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In the daily morning show, Good Morning Club, the hosts of the show took on the topic "What should a parent do if the child shows early signs of being gay? The hosts drew the ire of Filipino LGBTs and extreme negative reaction from non-LGBTs.

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14th March 2013 15:18

Alessia Valenza | ILGA Asia

In the daily morning show, Good Morning Club, which I co-host daily on TV5, we recently discussed an interesting topic: What should a parent do if the child shows early signs of being gay?

What are the early signs? I’ve read that when a two- or three-year-old plays with girl’s toys, that doesn’t necessarily mean he is gay since that is just the “curiosity phase.” Is this true? At what age will the signs of true “gayness” come out?

Others may say that doing something effeminate is already a sign of gayness like playing with female toys, being effeminate in some ways, etc. Remember the child, at this age, does not know the girl-boy gender yet. It’s up to the parents to make the child be aware of his/her gender: “Ikaw ay babae, siya ay lalaki” (You are a girl, he is a boy).

True gayness comes out at pubertal stage. (It is when the child desires or has a crush on the same sex.) What is wrong with some parents is encouraging the behavior. It’s like when a parent says, “Kung ano ang binigay sa amin ng Diyos tatanggapin namin.” (We will accept whatever fate the Lord gives us).

Should parents be alarmed and arrest the situation? Or encourage it? 

Arrest the situation, ’yun ang tama (that is the correct thing to do). But most parents encourage the situation. Tatanggapin agad (They will accept the situation immedaitely).

Let’s be moral in making the child understand the situation, di ba yun ang dapat. We tell our child, “Anak, mali ito.” (My child, that is wrong).

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