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(user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay readers on 02/10/2009 +20
Great country. Been there five times with my partner. Major regions from the North (Lombardy) to South (Sicily). We have always been warmly welcomed at hotels, restaurants, tours/attractions, retail stores, performing arts venues, etc. In fact, we find the hospitality of the Italians to be head and shoulders above any other place we've been. Tourism is their business, yet their interest does seem quite genuine. My bet is their 'desire' is to have laws at least as open as France.
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Jorge (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay lesbian bisexual straight readers on 27/10/2011 tagged with adoption, lgbt families, human rights, laws and leadership , religion +15
Hi, I live in US, but I'm an Italian citizen. My partner and I adopted a beautiful baby 22 months ago. Today he is 22 months old, almost 2!
Well, I was trying to get his Italian citizenship for him. I went to the Italian consulate, they received all the papers and 2 months later they said that they can not proceed with his citizenship, because an Italian law from 1983 (Legge 4 maggio 1983 n. 184, art.44). This means, because Italy doesn't accept gay adoption, my son can not be Italian. I'm very frustrated about it. I'm not looking for an adoption in Italy, I just want my son to be Italian as his father. How should I proceed? any thought? I feel this is a discriminatory act, not just with me, but with my son.
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Valentina Vandilli (user currently living in ITALY) posted for lesbian readers on 19/01/2010 tagged with marriage / civil unions +10
Appeal Italian boys: 16° days hunger strike for the acknowledgment of homosexual wedding.

My name is Valentina Vandilli from Rome,
I’m an Italian lesbian who has decided to act in first person in the fight for rights, believing that direct participation is essential.

I would like inform about the case of Manuel and Francesco, two gay men of Savona who have decided to do a hunger strike from January 4 to request the scheduling of a law on civil marriage in Italy.

Italian media gave little attention to an initiative such blatant obscuring literally a couple who have decided to put to the corner Italian politics fasting until MPs agree to consider one of the dozens of laws that lie in Parliament for the recognition of marriages between persons of the same sex.

This would be an important step to begin to ensure to all the citizens the fundamental principle of equality and equal social status, as stipulated in our Constitution, enshrining the right to register their union, regardless of their sex and their sexual orientation.

Finally, I think that striving for such recognition is an affirmation of freedom to all those who share aspirations inclusive, secular and based on equal rights, fighting against all forms of prejudice, exclusion or discrimination, the same as the Charter of Fundamental Rights’ European Union prohibits in any form!

I invitate you to take acquaintance of the event, reading the article attached (link) and also published on my site, and to spread it more wide possible!

Thank you for the help.

You found the full story and the documents here: http://www.blog-show.com/vandilli/?p=349

Valentina Vandilli
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(user currently living in ITALY) posted for gay readers on 09/01/2010 +5
A homosexual couple in Savona, Francesco Zanardi and Manuel Incorvaia, began a hunger strike to urge the parliament to consider the draft laws on civil unions and gay marriage

They started the hunger strike affiché parliament sets up a calendar proposed laws on civil unions and gay marriage. Francesco Zanardi and Manuel Incorvaia, arrived from Savona, have received the solidarity of the Radical certain rights, which joined the protest organized in Piazza Montecitorio. Some members of the association will begin the strike with them.

Deputies in the square in the afternoon were also expected Don Franco Barbero, a member of the Christian base communities, Sergio Rovasio, secretary Association radical Some rights Donatella Poretti, radical senator, Anna Paola Concia MEP pd, Vladimir Luxuria, former Member, Franco Grillini, a former parliamentarian and director of Gaynet, Alessandro Cecchi Paone, a journalist, regional representatives of the gay movement.

Yesterday evening at 23.37 hours was necessary to operate in a
ambulance and conservativeness of a united purpose 'of resuscitation due to a
anaphylactic shock in and 'having been the victim Francesco Zanardi, who together
Manuel Incorvaia started a strike because of the fame Manuel '
want to get married 'but Parliament seems to have forgotten about the project
civil unions'.
'The illness of which I am aware that I very rarely happens, especially
in times of stress-says Zanardi-L'accaduto does not affect 'the
hunger strike.
Marco Visconti, the doctor who assist us during the strike and 'state
informed this morning '. Francesco Zanardi, 38, entrepreneur
computer industry, founder of the Italian gay movement, and Manuel Incorvaia,
22 years, precarious living from 2007 to Villapiana. They have a dream, getting married:
MPs had raised hopes that she would soon be launched in a
law for civil unions and even the mayor of Savona had promised that
was formalized their cohabitation, but the words have been lost in
wind and by political design and 'for now' frozen '.
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Hi everyone!

Today I'm not here for review the situation of LGBTQI law in Italy, or prejudice, or discrimination. I'm here only for give you some information about the crap of the actual law process.

At the Governament, we approved a racist and homophic law, when we discuss about an anti-homopobhic law! That's crazy! Only for tutelate an ipotetic "opinion", for our 21 code of the Costitution.
Anyway, nobody want this law, because it's eterophobic too, so that will never pass to the next step of the organization of the law in Italy. I'm sure of that.

I'm 15 and I fight every day for our rights. Human rights. I think that's important a law, but it's important to change the human minds. The human rights it's not an opinion and it isn't an expression or something. It's a crime. A human crime. A crime about the entire world. Because I'm impressed to see about the country with the "mortal law". WHAT?! You kill someone because it's different to you and because he love someone? You are juest crazy!

So, I hope India won't come back to up 148 years. And I hope Russia will improve the intelligence of it's Premier (Putin) and will be a better place for every human in this planet.

I hope. I hope everything. I wish one day, in the world, there will not be enough ignorant and racist people to construct a culture around hate and dicrimination. I wish, one day, the entire world will be just more human, and less criminal.

Giorgio, Turin; Italy
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Andrea (user currently living in GERMANY) posted for gay readers on 10/11/2012 +5
Italy is a very homophobic country and all pressure from Europe to create laws toward the LGBT community have been ignored. I strongly reckon that LGBT rights have been always traded by our politicians to Vatican to conquer the Catholic vote.
I was forced to flee Italy many times toward other Europeans countries. The first time to be able to complete my university studies. Social pressure for my alleged homosexuality was so strong that I suffered for more than 10 years a deep depression that did not allowed me to concentrate in my studies. Finally I decided to move to England where I graduated.
After my degree I moved back to Italy. I was born in a big town in the south so I moved to Milan, "the gay Italian capital". Here the situation is good enough compared to the rest of Italy but not in working places. In the working places there is a strong competition and my alleged "homosexuality" (I look 100% straight but I was never seen or heard to be in pair with any woman, that was enough to spread rumors) was used to destroy me professionally (that's whenever highly educated, multilingual and I had studied in 3 different universities with the top of the marks). I was mobbed for the 6 years I worked for that company whenever the management (mostly made of Germans) took different actions to solve the matter. I decide to quit the job to protect my health. Since then I had to flee the country in other 4 occasions to try to recreate a new life in some more tolerant European country.
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(user currently living in ITALY) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 19/08/2010 +5

Hatred toward homosexuals and transexuals has been the cause of acts of aggression and violence and murders all over the world.
During 2008, Italy has witnessed 9 murders, 45 aggressions and numerous acts of vandalism and bullying based on hatred against homosexuals and transexuals.


Homophobia and transphobia have a common origin in the hatred for whoever is considered different, whether because of their skin colour, ethnic origins, religious or personal beliefs, age, gender, or the different abilities or disabilities they might have.

We want Europe to be free of discrimination, racism, exploitation,
and to acknolwedge everybody's rights!

We believe that the fight against homophobia and transphobia should become a common objective for all those who have a more just and inclusive society at heart.

All of you are invited to the Turin Pride
on Saturday 16 May

at starting point: piazza Solferino
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(user currently living in ITALY) posted for transgender straight readers on 18/12/2013 tagged with gender identity +5
coming soon (2014) the "UNIQUE" documentary (INFO www.uniquedocfilm.com)- 5 stories UNIQUE in the world about Transgender people
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Kat (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for lesbian readers on 24/02/2010 tagged with tourism +5
My wife and I honeymooned in Rome in 2009 and found it to be very accepting as a cultural environment
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(user currently living in ITALY) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 17/07/2014 +5
UNIONI CIVILI. Oggi pomeriggio il sindaco di Pistoia ha autenticato le firme per la registrazione dell’unione civile tra il presidente dell’Arcigay Pistoia e il suo compagno.
Si tratta della prima volta, a Pistoia, che a farlo è il sindaco, il quale ha voluto così testimoniare la sua personale attenzione e quella dell’Amministrazione comunale al riconoscimento delle unioni delle coppie non sposate, siano esse eterosessuali o omosessuali: un altro passo importante per la concreta affermazione di Pistoia come – davvero – “città di tutti”.
“Come ho già avuto di modo dire, anche pubblicamente, penso che i tempi siano maturi perché possa essere finalmente definita una soluzione normativa chiara per il pieno riconoscimento giuridico della molteplicità di famiglie, anche eterosessuali, che già di fatto formano la società italiana.
Per questo motivo sono stato lieto, oggi pomeriggio, di autenticare personalmente le firme per la registrazione dell’unione civile tra il presidente dell’Arcigay di Pistoia e il suo compagno. È questo un atto che rappresenta certamente un passaggio importante nella vita di due persone, ma che purtroppo, al momento, non statuisce alcun vincolo reciproco, non garantisce alcun preciso beneficio, né riconosce alla coppia in quanto tale alcun diritto o opportunità specifica. Anche per questo, forse, quella di oggi è soltanto l’ottava registrazione da quando nel 2005 il Comune di Pistoia istituì il registro.
Del resto, in assenza di una legge nazionale che riconosca le Unioni civili, i diritti che si acquisiscono con tale provvedimento sono di fatto limitati.
Intendo fin dalle prossime settimane, adottare tutti gli atti istituzionali necessari a potenziare lo strumento delle unioni civili, per renderlo finalmente utile a garantire diritti e benefici alle coppie registrate.
Rivolgo infine un caloroso invito a tutti coloro che, non volendo o non potendo sposarsi, volessero comunque ufficializzare la loro unione, a farlo segnandosi nel registro delle unioni civili del Comune di Pistoia”.
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posted for readers on 30/01/2011 +0
Dear ,

I write to you on behalf of the Associazione Radicale Certi Diritti, a LGBTE (E stands for hEtersosexual) Association committed to enhance LGBT Rights, trans rights and sexual rights (see attached file for more information) in Italy.

In the past years, we have conducted an important Same Sex Marriage campaign, called "Affermazione Civile" (Civil Affirmation)
Together with Avvocatura per i Diritti LGBT - Rete Lenford (the association of Italian lawyers for LGBT rights) we contacted and helped a number of couples to ask their City Councils to put up their banns and then to formally oppose the subsequent refusal.

Affermazione Civile has led to sentence 138/2010 of the Italian Constitutional Court that has increased the opportunity to move on to other strategic litigations. To do so we also decided to better consolidate our connection with ILGA Europe.
Today, especially after the very recent sentence of French Court on Same Sex Marriage, it has become really important to involve into “Affermazione Civile� also the couples living abroad and that are discriminated against by Italy (because their marriage/civil union/ partnership is not recognized in Italy).
Although it would be preferable that at least one of the two members of the couple was Italian, it is not strictly necessary since every European citizen may be discriminated against by Italy. In general, we could refer also to heterosexual couples, as they may be limited in their freedom of movement as well.

For these reasons, we are asking you for any help to get in contact with couples living in your country and that are discriminated against by the Italian government because of their sexual orientation or because they are not married.
Any couple willing to contact us can write directly to affermazionecivile@certidiritti.it

We also would like to check with you the option to organize a meeting in Rome during the Europride week (1-12 June 2011). This meeting could be an important occasion for the representatives of all the associations that share our purposes to get in touch and exchange ideas about future strategies and events to be planned. Since we are sure that many of you are interested in the Europride, please let us know who is willing to attend the event organized in Rome and, as a consequence, share the opportunity to join our meeting.

If you want to help us, some other ideas could be:
1) Report of our campaign in your newsletter
2) Report of our campaign in the internet site
3) Help us translate this letter in your language, so we could publish it on our internet site too (www.certidiritti.it and www.affermazionecivile.it)
4) Help us reach heterosexual couples living under civil union / civil partnership (if they are discriminated against by Italy)
5) Any other support you may want to give to us
For any further information, do not hesitate to ask Gian Mario Felicetti,

We look forward to hearing from you.
Gian Mario Felicetti
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Elianu (user currently living in ITALY) posted for intersex readers on 20/01/2010 tagged with lgbt families, health, gender identity, sexual orientation +0
My story isn't a complete story yet. Officially, at italian Anagraphic Office, I'm a girl born in 1989. My body has shown me that I am intersexual; I don't think semen pollution is normal for young women. More on, in the last year my body is changing; something is developing and growing out where it wasn't before. I never had a diagnosis or medical help for this issue; I know that if I try to catch the attention of doctors, simply telling them "I think I'm intersexual" the more they will do will be sending me to a psychiatrist, specialized in people who don't want to recognise themselves. I don't think one of them will believe me. In Italy, as far as I know, there isn't any active association who helps intersexual people on the ground of medical help and assistance, neither in the legal and social one. My story is simply that I don't have a story; I don't have where to start it. Just to say, if I am a man, and if my semen is fertile, if in any way I can be the father of my son, I already know whose mother son's father I will be. This is a good reason for going on fighting, for she, for me, for our baby. Hope to send you another story, complete, the sooner possible...
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