not for international visitors.
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posted for readers on 17/07/2011
I left NZ in 1984 it was still legal for me to be arrested and put in prison for the pleasure of str8 criminals.
In 1988 they changed that law. But too late. What the stroke of a pen giveth the stroke of a pen taketh awayeth.
When I see fascists such as Bishop Tamaki free to spread his fascist brand of christianity with impunity I will never return to my beloved country of birth.
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peter (user currently living in UGANDA) posted for gay readers in response to this story on 25/06/2011 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
get serious about what you are talking about
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kasiko steven posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual readers on 04/06/2011 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
Gay and lesbian individuals in Uganda prefer to stay hidden and secretive in nature; and try as much as they can to avoid directing attention to themselves as a result of contiuned hatred. This reservedness has made them easy and defenseless prey for the leaders of Ugandalike police local council security agents, who have the unabated freedom to dehumanize and demonize them in the public domain; greatly skewing public opinion even now the children ahate them the Lesbians, gays, bisexuals and Transgender individuals and communities living within Uganda face on a daily basis, discrimination, stigma, harassment, exclusion, violence and unlawful imprisonment due to their sexual orientation and preference and some are roting in police cells. Since the introduction of the bill the hatred has increased people are asking who are these gays were do they live let them be left to mob justice passed, Incidences of public humiliation such as; the gathering of the community and its elders to denounce and banish gay and lesbian individuals, disowning them chasing them from the Clans and even from the villages telling them if they come back they will be stoned to death all these things are happening but nothing is being talked about. If anyone trys to talk about they say you support gays leave them to die they have no place in Uganda with other members of the same sex, the public parading and stoning of individuals . These acts are performed by perpetrators who operate with impunity, because they know the victims won’t report the crime to the authorities and even the authorities are less conconerned because you are agay, since there is a likelihood that they might suffer the same fate or worse. Therefore we have no safe place to go to for help.please let us come out and give support
BY Gayslesbiansrightsuganda
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(user currently living in NEW ZEALAND) posted for lesbian readers on 10/03/2011 +4
Their are rural pockets where I wouldn't be too comfortable, but the cities are generally safe, from my perspective.
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posted for readers on 18/11/2010
Hi, i have something say. Im a 20yr old straight female. And just a moment ago on facebook someone that doesnt even know me called me a homo. At first i took offence to this but maybe not for the reasons you think. First of all no guy or infact no other human should talk like that to someone else asthough its an insult. Seriously why do they think its an insult in that way. Also what does that say for everyone else out there that is homosexual, thats no fair on them. There sexual oriantation should NOT be thrown around with the intent of hurting someones feelings.
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