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Michiko Bown-Kai (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual straight readers on 14/05/2014 tagged with gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation, religion, marriage / civil unions +5
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Hi there,

Just wanted to share the words from our Moderator of the United Church of Canada, Gary Paterson, in honour of the upcoming International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia. It can be found at the following link:

English:
http://www.united-church.ca/communications/news/releases/140512
http://www.united-church.ca/files/communications/news/releases/140512_letter.pdf

Bonjour! Je suis content a presenter une lettre overte du
modérateur de l'Eglise Unie de Canada, Gary Paterson. Cette lettre présente un message qu’il espère être entendu par la communauté LGBT.

French:
http://www.united-church.ca/fr/communications/news/releases/140512
http://www.united-church.ca/fr/files/communications/news/releases/140512_letter.pdf


Michiko Bown-Kai
Program Coordinator: Racial Justice, Gender Justice, and LGBTQ Justice
United Church of Canada
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G (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay readers on 08/12/2013 tagged with hate crime and violence prevention
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http://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2013/12/08/shock_jock_producer_jokes_about_trial_he_was_the_jury_foreman.html
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gohar (user currently living in PAKISTAN) posted for gay readers on 27/02/2013 tagged with marriage / civil unions, illegality of male to male relationships
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I am a gay.but I have no right in this country.i am so poor.please help me.i want to go canada and live long time in this nice world..please help me.i have no way to live this country.i feel so lonly.please help me and give a new life.zaroonali220@yahoo.com
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Akber Rizvi (user currently living in PAKISTAN) posted for gay transgender readers on 27/01/2013 tagged with human rights, sexual orientation, illegality of male to male relationships +5
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Report of illegal detention of two staff members of Parwaz Society

This report is compiled in response to the un-lawful and un-ethical detention of the 2 staff members of Parwaz Society on November 2, 2012 at Aziz Bhatti police station, Gulshan-e-Iqbal. Karachi. This turn out to be a quite serious situation. Below are the facts:

· The complained lodged by Ali Omer Tahir ails Sarah Gill and Riffi Khan is totally baseless and uncalled for. In their claim they mentioned that at illegal activities are going in Parwaz Society office, and misinformed the police. The complaint include the names of Kamran Anwar Choudhry, Drop In Center coordinator and Syed AkberRizvi, Monitoring and Evaluation Officer of Parwaz Society.

· The police investigation officers visited the Parwaz Society on November 1, 2012. During their visit the police persons informed that they were told that there is free sex room in the office and when they will entered the office, they will find a sign board of free sex room. The Local Project Manager and Field Supervisor of Parwaz Society give detail information about the services deliver and prevention about HIV / AIDS, and working in close collaboration with Sindh AIDS Control Program (SACP), Government of Sindh.

· The police personal informed us that due to the Kamran Anwar and Abker Rizvi have to visit Police Station to clarify the matter, and we agreed to bring them to police station on November 2, 2012.

· Around at 3:30 pm, Local Project Manager and Field Supervisor went to the Aziz Bhatti Police Station to clarify the baseless allegation of Sarah Gill and Riffi Khan. We started the proceeding in front of the investigation officer Additional SHO Mr.Farooq. LPM and FS while discussion with Sarah informed that what we are doing is for the betterment of community and should keep our personal grudges out of the services deliver of CBO and NGO.

· Sarah Gill started black mailing and use unethical practices of disclosing the identities of CBO staff and demanded in frot of the police personals, disclose the sexuality of CBO staff are they MSM or TGs, in response to her demands, LPM & FS told her that you are also rights activist of sexual minorities and attended so many international and national conferences / seminars / workshops and know the norms of disclosing the identity of sexual minorities. But instead of listening to our suggestions, she continues insisting of disclosure the sexual identities of the CBO staff. Sarah also bought the printout of the facebook page of GIA where different members of NMHA family posted their comments. Sarah and Riff both pointing out different staff posting and claim that they admitted being MSM, so they will file case against Pakistani law.

· Local project manager (LPM) and field supervisor (FS) tried with to diffuse their unethical demand of disclosing the sexuality, but both Sarah and Riffi used their pressure tactics to disclose the same. Just to close the arguments it was decided to bring the Kamran Anwar Choudhry and AkberRizvi to police station for clarification.

· The Other complain they were highlighting that Kami was sent as TG to attend the international conference, LPM and FS showed police the email sent by the organizer of the Youth Voice Count (YVC) which clearly states that kami was invite to represent the sexual minorities and it was not invited as TG represented.

· When Kami and Akber reached Police station, Sarah and Riffi, along with other TGs presents (Anjo, Natasha, Zeeni, Rani, Naseebo and Sapna) in the police station tried to provoked kami to get angry and do something harsh which will go in their favour but both Kami and Akber showed their professional attitude and remain calm and respond to their queries calmly.

· During the discussion, Kami told Sarah that think of community we are giving, and all those delivering services are saving through advocacy and behavioural change communication (BCC) in prevention of the HIV / AIDS, and also think about those HIV positive clients who are getting medications and allied services to them, instead of listening to kami’s comments, she replied she don’t care how many more people get positive and don’t care If HIV positive peoples will die. This showed that Sarah has its own personal agenda and don’t care for the right so TGs and also other sexual minorities.

· Due to the pressure of police personals and emotional and mental torcher, Kami and Akber were force to write apology to Sarah Gill and Riffi otherwise they will put Parwaz staff in lockup.

· Kami was also abused and beaten by the police personals in the police station.

· This is also the violation of basic human rights to forcefully get the disclosure of sexuality and apology.

Conclusion
After more than 5 hours of mental and emotional ordeal at Aziz Bhatti Police Station, all the Parwaz staff members were back to the office. The Staff members after the assessment of the traumatised incidence came to the conclusion that how some TGs are in the name of community creating stigma and discrimination and labelling the sexual minorities and promoting their own personal agenda. They are also crossing all civilised limits and using unethical practices and violating the basic human rights. They are also creating hurdles to achieve MDG 6: combat HIV/AIDS, malaria and other diseases.

Prepared by
Kamran Anwar Choudhry, DIC Coordinator, Parwaz Society
Syed Muhammad Akber Rizvi, M&E; Officer, Parwaz Society
akber_rizvi@yahoo.com
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(user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 07/11/2011 +0
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Is this an acceptable comment to make about a teenage boy????
What if a straight person made a similar comment about a gay person, would there be backlash from the gay community???
Very disrespectful and she should appologize!

http://perezhilton.com/2011-11-06-kd-lang-thinks-justin-bieber-looks-like-a-lesbian#respond
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E G W (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay readers on 30/10/2011
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http://www.equalitygayworld.com/
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Sometimes the best action is no action;other times the best action is teaching by example. If one is oppressive then one is oppressed. Do we fight, do we flight? Out the oppressor if you want to be Out; report the security guard, write an editorial, publicize the employer. It may make no difference then again it may. Recommended reading: Long Walk to Freedom (Nelson Mendela biography). Recommended film; The Accused (based on a true story)
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As an ESL/EFL educator, I yearned to create a safe education environment, to deliver curriculum inclusive of GLBT global culture. While Canada as a whole is making progress in this area, smaller less urbanized less culturalized communties are still oppressed thus discriminate GLBT teachers, students and incorporation of related curriculum. While teaching in a rural Canadian public university, I felt extremely oppressed, fearful for my job and my students. My goal is to teach, to educate through example. Canada's laws and legislated policies exists to protect all yet falls short of their true mandate. All human rights and equality depend on education, hope and courage. We,the educators and learners need to feel safe in our educational environment,need to feel free to experience a safe education in a fair playing field. Rather than wait, rather than fight, I have adopted a holistic approach to ESL/EFL -a virtual global teach and learn community that is accepting, fosters choice and embraces differneces among All People from All Nations. We must make it better, we must erase hate, we must advocate, we must EDUCATE; ours is the legacy that we leave to the future.
"The measure of one’s character is not what they get from their ancestors,but what they leave their descendants." ~ AU
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Yachting Gate (user currently living in GREECE) posted for gay lesbian readers on 07/06/2011 tagged with tourism +0
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Introducing S/C Panorama and M/Y Falcon Summer 2011 (available in groups of 45-50 passengers / available in groups of 10 passengers)

The myth comes truth,
Live your myth in Greece and enjoy unforgettable vacations aboard your private yacht. Enjoy the freedom, flexibility, glamour and life style that a professional ‘private’ yacht has to offer and fulfill your expectations. Enjoy the life at sea, sailing, swimming, sunbathing, water sports, gastronomic flavors, island’s night life, with the combination of history and culture.

A world famous destination
Greece with its 4.500 islands amazing coastlines and quaint ports is ideal for small ship cruising, rather than for ships carrying hundreds of passengers. World famous destinations such as Mykonos and Santorini, well known islands such as Syros and colorful ports of call such as Kios, Ios and Sifnos are offering a wide variety of Hellenic Cyclades.

Proposed itinerary
Piraeus – Kea / Kea – Syros / Syros – Mykonos / Mykonos – Dilos – Paros / Paros – Ios / Ios – Santorini / Santorini – Sifnos / Sifnos – Piraeus

Our proposal
Our proposal is to exploit the magnificent Greek Island with the ultimate way: By chartering a unique sail cruiser for larger groups of 40-50 passengers, or a Falcon 100 feet class motor yacht for smaller groups of 10 passengers.

Finally
Our experienced crew always lager to deliver everything you desire, will provide high quality services tailored made to passenger’s needs, offered an upscale environment with safety.

Booking Details (open dates)
Yacht Cruiser Panorama (carries 40-50 passengers). Available only for groups of 45-50 passsengers / booking availibility: one (1) week on July from July 9, 2011 to July 14, 2011 and two (2) weeks on August from August 12, 2011 to August 25, 2011 / Cruising speed: 10 nautical miles per hour / Yacht cost per day: 12.000 € / Cost per passenger 300 € per day X 7 days for 2.100 €

Motor Yacht Falcon (carries 10 passengers). Available only for groups of 10 passengers / booking availibility: July, August, September 2011 / Cruising speed 25 nautical miles per hour / Yacht cost per week: 58.400 € / Cost per passenger 584 € per day X 7 days 4.088 €

For more information visit us at www.yachtingate.gr or sent your e-mail for booking details.

Thank you
The Yachting Gate Group
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Gary Allen (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay readers on 16/04/2011 tagged with at the work place
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To Whom It May Concern



I started work on call at The Nanaimo Regional General HospitalHospital in 2006 as a patient porter I was good at my job and I enjoyed it. I had my criminal record check and although I had a criminal record my record check was okay ed it included being cleared to work with children. I am gay and I have bi polar disorder and in 2009 I had a breakdown and had to be hospitalized at the same hospital I worked at. When I was well a few months later my psychiatrist said I could return to work and put it in writing. The new staffing boss for porters was Anna Hills she was aware that I had been a patient in psychiatry.She set me up a start date and arranged orientation for me. She later called in the managenment and then everything she had arranged was put on hold. I got the union involved and they haven't done much I haven't heard from them or management for three months. I was told by management and it was disscussed that they didn't want to give me my job back because of my mental illness and that is discrimination. My doctor continues to back me returning to work and she has provided two letters to that regard to hospital management.When I picked up my 2010 T4 the secretary behind the desk told me I was no longer employed by the hospital. I have had no calls or letters fom either management or the union telling me I was terminated I have not recieved a seperation either, I hope you can help.I callen Human Resources today and found out my termination date was January 06 2011

Thank You
Sincerely

Gary E Allen
104-1275 Dufferin Crescent
Nanaimo, BC V9S 5E8
Phone 250 591-8080
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I just signed the petition "Gay Suspended february 3, 2011 Without Pay Ontario, Canada for defense of Gay Rights MONTFORT HOSPITAL " and wanted to see if you could help by adding your name.

Our goal is to reach 700 signatures and we need more support. You can read more and sign the petition here:

http://www.change.org/petitions/gay-suspended-without-pay-ontario-canada-for-defense-of-gay-rights

Thanks!
For Team Change
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Guy Lafond (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay readers on 25/11/2010 tagged with sexual orientation
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http://www.algi.qc.ca/forum/quotidien/messages/9435.html
Guy Lafond
guylafond66@bell.net
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Tom States (user currently living in UNITED STATES) posted for gay readers on 13/09/2010 tagged with at the work place, hate crime and violence prevention, human rights, laws and leadership , sexual orientation +5
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Part1:

Saturday, May 30th 2009, Steamworks Toronto, 540 Church St, M4Y 2E1, ON Person(s) presumably acting under the color of state authority in a room adjacent to the one I occupied recorded, using a webcam, me alone in my room masturbating. The management of the establishment informed them that they were in violation of my privacy and Steamworks privacy policy. In response to the manager on duty’s concerns, the person responsible for recording my sex act spoke with a person that he referred to as his ‘leader’.

A couple hours later, two German speaking males checked into the bathhouse. Hearing German spoken, I opened my door and engaged them in conversation. The persons in the room adjacent mine, presumably unable to understand German, approached the gentlemen and involved them in a matter – the details of which I am not fully aware. They went so far as to task the gentlemen with carrying out an act of surveillance.

Taking note that I was fully dressed and planning to leave but not to check out of the bathhouse, the agents asked one of the gentlemen to ask me about my intentions regarding my departure and return. I informed the staff which resulted in the management once again dutifully addressing the matter with the agents.

Upset with my demonstrative knowledge and reporting of the contact that was made with the two German guests, one of the agents voiced his displeasure loud enough from the adjacent room in anger and in syntax structured to make me aware that I was the intended audience.

Part 2:

My experience as a black gay male while working and studying at York University cumulated in the following allegation detailed in my HRTO complaint:

Issues and accusations arising out of a personal homosexual relationship with a fellow graduate student that took place outside of York University were presumably brought to the attention of officials at York University. Initiating and participating in an investigation that included external agents, current students in the sessions for which I was a teaching assistance, faculty and staff, York University became a party to an effort to substantiate allegations made against me prior to and absent any attempt to present me with the accusations made against me or my accuser.

The investigation included surveillance, several attempts at entrapment, violations of privacy, sharing of private information with person not affiliated with York University, contacting friends, family and known associates from among the student body in order to confirm and or provoke behavior or responses to behavior being investigated. The effort that York University became a party to also implicated York University in my being secretly filmed at a gay bathhouse.
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Darius (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay readers on 21/08/2010 tagged with marriage / civil unions +10
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I met my partner while in the US in 2006. We got married in Ottawa in 2008 and finally moved to Canada in 2009. I am extremely thankful that we had a country to go to just north of the border. It is sad that people in the US are still this backward and ignorant. I am glad I left and just renounced my US citizenship last month. Canada is a country that actually does what the US Constitution aims to do but has still not carried out.
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Heather and Jeannie (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian readers on 29/06/2010
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Hello, my name is Heather and I met my partner five and a half years ago at a Bible College in New Brunswick. She is an American and I am Canadian. We have each taken turns working lots of hours and the other schooling so that we could be in the same country together. WE were married in July of 2008 in Canada, where it was legal. We lived in Maine though because I was finishing school and Jeannie hd like three social work jobs. My visa ended this May (2010) and I was forced to move back to Canada. Jeannie has followed but is not legal yet, because it costs almost a total of $2000, which a social worker can't save up when trying to live and pay for two people to survive. Has anyone else had this issue? Is there another way around the fees?
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Val (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 20/04/2010 tagged with lgbt families, laws and leadership , marriage / civil unions
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I live in Nova Scotia, Canada. LGBT activism is alive and well here. Queer folks in Nova Scotia have been very brave over the past 20 years or so with coming out and insisiting upon change. Nova Scotia was one of the first provinces in Canada to have the Domestic Partner Registry System which gay or straight couples could use to register their common law relationships and be afforded some of the benefits of a legally recognized couple. A few years later, all Canadians were given the full and legal right to marry.
I have lived in Ontario and Newfoundland as well. I came out at 28 with two small children. There were challenges along the way of educating teachers, doctors, etc. My children found it quite amusing at times and frustrating at other times. They often wished for a gay friendly community, especially in the suburbs. They could see it in big city downtown areas but not in suburbia in the 80's. I have never hidden the fact that I am a lesbian (once I realized it myself) and have had almost all positive experiences. No one has ever had the courage to say anything negative to me. I am a strong woman. Many people have said thanks for opening their eyes on GLBT issues. My children are grown now and my daughter is lesbian as well. It is our normal and we love our country. Over the last couple of years, I have met lesbian couples who have moved from other countries in the world because of our right to marry and for other great reasons to live in Canada.
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harassment and discrimination in a poision work environment for 18 years (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay readers on 04/03/2010
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For the international day here is my story with an ongoing battle.Check out the link below.

http://www.canlii.org/en/on/ongsb/doc/2010/2010canlii7275/2010canlii7275.html
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Leslie (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay readers on 02/03/2010
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http://www.canlii.org/en/on/ongsb/doc/2010/2010canlii7275/2010canlii7275.html
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Q Hall of Fame (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex readers on 26/02/2010 tagged with human rights +5
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Q Hall of Fame Canada announces official launch of public nominations
 
Vancouver, BC - On February 19th, 2010, Canada’s LGBT Human Rights Hall of Fame, Q Hall of Fame, is proud to officially launch their website and the public nomination process as promised at the inaugural event in 2009.

“This is the natural progression of a dream that started in 2009 and now the community can actively participate in that dream,” commented Paul Therien, Founder and Chair of the Q Hall of Fame. “We made a commitment to the community that our inductees would come from a public nomination process, and we can now proudly say that is happening.”

Inductees are chosen via a ‘blind’ selection committee who review the nominations based strictly on the merits of their contribution as opposed to who the nominee is.

“We mandated that the Hall of Fame would be unbiased and non partisan. Although that can be challenging, we will endeavor to adhere to that as best we can,” Therien stated. “Our goal is that all inductees are entered into the Hall of Fame based strictly on the work they have done for the community.”

Therien encourages all members of the community, no matter where they are located in the nation, to participate.

“We want to hear from all across Canada, not just people in the major centers. That is why we decided to go with a simplified online nomination process – it needs to be accessible to everyone.”
 
Inductees are role models. not just for members of the LGBT community, but for all Canadians. The Q Hall of Fame inductees are a true source of pride, admiration, and dignity for us all. It is through the vision and accomplishments of such pioneers that future generations may better understand and embrace our community and culture.
 
Over the years, inductees have become persons of great achievement in the LGBT community making significant efforts to ensure our collective freedoms. Their extensive work with human rights and charitable organizations has garnered the widespread public support of fellow citizens and tremendous admiration by their peers.
 
Q Ball, the official induction ceremony and black tie event will be held Sunday August 01, 2010 Westin Bayshore Resort and Marina in Vancouver.

Tickets are $100 in advance and scheduled to be released in in the spring.

For more info and to nominate your hero, please visit www.qhalloffame.ca
ABOUT THE Q HALL OF FAME:

The QHall of Fame is a national resource headquartered in Vancouver to house and commemorate the diverse history of the LGBT community. The Hall of Fame is about both honouring those who have pioneered the rights of the LGBT community and documenting and remembering the accomplishments and lives of these amazing people. Inductees are selected by an independent committee from nominations received from people across the country.

www.qhalloffame.ca
 
ABOUT Q BALL:
Q BALL is the annual fundraising event and Q Hall of Fame induction ceremony. Although it is being hosted in Vancouver in its first two years, it is the goal of the Hall of Fame that Q BALL travel across Canada.

As Q Ball travels across the country, its goal is to raise much needed funds for local community groups in the host city.

www.qhalloffame.ca
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Matt (user currently living in CANADA) posted for gay lesbian transgender bisexual intersex straight readers on 23/01/2010 +5
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Hello, my name is Matt Tallon. I am a queer student of sociology and activist. Currently I attend Trent University in Peterborough Ontario. Originally I'm from a small city in north-western Ontario called Thunder Bay. In 2009 the queer community of Thunder Bay was rocked by a brutal attack against Jake Raynard, a gay man who now lives in Toronto but was attacked while visiting his and my hometown. The community of my city was galvanised into action in response to this hate crime and staged a rally of support a week after the attack which happened in the beginning of September. Unfortunately, this rally in support of Jake and change for the hate that we see in our community was only to be met with the relative inaction of our police service which claimed in a press release that the crime against Jake was not hate related. This is hard to believe for our community specifically because it happened outside the only known queer-"friendly" bar in our city, was extremely violent and started with the yelling of homophobic slurs. That said, I feel it is time that the queer community of my city "upped the ante" with a larger protest wherein people would not feel as if they need to respond to violence to show that they are proud of who they are and that they deserve respect.

It is for this reason that I am starting to plan a Pride Day in my city. This is exciting because it will be the first event of its kind in the expansive region between Winnipeg and Toronto. So far, I have a group of people with me willing to help me plan this as well as connections to performers and artists elsewhere in Canada to make this a truly fun and unforgettable event that cannot be ignored by our media, our police service, our province, and our larger community.

Since I have at my fingertips ample public space in my city to be used, as well as speakers, performance artists and people to make this event a success the only problem I continue to face in meeting this goal is a lack of help from organisations such as yours as well as funding. This is the reason I am writing this message. If there is any help or funding you can provide me to meet this truly needed end it would be extremely appreciated. Furthermore, it must be noted that I am not simply asking for help and money just to have help and money. I understand that help and money does not come for free thus I do plan to ask all those in attendance at this event to make donations, some of which will come back to you for your efforts. Likewise I plan to advertise, for free, all businesses and organisations that support us.

The primary goal I wish to achieve with this funding is to have advertisements for this event in towns and cities outside of Thunder Bay to assure that this event will be the biggest possible for an area like ours. Also, I will need to pay the performers at this event, especially those who need to travel, and the hotel that I will book in advance for them. Paying for the lodging of the performers should not be too costly as I will assure them free advertising during the event, in posters and in print for any and all of the media that will attend this ground breaking event as well.

Please take this request for help into consideration as I do feel that my city really needs an event such as this.

Best,

Matt
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