Hello,
I'm in need of help . My husband and I are married in Germany . I'm an American and he is German . We got married in Germany and now being that I'm a
Department of defense commissary agency  employee ( i work for the usa army europe ) It has come time for me return to the USA . I can not get a green card for him due to DOMA . It all started march 18, 2011 my husband and I got married then 8 day later I was told by my grocery manager that I wouldn't be given an over seas tour extension, no reason was given and after talking to the store deputy ( who I told about my problem in detail) he said that he was told that a reason doesn't need to be given to me. I have made 2 EEO complaints dealing with discrimination and harassment. Because Deca ( commissary ) refused to. Help me in my problem . I was told that it was my fault for marrying a local national ( my husband is German) I should have thought about the consiquences before hand. Since then I have been fired while on sick leave . While fighting to keep my family together and to get my job back I still suffer from my work related sickness . I wait for help from any legal group willing to help us . My email is centilyen@yahoo.com

I am with you all the way. Try in there and good things will happen . Love for all and all for love;-) cheesy I know.

My story is very simple: now we have for the first time in our lifes a president in the USA that speaks openly and personally accept gay marriage. Thousands of conservative people including the religious are moving against him in order to destroy him and his courage. What are we doing? What are we all gays and lesbians and bisexuals and transgenders are doing to support him? what? Why not take the chance! Gays of the world, please stand UP!

Germany still treats same-sex partnerships and heterosexual marriages differently, but the EU's top court says married couples or those in registered partnerships must get the same pension benefits. see: http://www.dw-world.de/dw/article/0,,15066843,00.html

Alemania equipara matrimonios gay y tradicional. El tribunal de mayor rango en Alemania declaró inconstitucional una norma que obliga a los gays y las lesbianas a pagar impuestos más altos que los heterosexuales cuando reciben herencias tras la muerte de sus parejas. Para más información, ver: http://www.dw-world.de/dw/article/0,,5923505,00.html

I'm living in a "Eingetragene Lebenspartnerschaft" (it's in some parts similar to the heterosexual marriage, in others, especially adoption, reproduction and tax rights there are big unjust differences). My wife gave birth to our son two years ago and we are both legal parents to him (since 2005 there is the possibility of adoption in "eingetragenen Lebenspartnerschaften", it's similiar to adoptions possible for step parents).
We never experienced bad discriminations. Sometimes people look or ask biased questions. But most of the time we get positive reactions.
To sum up, to live as a lesbian in Germany is not causing any big problems, but I admit not every thing is perfect yet.
Anyway, if any of you planing on visiting oder living in Germany, being gay is usually no problem.