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riyalyne saikia (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 14/06/2014 +5
in 2009 homosexuality was decriminalized by the High court. but on 11-12-13 it was again criminalized by Supreme Court. Welcoming the Supreme Court's verdict holding consensual sex between adults of the same gender an offence, yoga guru Baba Ramdev on Wednesday said homosexuality is just a bad addiction and added that yoga can cure it.

"Homosexuality is not genetic. If our parents were homosexuals, then we would not have been born. So it's unnatural," Ramdev told media here.

He further invited the gay community to his yoga ashram, saying, "I guarantee to cure them of homosexuality."

"I invite the gay community to my yoga ashram and I guarantee to cure them of homosexuality.

He also questioned the contribution of the gay community in streams like science and economics and also said that he would pray that all the journalists present at the press conference would not 'turn' into homosexuals.
I want to change this. but i am just a 16 years old. i need help of ilga to help me . i am just 16 but i can fight them but i need a lil support from ilga to promote my ideology.
this is my website http://thewingsofculture.webs.com/making-377-a-history
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Deepthi (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers in response to this story on 26/05/2014
Hey, Can I am also from Kerala. Would like to be your friend.
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priya (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 29/03/2014
Hey hi im priya from india (hyderabad) n im lesbian n im looking for lesbian partner in hyderabad plz if any one is ther means plz mail me priya three nine three two at gmail dot com
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(user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 09/03/2014 +25
i am fed up of behaving fake because Indian Society doesn't accept Lesbians/Gays n m desperately waiting for a female partner in India who want to be in Serious Relation. if ur lesbian and living in Mumbai in India please feel to contact me. Not for Time pass...
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It's a taboo to be a lesbian in India. I cannot go anywhere without being stared at if I'm with my girlfriend and even though I try not to let other people bother me, how can I ignore almost over 100's of people staring at the same time, every second when Im outside the house.

I want to feel safe to hold my girls hand and kiss her in public without always having my alert button on, hoping noone kicks up a fuss.

My girlfriend is British and she came to visit me in February 2013. It was the best time of my life even though I was scared to be open in public, regardless of the fact that I'm out to my family. We want to get married as soon as we can but the law doesn't allow us to. It would be ideal if we could get married in India but India doesnt recognise homosexuality yet , and I can't go to UK to get married that easily.

We've been together close to 2 years now and all we do is love each other dearly, I want to be able to walk freely and proudly in my own country with my -to-be- wife wihtout being scared and looked at like I'm some sort of freak.
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B T VENKATESH (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 07/08/2013 +0
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s*** (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 17/03/2013 +15
I am a keralite. i am persuing my master of social work in a well known institution of our country. As all of us know that lesbianism is treated as a sin or which is against the will of the society. FROM MY PERSPECTIVE I DONT THINK THAT WHAT I AM DOING IS NOT RIGHT. i only feel sad when i think of telling about it to my parents. may be they will beat me or punish me.it wil break down all those dreams they had seen regarding my marriage and future.they may at their best hide this fact and marry me to another man. after all how many years they wil be with me? do they be a part of my life for ever? isn't it a cheating that i am doing to my husband by being physically satisfying him and keeping another person in my heart? i chose this because i am more satisfied physially as well as mentally with another lady than that of a MAN. as i am a student of MSW i know the other aspect of my ORIENTATION. Our sexual orientation is channelised during our teenages.
it is an individual right and freedom its not a society that is affected. like other love marriages happens in our society the same happens in this case too. when i cohabit with my partner i am not fighting against the society.if two people are happy in living together without disturbing the other societal people, what is the problem in that? the only 'UNNATURAL" that is happening is that the pocreation aspect is not happening in that particular relationship.we all are human beings. we have our own likeness and wishes.. so let us be what we are.. we are not curtailing anybody's freedom ,not harming anybody..as anyother human beings we just want to live a happy normal life. what is the point in living life without happiness???
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latha ramamurthy posted for lesbian readers on 05/03/2013 +5
it happened to me: i am stadying in a school in 12 th standard. allthe in our g had arranged for a party in whihc i was also invited. i also went to the party. All the girls were given cool drinks. were enjoying the chatting and suddenly i felt giddy after some time. i was made to lie in the sofa near by
after half an hour i got to see my pantees were taken and all the girls were kissing me one by one
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latika (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian bisexual readers in response to this story on 04/03/2013 tagged with sexual orientation +5
read your story , was interesting would love to chat with you....if you would too then leave a sign or a message - la
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angle (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers in response to this story on 11/02/2013 +5
hi sunita
would like to be ur friend....
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sunita (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 11/01/2013 tagged with intersex +20
hiii i am sunita i am n a lesbian becs my boyfrnd wants only sex whit me he does'nt care about me so love other women n stranger womens also ,,,,,,, ple co me if u r lesbo
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Kaniz Fatima posted for lesbian readers on 20/12/2012 tagged with hiv/aids , human rights +5
My name is Kaniz Fatima and i am from Calcutta and i was in relationship with a woman for 1yr and 7months and she broke of with me for 4 times and she broke off with me before but she came back but this time it very hard and there are some reason which was not true which she should have asked me rather beleaving on others. and the people whom i have trusted from Velvet Group of NGO's and they are the partner of NGO whom i told that my Partner she doest want me to get engaged with NGO people and i told NGO partner that when ever you people see us togather anywhere in kolkata please do not let her know that we know each other or else she will broke off with me but they told her when she asked them for help and they made a mess in my life instead of helping us they ruin our life. i told her we all need help and support but she denied me. And when she was in trouble she took there help and she even informed me about and i was so happy about it and thought that once i am back in calcutta i will tell her everything and i will take her to there house but it was too late and the NGO people they ruin our LOVE LIFE. But yes i told her a lie just to save our relationship and i still Love her no matter what but all i need a support from her end she should have waited for me and i told her her let me come back from Chennai i will talk to you but she refused to talk to me what i should do now and yes i will take those NGO partner's name who doesnt helps anyone they only think about themselves anh there Lavish life. This is USA based NGO of LGBT comunity they provieds everything for people like us that we can live our life but they do not think about us they are only concern abut themselves. Is all my request to USA based NGO Head Member whom i concern please take care of this matter as soon as possible. I LOVE YOU DEBJANI DAS you are only one whom i loved alot and still i love you.
And this is my contact number of mine +91 8124841967 +91 9748570328
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John (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 18/12/2012 +5
“Vikruti evam prakruthi�(what seems unnatural is also natural), the beautiful verse from Rig Veda, in queer sense describes srishti in a single line. Srishti is the first LGBTQ group designed to target specifically to the problems of queer people in non-metro cities of Tamilnadu like Coimbatore and Madurai. Srishti aims to eliminate the homogenization of the queer community arising from the dualism -straight/queer and works to educate people about the various diversities within the queer community itself, so that people gain more understanding of the queer community which would reduce the severity of social discrimination. the pattern of social discrimination in any form is of the hotspot of Srishti to work to reduce its severity so that it would vanish further and helps to counsel the peer queer friends, so that they can change themselves from the position of victim of the social discrimination to the position of fighting against those discrimination. Srishti is against the commercialization aspects of queer people in any aspects and helps in constructing the need of the self-respect for the queer people. Srishti is always multidisciplinary and via the Srishti science group Srishti aims to build the human resources of alternate sexualities and their representation through activities like expeditions, trekking etc. also such an initiative is of first of its kind in any LGBTQ group in India. Science club further aims to approach the alternate sexualities from a scientific perspective and impart people with the scientific knowledge of queer community so that the widespread idea of homosexuality is unnatural and a disease vanishes from the mentality of people. The peculiar aspect of srishti is that, it has separate group for genderqueer people as srishti genderqueer. The diversity of genderqueer like agender ,pangender ,bigender,trigender,androgynous etc is even unaware within the mainstream queer community itself, while srishti has a separate group for genderqueer to have a better representation of the problems of genderqueer.

Srishti is a student Group & not an NGO or CBO & do not accept corporate sponsors, all events of Srishti is organized by volunteer ship & individual donations, all accounts of Srishti is open to our volunteers.


Email: srishti.genderqueer@gmail.com
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BREAKING FREE is a landmark film project that attempts to bring in change for the LGBT community in India by highlighting the pain & trauma as well as hope & happiness.

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Manoj Sharma (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 18/10/2012 tagged with tourism, lgbt families +5
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Shalu (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 16/08/2012 +15
Hai i am a girl from india(tamilnadu) and i am a lesbian too... need of a perfect lesbian partner for a long time relationship..
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Manoj Sharma (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian straight readers on 06/07/2012 tagged with tourism
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Rudraksh Holidays (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/01/2012 tagged with tourism
We are based in India and wish to offer the best quality services for our friends who are interested in visiting India for a short or long period below is just an outlines for a plan to follow we also make tailor made tour plans please do let us know so we can assist you .

India – Short & Sweet!!
For someone for the west, India provides an authentic adventure - stimulating, absorbing, daunting, sometimes moving and shocking. Here is one of the world's great dramas; an ancient, vast and crowded land committed to the most formidably challenging exercise in mass democracy. It is a spectacle in which hope, pride, paradox and uncertainty mingle and struggle. It is conducted on the whole, and to India's credit in the open. The lasting memories of the land are hospitality, kindness, good humor and generosity. Here is a society of over a 1000 million people, growing by a million a month, divided and united by language, caste, religion and regional loyalties. It has often been described as a functioning anarchy; and it is in many ways an amiable one, of marvelous fluidity and tolerance. Indeed, the true Indian motif is not the Tajmahal, the elephant or the patient peasant behind the ox drawn plough. It is the crowd, the ocean of faces in the land of multitudes, endlessly stirring, pushing and moving. It is in this human circulation that one sees India's colour, variety, busyness, and, senses also its power, vitality and grandeur.

Namaste! - We welcome you with folded hands

Day 01 : Arrival / Delhi

Late night arrival. Meeting and assistance upon arrival as our representatives welcome you and escort you to your car.

Whilst the room keys and check-in is organized, our representative would introduce the tour to you and hand over the documents to you.

Welcome to India, or as we say ‘atithi devo bhava’ (the guest is an incarnation of God). Thank you for giving us the opportunity to serve you!

Day 02 : Delhi

After breakfast, we proceed on a guided tour of New Delhi, Visiting such sights as Bahai Temple, Humayun’s Tomb (1586), the Qutab Minar 72 meters high and one of the most perfect towers in the Persian world. The Iron Pillar which has survived the vagaries of weather for over 1500 years. Continue with a drive through Embassy area, the Government buildings (1921-1930) and Connaught Place, the heart and main shopping district of the capital.

Later we cross the city and into the walled gates of the Old city with visits to the Jamma Mosque (1650) and drive through the fabled area of Chandni Chowk (aptly translates to Moonlight Square) where the throngs of shoppers and vendors meet in the oldest area of Delhi. Visit the Red Fort (1639-1648 built by Shah Jehan the builder of the Taj Mahal in Agra) to view the inlaid and carved Royal Chambers, on to Raj Ghat and nearby ghats where the founder of the nation, Mahatma Gandhi and thereafter Indira Gandhi and Rajiv Gandhi were cremated.

The highlight of this tour would be a ride on cycle rickshaws. Now these are 3-wheel cycles with a sofa seat at the back. The Rickshawalla (Rickshaw driver) sits on a small cushion in the front and two passengers on the sofa seat behind. This is a remarkable way to explore and picture the hustle and bustle as well as the colour of the narrow winding streets bursting with people and pavement shops selling wares of all description - including a laughing set of dentures. The ride would be accompanied by peals of laughter both from the passengers as well as the onlookers.

Day 03 : Delhi / Agra (205 Kms) (04 Hrs Drive)

Following breakfast we will drive to Agra, along one of India’s finest freeways

Upon arrival check in Hotel

After rest & relaxation, we ride to the massive Agra Fort. The elegant buildings inside reflect an interesting synthesis of Hindu and Central Asian architectural styles. Built by Emperor Akbar, the maze of the courtyards, mosques & private chambers of the fort echo the story of the Mughal Empire. The Moti Masjid & other magnificent buildings reflect the skill of the ancient Indian architects.

Day 04 : Agra / Fatehpur Sikri / Jaipur (245 Kms) (05 Hrs Drive)

Agra is the city of the Taj Mahal, perhaps the most photographed monument in the world. However, there is a degree of enigma about the Taj. Once you hear about a building so much and once you see so many pictures of a building your expectations are real high; and this is the enigma about the Taj Mahal. No matter how many pictures you have seen or no matter how high your expectations are the Taj never lets you down - the unparalleled glory and beauty of the building surpasses beyond all human imaginations. At sunrise we visit one of the greatest sights of one’s lifetime - Taj Mahal. Before departure for the monument we shall be served tea/coffee and cookies so that our eyes open real wide to behold this breathtaking sight. A dawn visit to the fabled Taj Mahal to witness the magical effects caused by the reflections of the changing colours of the rising Sun on this brilliant white marble building. Later we return back to our hotel for breakfast.

After breakfast we will drive to Jaipur, stopping at deserted Capital City of Fatehpur Sikri. This abandoned capital of the Mughals is a perfectly preserved city at the height of the empire’s splendour. The city divided into religious and secular parts has interesting well-sculpted buildings. From here we continue our ride to Jaipur.

Upon arrival, check into your hotel Narian Niwas Palace. This property is being run as a Heritage Hotel by the Kanota Family. Care has been taken to maintain the traditional furniture and decoration to provide an unforgettable Rajasthani experience to the visitors. Rooms provide all amenities that modern day travelers are accustomed to.

Evening is at leisure to explore the unending shopping options of Jaipur. An essential starting point for Rajasthan craftwork is block making and block printing and we will be exploring the process from start to finish in some of the popular stores here. The opportunity also exists here to tailor make outfits to your design and size.

We also explore one of the chief attractions of Jaipur - its jewelry, which offers a variety that ranges from chunky tribal jewelry to enameled gold to modern diamond jewelry. Kundan (art of stone setting) and enamel jewelry has been a specialty of Rajasthan, particularly that of Jaipur. The stones are embossed into decorative shapes & patterns and embellished with delicate enamel ornamentation in the champeve (raised field) technique. Jaipur is well known for its gold and silver enameling. Colorful bangles made of lac and set with semiprecious stones make an inexpensive buy. The craftsmen take great pains to embed the hundreds of stones into the lac. The skilled gem-cutters of Jaipur carve enchanting little animals and birds from rock, crystal, jade, smoky topaz and amethyst. Intaglio beads & buttons and crystal scent bottles are also available.

Day 05 : Jaipur

This morning, we proceed on a guided tour of the Amber Fort. Set on the dry wrinkled Aravali Hills, the Fort is a superb example of Rajput (Medieval Hindu) style of architecture. A slow elephant taxi takes us to the top of the Fort, which houses several graceful buildings.

We will ride up to this hilltop palace on a caparisoned, painted elephant, passing through the ancient main gate where Maharajas of Jaipur have entered for four hundred years. Our guide will elaborate on the history of this architectural masterpiece with its mirror-studded alcoves, dazzling mosaics and water-cooled swings that delight today’s visitors as they did their former royal residents.

We shall visit the Hawa Mahal or Palace of the Winds, a five-storied structure of pink sandstone with semi-octagonal and delicately honeycombed windows overlooking the main street of the old city. It was built in 1799 so that veiled royal women could peer down unseen by the world through its 593 stone screens.

Later in the afternoon, we proceed for a guided tour of the City Palace & Observatory. The City Palace in the heart of the old city is a blend of Rajasthani and Mughal architecture. The center of the palace is a seven-storied building called Chandra Palace, with fine views over the gardens and the city. Next stop the City Palace is the Solar Observatory - an astronomical treasure house, with solar device that gives accurate predictions till date.

Day 06 : Jaipur / Delhi :-

After Breakfast Drive back to delhi and then upon arrival in delhi visit Sound and Light Show at Red Fort ( Subject to availability ) and then over night in to the hotel.

Day 07 : Delhi / Departure

After breakfast Visit some places if you want to re visit and then later in the evening transfer to airport after dinner.

TOUR ENDS .//////
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sravya (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers in response to this story on 17/12/2011 +10
hi i am sravya.. im juz 16. and im an lesbian. luking for a lesbo frnd from hyderabad.
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monica (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian transgender readers on 14/11/2011 tagged with tourism
i am from a family that is homophobic and life seems so hard that i traveled to India to pursue my studies but am surviving on Gods mercies.in my country if u come out as a gay you life is at a very high risk of death.i day i was kicked by people in the club because they were told am gay..life is hard being gay trust me in Uganda
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ivan (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 31/10/2011
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Velvet Milestones:

2008- Conceptualization of Velvet to create a safe space for LBT community which was absent in kolkata specially. People needed a friendly environment with privacy and security where they can discuss their day to day life and ask for help if needed.
2009- Velvet Facebook group launched. Base shifted to Delhi. More than 300 members joined. Regular nteraction, discussion and exchange of ideas started actively on facebook.
2009- Took part in Delhi Queer Pride 2009
Organized community based programs
Active participation in queer scenario of Delhi
2010- Took part in Delhi Queer pride 2010
2011- Networked with Mumbai queer community actively
Back to kolkata to focus dedicatedly on VELVET along with Alka Kedwal
Actively participated in KOLKATA RAINBOW PRIDE FESTIVAL 2011
Introduced LBT participation in Kolkata Pride walk 2011, 17th july for the
first time.
Velvet Became support group for LGBT
Velvet became recognized by ILGA
Started personalized counseling for LBT community
Started close interaction with Sangini to have them as Mentor to Velvet
Sonali and Alka came out in FEMINA ANNIVERSARY ISSUE 14th October
2011 as lesbian couple
Took part in IBN7 Zindegi Live talk show as Lesbian couple- to be aired on
November 2011
More than a dozen individual ongoing cases handled and still getting requests
Creating Network between LGBT community in Kolkata to fight loneliness
among queer population
To register Velvet as a trust by January 2012.
To start mainstream activities to build and spread awareness and eliminate Homophobia
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Srishti the first LGBT friends circle of Madurai (user currently living in INDIA) posted for gay lesbian bisexual straight readers on 17/10/2011 tagged with teaching lgbt rights in schools, health, hiv/aids , gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation, religion +4
Madurai throbs with more than 3700 gays &
we the Srishti first Gay friendly LGBT circle of Madurai is here for gathering all Bisexuals & gays in & around our city

Srishti works for creating awareness among all college students in madurai through NSS

we arrange progrms on Sexual orientation

our people counsel the uneducated community abt homosex

we conduct seminars with our officials from delhi, mumbai, chennai for teaching college students by conveying them homosex is not a sin or
it is not a disorder or gay are not transgenders
or its not unnatural task with human

we fight for LGBT rights in madurai & trying to make madurai as a comfortable place for Gays & Lesbians.

we works with TamilNadu Govt Aids awareness progs in madurai

planning to conduct the LGBT rainbow festival in madurai on 2012.

plz refer wikipedia about LGBT & Homosexuality in India

you can be a supporter for gathering all Homosexuals under one roof in madurai.

if u like to volunteer our progrms contact Sarva 9092282369

come & join with Srishti
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MarĂ­a (user currently living in SPAIN) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers in response to this story on 19/03/2011 tagged with gender identity +10
Hello, I'm a spanish middle aged woman and I've been married and have two grown up children. I had never realised I liked women. At least, not the way I know now I like them. But I could feel something wasn't OK with men. I started a thorough spiritual work in several paths, in order to know myself and find peace. A year and a half ago, I had several spiritual experiences and, by the same time, I discovered I was in love with a woman friend of mine. It as a wonderful experience, both emotional and sexually, and my life has changed since then. our relationship couldn't last much, because she didn't want to tell anybody, and I don't like living in the dark. However, it has helped me discover many things about myself, and now I can respect and like the way I am in all aspects of life. I understand that the unhappyness I was feeling before was because I was hiding to myself an important side of my personality. And I know there are many people like me, so I don't feel alone. Thank you all for being there.
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John (user currently living in UNITED KINGDOM) posted for gay lesbian readers in response to this story on 10/03/2011 tagged with sexual orientation +5
A very poignant story about coming to terms with being gay/lesbian.
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L (user currently living in INDIA) posted for lesbian readers on 09/03/2011 +35
hello everyone , I have a story to share with you. I am in my late 20s now. My life in India as a young woman was full of confusions and unanswered questions when it came to my personal life. I always knew I liked girls but I had no idea what that makes me. And I couldn't dare to ask anyone coz I instinctively knew no one would say that it was OK . When I was 22-23, I told myself that I wasn't going to force myself to try to like guys , even if I ended up as a bitter old lonely woman. I wrapped up my feelings and moved on .When I was 25, I met a woman with whom I fell in love. This was when I found all my answers and all the confusions simply melted away. I believe every now and then God sends an angel to give you a hand if you are true to yourself. This woman was my angel. When she came to know how I really felt about her, she said that it was OK, there's nothing for me to feel guilty of! with those words she brought me back to life. She couldn't be with me and when we mutually decided to go in different directions, it left me in an nasty emmotional mess. I picked myself up and suddenly my life was brand new ! I don't have to marry any man ! I can choose , I have options and I can live the life that is normal to me ! Indian soceity is unforgiving and I know it would only make it harder for me to tell everybody who I really am. So I told only one trustworthy friend and she was really supportive. I have plans for my future which I wouldn't elaborate here. I don't know if they will work , I might still end up as a bitter lonely old woman but the important thing is I have found my true self and I am happy about it. I just want to tell to those of you who are still in the process of finding yourself, don't be afraid , don't feel guilty . You are beautiful just the way that you are, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Educate yourself, keep looking for answers , work hard , be a good human being and help those who needs help. Remember that you also have options and you too can choose . Good luck.
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