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Rijoan (user currently living in BANGLADESH) posted for gay readers on 17/02/2014 tagged with gender identity
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In my own life experience-I just want to say ‘Open up with self identity as a different desire in Muslim family” is a still big challenge to overcome and based on that particular issues, most of the “Kothi-MSM as like me and some cross dresser’ (MA: cross dresser means-they are man in day light, but in night they are wearing some girlish dresses only for sex partner collection purpose) little by little fighting with family, friends and as well as with law, society etc.
Here I just want to share my own success story for great example as an opportunity, what actually we can follow in other’s Muslim society.
“Open up with self identity as a different desire in family”
My fascinating eyes, illusive sights and sweet face create joyful feelings on my mothers mind since me was born. Gradually some symptoms developed in mine which makes my parents sad frustrated. But i was confident enough on my aim by ignoring the bad comments of neighbors and the criticism of my relatives and friends. Me continues my study and classic dance practice devotedly though my friends and classmates insulted me for that. Nothing can change the mindset of mine, rather i tried to make people understand that it is my passion and also wants to contribute to change the economic condition of my family through dance. Then they comments on me that” you are very close to be a “She male” and “Hijra”!! . Me bears all the stigma puts on me quite silently. After receiving the “Advocacy and Communication on LGBT rights and Legal issues” training from Bandhu Social Welfare Society me became capable to make my parents understand that how they are suffering for their elder son, where as me is earning and continuing my study through income from dance. Me than asks my parents-who is ensuring you respect and honor in society? My fateher thought that it is really true that for his elder son sometimes police used to come at our home, but one day it was only because of me when my teacher introduced him as the father of their best student ! That day the tear of joy came to his eyes! He realized that it is dissent matter for him that me is his feminized son, but me is his true blood. He can earn some respect from the society through me. My father embraced me and says” from today you can grow up with your freedom and will continue you education”. Me is quite happy and satisfied now with my own life. Me also convinces my friends through negotiation. Everyone in my surroundings now specially recognizes me. So, I think this are the achievement of our work together as LGBT community as well as LGBT friendly CBO-led NGO .
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Bushra (user currently living in BANGLADESH) posted for lesbian readers on 24/12/2013 tagged with intersex, at the work place, lgbt families, health, gender identity, human rights, sexual orientation +5
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Hey there. This is Bushra from Bangladesh. I currently live in Dhaka and I'm 19 years old. I've been working with some Bangladeshi organisations that deal with sexual minorities in Bangladesh. I myself am trying to build up an organisation that deal with only lesbians and bisexual women in Bangladesh. Our aim is to reach out to as many women we can to invite them to this group so that they can be themselves. Homosexual people are still very discriminated in this country. We are providing them a space to open themselves up, talk it out and do some social work as safely as possible.

I hope ILGA and other Bangladeshi fellows will appreciate our/my work and maybe a part of it.
Take good care all.

If you wanna contact me then mail me at cosmicrayotc@yahoo.com
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Rosendale (user currently living in BANGLADESH) posted for lesbian readers on 11/10/2012 tagged with human rights
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There is an excellent blog written by a young lesbian living in Bangladesh. Here's the link- http://asmybrainrambledon.blogspot.com/2012/07/episode-01-thank-you-for-discriminating.html
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Opu posted for gay readers on 09/09/2012 tagged with gender identity +5
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Hi ! this is masbah from bangladesh and as a MSM people,i faced lot of social and family stress without any friendly help.Still i dont know how i pass my life,what i want to do.Can i stay with my lovers or not,can i get family support or not? i really don't know.Who can help me?I dont know.
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SNM Fozley Nowrid (user currently living in FRANCE) posted for gay readers on 24/06/2012 +5
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Now I live in France.I am here to seek asylum.As I was afraid I failed to mention my main problem in my asylum case.Today I want to share it in short:
Basically it start from my childhood when I was 6-7 years old.A teacher who reside in my house used to sex with me.At that time I was quite unknown about that.Same thing happened with me by a local man in the same age.I thought it is normal.After when became age of 14-15 I was at Cox's Bazar one of my relative did same thing couple of time when I sleep at night.In the mean time when I went to visit one of my relative infact she is my aunt.In the night I sleep with his son.He did same thing to me.
Actually I could not remeber the year but I am sure at that time Cox's Bazar city corporation is going on and may be I was in class eight.It was friday.My father took me to hair dresser to cut my hair.After make payment my father left me there.In the half way of cutting my hair a man came there.Did some chat with hair dresser.Suddenly asked me to give a pen.I tried to give but he did not take.He told me to finish my hair cutting,then told me to went next room.After finish I went there to give pen.After enter into room he locked it and did sex with me.He thread me not to tell anyone,otherwise he will kill me.After that I was frighten about this issue.
Next one happen in my college life.Whole college was under ''Shibir''.I always opposed to them as did not like their activities.Due to some collusion with them one-day evening three people from their group took me in silent place near my hostel.They did sex with me against my opinion.I have to describe it as rape.After that with more many subject I became mentally frustrated and I tried to do suicide.But luckily I am still I alive.In the meantime I was introduced with a boy from Cox's Bazar named ''R''.Day by day we become closed with each other.We did manytime physical relation.Gradually I became very comfortable.One surprising matter in my life I did not feel attraction to women,after happen relation with ''R'' the feelings became more strong.However suddenly some people get known about our relation.And they spread it out.After that the tragedy happens to my life.In my village some Muslim priest declare me as enemy of Muslim.They did not allow me to participate in society even banned me to enter into mosque and decided to banned me from village.
After that many of our relative leave me,did not get any help from them.I could not explain how was my mental situation at that time.After all of that I tried to stay in my country.But day by day the situation become tough.As finally I have to leave my country to save my life.
Now I am in France but unfortunately I failed to mention my main problem in my asylum case.But now with help of someone or organisation I want to include it in my asylum case.Please can anyone help me?
I don't want to die.Please let me live in world with my right.

SNM Fozley Nowrid
nowrid191@gmail.com
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(user currently living in THAILAND) posted for lesbian readers on 13/04/2010 +10
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Dear ILGA,
I am deeply shocked when i found on this website (http://ilga.org/ilga/en/countries/BANGLADESH/Law) that the female to female relation is legal in Bangladesh. I am a lesbian from Bangladesh and presently residing in Thailand. I lived in Bangladesh for more then 28 years and as an lesbian i can safely say the Bangladesh's Law do not approve same sex relationship.Then why ILGA stated that female to female relationship is legal.Please do reply.

For Reference "Under Section 377 of the civil penal code, homosexual sex acts are crimes punishable with deportation, fines and/or up to 10 years in jail, though some people have also received life imprisonment. The national law itself is rarely enforced, but there have been incidents of harassment by vigilante groups and the issuance of local fatwas against the LGBT community. In certain situations, Sharia law also influences the sentences imposed for same-sex relations".
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b chow (user currently living in BANGLADESH) posted for transgender readers on 28/01/2010
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i live in bangladesh. now i am in vulnerable position.cz our society dose not take it easy.i dont know my future.our religious people is tremendous.i would like release such type of circumstances.pls give me a good suggetion & help me.i will be highly obligh to you .
best regards
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