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(user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for transgender readers on 08/05/2014 tagged with gender identity, human rights, religion
Being disabled is not easy. It is never easy. Discrimination, especially on the labor market, is pervasive and everywhere. Being a disabled transgender, however, like me, is totally an adventure. There are no rules, there is no script..
Since 25 years ( I am 51 now) I know that I am transgender, mtf, and two summers ago I came out of the closet..Now I am calling myself everywhere Petra. I identify as female, lesbian and a feminist. But I have a strong sense of humour, especially black humour..You have to if you are like me disabled from birth, sitting in a wheelchair and at the same time transgender..
Luckily I had already made a lot of experience in emancipation as a bodily disabled person when I decided to come out of the closet.. that really helps. I know I am lucky to live in a very tolerant country, but also personally I am not afraid. And luckily, most female friends are very supportive, and after my coming out I got new female friends. So I am a happy person.
And you wont believe me, but I am a dedicated christian, active in my church and a theologian and religious scientist. In my local church I luckily do not experience any discrimination.. it is a church where also many gay and lesbian people come, and one of the pastors is gay also. So that is a part of my story.. love, Petra
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Peter Dankmeijer (user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 24/02/2014 tagged with teaching lgbt rights in schools, gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation
GALE has have prepared a number of courses on sexual diversity education, which can (for European countries) be funded under Erasmus+. Each course is 4 days and one or two days come-back meeting. The courses should be done in another country than your own to get it funded. If your application is accepted by the EU, your own contribution is about â‚Ź 180 for both travels and courses, while the EU will pay all travel, accommodation, food and course fees.

The courses are:

Peer education on sexual diversity - How to discuss lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender topics with students and young adults
Schools without homophobia - Be an effective change maker in your school and more effective in mobilizing the team in combating homophobia
Dealing with strong opinions - Learn how to deal with strong opinioned students, who deny the holocaust, think homosexuals should be killed, Muslims should be sent 'home', women should be treated like property and Jews should be gassed
Strategic advocacy to mainstream attention for homophobia in schools -Assess the implementation of the right to education in your region or country and strategize a high impact strategy to improve it
Assess homophobia and transphobia in schools - This training is a workshop, which completely supports you to prepare a research strategy in your country.

Read more at http://www.lgbt-education.info/en/training/open_courses.
The deadline for application is 17 March, 12:00, and the application needs to be done by the legal representative of your organization. The application form is quite long, but GALE has made draft texts to make the application easier for you. If you want GALE support, please send GALE a note of interest: http://www.lgbt-education.info/en/training/note_of_interest. We will then contact you to offer support. In the week of 10-15 March GALE offers personal support via skype or phone. If you needs this, please make an appointment so they don't get overwhelmed with requests and can plan their work.
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Dear all,
Together with a friend of mine I have been working on a project named ClosetRiot. This project is about producing a small clothing line with the aim to create awareness for gay rights and to raise money for gay activists through the pridefund http://www.amnesty.nl/pridefonds.
To be able to produce the first set of clothes we launched a crowd funding campaign http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/closetriot/x/6001936, which will end the 14th of February. Take a look and tell us what you think.
But we need your help to spread this crowd funding campaign, and to reach our goal and start producing the shirts and sweaters.
It would be tremendously helpful and kind if you would spread the campaign through your network and maybe even donate a little.
We think the issue of gay-rights is not exposed enough and will always need exposure. We also feel that with the upcoming winter Olympics it is important to show the world that it is actually unacceptable to have an event as the Olympics hosted by a country that doesn’t seems to be concerned about human rights, and gay rights in particular.
Yours sincerely
Marèn Hoogland and Monique Schukking
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posted for readers on 05/09/2013 +5
Good day to all. Please, be warned on visiting some rural areas (villages) in Portugal. I am a portuguese citizen who´s been married (legal civil union) for nearly two years and on my return to the country with my partner, we have been insulted, descriminated and denied acess to legal issues provided by the city all (Camara Municipal) and some people, where we are living (Crato). Our situation is quite desperate, as I was offered a work proposition, which turned out to be false. Please, be carefull in accepting woring offers and most important the areas. I wish we could go to another country.
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dimitris meletis (user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 06/08/2013 +0
I am not sure I picked the right way to contact you, but the reason is to share some "Portraits with pride" from the Gay Pride Festival in Amsterdam!
thank you
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(user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 21/12/2012 tagged with teaching lgbt rights in schools, human rights
Help us to map the right to education for LGBT

After publishing the Guide to Advocate for Sexual Diversity Education, GALE starts to map the right to education worldwide. On the GALE website, the GALE Checklist is now available. This short survey helps GALE to make an overview of how the right to education is respected and implemented for LGBT people in your country. The results will be used to create a map of denying, ambiguous and supportive states.

The survey consist of 21 questions. Our questions focus on the role of the State to secure these rights, but you can also add information about what happens in practice. If you do not add additional information, the survey will take just 5 minutes to finish.

At the end of the survey you will be asked if you would like to become a GALE reporter. We would like to find interested supporters in each country to keep on monitoring the right to education, and to stimulate both LGBT and mainstream organization to do the right thing. This could be to develop training and materials, but even better would be to first assess what the country needs and which types of strategy and interventions will be most feasible and effective. The GALE Foundation will support reporters to act on this, for example by helping to organize strategic workshops or some research.
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vreer (user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for transgender readers on 03/07/2012 tagged with gender identity
A recently published article in the Dutch Review for Sexology (TvS) in the framework of the ongoing research into sexual health in the Netherlands done by dr. L. Kuyper indicates that more than half of the Dutch population abhors lack of gender clarity in the persons they meet. 57,3% answered Yes on the question "When I meet someone I find it important to know that person's gender" and 12,3% actively wants to avoid trans* people or gender variant people. While 59% thinks it to be ok that trans people undergo sex reassignment surgery, still 38,3% is of the opinion the trans person should pay up themselves. Another 8 or 9% would break off contact if a friend would tell them they were changing gender.
Source: Tijdschrift voor Seksuologie Vol. 36-2 pp.129-135 (ISSN: 0167-5915)
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vreer (user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for transgender intersex readers on 20/04/2012 tagged with at the work place, health, gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation
About one or two weeks ago a Dutch court decided that hermaphrodites (persons with a certain intersex condition) do not have to undergo medical procedures in order to get their preferred sex registration recognised. Anticipating the new gender recognition law and political statements of government,a general registral mistake law can indeed be used for this aim and not the (currently) archaic gender recognition law that requires sterilisation.
We have been instrumental in both the political statement and in the pointing the lawyer to the right grounds on which to act.
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posted for readers on 25/10/2011 +10
I have the pleasure of working with IHLIA - the International LGBTI library, archive and information center (www.ihlia.nl) to organise an international conference in August 2012. It is right at the time of the Amsterdam Canal Pride. We are bringing together LGBTI movements that are interested in collecting the cultural heritage of LGBTI people in their country, and public libraries, archives, museums. We have a vision: by 2020, every National Archive and National Library in Europe and every major city library in North America has a dedicated LGBTI collection, visible and accessible to the public. These spaces are a sanctuary for young people, a place where they discover their proud history, a place where they discover they too can dare to live their dreams.

Are you interested in finding out more? Write to homodok@ihlia.nl.
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vreer (user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for transgender intersex readers on 13/09/2011 tagged with gender identity, human rights
Transgender Network Netherlands and Human Rights Watch together with COC this Thursday will present a report called Controlling bodies denying identities" on the situation of transgender people in the Netherlands to the secretary of Justice.
One of the first countries to have a gender recogntion law in the 1980ies the Netherlands now is backbencher in the range of countires having sich a a law. Lately Portugal surpassed Holland with a law requiring only Portugese citizenship, majority of age and a diagnosis of gender dysforia. The last four years Dutch ministers on several occasions said the human rights violating Dutch law should be revisioned but until now little initiative has come from that.
It is to expected that the coming bill will do away with all required medical treatment for legal sex reassignment but wil still be pathologising trans people by requiring a diagnosis of gender dysforia.
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jore' (user currently living in SOUTH AFRICA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers in response to this story on 23/08/2010
i totaly agree with that statemnt, lets make history, and the rights a reality, Viva LGBTI Vivi.
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(user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 02/08/2010
For the first time, there will be an African Boat at the Amsterdam Canal Pride on 7th August 2010.

The African Gay Youth Foundation is preparing to take center stage in this year’s pride event with a message of Solidarity with the LGBT communities in Africa, raise the visibility of African LGBT individuals in the Netherlands and declare once and for all, that Homosexuality has no boundaries! (Homosexualité sans frontières!) We are here to finally shout out – We are Gay, we are African and we are not going away!

We also want to pay homage to Mr. Nelson Mandela, who had the courage to ensure that South Africa’s post Apartheid constitution included protection of LGBT rights.

I look forward to hearing from you. Let’s make History!!!
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(user currently living in POLAND) posted for gay readers on 18/07/2010 tagged with at the work place +5
HI to everybody.
We - my friend and I need a help. I'm from Ukraine, now living in Poland. My friend from Czech living in UK. We want to be together. but can't married in Czech course of his family and course he is long time living in UK. one way for us - to have a job and live in Netherlands, became a residance permission and then married.
Been UE citizen he can do that without problem. But not me.
If somebody can help me to receave job permit in Netherland or can tell me how to do it as soon as possible.. i will very thakfull.
please write to e-mail : vaniaba@ukr.net
thank You very much
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I am quite busy these days in organizing the Congenid trans world conference in Barcelona, Spain from 1-6 June. It will be the first of its kind, to host mainly activists on gender identity/expression (trans*/inter). There have been pre-conferences on trans at ILGA ocnferences, but this one is completely related to trans/inter/gender identity/expression affairs. Preapring a Declaration on our human rights that builds on the Yogyakarta principles, the issue paper by COE Commissioner Hammarberg and other.
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(user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay readers on 06/01/2010 tagged with marriage / civil unions, homosexuality and christianity, religion +10
In the Netherlands, marriages can be between two people of the opposite sex or of the same sex. The majority of the people support this legal change. But some people don't. And some of those people have a orthodox christian background.
This has caused a problem because some of those orthodox christian people have position as civil servants, and are people who perform the wedding ceremony on behalf of the state. Among the civil servants (working for the local governments) there are some who refuse to perform a wedding between two people of the same sex.
The current government's position is that this is no problem: as long as a local government can provide at least one civil servant who can "do the same-sex marriages".
RozeLinks thinks that civil servants should not discriminate, and that at least applicants for a civil servant position in which they might have to marry people. should not be hired if they want to restrict their services to opposite-sex couples. But with two christian parties in a government coalition (together with social democrats) it is impossible to take steps against "refusing civil servants".
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