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Monika (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for gay lesbian bisexual readers on 19/03/2014 tagged with adoption, lgbt families, sexual orientation
Homosexual parents of children aged 4 years and those who finish 4 years before July 2014 needed for scientific research!

Dear Parents,
I would like to warmly invite You to take part in a scientific survey, which is concentrated on the psychological and sexual development of children of homosexual couples.

I decided to focus my master thesis on this issue, due to the fact that such research on the development of children of homosexual couples have not been made so far in Poland and such studies are rare elsewhere as well. Until now, other researchers have dealt with issues such as the development of bond between parent and child and the emotional development of children growing up in families of homosexual couples. While the sexual development of children growing up in families of heterosexual couples has repeatedly been the subject of studies around the world, those that would include the same process in families of homosexual couples are still missing. This leads to lack of enough reliable data and substantive arguments in public discourse. Due to this gap, it is a very touchy and controversial topic in Poland, especially politically.
That is the reason I decided to come to Belgium, where this issue has been more thoroughly studied and discussed. I hope that the conclusions drawn from this survey will enable to revise and enrich knowledge about the children growing up in Rainbow Families.

I would be very grateful, if You would wish to help me!
More details about the research You can find on this website:


Monika Puszyk
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Leroux Cedric (user currently living in BELGIUM) posted for gay readers on 11/07/2012 tagged with adoption, lgbt families, human rights, laws and leadership , marriage / civil unions +10

We are looking for some help. Since we started the adoption program 4 years ago we cannot find our way...

So this is our story:

Frederic and I get married in March 2008. Before our wedding we were already talking about adopting one or two children. So after getting married we started the Belgian adoption program.

We had to follow 4 seminars. All people who wants to adopt have to pay and to follow those seminars. After it you have to choose between the national (domestic) adoption and the international adoption.

We choose the national adoption. So we had had the different interview with the coordinator, the psychologist and the social workers. After a year of meetings they told us to try to move to the international adoption program because of the waiting list that was very long. There were already 30 couples waiting and only one child adopted on the last 2 years. Also because we are living in the French speaking part of Belgium so we can only adopt in Brussels and the French part. Not in the Flemish part, so are the Belgian laws... Just to let you know my mum is French speaker and my dad is Flemish speaker. Since I am a little boy I speak both languages...

Listening the coordinator we move to the international program! We had to do again all the meetings with the psychologist and the social workers because it was not the same department... After more than one year, we had to past the judgment at the tribunal. Only a judge of the Tribunal can give the right to a couple if the report is accepted and if he think everything is ok. We received this right directly. So we started to look for an association who would work with a gay married couple. We did not found it in Belgium!

In the same time we had have contact with Circle Surrogacy to know a little bit more about the surrogate mothers. But until now we are thinking that it is buying a child and not having a baby just because of the price of this program. We respect the price because it is normal but it is really too expencive for us.

So we started to introduce us as a foster family. After 9 months of contact with their social workers and psychologist. They said that it was not good to introduce a "problematic child" as they said into our family because we did not have other children.

So today we have no ideas anymore and we cannot find our way. We have all the rights and we cannot get through it!

Thanks to take the time to think about our request, we really need some help.

Cedric and Frederic

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