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INDONESIA

Male to Male relationships: Legal only in some areas
Punishments for male to male relationships: Imprisonment of less than 10 years
Female to Female Relationships: Legal only in some areas
Age of consent: Different for heterosexuals and homosexuals
Is it possible to change your gender on official documents?: Yes, but only with sex reassignment surgery

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E.R. NASUTION (user currently living in INDONESIA) posted for gay readers on 06/02/2011 tagged with sexual orientation +20
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INDONESIAN’S DEVIANT BEHAVIOUR PUBLICLY MENTIONED

Last Friday, on the 4th of February 2011, I had a chance to watch a talk show which is almost famous in this country. It is under title “K!ckAndy”, where the beholder of this talk show named Andy Flores, with his surname Noya. The main topic of that day is “Ancaman Seks Bebas di Kalangan Remaja” (pronounced in Bahasa, our mother language), or may be proper to translate it in English to “Youth Free Sex Threat”.
In the relay of the talk show, there were three invitees that are willing to give their testimony about their sexual behavior and even their sexual orientation. There is one guy, which is the second interviewee, named Justin, with his profession as a gigolo who serves both sexes in bed, is interviewed also. He has been interviewed by Mr. Noya, from his sexual orientation to his usual clients. Personally, it is not a problem to expose things which are really happens in the respondent’s life. Hence, this guy is wearing a mask which is absolutely looks like the mask that I saw in a gay porn film – made in Italy.
Anyway, at the end of the interview, Mr. Andy F. Noya has pronounced that – which is based on my memory - that “Eventhough Justin has been working as a gigolo, he tries to have a normal life. He will try to avoid the deviant behavior (translated from his word in Bahasa: perilaku menyimpang) someday”.
I was absolutely astonished when he said it out loud that being able to sleep with a guy and, at the same time with a girl, is a deviant behavior. Probably you may say that the wording”deviant behavior” is concerned with the profession of Justin. But wait until you read my following narration below, coming from the third respondent.
The final respondent is a former well-known celebrity in Indonesia, because he had several roles in several sinetron (a type of Spanish telenovela, where all creatures in it have to be flawless drop dead gorgeous). His name is Mr. Jupiter. The latter has made his conviction of being gay in public since 2000 and converted, according to his testimony – no one knows if he really means it or not - to become “normal” since 2005. His conviction delivers my memory to Evangelical Christians who invented ex-gay ministries in USA who brings LGBT to their natural destiny as heterosexuals.
After collecting the answers from Jupiter, Mr. Andi F. Noya has re-pronounced again the word : “deviant behavior”, when he arrived to a question asking about how come Jupiter came up with this sexual orientation. According to the conviction of Jupiter, he is being gay because he had a sexual harassment while he was a kid, executed by one of his mother’s home male maid. For your further information, Jupiter has explained and admitted that he is no longer being gay since God is with him, since when he was looking for God, he understood that all that he has done before, being gay, consuming drugs, etc, are sins. And he has forgiven his father because he was not there when Mr. little Jupiter needed him – thanks for blaming the role of his father.
I do not want to contest the intelligence of the Indonesian celebrities, in which Jupiter belongs to, in how they give their shallow opinion – thanks to the rare time to read and prefer to powder their noses and be updated with what to wear and what is cool and not cool.
On the other hand, I want to explore the opinions coming from an invited psychologist in this talkshow. Her name is Mrs. Elly Risman. She has explained, with full emotion – probably because she is an Asian mother and neglecting the fact that she is invited as an expert from the Indonesian National Commission of Children’s Protection (pronounced in Bahasa as Komisi Nasional Perlindungan Anak) – about why does this happen to the Indonesian youth generation. After presenting her team’s survey which showed that 67 percent of boys and girls in Primary High School have been watching porn movies, along with other percentage showing the undisciplined children towards sex and commenting that the sexual unlimited exploration behavior from our earlier Justin, which makes Justin being gigolo and at the same time able to give sex pleasure to the his male and female counterparts, have to be interpreted not just as news (in bahasa : berita). She contends to further enlarge this as a threat to the national security of Indonesia. And I would like to stress here, she meant it seriously!!!!
Furthermore, she specified that : first of all, Indonesian children are becoming like this (by showing her right hand to our beloved invited Mr. Jupiter – which is a sort of underestimate gesture to me) because the role of the parents were gone when the children really required their parents. A father can’t be attached emotionally to his son or his daughter because he is too busy outside the house. Meanwhile, nowadays, mothers are also busy to find jobs and do their tasks. Consequently, children are being given custody under sub-contract rights to their teachers, and their maids at home. Secondly, she also gave her lecturer that since the technology is already widespread; children may have access easily to see the pornographic content. Parents will give this technology with no difficulties; usually under form of mobile phone, and personal computer with internet connection, since they only see the advantage of having one. Finally, she gave her comments by saying that the only method to remedy this is by religion. Because by giving the religion enlightment, children may have guidance along with the present of their parents.
I would like to reserve one paragraph of my story to say what I think about this. First of all, being aired nationally in Indonesia, means that you have to deliver a good message and, mainly, reinforce a good quality of education to the viewers. However, we may be in full doubt about what does it mean to be educated since most of this country’s citizens, within the 33 provinces of Indonesia, are not passing their Senior High School. So, it is going to be very extremely difficult to educate. Secondly, I would like to evoke “deviant behavior” coming out from the mouth of Mr. Andy F. Noya is inappropriate since he has 15 experiences in journalistic and is able to lead several talk shows for 5 years in Metro TV in Indonesia, one of the prestigious news television channel in Indonesia, for the same talk show. Deviant is defined as abnormal which renders to marginalization of existence in the societies to me. For me, being a host, mainly with a several years in media industry as his background, need to be clever and intelligent in showing the words that reflect the intention, without any interest to readdress the bad side of being something – in this case : being gay. This is shown in one of his word toward Mr. Jupiter. Thirdly, I am really concerned with the quality of human resources in Indonesia. This is because Mrs. Elly Risman, viewed in public as female psychologist expert from a government institution to protect Indonesian children’s right, had no intention to state in her opinions that sex education is a major requirement in the country, which is associated to be a part of the curriculum starting from the Primary School. I remember seeing one of the billboards of Indonesia’s Family Planning Program in which written: Indonesia will suffer the population explosion – and this billboard that I have seen, is placed just on the gateway to the traditional market near my residence.
In the same point, I would like to decline the need of religion that has to be implanted in the mind of the youth. It is about how Indonesian people need to be educated in order to functionning their logical mind in distinguishing the benefits and the risks of any executed actions of what they will be. It is all about rationality I believe. If she is able to say that we have disparities of chances between our children and they, as parents, I think she is right. But, the most important in this country, for those who are elders in Indonesia, to reconsider that the transformation of mind set about sex education is required to bear in school for children in their earlier school year. This shall be made in an educational institution and formulated professionally in the education curriculum. Finally, this is for Mr. Andi F. Noya. Have you ever been, at any chance, felt how does it called to have “a deviant behavior” ? If kindness, along with the revelation of facts, and if you intend to, deliver some progress of human intelligence in Indonesia, haven’t you thought about these intelligent “deviant behavior” may feel insulted as your wording choice of “deviant behavior “? We feel in rationality. Every words concerned for us, just like you concern about the blog writing which reporting the expulsion of one of the Mrs. Elly Risman’s guests.
As a holder of national identity card of Indonesia, I feel that being gay in this country will not yet have any recognition from the society. Since, we, are still marginalized. If only I had a chance in the near future to see, that people in Indonesia reveals the truth of logic.
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E.R. NASUTION (user currently living in INDONESIA) posted for gay readers on 06/02/2011 tagged with sexual orientation +20
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INDONESIAN’S DEVIANT BEHAVIOUR PUBLICLY MENTIONED

Last Friday, on the 4th of February 2011, I had a chance to watch a talk show which is almost famous in this country. It is under title “K!ckAndy”, where the beholder of this talk show named Andy Flores, with his surname Noya. The main topic of that day is “Ancaman Seks Bebas di Kalangan Remaja” (pronounced in Bahasa, our mother language), or may be proper to translate it in English to “Youth Free Sex Threat”.
In the relay of the talk show, there were three invitees that are willing to give their testimony about their sexual behavior and even their sexual orientation. There is one guy, which is the second interviewee, named Justin, with his profession as a gigolo who serves both sexes in bed, is interviewed also. He has been interviewed by Mr. Noya, from his sexual orientation to his usual clients. Personally, it is not a problem to expose things which are really happens in the respondent’s life. Hence, this guy is wearing a mask which is absolutely looks like the mask that I saw in a gay porn film – made in Italy.
Anyway, at the end of the interview, Mr. Andy F. Noya has pronounced that – which is based on my memory - that “Eventhough Justin has been working as a gigolo, he tries to have a normal life. He will try to avoid the deviant behavior (translated from his word in Bahasa: perilaku menyimpang) someday”.
I was absolutely astonished when he said it out loud that being able to sleep with a guy and, at the same time with a girl, is a deviant behavior. Probably you may say that the wording”deviant behavior” is concerned with the profession of Justin. But wait until you read my following narration below, coming from the third respondent.
The final respondent is a former well-known celebrity in Indonesia, because he had several roles in several sinetron (a type of Spanish telenovela, where all creatures in it have to be flawless drop dead gorgeous). His name is Mr. Jupiter. The latter has made his conviction of being gay in public since 2000 and converted, according to his testimony – no one knows if he really means it or not - to become “normal” since 2005. His conviction delivers my memory to Evangelical Christians who invented ex-gay ministries in USA who brings LGBT to their natural destiny as heterosexuals.
After collecting the answers from Jupiter, Mr. Andi F. Noya has re-pronounced again the word : “deviant behavior”, when he arrived to a question asking about how come Jupiter came up with this sexual orientation. According to the conviction of Jupiter, he is being gay because he had a sexual harassment while he was a kid, executed by one of his mother’s home male maid. For your further information, Jupiter has explained and admitted that he is no longer being gay since God is with him, since when he was looking for God, he understood that all that he has done before, being gay, consuming drugs, etc, are sins. And he has forgiven his father because he was not there when Mr. little Jupiter needed him – thanks for blaming the role of his father.
I do not want to contest the intelligence of the Indonesian celebrities, in which Jupiter belongs to, in how they give their shallow opinion – thanks to the rare time to read and prefer to powder their noses and be updated with what to wear and what is cool and not cool.
On the other hand, I want to explore the opinions coming from an invited psychologist in this talkshow. Her name is Mrs. Elly Risman. She has explained, with full emotion – probably because she is an Asian mother and neglecting the fact that she is invited as an expert from the Indonesian National Commission of Children’s Protection (pronounced in Bahasa as Komisi Nasional Perlindungan Anak) – about why does this happen to the Indonesian youth generation. After presenting her team’s survey which showed that 67 percent of boys and girls in Primary High School have been watching porn movies, along with other percentage showing the undisciplined children towards sex and commenting that the sexual unlimited exploration behavior from our earlier Justin, which makes Justin being gigolo and at the same time able to give sex pleasure to the his male and female counterparts, have to be interpreted not just as news (in bahasa : berita). She contends to further enlarge this as a threat to the national security of Indonesia. And I would like to stress here, she meant it seriously!!!!
Furthermore, she specified that : first of all, Indonesian children are becoming like this (by showing her right hand to our beloved invited Mr. Jupiter – which is a sort of underestimate gesture to me) because the role of the parents were gone when the children really required their parents. A father can’t be attached emotionally to his son or his daughter because he is too busy outside the house. Meanwhile, nowadays, mothers are also busy to find jobs and do their tasks. Consequently, children are being given custody under sub-contract rights to their teachers, and their maids at home. Secondly, she also gave her lecturer that since the technology is already widespread; children may have access easily to see the pornographic content. Parents will give this technology with no difficulties; usually under form of mobile phone, and personal computer with internet connection, since they only see the advantage of having one. Finally, she gave her comments by saying that the only method to remedy this is by religion. Because by giving the religion enlightment, children may have guidance along with the present of their parents.
I would like to reserve one paragraph of my story to say what I think about this. First of all, being aired nationally in Indonesia, means that you have to deliver a good message and, mainly, reinforce a good quality of education to the viewers. However, we may be in full doubt about what does it mean to be educated since most of this country’s citizens, within the 33 provinces of Indonesia, are not passing their Senior High School. So, it is going to be very extremely difficult to educate. Secondly, I would like to evoke “deviant behavior” coming out from the mouth of Mr. Andy F. Noya is inappropriate since he has 15 experiences in journalistic and is able to lead several talk shows for 5 years in Metro TV in Indonesia, one of the prestigious news television channel in Indonesia, for the same talk show. Deviant is defined as abnormal which renders to marginalization of existence in the societies to me. For me, being a host, mainly with a several years in media industry as his background, need to be clever and intelligent in showing the words that reflect the intention, without any interest to readdress the bad side of being something – in this case : being gay. This is shown in one of his word toward Mr. Jupiter. Thirdly, I am really concerned with the quality of human resources in Indonesia. This is because Mrs. Elly Risman, viewed in public as female psychologist expert from a government institution to protect Indonesian children’s right, had no intention to state in her opinions that sex education is a major requirement in the country, which is associated to be a part of the curriculum starting from the Primary School. I remember seeing one of the billboards of Indonesia’s Family Planning Program in which written: Indonesia will suffer the population explosion – and this billboard that I have seen, is placed just on the gateway to the traditional market near my residence.
In the same point, I would like to decline the need of religion that has to be implanted in the mind of the youth. It is about how Indonesian people need to be educated in order to functionning their logical mind in distinguishing the benefits and the risks of any executed actions of what they will be. It is all about rationality I believe. If she is able to say that we have disparities of chances between our children and they, as parents, I think she is right. But, the most important in this country, for those who are elders in Indonesia, to reconsider that the transformation of mind set about sex education is required to bear in school for children in their earlier school year. This shall be made in an educational institution and formulated professionally in the education curriculum. Finally, this is for Mr. Andi F. Noya. Have you ever been, at any chance, felt how does it called to have “a deviant behavior” ? If kindness, along with the revelation of facts, and if you intend to, deliver some progress of human intelligence in Indonesia, haven’t you thought about these intelligent “deviant behavior” may feel insulted as your wording choice of “deviant behavior “? We feel in rationality. Every words concerned for us, just like you concern about the blog writing which reporting the expulsion of one of the Mrs. Elly Risman’s guests.
As a holder of national identity card of Indonesia, I feel that being gay in this country will not yet have any recognition from the society. Since, we, are still marginalized. If only I had a chance in the near future to see, that people in Indonesia reveals the truth of logic.
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