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Hi, my name is adi(not my real name) and i'm from indonesia.(sorry if my english sounds weird and bad grammar) Well this is my life story.
i live in a democratic country, indonesia. most of foreign people said that indonesia is a friendly gay country, but that's not true, i know there is no laws against gay in here but we have community law which our society looks don't care about gay people in indonesia but they keep away from gays and talking quietly behind, they think that gay is disease and disgusting, even worse.
how can i became gay?? it's all about my past, when i was kid, about 5 years old, a man who i think i can trust abuse me sexually, i don't know that's a wrong thing to do because i was just a kid( but i still remember about the incident, when he locked me in a room in the kindergarten school, and he did that. and when i was 12, my older cousin rape me, he threatened me, my heart can still feel the pain. i never tell anyone about this humiliating secret.
i live in a muslim conservative family, i never told anyone about my sexual orientation especially my father, if he knew about it, he wouldn't hesitate to kill me because being gay is the worst thing, so sinful, so it's obligatory to kill gay people like me. feel sad, but there's nothing i can do.
I will never be able to feel love and be loved. many people think that gay just need penis,sex. but we should deserve love too, if i have a choice: i can love and have him, but we both must cut off our penis, then i'll choose it, love is blind, but sex isn't.
i've last thing to do in my life, i will coming out to my family, i don't care if they hate me or want to kill me, though after it i'll end my life
because i can't live without love, "pefedict?" yes, but you don't know what pain i have, all this time.
In Indonesia words LGBT is something taboo to be discussed either in private such as family or in public such as mass media, everybody is pretending not to talk about LGBT and avoiding anything related to LGBT terms, that's why most LGBT in my nation are put in silence, they pretend to be straight by marrying their opposite sex, and bury their love.
I'm openly gay, something that most LGBT dont here. because they are afraid of punishment from family and society, but I'm different because I think coming out is the best way I have to be done because I do not wanna bury myself into silence
now i'm starting encourage my LGBT friends to accept who they are by sending article to mass media and creating blog and tell them being gay doesn't mean we have to be loser :)we are the same like straights, a thing that makes us different from them is juts our taste....yes we are just different in taste ^^
I think i just started my long journey to voice gay voices :D
On October 29, 2010 Institut Pelangi Perempuan (Indonesian Youth LBT Women Center) launched the Yogyakarta Principles comic in Jakarta with some art and cultural performances presented by Indonesian youth LGBT. Even lately the fundamentalist groups are so aggressive to attack some LGBT events in Indonesia, IPP decided to keep moving forward and promote the Yogyakarta Principles.
"Yogyakarta Principles is a set of international principles relating to sexual orientation and gender identity, intended to address documented evidence of abuse of rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people, and further of intersexuality requested by Louise Arbour according to the International Human Rights Law. The outline of the Principles was drawn at a meeting of International Commission of Jurists and human rights experts from around the world at Gadjah Mada University on Java from 6 to 9 November in 2006. "It contains 29 Principles adopted unanimously by the experts, along with recommendations to governments, regional intergovernmental institutions, civil society, and the UN itself".
The comic book is initiated by Institut Pelangi Perempuan to disseminate information on The Yogyakarta Principles amongst young queer community in Indonesia. This book is an effort to “translate� the principles into a more youth friendly language. The story in this comic book is inspired by the real life story of a number of young queer women in Indonesia. Comic book was chosen as the media to explain The Yogyakarta Principles with the hope that it would be easier to comprehend as compared to brochures or pocket books.
so far, my experience as a gay, which can also be spelled transsex in Indonesia, still free, still a lot of pressure that I've got. I wish I could join you all to be able to fight for gay equality. thanks.
they are still mobilising on facebook , many of my friends have reported their group for spreading hatred
also reported images and many gay people are now spreading the word about this group and posting pro gay stuff
i live in a democratic country, indonesia. most of foreign people said that indonesia is a friendly gay country, but that's not true, i know there is no laws against gay in here but we have community law which our society looks don't care about gay people in indonesia but they keep away from gays and talking quietly behind, they think that gay is disease and disgusting, even worse.
how can i became gay?? it's all about my past, when i was kid, about 5 years old, a man who i think i can trust abuse me sexually, i don't know that's a wrong thing to do because i was just a kid( but i still remember about the incident, when he locked me in a room in the kindergarten school, and he did that. and when i was 12, my older cousin rape me, he threatened me, my heart can still feel the pain. i never tell anyone about this humiliating secret.
i live in a muslim conservative family, i never told anyone about my sexual orientation especially my father, if he knew about it, he wouldn't hesitate to kill me because being gay is the worst thing, so sinful, so it's obligatory to kill gay people like me. feel sad, but there's nothing i can do.
I will never be able to feel love and be loved. many people think that gay just need penis,sex. but we should deserve love too, if i have a choice: i can love and have him, but we both must cut off our penis, then i'll choose it, love is blind, but sex isn't.
i've last thing to do in my life, i will coming out to my family, i don't care if they hate me or want to kill me, though after it i'll end my life
because i can't live without love, "pefedict?" yes, but you don't know what pain i have, all this time.