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(user currently living in NETHERLANDS) posted for gay readers on 06/01/2010 tagged with families /parenting, tourism +20
When we (male-male couple, plus two boys, whom we have been co-parenting since their birth - at that time they were in secondary school) visited México, we thought that arrangements in hotels might be more difficult than we had experienced in Europe on previous holidays. Two adult men, two boys, four different family names.
But probably because it was so obvious that we were a family, no-one ever asked any question. Thanks for non-discriminating hospitality, Mexicans!
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Lau (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for lesbian readers on 06/08/2012 tagged with sexual orientation, religion +10
Reading all those people suffering because of their sexual orientation in countries like Morocco, Uganda, etc. makes me sad; But it also makes me realize that my problems are nothing compared to them. I live in mexico. Recently they allowed, in mexico city (Federal District), marriage between gay couples and also adoption. Though is a big step in gay rights, the thing is that people still are not very fond of this idea yet. I live in a very religious family and even though i know my parents will never inflict any kind of physical abuse on me, if i were to come out, i know they'll give me their back. My parents laugh at gay people, judge gay people, and feel happy reading articles that justifies "gay behavior" as some psychological illness. I don't feel with the strength or courage to come out; i hope one day i can come out with someone by my side giving me strength.

Sorry if it was too long, just wanted to let it out.
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Mario (user currently living in FRANCE) posted for gay lesbian readers on 21/04/2014 +5
I planned to suicide and I almost did!
Because I couldn't do anything and I felt bad because I didn't have the power to defend myself.
I'm still feel bad about it all the time and I feel like everyone in my family hates me!
I would like to think that someday I will get better.
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servando cardenas (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 21/03/2012 +5

My name is Servando Cardenas and i am writing to you because i would like your help. I've always accepted my homosexuality and i am proud of who i am. Unfortunately there is still alot of stereotypes about gay people like being promiscuous, having some kind of disease, or just judge us like we are not part of the society and keep us from having a regular life just like any other human being. i guess many consider us trash. Since i was small i knew who i was and my sexual orienation, and it was back then when i promised myself that i wanted to make a difference in all this stereotypes, i wanted to demonstrate everyone that we are also human beings, that we all want to have our own families and find someone to share our lives with. I completed my task guys and i found my true love and know that i have accomplished it, i want to have my gay wedding and make it public. I am currently living in Reynosa, Mexico and me and my boyfriend want to marry but unfortunately we dont have the means to make our wedding, we are asking you for your help guys, we are asking you to help us make the difference and demonstrate people that being gay is not a crime, that being gay is not what they think, that being gay is about a sexual orientaton but that at the end we all are just looking for the same as the heterosexuals our soulmates. We have attached some of our love story pictures guys hoping to hear from you, and see if you can help us any mean. Thank you for your time and hope to hear from you soon! chachodude@hotmail.com
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Majo (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for gay lesbian readers on 11/08/2010 tagged with teaching lgbt rights in schools +5
I'm 17 years old and I've been born and raised in Monterrey city one of the 3 biggest citys in mexico. Most of the people think that in the country gay people its not usually accepted, at least in my city we are, there are alot of asociations for GLBT comunity, one for almost any characteristic of ur own, youth, mother, discriminated, etc.

In every school i've been there have been seminaries and different kind of instructions about homosexuality there is some homophobic people but there are not as many an other places.
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elizabet (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for lesbian readers on 30/12/2013 tagged with illegality of female to female relationships +5
Hola saludos hace dos meses que vine a vivir a ensenada mexico, yo siempre hice activismo para el beneficio de la comunidad LGBT y me doy cuenta que aqui en baja california norte la homofobia es muy fuerte, y me eh sentido mucho mas descriminada que hace 25 anos que fue cuando parti a estados unidos, me hace falta orienctacion para hacer un cambio en este estado gracias elizabeth
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Art (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 16/03/2010 tagged with adoption, lgbt families, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights +5
Famous Mexican singer, Paquita la del Barrio, states "I´d rather see a child die, than adopted bye a gay couple"
Watch in spanish http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WBW4eA8_Ngc&feature;=player_embedded#
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(user currently living in FRANCE) posted for intersex readers on 12/03/2012 tagged with intersex, gender identity, sexual orientation +5
Check out this fantastic documentary: Orchids: My Intersex Adventure

“Orchids” is directed by Phoebe Hart is one of the movies in the Official Selection of ÉCU - The European Independent Film Festival 2012.

Documentary filmmaker, Phoebe Hart, comes clean on her journey of self-discovery to embrace her future and reconcile the past shame and family secrecy surrounding her intersex condition. Despite her mother's outright refusal to be in the film, Phoebe decides she must push on with her quest to resolve her life story and connect with other intersex people on camera. With the help of her sister Bonnie and support from her husband James, she hits the open road and reflects on her youth.

Check out the trailer here:
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William (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for gay readers on 04/07/2011 tagged with sexual orientation +4
hello.. i am a young man ...
i have been in love with older american man, he is good man, honest ... i love him so much...
my problem is i can not be happy with him.. because my family don´t know my orientation... if i tell them... they hate me... i am sad.. because i can not be happy with him... i am sad and crying !
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Ken (user currently living in MEXICO) posted for gay readers on 27/03/2010 tagged with tourism +4
Baja California Mexico - When I first started visiting Mexico, I thought, oh... too Catholic... too Macho... too straight. And for the casual visitor, that is the image. Soon someone took me by the hand and opened my eyes! Long story short is that my first impression was wrong in so many ways.

It is significant I think that Mexico never went through the Victorian, Puritan, Calvinist eras as we in the Anglo-Saxon world. They don't have the same hang-ups we do about same mentoring relationships that include sex as many other parts of the world. It is not uncommon for a young Mexican man to have same-sex relations simply as a learning experience. Note that I say "Mexican man." As tolerant as I have found Mexicans to be... don't mess with their kids. That is one thing that will bring certain wrath. In some parts of Mexico having a gay son is prized.... because they know he will be there in their old age, while all the other sons get married and move away.

At first I was a part-time visitor in Mexico. Now I am a full-time resident and live pretty openly with my partner. I say "pretty openly" because while we respect other's boundaries and don't push the gay thing, they know, we live comfortably and participate publicly as a couple. "They" includes the Mexicans and the local foreign resident crowd.

Northern Baja is a great place for gay retired couples... there are many senior gays living here quietly. Sunny beaches with ocean front houses at a fraction of what it would cost 45 minutes north in the US. And if we really need to go home, it is a short ride to the border.

Being right in Tijuana, close to the border, is not so good for gringos, or anyone for that matter... but it is where the clubs are, and there are several fun and interesting gay bars, clubs, etc. and once you know your way around they are fun to visit. We go out... usually when friends visit... 3-4 times a year.

Because we can be open, we try to live as an example for younger Mexicans who may not have many male role models. We try to show them that being gay does not mean that one partner is the "man"
and the other is the "woman." We show them that living their lives normally as gay men is possible.

We have marched through the streets of Tijuana and Ensenada in Gay Pride celebrations. Interesting experience! We run a free yahoo group where we distribute information and try to build a little community. Mexicans are not big on "organization" so that is another area where we mentor. Check us out at: http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/MexicoGay-BajaGay I can answer any questions there.

For anyone interested in learning how to brush up your spanish speaking skills, I recommend an immersion school in Cuernavaca, with a GLBT specific program. You can stay in GLBT homes, or GLBT friendly homes. The summer program includes an overnight in Mexico City, and participation in the Gay Pride march there... an amazing experience! www.CETLALIC.org.mx

Many will think "Mexico?" and frown. It's not for everyone. But for those who enjoy Latin culture and adventure, it can be a viable option, and very economical for those with inquisitive and open minds.
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Andrea (user currently living in VENEZUELA) posted for gay readers in response to this story on 21/04/2014 +0
Don't feel bad things like this happen all the time!
Some day you'll feel better and find someone who can be with you!
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